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Embarrassed by partners go fund me...

422 replies

ick26 · 12/03/2024 11:36

Dp has decided to do an extreme "event" on the other side of the world next year. It's one of those things that rich men with too much money are known to do and usually fail having to end up getting rescued 🙄

Dp has decided that he wants to do this, he's become obsessed and this is all he goes on about (for the last three weeks anyway) before that it was smaller cheaper sports he would do once or twice buy all the kit then never mention it again. (our shed has bikes, sports rackets, golf clubs, air rifle, model cars etc you get the drift)

Only thing with this one is he has set up a go fund me (I knew nothing about it till I seen it on SM) for thousands of pounds to pay for the trip. Of course he's sitting at around 1% of the total he needs.

I honestly can't explain the physical reaction I've had to this I could put my head under my pillow and not come out again I'm so embarrassed that he's sharing this about 5 times a day to try and get people to donate!

I've tried telling him raising this amount of money would usually involve hosting events and getting sponsors from big companies but it falls on deaf ears. He's saying to people any money over what he needs will go to charity but realistically he's asking people to fund his midlife crisis and by the small number of donations everyone knows this.

To make matters worse this is an extreme event and he's fundraising before after starting training for a sport he's never actually tried before. I don't even know why I'm posting I just need to rant somewhere.

OP posts:
Simplesalmon · 12/03/2024 11:39

I would be mortified also

MiltonNorthern · 12/03/2024 11:39

Oh no 😟 this is awful. I'm not surprised you're cringing your arse off.

IntermittentFarting · 12/03/2024 11:41

He's not climbing Everest is he?😁
Hopefully he'll lose interest before long and move onto something more mundane.
Who the heck does he think is going to give him money for this vanity driven wild goose chase?

Teddleshon · 12/03/2024 11:41

Sorry but I would be dying of embarrassment too, not much help.

Lookatmeivechangedmyname · 12/03/2024 11:43

If it's Everest or Marathon Des Sables he will need to not only put effort into fundraising but training too! Had he actually looked into what is required to do these ultra events?

LunaNorth · 12/03/2024 11:43

Oh dear me, I feel your pain.

I don’t know if I could get past this.

MallorcaNights · 12/03/2024 11:44

Don’t most people do this in aid of a charity? Not to fund the actual experience. I can’t imagine he will get too many people willing to donate.

SomeCatFromJapan · 12/03/2024 11:44

Oh OP I am cringeing on your behalf from here! Please tell us what the event is - Everest? Some mad ultramarathon through the Sahara?

PossumintheHouse · 12/03/2024 11:45

Sounds like an absolute cringefest, I’m not surprised you feel that way.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he loses interest before the actual training begins if he isn’t getting anywhere close to the needed donations.
Until then, there isn’t much you can do. Don’t share the posts, obviously.

Skiphopbump · 12/03/2024 11:46

That’s so embarrassing.

Would he sell the kit from old sports or is he convinced he’ll use it again one day?

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 12/03/2024 11:46

shameless.

HellonHeels · 12/03/2024 11:47

Yep, that's cringy. Do you really want to be with someone who does this kind of thing?

Donate a pound and make your feelings known via the comments.

UnePersonne · 12/03/2024 11:48

Oh dear ...

At least you are on to him op, if it gets mentioned in company or anyone asks you about it you can swiftly distance yourself from it and his fundraising 'methods'.

How do you feel about him doing the event itself, on the off chance he actually gets there? Are you likely to be worried sick he gets himself killed/injured or just that he'll make a prat of himself?

DoYouSmokePaul · 12/03/2024 11:48

My vagina just closed up.

PurplePanda1 · 12/03/2024 11:49

What a cringe-a-thon.
Hopefully he will soon lose interest when hardly any donations come in and/or the intense training needed actually hits home.

What happens to the donations if he doesn’t end up doing it which he probably won’t?

Codlingmoths · 12/03/2024 11:49

wow. Do you usually like him? Because I’d be so cringing so hard I think we’d need marriage counselling. I would helpfully remind him to track donations so he can return every penny along with a handwritten apology note when he’s physically totally unable to do the event, just like <list of failed sports he’s already tried>

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 12/03/2024 11:49

The fact he has very few donations will hopefully pass on the message that he should give up on this midlife crisis or fund it himself.

ick26 · 12/03/2024 11:49

Oh god I think I feel even worse now my feelings have been validated.
I don't want to name the actual event as it would be outing due to how often he's shared it but the extreme events listed are along the right lines. It's not something you can just decide one day to do I'd imagine most participants doing it for the right reasons train for ages well before entering.

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Picklestop · 12/03/2024 11:50

That is absolutely mortifying.

EternalSunshine01 · 12/03/2024 11:50

How much does he need and how much has been donated so far?

Mitsky · 12/03/2024 11:51

I would get the ick instantly.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 12/03/2024 11:52

I would never donate to anyhting like that, not even a penny

Reallybadidea · 12/03/2024 11:52

That is very, very embarrassing. Have you suggested that he sit outside your local supermarket with a sign and a begging bowl? Because that's essentially what he's doing.

BillStickersWillBeProsocuted · 12/03/2024 11:53

Can't he sell all the un-used stuff in the garage to rasie the funds? Sounds like a win-win to me!

UnbelievableLie · 12/03/2024 11:53

So he's not doing it on behalf of a charity? Just asking for people to fund his hobby for no reason? 😐

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