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I’m talking to my own partner on a dating app.

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Ahitsteatime · 16/04/2026 22:03

Currently 20 weeks pregnant, partner had taken it badly. Stropping around, not sure he wanted the baby then he did, making mistakes at work saying he was depressed. This is our first and was an accident. After weeks of him being up or down, I checked his phone. Mainly because I was worried he had been searching suicide methods or something. But no, I found a dating app.

He didn’t really have many chats about three and they were flirty and sort of sexual. I felt more annoyed than upset. I stupidly then decided to make an account, I don’t know why. I guess I wanted to see it for myself and control the narrative.

Used random photos off Reddit and he matched with me and I’ve been messaging him across the room. He’s told a ton of lies, single obviously, lives alone, new job, used older pictures😂. Such a piece of shit. It’s very interesting how he’s suddenly taking his phone in the shower

its been a week and now he’s away for work in a hotel. I’m at home, and messaging him. He’s not replied to my WhatsApp but has replied to “Graces” several times. Saying she’s gorgeous, asking if she models. Yuck

i need to end it when he gets home and have told my mum and im making plans but I kinda love he’s making an absolute tit of himself. Part of me wants to arrange a meet up and then turn up myself but he’s volatile. Thinking I could get my mum and dad sat in the pub when he goes to meet “Grace”. He’d be horrified and panicky then. Fucking twat.

OP posts:
LaDeeDaDeeDumb · 17/04/2026 16:42

Also add the bit about “I wasn’t really sure you were my type physically, but when I showed your picture…” just to get the boot in 😁

Pessismistic · 17/04/2026 16:44

Ahitsteatime · 17/04/2026 11:54

Hello all, thanks for the lovely comments and support. My mum is coming today to help bag his stuff up and will be here when I call to end the relationship. I’ve been running on adrenaline I think, fueled by a sort of chase feeling but at the bottom of it it’s just sadness and mostly disappointment if anything. I’ve also got a massive ick with him now.

I won’t be revealing I’m Grace but will be telling him he just doesn’t do it for her physically (as her) before blocking and will say someone else saw him on there and send me the screenshots of his profile (which I have). He’s crafty, sneaky and at a vulnerable time when I needed him, he does this. Bastard. He even chose this app called Breeze, as he knows I have friends who are dating and use the more common ones such as tinder and he’d be seen. He planned this and I can’t trust him ever again.

Op good for you life will get better it might take time but this twat is only thinking of his dick make sure he pays for the baby.

SwatTheTwit · 17/04/2026 17:03

Is “Grace” local? If so I’d message him something along the lines of “hey saw you [place you’d be together] with someone else, are you sure you’re single?” or if you’re showing “Saw you with this pregnant lady, but wasn’t sure it was you as you looked a bit shorter than the photos”.

Or even better just dump him and don’t even give him the time. I’m so sorry, OP. He’s awful.

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Newyearawaits · 17/04/2026 17:20

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 17/04/2026 12:19

Nonsense.
The OP has taken control over this.

It's the father of the child who ought to be deeply ashamed. He won't be, though. These men only ever think of one thing, and it isn't their children.

I think poster was referring to the fact that the baby has separated parents before being born.
Let's not pretend that this is the best start. Children are in a better position with 2 committed parents.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 17/04/2026 17:38

Ahitsteatime · 17/04/2026 12:34

It’s breeze but once you send a message you can continuing messaging even if you don’t go on the physical date. He’d also linked it to Feeld but that seemed more of a sexual one and he didn’t have any matches on there 😂

There is no chat function on Breeze at all. You match, share available dates from a calendar and then it gets arranged at a host venue.
Great story though.

