Horrible text from ex

[Calendulaaria]

Today I wrote a quick text to my ex-husband (we have two children) just saying "Hey, what date will be you putting through the cs this month?" cs meaning child support.

I received this reply:

"The only reason you have this number is for emergencies for the kids. That's the only reason you can reach me right now. I'm not your friend. I'm not someone you can complain to. I'm a stranger. You don't know me and I don't want to know you.

If you have a problem you take it up with the appropriate place. the only reason I should have a message from you is if one of the kids is in hospital.

If I'm doing something you don't like go make a friend and talk to them about it."

Bit of background. I have not had any contact with him since September, when we were organising drop offs for the holidays. There's been no conflict. I have an active social life and don't understand the 'make a friend' part.

We have been divorced for many years. We broke up due to not being compatible. We argued a lot and he was 10 years younger than me and wanted different things in the end. When we broke up, he made life fairly difficult I guess, i.e. not having the kids, so I found it difficult to work full time, as he wouldn't help with care in the holidays etc. Say he would have them for the night work I found once a week, then back out that day, leaving me with no care. I have never had family to look after the kids, so it was just him and me. He was nasty in the early days, broke the front door in and called the small amount of child support he paid 'my wage he paid me to look after the children'. Because I have had the children for the past 11 years nearly full time, he has had time to build a successful career. I pay for (and always have) everything for the children, all clothes, school fees, out of school activities, musical instruments, daughter's first car and insurance etc etc.

The last 6-7 years there's been only contact about pick ups and drop offs. I've been friendly towards his new partner and always said hello and goodbye at drops offs.

Then I get this text today. It's so over the top. I'm feeling a bit alone and thought someone might relate or have a story to share.

But a dickhead. He could have said 'you know I always pay so why you asking' or whatever.
OP, it sounds almost like his partner is paranoid or goes through his messages and he wants to make a statement.
Either that or he's just a twat having a bad day. Even if he said stop chasing me for the money, you'll get it, it would be nicer than what he's wrote!

Haha what a stupid response! It was meant as an idea as it had happened to me! Keep your knickers on luv!

Didn't the OP say it was arranged via the CSA/ CMS? But he pays directly, so surely if payments are missed, she should alert the CMS?

It's a shitty text from him, so now I'd start the process of making the CMS aware, keep track of missed/late payments, and move it to a collect-and-pay scheme.

But this sounds like a one off late payment.

I'd be tempted to ask CSA to deduct it from his wages if he starts messing around with payment dates but you'd need some evidence to show that the payments have been delayed/not turned up when expected. If they set a payment schedule up and he defaults then they will deal with it on your behalf. You have the text messages as evidence if you need to back your story up. Don't fret over him he's clearly the same dick he always was. Don't communicate further with him by text, you've tried that, the important thing now is to 'show him' that you'll do what needs to be done if he doesn't co-operate x