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I just burst into tears in Tesco.

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Itsnotallsparkles · 18/08/2024 18:52

NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

OP posts:
funnysideup · 24/08/2024 20:07

Massive hugs xxx. I see you, girl. Imo you've been incredibly brave holding it together till then.

Eldrick47s · 24/08/2024 20:18

What a prick OP (not just your ex but that Ahole in the queue).

Basic consideration for others is missing in some unfortunately.

When times get shitty all we can do is plough on.

NurtureGrow · 24/08/2024 20:22

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Jenkibubble · 24/08/2024 23:53

Itsnotallsparkles · 18/08/2024 18:52

NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

Sorry you are going through a rough time .
Take each day as it comes (if that’s too much then get through each hour if that’s easier )
You make a valid point - we see the good that’s going on via social media etc but people don’t post the crap times (which 99 percent of people go through of varying degrees )
Toxic positivity isn’t good either - we have to acknowledge negative feelings

Mumlifebalance · 25/08/2024 07:03

PixiePirate · 18/08/2024 18:55

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having such a tough time at the moment. That bloke was a knob. I hope his next poo is a pinecone.

💐 for you, and best wishes for happier times to come.

As someone who's also going through a bad time, your comment was excellent 👌 😂

Itsnotallsparkles · 25/08/2024 13:58

Thank you for all your messages and lovely support. I did end up calling the insurance company and it did work out ok. Have been spending this weekend out for walks and just trying to relax. I’m so sorry to hear through some of your hard struggles, but also uplifted in how some of you have powered through.

Sorry it’s taken long to respond, I had some strange DM’s on here by an account claiming I couldn’t know hardship because I don’t have children. I don’t doubt going through things when you have children is terribly hard, but I just want to say it doesn’t make those who don’t have children immune to struggles too! I’ve attached one of them! I’m wondering if they were all from one account! Anyway, I hope everyone is having a nice weekend whatever you’re up to!

I just burst into tears in Tesco.
OP posts:
donteandolivia13 · 25/08/2024 14:06

What the French connection UK? Just because you don't have children, someone thinks they have the right to undermine your struggles and according to their narrow mindedness, you are a lesser person in their eyes, somehow?! I would have told that vile piece of whatever to go and annoy someone else and other stuff but because I am in polite company! Just so very sorry you have this to endure, no one asks for the life they are given after someone decides to walk out, regardless if one has children or not, or divorced, single, situationship or whatever the kids are calling it this days! So kind of you to update us, feel free to drop.a message any time u need to vent/cry/laugh/cry laugh or anything! Kind regards to you 😊

Cobess · 25/08/2024 14:11

Sending lots of love to you. I'm 29 and just gone through a breakup after 9 years together and we have a 1 year old DS. I'm moving out on Tuesday and held it together until this weekend and now I can't stop crying and fearing what's to come. All the best to you lovely x

HateMyRubbishBoss · 25/08/2024 14:37

Don’t think they meant harm @Itsnotallsparkles but I get it’s not super helpful

very glad you feel better !!
xx

JoyousGoose · 25/08/2024 17:02

Did you get in touch with your car insurers? If you explain the mistake they should sort it for you. Have you though of using SpareRoom.com to find a short term renter to help you with your rent? I host French students or their teachers from October to June and get between £140 and £200 per week. I drop them off at 7.20 a.m. go to work then pick them up at 7.30 p.m. or sometimes later depending on traffic and where they've been for the day. There's all sorts of ways to make a bit of extra money.

Grammarnut · 25/08/2024 18:38

donteandolivia13 · 25/08/2024 14:06

What the French connection UK? Just because you don't have children, someone thinks they have the right to undermine your struggles and according to their narrow mindedness, you are a lesser person in their eyes, somehow?! I would have told that vile piece of whatever to go and annoy someone else and other stuff but because I am in polite company! Just so very sorry you have this to endure, no one asks for the life they are given after someone decides to walk out, regardless if one has children or not, or divorced, single, situationship or whatever the kids are calling it this days! So kind of you to update us, feel free to drop.a message any time u need to vent/cry/laugh/cry laugh or anything! Kind regards to you 😊

I don't think they were undermining her, but the struggle with children in tow can be awful in such a situation. On the other hand, being alone is terrifying, it feels as if there is no-one to turn to. Frightening.

donteandolivia13 · 25/08/2024 19:13

Grammarnut · 25/08/2024 18:38

I don't think they were undermining her, but the struggle with children in tow can be awful in such a situation. On the other hand, being alone is terrifying, it feels as if there is no-one to turn to. Frightening.

Let's agree to disagree, its my opinion and I'm sticking to it! Kind regards

Jw1 · 25/08/2024 20:59

Itsnotallsparkles · 18/08/2024 18:52

NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

Did u use your clubcard too wipe away those tears ? Welcome to the real world,I am 51,just walking into Tesco's makes me scream nevermind cry,,The prices are keep on rising,,The best time is about 1 hour before closing they put discounts on the stuff with low expiry dates,,,

JeopardyLtd · 26/08/2024 17:56

Seconded. Sending best wishes for some happiness for you. Hope the car insurance people can sort this out for you. And as for the ‘pine cone’ comment - best line I’ve heard in ages 🤣

MosaDiCello · 03/09/2024 11:01

Thank you for sharing, not that I like to hear others struggling but it’s comforting to know that I’m not alone. Sometimes it does feel like you are trapped in your own circumstances then I hear others are having a tough time so it brings me back to reality. Then I start to think right pull your big girl pants up!

I wish you all the best I know you’re probably riding the biggest wave trying to keep it all together but it won’t always be like this xxx

ilikecatsandponies · 03/09/2024 11:18

It will get better. I had to leave a trolley of food in Asda years ago when I was with an ex boyfriend who nearly got the bailiffs round and did other things that I just tried to write out and still can't bring myself to.
You broke up with the ex for a reason and it's onwards and upwards from here, without the encumbrance. If you have to move, do it. I had to go back into a house share for a while and it helped me get back sorted financially and also got me some brilliant friends.
You are stronger than you think xx

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