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How often do 50 somethings have sex?

138 replies

Ginghamtablecloth · 27/05/2026 17:21

I’m not a man and I’m not a troll. I’m asking as I was at a book club this morning and this exact question started a heated debate! Many of the ladies were adamant that over 50’s married women rarely have sex with their other half’s. Surely that’s not right. So please tell me is it? Chat

OP posts:
Dontlletmedownbruce · 27/05/2026 18:01

I suspect there's huge variation. There was a similar thread some time back and there were many posters saying they had sex a couple of times a week. Then some said every few months.

UniquePinkSwan · 27/05/2026 18:21

I’m nearly 50 and it’s 3 times a week for me

ChaChaChaChanges · 27/05/2026 18:22

Every day.

gatorlizzie · 27/05/2026 18:23

I think it depends on how long they have been married 😂

WildEnergySupplier · 27/05/2026 18:26

Sometimes it's as much as 4 times a day but other times it might only be about once or twice a day

Kangarude · 27/05/2026 18:26

As often as they fancy. How old are you OP?

Why does it say ‘chat’ at the end of your post? Is it the same as posters saying ‘discuss’?

Overtheatlantic · 27/05/2026 18:29

Never. I’ve got more important things to do.

Legolaslady · 27/05/2026 18:37

Every day....often several times

somanychristmaslights · 27/05/2026 18:44

WildEnergySupplier · 27/05/2026 18:26

Sometimes it's as much as 4 times a day but other times it might only be about once or twice a day

What???? How are you not constantly sore. And how long does it last??

Ginghamtablecloth · 27/05/2026 18:44

Ok. Flip! So everyday several times? How do you have the time?

OP posts:
Crafta · 27/05/2026 18:45

It will be very varied like all the other age groups

Legolaslady · 27/05/2026 18:47

Ginghamtablecloth · 27/05/2026 18:44

Ok. Flip! So everyday several times? How do you have the time?

I work part-time get 4 days of a week and there's every evening/night....??

ThisJadeBear · 27/05/2026 18:47

Never.
The menopause.
I have vaginal atrophy and it’s agony.
How anyone manages anything….
I think the posters saying several times a day are joking?

PermanentTemporary · 27/05/2026 18:48

57/60. 3 times a week but we’ve only been together 5 years so that probably doesn’t count. I certainly know women in their 50s who claim that they are retired from sex. I can’t help looking at their partners as they loudly announce this but maybe they’re fine with it. Presumably we’ll all stop eventually?

Dizzydrizzy · 27/05/2026 18:49

Every 2/3 days here. We both like it.

Legolaslady · 27/05/2026 18:49

ThisJadeBear · 27/05/2026 18:47

Never.
The menopause.
I have vaginal atrophy and it’s agony.
How anyone manages anything….
I think the posters saying several times a day are joking?

I'm not... Sorry
I really sympathise with you. It's such an important thing to me
Have you been to the GP?

busyd4y · 27/05/2026 18:49

Crafta · 27/05/2026 18:45

It will be very varied like all the other age groups

No, haven't you heard all of the 5million or however many 50 somethings there are in the UK all have exactly the same amount of sex

What a ridiculous question

ThisJadeBear · 27/05/2026 18:52

Legolaslady · 27/05/2026 18:49

I'm not... Sorry
I really sympathise with you. It's such an important thing to me
Have you been to the GP?

Yep tried everything including every type of HRT and topical oestrogen.
Currently being investigated for an auto immune disorder as there are other random things going on.
The pain is unbearable.

LizzieSiddal · 27/05/2026 18:54

7 times a day except Sunday which is a day of rest.

AfternoonVanessa · 27/05/2026 19:02

I think it's sad. We're 60 and lots of my friends don't have sex or want it. What their husbands think I have no idea.

mumumental · 27/05/2026 19:02

Impotence affects 60% of men by their 60s, so plenty are not.

KSera · 27/05/2026 19:04

PermanentTemporary · 27/05/2026 18:48

57/60. 3 times a week but we’ve only been together 5 years so that probably doesn’t count. I certainly know women in their 50s who claim that they are retired from sex. I can’t help looking at their partners as they loudly announce this but maybe they’re fine with it. Presumably we’ll all stop eventually?

It’s a lot more common than people think for men’s libidoes to decline in their forties/ fifties. They might be okay with it.

KSera · 27/05/2026 19:06

AfternoonVanessa · 27/05/2026 19:02

I think it's sad. We're 60 and lots of my friends don't have sex or want it. What their husbands think I have no idea.

How is it sad if they are both ok with it? You said yourself you don’t know how their husbands feel about it. Maybe they are impotent, health conditions or have little to no desire themselves.

TheGardenPond · 27/05/2026 19:09

WildEnergySupplier · 27/05/2026 18:26

Sometimes it's as much as 4 times a day but other times it might only be about once or twice a day

Genuine laugh out loud!

IHateHotWeather · 27/05/2026 19:12

WildEnergySupplier · 27/05/2026 18:26

Sometimes it's as much as 4 times a day but other times it might only be about once or twice a day

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