How often do 50 somethings have sex?

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I’m not a man and I’m not a troll. I’m asking as I was at a book club this morning and this exact question started a heated debate! Many of the ladies were adamant that over 50’s married women rarely have sex with their other half’s. Surely that’s not right. So please tell me is it? Chat

I am in exactly the same situation.i absolutely hate it and from time to time get angry with him about it.then sad as I feel he has no interest whatsoever.

@ThisJadeBear - I'm in the same boat and it sucks - I'm so sorry for you. I know this is off topic but did your atrophy have anything to do with the Mirena coli? This is what blame for my treatment resistant problem and my colleague has weirdly had the same experience.

Probably 2-4 per month. I need a few days in between, otherwise I can get UTI.

That’s true. However, my DH said, “Well, what’s the point then?”

Thank you. I thought I was the only one. ❤️

We're at it like rabbits. 🐇🐇

Reluctantly once a month , until I discovered oestrogen creams and pessaries, and now it’s a couple of times a week, and a lot more if we get away by ourselves.

Even if sex isn’t a priority anymore it’s still worth looking into oestrogen cream to combat dryness which can exacerbate UTIs which can be very dangerous in older women.

Err I’m 37 and it’s once a year here thank god. He’s 45. Together 14 years

If you don’t mind saying, why “thank god”? Research would suggest that you’re in your sexual prime. Just curious.

Because I don’t like it

In which case why have it at all?

We haven’t had sex since 2007 and we’ve been together for 41 years (both 59). We’re still physically affectionate though, and very happy together.

ETA: oh my God, I’ve got the dates wrong. The last time was actually 2000, round about April.

Yes prostate problems also cause erection problems but men dont advertise it.

I haven't read the manual but common sense would tell me it varies.

Fair enough. Why not? Because of how he is or something else? If it’s something else, no need to specify if you don’t want to. So many different and nuanced answers to OP’s original question.

Is your husband also happy with no sex since early 30s? Perhaps he is. Have you properly discussed it?

Absolutely. He has a much lower sex drive from me, always has done. We had it off all the time for the first four or five years! It slowly dwindled. By the time we got to our late 40s, I was definitely more interested than him (I was going through a weird horny phase), but he wasn’t up for it so I was a bit frustrated but as soon as I hit the menopause I went off the boil as well and now we’re well matched again.

similar position here I'm afraid. 60's. Been like it for nearly 10 years. Sad. No discussion about it. Just nothing....

I'm so sorry for those posters who are still keen but whose husbands aren't. We have both had periods a bit like that - currently husband sometimes has difficulty so can be less keen (he is yet to seek help). But I've had some difficulties with PIV throughout our marriage due to a medical issue, so it's been swings and roundabouts. What it's meant though is that we are used to getting creative, which we both enjoy. So even if he isn't feeling it, he encourages me. And sex is sex, whether it's PIV or not, and more wanted now heading up to 60 than when I was completely knackered with a young family.

Roughly the same but about once or twice a year.
We are animals with a sex drive to make us procreate.
At 53, there is no more procreation and I am good with that. I am a 53 year old woman who doesn’t need to be “sexy”. Let me be the relaxed hag that I am and leave me alone. I had plenty of fun and cock in my younger years.

I think it will vary from couple to couple but also from day to day, week to week etc. some weeks are tiring and we are both worn out. Some weeks we have loads of extra time and energy! I think as long as both parties are on the same page it’s ok.

I'm not quite there, I'm 48, but currently a couple of times a week. I envisage more in my 50s if the kids move out, as that's really the only thing stopping us doing it more 😂

Late 40’s here but my ex and I used to have sex on average maybe twice a month. I had the higher sex drive and would have liked it more often but she was happy with every few weeks.

The pain is unbearable when having sex. Not the rest of the time.

Vaginal atrophy is so bloody painful that penetrative sex is pretty much off the table, but there are other things.

We're both 50 and still sexually active - couple of times a week or so? Not a new relationship either.