Would you be comfortable if your daughter was assigned a male nursery worker?

[Nervousb2b]

Out of interest, how would you feel if your daughter was assigned a male member of staff in an early years setting to provide intimate care? Would you feel just as comfortable if a female member of staff was assigned?

Some may be okay with it, some may not - interested to see the general consensus.

OK... I was serious but maybe I didn't explain my point very well.
I would feel reluctant about a male changing my child.
However, I was just throwing in a discussion...
Why is it we feel like this?
Females can also abuse a child.
Male staff in care homes can change female residents.
Male nurses in hospitals can change female patients.
Male carers can change female clients in their homes.
How are male nursery workers meant to progress their career if they aren't able to change children?
This was my point and I was just introducing a discussion.
I'm sorry I'd I didn't explain it well.
I wasn't arguing, merely opening a conversation.

Do you understand stats?

If you were lost in a dark alley or in a strange country, would you approach a man or a woman? Maybe the man so he doesn't feel offended and hurt? After all, women can assault you too.

As to how male nursery workers are expected to progress their careers, I think most of us don't care.

You know full well why we feel like this.
Men are not owed access to small children.

False naivety or trolling.
Women can abuse too...wide eyed puzzlement.
98% of sexual assaults are committed by men. Everyone knows this. Even men.

I don’t think it’s that you didn’t explain it very well @TattyBluebell, it’s that you are just saying words. I can say ‘I don’t understand why people are so cautious about letting their children swim in the sea because a child can drown in a centimetre of water’ but I’d be talking bollocks.

Obvious when you think about it.

(Yet I appreciate studies have to be carried out to support the argument.)

Sometimes those who want to do something are the last people who should be allowed to do it.

Sometimes there's no real consequences to this observation, other times there tragically are.

It seems from the majority of the posts on here that your son would be seen as guilty until proven innocent and because he is a male he is more likely to abuse a baby girl. 🤷
I disagree completely.
But there we are. I tried. Mumsnet has spoken.
I really wish your son well... and a lot of luck if he has these mums to deal with!

Well I'm sure the men who want to work with babies and toddlers thank you for your support Bluebell.

However, not one person has said the son is guilty of anything and several of us have acknowledged it's unfair. Also, it's not baby girls who are at risk from abuse, it's babies.

The son is male and specifically wants to work with children of non-verbal age.
Males statistically present a much higher risk of committing SA than females.
Non verbal children require intimate care.
Non verbal children can't tell anyone when bad things are happening.
Babies and toddlers are extremely reliant on their carers and extremely vulnerable.

You want to roll the dice with your own toddler to be fair to a random man you dont know, that's your perogative, but most people on this thread have been honest that they would assess the potential risk and prioritise their children.

You want to point fingers at who's causing the unfairness to male nursery workers, I suggest you aim it at abusive men.

Sorry but women and children do not need to ignore risk for the sake of male preferences. Men are not owed access to small children, or a career in early years. Properly decent men will understand this.