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I just burst into tears in Tesco.

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Itsnotallsparkles · 18/08/2024 18:52

NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

OP posts:
BanksysSprayCan · 18/08/2024 18:54

Sending solidarity. Things will het better 💐

PixiePirate · 18/08/2024 18:55

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having such a tough time at the moment. That bloke was a knob. I hope his next poo is a pinecone.

💐 for you, and best wishes for happier times to come.

Deipara · 18/08/2024 18:55

I would've cried too. Sending you a big hug. X

SCHMINK · 18/08/2024 18:56

So sorry to hear that. Best wishes to you getting through this tough time! X

dementedpixie · 18/08/2024 18:56

Speak to your bank and get the direct debit recalled as it wasn't the amount you agreed to. They should do it under the direct debit guarantee

mycatsanutter · 18/08/2024 18:56

Ah big hug , what a twat he was . Things will get better x

lavenderboux · 18/08/2024 18:57

Sending you big hugs, OP. Things will get better Flowers

Aquamarine1029 · 18/08/2024 19:02

I'm so sorry, op. For as awful as this is, I'm glad the vile wanker is gone.

Justcallmebebes · 18/08/2024 19:04
Flowers
Thevelvelletes · 18/08/2024 19:06

There's always some fucker to put the cherry on top when you're having a bad time.
Hopefully you get the insurance money back in your account.

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 18/08/2024 19:06

That guys an absolute prick. Or also having a tough time and took it out on you.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Genuinely sounds really tough. Flowers

MugPlate · 18/08/2024 19:06

Anything short dated I immediately complain about. They have no right to flog off old stock on you.

ExhaustedHousewife · 18/08/2024 19:06

I forgot my pin number once in the queue,why is there always some tosspot behind ready to say a nasty comment?
I hope things get better for you soon.

nzeire · 18/08/2024 19:07

Oooh! A supermarket boohoo! Been there! Hope that arsehole felt bad, honestly, people are bloody awful.

take care, hang in there, it will get better xxxx

TaylorSwish · 18/08/2024 19:08

That man was a twat. Unless he’s a millionaire, (like all of us) he could lose his job or have an accident and be skint af in a few months.

CeeJay81 · 18/08/2024 19:08

Hugs to you OP. Everything must seem awful atm for you and someone being like that can easily tip you over the edge. Certainly know what it's like to struggle too. X

PearlSlaghoople · 18/08/2024 19:09

Oh bless you, OP, and sending solidarity 💐

didistutter56 · 18/08/2024 19:10

Ah I’m sorry OP. I was 29 when I became a single parent and ended an 8 year relationship, I remember how much of a struggle those first few months were financially. I hope things improve for you and you manage to get your insurance money back.

Homemadearmy · 18/08/2024 19:14

Weve all been there op. Big hugs. On a practical note it's worth phoning tesco about the short dates and they will refund

StellaCruella · 18/08/2024 19:15

This is the low point. You will be ok and there is only one way now - up! X

nzeire · 18/08/2024 19:16

Here’s a good one for you, last year, at my lowest, lowest ebb, I annoyed a wanker in a big fuck off shiney massive arsehole truck behind me, I was driving too slow. He sat on his (super loud) horn and didn’t stop.

I just stopped the car in the middle of the road and put my head in my hands. Didn’t stop him from beeping and I only moved so not to annoy the neighbourhood.

if only he knew what was going on for me. Probably wouldn’t have given a toss. What awful people think that this behaviour is ok. What happened to be kind :(

feebeecat · 18/08/2024 19:17

Flowers Flowers

Itsnotallsparkles · 18/08/2024 19:17

Thank you all. I didn’t realise about the short dates and I could ring up about it! I will do that. Luckily my very kind and lovely mum will lend me some to tide me over. I know others aren’t as fortunate, I think things atm are so incredibly hard for a lot of people.

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MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 18/08/2024 19:20

Bless you, I've been there. Co-op, buying baby milk. Declined. Turned out the cat insurance had taken 3 lots of direct debit instead of just 1 payment wiping out the £20 I had left.

Call your bank and get the DD returned. Or, see if you can manage and enjoy not having a monthly insurance payment.

Hopefully that man learns humility one day.

ZippyDenimBear · 18/08/2024 19:20

PixiePirate · 18/08/2024 18:55

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having such a tough time at the moment. That bloke was a knob. I hope his next poo is a pinecone.

💐 for you, and best wishes for happier times to come.

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