How often do 50 somethings have sex?

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I’m not a man and I’m not a troll. I’m asking as I was at a book club this morning and this exact question started a heated debate! Many of the ladies were adamant that over 50’s married women rarely have sex with their other half’s. Surely that’s not right. So please tell me is it? Chat

Wow! 🤩

At least once an hour every hour, true story.

Not another how often do you have sex thread!

Yawn.

55, together 25 years. About 6 times a year. I’d rather not to be honest!

Around once a week. I take HRT including testosterone. I would not manage without it.

It varies, same as younger people. I’m having a lot more sex in my 40s than any other decade.

How come? I know when I stopped wanting sex with someone it’s because I wasn’t attracted to them anymore, I assumed I didn’t have a sex drive but I just didn’t have one with him.

It’s definitely more common than people think for men to not be interested in sex, no matter what society has us believe. Sadly though it’s also more common than people think for men whose wives have stopped having sex to be cheating/using prostitutes. Even men whoses wives do want sex but the men still prefer to pay for it so pretend they have no sex drive.
All sorts can be going on. As long as the two people are both happy then that’s what matters

Is that all ? You utter slacker!

Oh here we go. Women come here to say they’re still very active sexually and they’re called liars and yet the women who come to say they’d rather hoover dog hair from the boots of their cars are perfectly normal. It’s ridiculous. Some women enjoy sex a lot. At all ages. They’re not all liars.

My friends and I are post menopausal. They have zero interest and do not seem to care how their husbands feel about it. I have a less active libido than I used to have, but I’m not dead yet. However, DH has no interest or inclination and seems completely unaware that if I chose to, I’d feel justified seeking intimacy elsewhere. I’m almost pathologically monogamous, so here I am: no man’s land. DH is a good enough husband otherwise, but it breaks my heart, and I can tell you it’s damaged my self esteem. Yeah, I had him do doctors and all that. He simply doesn’t want it. At least, he doesn’t want me. And as I said, he expects me to be fine with that.

Sorry. Obviously, a lot of feelings here.

Once a week

Well it depends on the marriage, many 50 somethings are unhappy in their marriages so won’t be having much sex. The happy ones will likely have more.

Despite the MNs competitive responses 2 times a week is probably the average

Wow several times a day. How boring! And yes I’m doing it right.

Exactly. Sex is amazing.

Based on friendship group in long term marriages - average once or twice a month.

I think once a week is about average across age groups so I doubt twice a week would be for over 50's.

Oh my goodness...me too! Vaginal atrophy is so common. The nurse who did my last (ever) smear said she hates swabbing post menopausal women as it can be so painful and she knows she's hurting them. When she tried to crank open the contraption they use, it broke and part of it flew across the room. God help anyone who tries to put a penis in there!

I’m 51, neither me or DH are really bothered about sex anymore. Haven’t had it for a few years now. Plenty of love and affection for each other, just both lost our sex drive. And that is ok, as long as we both feel the same, which we do. We’ve always both had quite a low libido, we are very happy pottering along, been together over 25 years. I’m post menopausal and that seemed to do it for me. Not ruling it out for ever. If I ever wanted sex again it would be DH I would want it with!

Those things don’t work for everyone though.
What a horrible comment, particularly the dried up and frigid bit. It’s hard to believe a woman would actually say this about other women.
I’ve read some nasty things on here but this is one of the worst.

Twice a week usually. Sometimes once, if on holiday most days

Very very amused by the suggestion that a gp might have anything to offer to someone who finds sex painful.

I’ve had endometriosis my whole adult life and I’ve never had any useful advice out of a gp about any aspect of it at all and definitely not about pain during sex.

married 25 plus years
2-3 times a week plus a quickie / bj in between

but we have always had a good sex life from the start

when we first met it was every day sometime twice

on holidays we can probably manage some sort of sex most days
but both of us know what we like so I’ve never found it a chore

As often as I can. I started suffering from vaginal dryness but got hrt gel and it has sorted it out because I consider it a priority. 50 isn't old. I have no intention of stopping. There have been a few threads like this lately and I find it strange that there seems to be this need to equate age with a drop in sex drive. I just don't recognise that. Yes relationships change and people grow apart but lets not blame age. There are just as many threads of people who thought they were in a sexless marriage meeting someone else and recovering all libido.