How often do 50 somethings have sex?

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I’m not a man and I’m not a troll. I’m asking as I was at a book club this morning and this exact question started a heated debate! Many of the ladies were adamant that over 50’s married women rarely have sex with their other half’s. Surely that’s not right. So please tell me is it? Chat

Together 20 years. Average 2 times a week, unless on holls or weekend away. Then it's once or twice a day.

Yes like you I got HRT & testosterone and intraosa
all of it made a massive massive difference to my general well being and vagina dryness

This. It isn’t that people lose interest in sex at 50. It’s that they lose (or have lost) interest in their partner.😴

On the hour every hour, like cockwork.

I’m 52 and a couple of times a week. Been with my ash 27 years

I agree, dried up and frigid is the sort of misogynistic bullshit usually reserved for use by men.

Less in my 50’s than in my 60’s. Once you have retired there is more time and more opportunity.

I’m nearly 60 and had enough, if I never had it again would suit me fine. Dh still likes it once or if he had his way (ha) twice a week. I try and make an effort for him!

Definitely.

In your 50s! I take my hat off to you. I’d be exhausted and never get anything done 😂

Why do we have to go to the GP? Why do we have to pathologise not wanting sex at certain hormonal stages of our lives?

My answer - almost never. Maybe once earlier this year, can't remember. Don't care. My libido is not dead, DH just isn't inspiring it.

Yes, if mine would communicate a bit, I might find some interest.

4 times a day 😂

I agree but it’s classic for mn where the answer to everything is to pump yourself full of hormones.

Don't go to the GP if you don't care about it. That's absolutely fine. For many of us it's an enjoyable and essential part of life though and if the GP can help it go more smoothly then it's not a 'typical mn 🙄' but more akin to getting support with any other aspect of health.

Trying to work out how I would fit in 4 per day. On waking at 6 am, as soon as I get home from work at 6, next one straight after dinner at 8 and final one at 9.30 before going to sleep. I would probably have to have a cleaner, a meal delivery service and a house keeper to do all the extra laundry. Maybe cut back on my working hours so I could be home by 3 to crack on with the afternoon shagging.

I have been to my GP, consultant, paid privately.
I am on HRT, testosterone, and topical oestrogen.
I have done a gynae physio course of treatments.
Plus anti depressants and pregabelin.
I am in so much pain from atrophy it’s hard for me to sit down sometimes.
I have noticed on MN people think seeking medical advice solves a problem.
Thrilled to hear lots of women my age can still have, and enjoy, sex. I wish I was one of them….

The menopause hasn’t affected me so that’s why it’s 3 times a week for me

I feel for those who are having difficulties.

Not quite 50 yet but well on the way to it (later 40s). Usually 2 or sometimes 3 times over a weekend, very rarely in the week unless a day off or on holiday. I still masturbate more or less daily though.

Most posters work part time and have paid their mortgage off at 40 so can fuck like rabbits.

May as well ask ‘how many times do people in their 50’s eat pasta’

answers will be anywhere between:
once / twice a day to never

same with sex - as everyone is different.

Because the poster said her was pain was unbearable???

@Legolaslady I have tried everything every solution they could throw at me.
My mum never had an issue with menopause at all.
I have had gynae issues all my life. Pre-cancerous cells as a teenager, endo which was only diagnosed at 46, so I’ve been through a fair bit of pain.
I know I am not alone and the pain I am in is quite common.
Have also had therapy in case there was a link between my mental health/experiences.
I now have to use a high strength lidocaine from a specialist - helps with pain but means the whole area is numb.
Had a terrible effect on my relationship and my self esteem.

Fair enough, missed that. I was responding in general about libido rather than actual health issues. Too often we're told that if we're not motivated for sex, we need to get medicated for it. It's the over sexualised society that is the problem there. Another issue if you want it and physically have problems.

Jade, there are great things to do that do not involve vaginal intercourse.