MyEasterBonnet · 17/04/2026 17:45

I’d keep Gracie talking to him until you’ve got rid of him. He’d maybe be easier to get rid of when he thinks he’s got someone else lined up. Once he’s out, he can be dumped by two women.

springvegetables · 17/04/2026 17:51

OP get him to meet Grace at a pub and get your dad to meet him

Rizzz · 17/04/2026 17:58

I know nothing about dating apps OP but I've just Googled 'Breeze app chat' and previous posters appear to be correct, in that there is no chat function? 😳

MamguVanEs · 17/04/2026 18:06

Ahitsteatime · 16/04/2026 22:12

You’re right I probably shouldn’t. It started with wanting proof, to have messages as knew as soon as he would be confronted he’d delete everything but now it’s got a bit mad. I just hated not knowing what he was saying about us or our life or not saying even.

Well now you know and it hurts. He is a man of little integrity. If you can leave him please do. It will only get worse and your baby and you need a man who is a team player and responsible.

XMissPlacedX · 17/04/2026 18:08

good luck op with your double dumping this evening! What a fucking useless twat your stbxdp is

BoldRobin · 17/04/2026 18:09

What a terrible situation you find yourself in. Im sorry.

You should focus on yourself and drop this prank on the app. Not worth your energy.

spindrifft · 17/04/2026 18:16

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This message has been withdrawn at the poster's request

This screenshot looks like facebook messenger, not a dating app

Wildefish · 17/04/2026 18:17

goingtodothis1 · 16/04/2026 22:09

Why are you giving this man so much head space? Be gone when he gets back and never give him another thought.
I would stop wasting time on these games and move on, it already sounds like he thinks he is.

She can at least have a bit of fun at his expense.

Whitebonny12 · 17/04/2026 18:17

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/04/2026 22:13

Bah. Let her have some fun with the scumbag before it ends.

She could do both. Be gone by the time he gets back and have 'Grace' ghost him 😂

AbbotSade1985 · 17/04/2026 18:21

OP, I've played this game before. The problem is, at any time he's confronted by you, he could claim he knew all along. You'd need to get someone else to pretend to be Grace for 10 mins, then you can safely claim victory.

Anguskinty · 17/04/2026 18:21

Belongings bagged up on front doorstep on his return, locks changed, and a note on the door stating 'Go and GRACE somewhere else with your presence'

Anguskinty · 17/04/2026 18:23

Whitebonny12 · 17/04/2026 18:17

She could do both. Be gone by the time he gets back and have 'Grace' ghost him 😂

OP owns the house

Wildefish · 17/04/2026 18:23

Ahitsteatime · 16/04/2026 22:23

I go through waves of like fuck you and smugly knowing it’s me and this hot young woman doesn’t actually fancy him, then have moments where I feel our daughter move and just feel so sad, mainly for her that her dad is a piece of shit. Will claim maintenance though and it’s my house not his so pros and cons

My daughter’s ex left when she was 5 1/2 months pregnant. It was awful for her and such a shock. Again it was her house so he left. Her son is 6 and she’s doing a great job with him. He sees his dad once a week, when his dad can be bothered and that’s fine with her. She is so much happier without him and her son is the happiest little boy. You are lucky (I know it doesn’t seem that way) know what al low life this man is now. Make sure you are safe from him.

Someonenewagain · 17/04/2026 18:34

I think the strongest most powerful women are those that just pack up, leave, block him and literally pretend he doesn’t even exist. Do it now as once the baby comes you’ll most likely have to have done firm if contact with him.

LalaPaloosa2024 · 17/04/2026 18:39

You should arrange to meet him, but stand him up. Then send a message saying you came but when you saw him, you were so disappointed with how he looks that you left.

Anguskinty · 17/04/2026 18:41

LaDeeDaDeeDumb · 17/04/2026 16:40

Could you (as Grace) tell him you showed his picture to a friend and your friend said he’s in a relationship with a baby on the way? And then block

Edited

This is exactly what Grace should do and then he will never know whether it got back to OP or not. Let him have the anguish of guessing now

1980isitjustme · 17/04/2026 18:43

If you like pina colada…

LouiseK93 · 17/04/2026 18:43

It sounds like he wasnt planning on staying with you long term.

moonstarsuns · 17/04/2026 18:49

So shitty. Let us know how it goes tonight

Mellowbear · 17/04/2026 18:54

I've seen this exact post multiple times in tiktok!!! It's a boring trend.