I just burst into tears in Tesco.

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NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

I'm sorry. That sounds shit. Can you call the bank and insurance and get that payment back? I've done similar before when a payment went out unexpectedly leaving me with nothing for the rest of the month. Bank and company were very helpful and kind. Probably could hear me freaking out!

PixiePirate · Today 18:55
I’m sorry to hear that you’re having such a tough time at the moment. That bloke was a knob. I hope his next poo is a pinecone.

Ooh yes ... and I hope it comes out open end first 😂

I'm sorry to hear that. Hoping for you that that was your low, youve bottomed out and that bit by bit, day by day it gets better and better until you're back living the life you deserve. So much respect for you for holding it together and pushing forward. Sometimes you need to have that moment when it all spills out to release some of the tension. Hope you feel a little better now.

Really sorry to hear this, OP. What an unsympathetic idiot at Tesco - horrid thing to say. Without wanting to derail the thread, I don't understand why people can become so obnoxiously impatient at supermarkets - I especially hate it when people in self-service machine queues can see that you're still packing your items into bags after paying but still come to plonk their basket down as a passive-aggressive way of telling you to hurry up / clear off.

Hope your financial woes begin to clear soon, OP.

I'm hearing you OP. I'm probably older than you and by my age most of us have experienced severe stress or trauma in some form. There have been many times I have felt like giving up and ending it all, but I know I never will now. I'm at peace with the shit life threw at me which caused me decades of trauma and financial difficulties. In a nutshell I ended up with my own business doing a job I love. I shall never be in a relationship again-my choice, and I'm glad I chose to stick around on this for godforsaken planet for a bit longer. 💐

Sending lots of love to you at this hard time. Things will get better.

In the words of George Harrison: It’s not always gonna be this grey. All things must pass.

OP what is it about supermarkets that magnifies whatever is going wrong in our lives?
I have deffo had a few good cries and I don’t discriminate either.
So glad your DM is helping you out. And while your X has been an absolute tool, also glad you got to keep the home you had before you met him.
It’s yours.
I read about people’s lives on here sometimes and I don’t relate at all. Savings lots and future pension plans and not wasting money so that in 475 years you can put the heating on. (By the way if your future is sorted - good for you!)
I am mid 50’s and had a brilliant career, then a serious illness finished that. But I’m still here.
Current reasons to cry in a supermarket:

• recent tests have shown I tick every box for a certain type of cancer. Currently awaiting biopsy.
• I decided to grow my coloured hair out and try and be cool grey and looked like a demented badger. I’ve coloured it again and I look like Emily Bishop.
• I have no family left of my own. Now this I do cry over.
• I then see the drama in other families and think it’s not so bad.
• I have realised life is really just about good people. Been a lover of finer things and designer labels. They are now 4 sizes too small.
• You will meet someone who is not a knob. Took me 43 years.
• I gave up Facebook several years ago and I do not miss the parade of Range Rovers, summer lets in Provence, and bifold kitchen doors.
• But I have - a beard, piles, grey hair everywhere, a rubber ring around my stomach made of pure fat, a pension that a mouse will one day survive on, enough daily meds to sink a pharmacy and detached retinas.

I remember being a single mum inn poverty, went to the petrol station and my card got declined. So embarrassed, had to fill in a form and come back to pay.

Hugs. I hope shithead bloke saw that he’d upset you and felt awful.

Hugs OP. Things will not always be this way. 🌺

I'm not struggling at the moment, but during a dark and difficult time in my life I cried in banks, by the side of the road in my car, in car parks, in supermarkets, in fields.
The smallest thing would overwhelm me and it manifested itself as despair and tears.

Sorry to read this. That man was horrible, like what do you say to someone like that when you’re already stressed. Hope tomorrow is better.

What a bellend. There’s always an inadequate man waiting to put the boot in when a woman is in a difficult situation.

Sending healing vibe x

Sending you all the best, I would have been exactly the same xx

What a horrible man at the supermarket! What is wrong with some people?

Don't give a moment's thought about bursting into tears. You obviously needed the "release" - and I hope you feel all the better for it.

Let "loser" block you - that is also good for your mental health right now. Tomorrow is another day and a new week.

Just tell yourself: OK, I have now joined the ranks of the singles (who also have to pay £1200 a month for a flat), I am on my own now and it is a challenge, scary, but will be the making of me. Have an afternoon to yourself, go for a big long walk, then sit down and make a list of all your goals for a year from now. Then work on them one by one. If you even accomplish one, come back on here in a year's time and cheer us all up with your achievement, to tell the rest of us that it can be done.

I know you can do it.

xxx

Aw I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through a rough time. You’ve had a LOT to deal with (emotionally and financially!) in a short space of time, no wonder it’s all getting too much for you.

Sending big hugs, hope things get better for you soon!

you sound truly lovely and one day soon I hope that you will be looking back at this shitty time in your life from a better place. From the things you have said I get a feeling that you will never lose your empathy for others having a horrible time. I have cried in the supermarket when on top of having a vile time at work I got to the checkout to find my purse had been nicked. It felt as if the world was conspiring against me. What I took away from that incident and other crappy events in my life was to be kind and if I could, be helpful to others in distress.

Thank you all for your messages of solidarity and just the lovely messages. At home now with a chick flick and a cup of tea. This will pass, as a poster said it always does.

To those who shared their own hard times, my heart is with you. Life can fucking suck sometimes but it can also have its magic moments as well.

Just always say ‘this too shall pass’.

Cried myself tonight. Sorry youre going through it. Sometimes the little shit is what makes us crack

Short dates really seem to be a thing now. I have have had to cook salmon for dog before now as it's a day over- {doesn't seem to hurt her}

Perishables and fruit that goes from rock hard to rot with no ripe phase.

I too was left by husband with a whole mortgage to pay and a 4 yr old..it was not easy.

As for the person who said :
I hope his next poo is a pinecone.

A big, opened up one from the South of France.

Have a massive hug OP🤗
Lovely sentiment in your post and you sound like a bloody good person.
I'm so sorry life is shitty at the moment but it'll get better xxxx

Thank you for sharing this. It has helped me and I think many people here x

Do you have a supportive family who can help?

I've been there. It will pass 💐

So true, in the area I live in, everything is buy to let, it enrages me, people paying the landlords' mortgages for them and then getting kicked out on a Section 21 "no fault" eviction when the landlord fancies selling up to yet another landlord. Two up two down terraces turned into unofficial HMOs with all the attendant rubbish and problems from overcrowding. To buy where I am is unaffordable for people on an average income and yet it is one of the worst areas in the city. Utter madness