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Omg I had enough

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271726a · 14/07/2023 22:42

May Need to scan my other threads for this to make sense.

So there is a social worker involved due to my sons violence/aggression.

It has been said there are no worries about my other children although I did allow social worker to talk to the younger kids . And the school. They have no concern.

Now I just had the social worker email me about an hour ago . Asking me about my younger kids Jabs . Questioning me why I have not had them done and telling me i have a week to sort it. Now by law I don't have to have them done and as a parent I don't have to . But yet there they trying to force it .

To be honest I don't feel overly strong either way. I can't even remember why I did not. I had Been in temporary accommodation and then covid etc so possibly slipped my mind. So it's not the end of the world for me to sort it. What I don't like is the demands of doing it by next week. And the over the top interference of my children. When its Been agreed thus is about my 16 year old.

When we had TAC meeting a few days ago my younger children were not even mentioned. It's like they never existed.

I honestly have enough to cope with

Anyway if there are any social workers here or who l lws the system can you please explain this to me?

Just to add this is not a jab debate and I will ignore any attempts to turn it into one.

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271726a · 15/07/2023 08:37

Just wanted to bump this as I really need to know about the jabs

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YallaYallaaa · 15/07/2023 08:39

Part of the issue might be that you can’t remember why you’ve not doke something so important. They’ll be wanting to make sure that you are on top of your children’s basic needs, and this is a sign that you might need a bit more help with them.

mirages08 · 15/07/2023 08:40

They're assuming neglect, I guess

justanothernamechangemonday · 15/07/2023 08:41

You'll have even more to cope with if one of your children gets measles. Get the jabs done. It's an hour of your life.

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271726a · 15/07/2023 08:43

I'm not really asking why. I'm asking if they can force and if so why. As far asvi understand uts a parents choice.. they havexakresdy said there's no worries over my younger children and the help needed is for lt son. When we had TAC meeting my younger children were never even bought up what so ever. The whole thing was based around my 16 year old

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TonTonMacoute · 15/07/2023 08:45

Measles cases are rising apparently, and they are worried there will be a big outbreak.

It could just be because they are chivvying everyone along to get vaccinated, and nothing to do with you in particular.

I would just try and get it sorted.

Quitelikeit · 15/07/2023 08:47

Is your son on a CIN plan?

You are under no obligation whatsoever to get the jabs done

Im surprised you don’t know why you didn’t though? I mean you just didn’t bother to turn up is what you are saying? Because you are not against jabs………..

bagforlifeamnesty · 15/07/2023 08:47

They can’t force you to get specific vaccinations done but “engaging with healthcare” like this is part of a bigger picture. Have you been doing other routine things like dentists checks, engaging with health visitor, are your kids under or overweight? It might be that they are considering whether or not you’re coping with the children and not engaging with basic healthcare needs is a flag for that.

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271726a · 15/07/2023 08:47

justanothernamechangemonday · 15/07/2023 08:41

You'll have even more to cope with if one of your children gets measles. Get the jabs done. It's an hour of your life.

I can get it it done . As i said above I don't havrcstring feeling either way. I will likely do it in the school holidays when I don't need tk work round school hours . I also Nedd to get va new gp as well . And ID is an issue so I need to sort that to. This is mire to do with the pressure and putting a time limit on me and the fact she's interfering to much when on actual vfact it's my choice as a parent

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CurlewKate · 15/07/2023 08:47

I'd just take it as a timely reminder-measles cases are rising rapidly and worryingly.

bagforlifeamnesty · 15/07/2023 08:49

I personally would not make this a hill to die on. Vaccines are good for them, so just get them done and then they will be off your back about it. Yes they cannot force you but it could turn it into a battle and you don’t really need that on your plate now by the sound of things. Just showing that you’re willing to engage and take advice will potentially go a long way in terms of how they view you ie with them or against them.

bagforlifeamnesty · 15/07/2023 08:50

Why do you need a new GP, are your kids not currently registered with one? That would be another red flag. You don’t beee ID to get jabs done, your children should have NHS numbers.

pimplebum · 15/07/2023 08:51

You are focusing on the wrong thing
Bring oppositional and wanting to know your rights etc when you could have spent the time booking an appointment
You have had a difficult time especially in temp accommodation which is horrendous but measles is on the rise and I have a deaf grandchild which could have been avoided
Quickest way to get authorities off your case is to cooperate completely

Piscesmumma1978 · 15/07/2023 08:52

Surely it's none of their business? The SW is involved for your older child.

