I am so annoyed with work right now. If you're feeling mean, don't bother...I'm not after being pulled apart.

[lucysmam]

For context: I have stage 4 breast cancer & may not see either of my girls graduate/marry/whatever other big life events. Work are very aware of this & I did have a conversation with Headteacher a couple of weeks ago re. asking for an early finish to spend time with dd1 - answer was no then also.

I requested dd2's prom day off. Answer is no - speak to headteacher if I want to know why. Meanwhile; one colleague currently at international themepark on 2 week jolly that's been approved, another allowed sports day off.

Neither actually in the process of dying & being kept alive by various medications.

I'm feeling massively hard done by & annoyed that a holiday's allowed, but being with my child to prep for a special event isn't when they know my prognosis as well as I do.

That's awful op. It wouldn't hurt them to show a bit of compassion. As if you need anything else on your plate at the moment.

Are they doing anything to support you in terms of time off for treatment? Have you requested a flexible working schedule?

im so sorry about what you are going through.

if I were you I would go to the doctor and put a sick line in, take off as long as you get paid for.

stay at home, make memories with your children.

That's really tough. I'm sorry its a bit shit for you.

Sick leave 👍

Op, i wouldn't even ask in future. Take those days off sick and enjoy the time with your girls.

This is an idea; can you do this? It’s cruel that they aren’t agreeing to these requests.

That's awful. Hopefully your GP will give you a sick note

I would also go off sick and I don't say that lightly.

Honestly fuck these people, go spend some time with your family.

That's utterly bollocks, I would be beyond pissed off too, shame on them. I would go off sick. Wishing you healing, calm and time with your family.

That's shit. Do you have union support?

If you are at stage 4 then surely you can take sick leave? Fuck them. So sorry OP that they are so heartless.💐

That is appalling, I'm so sorry you are going through all this. I agree with other posters, can you look to get signed off sick?

Awful. I’ve been teaching for 30 years and I don’t think people realise how inflexible many schools are in terms of time off. This is the worst thing I’ve read though. I’m with the others on this - ring in sick. If you were one of my colleagues, I’d advise the same and, if I could, I’d cover you in a heartbeat. Hope that your treatment goes as well as it can.

Yes, to sick leave and I hope your doctor is disgusted with the school too. I’m so sorry you work for absolute twats.

Go off sick with stress. Just do it

I never usually say this but on this occasion it warrants calling in sick.On this day you will have a sickness bug.

I came on to read your thread thinking that I would probably need to read but not comment, as I find most of the threads on here complaining about employers quite unreasonable. And then I read your post and I'm horrified that your employer is behaving with so little compassion towards you.

I'm sorry about the situation that you're in. It's shit that your employer is treating you like this. I think you would be entirely reasonable to go off sick if you felt that way inclined. Having said that, I understand that you may want to keep your paid sick leave until you really need it.

Can you go and talk to the head and ask for a bit more consideration for the very difficult situation that you're in. They are being inhumane, and I don't say that lightly.

Go off sick. Today. I am so sorry

Sick leave

Something seems very wrong here. You have stage 4 breast cancer, still working full time and your employer is refusing time off? Contact your doctor to get signed off and contact your union to have your back.

Sick leave. Hopefully on full pay for as long as you can
Just take everything you can
very best of luck

FFS. I don't know what level you teach at but clearly it's the end of exam term so surely there is a bit of slack. Agree perfectly reasonable to go off sick, and like others I don't say that often!

Sod it, get a sicknote for as long as you can get paid your full salary.

I agree with the sick leave suggestions and I never say that. I'm so sorry OP. Also agree you should contact your union.