I just burst into tears in Tesco.

[Itsnotallsparkles]

NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

@Itsnotallsparkles

just check that the dates aren't as they stated on the website first (& they include the day it's 'use by' as well. You won't get any longer even if you buy instire, it's just the dates of the items. (Unless you happen to have a really bad picker in a foul mood) but it's not usually that

The man was a twat and is probably rude as he is annoyed he only has a small willy

Solidarity OP. It wasn’t that long ago my legs would tremor and I’d feel tearful walking around the supermarket because I was so short of money as a single mum. The only way I could cope was to just deal with each day as it came. I try very hard nowadays to not get irritated at people I don’t know because I don’t know what’s going on in their life. 💐

A big hug and sending love.

I was in this situation for a few years after losing my job during Covid and suddenly finding myself on the breadline and counting every penny. I'm 57 and it wasn't easy trying to get the opportunity to work again. You'll find walking will save you bus fare and batch cooking something like rice or pasta as your packed lunch will help you economise. Luxury would be a 45p packet of custard creams from Aldi's or Lidls.

Don't lose sight of the nice things in life, like sunny days, saying good morning to complete strangers and having them smile back, and knowing that you'll get through this period.

I found walking everywhere was tremendous for my mental health. I also found I was getting up much earlier in the mornings but then again I had to as it would take me up to an hour to walk to work.

I think I met the same man today. 😭

@Marveladdict

i think it must really depend on what type of thing you buy 🤷🏻‍♀️. My friend doesn't drive, and normally gets a delivery, but she'd just come back from holiday & didn't want a big shop. Everything I looked at that I'd normally buy was more expensive & the veg didn't look appealing and not much from the uk. Lots of the stuff I don't buy looked cheaper (snacks, crisps, biscuits etc).

🤷🏻‍♀️

Me too, you are having a really hard time at the moment. As for Darling husbands, exotic holidays, big houses, I don't have any of those and nor do alot of other people. You will be OK OP. And FWIW, your experience of people being rude in supermarkets is more common than you think. I witnessed a member of the public being extremely rude to a member of staff in LIDL yday. I think that the rudeness of the man in the queue was the final straw that caused you to break down in tears.
Take care OP, sending you strength

Lovely story and advice. Thank you 4 sharing

I know part of that feeling.

I’m lucky, I do have an amazing husband. But we are up shit creek without a fucking paddle right now. He’s lost his job because his employers are wankers. We are at home with a 4.5m old.

We currently have a HUGE loss on income due to mat leave and his job going. There’s one months money left in the bank. We have no food in the house, have everything we need for our baby of course. But for us? Nope.

The earliest I can go back to work is in 3 months as I have to give 12 weeks notice.

It feels like the world is ending. I know it’s not, he’s applied for 37 jobs now. Hopefully something will come off, but right now it’s so hard to see forward.

I nearly came on here to rant on my own post, but I couldn’t be arsed with all the judgemental fuckers so I didn’t. But I have spent many an hour crying and screaming in the Car recently. Relying on P!nk’s song Turbulence to try and keep me in check. But my god I’ve been as low as you can go.

Hope your Okay OP, adulting is shit.

I am sorry to read this, OP.

Do make sure you complain to your car insurer. Let them know the position you were left in due to their error; that you were unable to buy groceries, caused you upset/embarrassment in the shop and had to borrow from your family.

They should offer you a trouble and upset payment (and in my view, as a Complaints Manager with over 25 years experience in this industry, accept nothing less than £100 from them).

💐

Oh OP - I'm so sorry. This all sounds utterly shit...massive massive hugs x

Sending you warm wishes and there is always big thick feckers who engage their big mouth and don’t think, have had some v rocky times in my life am 60 now still watching the cents/pennies but thankfully have peaceful home once ex left am delighted you have your mum, try writing in a diary all your bad and good feelings, could you dog walk in your spare time the joy of an animal and the outdoors be great too also bit of extra cash.

I do surveys too that brings in a little extra too.
Olio’s too ( free food)

I think lots of pine cones needed next time you/we meet someone not so pleasant smile and think of that pine cone 💩.

💕

People are so selfish these days, it's unbelievable. And yet many people are kind, have a kind word. Those people will turn up too.

Totally feel for you. Life will get better

So sorry your going through this torment. But it can only get better as the saying goes! That moron in the queue will get his karma one day! Mom's are great aren't they? I hope your situation improves soon. Big hug! X

Awww bless you OP!

I used to cry all the time when frustrated/disappointed !

now I am older and with the amount of Botox on me plus hours of face yoga, not really worth it … 😆

Just a bad day, fuck it! You’re healthy , single , woohoooo!! Enjoy ! 😎💃

I joined just to reply to this thread as I usually just peruse.
It’s amazing how things can change over time OP. You’re doing a great job it seems and many (myself included) would have burst into tears too!

I did in fact! Long story short I was homeless from the age of 15. First husband turned out to be a horrible man who I left age 30 with a 2 year old in tow. Burst into tears at the bank as my ex husband never let me have a bank of my own so I was struggling to find somewhere to rent.
fast forward to 36 and I bought my own home a few years ago and then met my amazing now husband and life couldn’t look any different.

my mum always used to say ‘que sera sera’ and also ‘this too shall pass’ and it is so true. The bad times in the end make us appreciate the good when they come to us.

Aw, sorry things are shit for you right now

It was a Saturday morning in the Post Office when I bust into tears. Little kids buying comics and sweets with pocket money. I opened a letter saying I was divorced. I disintegrated!
@Itsnotallsparkles Good Luck, "just keep buggering on".

Really liking this thread, yes, it came into being because the OP is going through a rubbish time but it is so heartening to read about the ways people have survived hard times, the support and kindness for the OP and indeed for each other who are recounting tough life events and sharing survival tips. I sometimes come on here and read all the posts about lovely homes and 6 figure salaries and feel a bit inadequate and wonder where i went wrong! So it has been so reassuring to read all the kind and helpful comments on here. None of us are ordinary, we all have our struggles and tough times and it has been so encouraging to read all the caring and empathetic posts

That sounds awful 😞 it’s probably not much help, but you can go back to work on 8 weeks notice if you need to, not that you should have to when your baby is so small.

I hope your DH gets another job really quickly.

Don't worry about the dates - if they smell/look ok, they'll be okay.
But also, things will improve OP. Hope you find somewhere cheaper to rent. Maybe it's time for a totally fresh start somewhere else that youv'e always fancied but ex didn't?

Glad you have your lovely Mum to look out for you, @Itsnotallsparkles. I'm sure it will sparkle again soon!

Aw we've all been there at one point or another - mine was in Asda and my Dad transferred the money to me. Luckily.

Maybe once the dust has settled you could look for somewhere cheaper to rent? No idea where you live etc. Is this doable?

I can't say anything peppy to make you feel better - I'm sorry. I'm having a rubbish day and feeling on edge. So your post resonates with me tonight.

Hope you get some sleep x