It's not law to vaccinate and up to you.

DustyLee123 · 15/07/2023 08:54

No they can’t force it, but if the children become looked after then they will be done. Not sure at what point the parent has no say in it, but there is a certain point where that kicks in.
Having worked in this area in the past I’d recommend you do it, if you’ve nothing against it, or it will become a red flag to them.

xyz111 · 15/07/2023 08:54

You need ID? You need a new GP? What's wrong with the current one. The more you say, the more red flags go up

pimplebum · 15/07/2023 08:55

Undocumented kids who have just paddled across the sea get jabs so just go to nearest gp

Personally I'd get an evening appointments on Monday

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271726a · 15/07/2023 08:58

bagforlifeamnesty · 15/07/2023 08:47

They can’t force you to get specific vaccinations done but “engaging with healthcare” like this is part of a bigger picture. Have you been doing other routine things like dentists checks, engaging with health visitor, are your kids under or overweight? It might be that they are considering whether or not you’re coping with the children and not engaging with basic healthcare needs is a flag for that.

My younger kids are 7 and 8. Thry are not tiny. They get weighed/,height at school. They had health visitor when little. Then was seen by peadatrition the now 7vyear old only see them once . The 8 year old seem the several times and other professionals due to autism pathway. They have never needed to a gp . And again you don't have to see a heath visitor

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usernother · 15/07/2023 09:01

I'm old enough to be part of the population that wasn't vaccinated against measles. I can also remember having measles, being really ill, and how horrible it was. I have no idea if they can force you to get your children vaccinated but for their sakes, please do.

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271726a · 15/07/2023 09:01

xyz111 · 15/07/2023 08:54

You need ID? You need a new GP? What's wrong with the current one. The more you say, the more red flags go up

I'm not looking for a madness thread. Current gp. Because I'm out of the area .
ID is complicated abd uts doing my head in. When I look into it is say i do not need passport driving licence. The first thing that pipes up is you need photo I'd . It's honestly doing my head in.

But again this is not my question I'm asking can social services force jabs

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271726a · 15/07/2023 09:02

usernother · 15/07/2023 09:01

I'm old enough to be part of the population that wasn't vaccinated against measles. I can also remember having measles, being really ill, and how horrible it was. I have no idea if they can force you to get your children vaccinated but for their sakes, please do.

I will

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Thunderisntnicebythebeach · 15/07/2023 09:05

If you had strong views about anti jabs maybe your choices would be respected.. No remembering why not isn't really showing that. My ds nearly died of whooping cough when he was too young for jabs....
Get those inoculations done op!

Icedlatteplease · 15/07/2023 09:05

271726a · 15/07/2023 08:58

My younger kids are 7 and 8. Thry are not tiny. They get weighed/,height at school. They had health visitor when little. Then was seen by peadatrition the now 7vyear old only see them once . The 8 year old seem the several times and other professionals due to autism pathway. They have never needed to a gp . And again you don't have to see a heath visitor

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Kids that aren't registered with a GP are going to properly ring alarm bells. You never know when you might need a GP in an emergency. It is fundamentally a failure in care even if they so far haven't needed gp attention

Kids that are abused are often hidden from normal medical professionals they meet along the way, they aren't jabbed and they don't have a doctor. Now I'm not saying your kids are being abused, but the more abused children warning signs your children give off, the more scrutiny you are going to find yourself under with social services

bagforlifeamnesty · 15/07/2023 09:06

It’s good that you’ve had involvement with other health professionals but it’s really concerning if your kids aren’t registered with a GP. If they got ill then it would be a right faff starting to sort it all out rather than just booking an appointment. You didn’t answer about if they’ve been to the dentist or not?

Icedlatteplease · 15/07/2023 09:06

271726a · 15/07/2023 09:01

I'm not looking for a madness thread. Current gp. Because I'm out of the area .
ID is complicated abd uts doing my head in. When I look into it is say i do not need passport driving licence. The first thing that pipes up is you need photo I'd . It's honestly doing my head in.

But again this is not my question I'm asking can social services force jabs

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Why do you not have photo I'd?