My boyfriend has a gambling problem ...I'm having to pay his rent,when is enough?

[slouggtg]

My boyfriend of 6 months.
I've found out last month he had no money.
He works 40 hours but is -900 in his overdraft.
His rent is £400 a month
He hasn't been able to pay it for two months.
He said he doesn't have a problem but it's obvious he does.
I paid his rent last month and this month but I can't keep doing it.
After I pay my bills /rent I'm left with £700 a month which I normally use to treats or nights out etc but after paying his rent and electric bill I have £200 a month left now.

Would you continue paying it?
If I don't he will be thinking i would rather waste money on shopping than pay his rent.

Im In over my head here

Absolutely not. Leave him.

I wouldn’t have paid his rent at all. Please dump him.

Drop him. Why on earth would you care what he thinks? Doesn't sound like he cares too much what you think or feel.

Nope. Walk away.

No, I would leave him. It has only been six months and he has been happy to take your money for two of those.

He needs more help than you can give him so if I were you, I’d cut my losses before he bankrupted me.

The point at which you start to pay his rent is enough. You’ve passed that point. Draw a line and walk away. FAST.

Please don't pay any further monies out. You have been together 6 months, the last two you have bailed him out.
Get rid of him. He will suck you dry.

And honestly who gives a fuck what he thinks of you. You can spend your money on whatever you want to rather than paying his rent. Because it’s YOUR MONEY. For fucks sake.

Absolutely not

He is able to gamble because you'll ail him out.

He is far more likely to stop if he has to face the consequences of his own actions.

6 months in you shouldn't be paying his rent because he's a gambler, it's supposed to be fun and stress free at this stage.

Personally I would leave him, you already feel a responsibility towards him and he will manipulate that.

Six months in and your paying his rent? That's insane. Get out soon and (said kindly) think about your own boundaries.

Seriously, you're paying his rent after knowing him 6 months??

How did you ever decide this was acceptable?

No chance. 6 months in and a gambling problem so bad you’re paying the rent. Run!

'Enough' was 2 months ago when a boyfriend you'd only had for 4 months got you to pay his rent. 'Too much' was doing it again.

Enough is now. He is taking advantage of you and if you stay with him, this is how your life is going to be. Gambling is an addiction and unless he wants to stop and gets help, his life will never change.

If you stay with him you will never have any money and will probably end up in debt.

This isn't going to get easier. I'd call it quits if I were you, a gambling addiction is very hard to live with.

Wtf?! 6 months? Why on earth have you paid his rent? This is insane. Dump him!

You’ve been with this bloke five minutes and he’s already got you paying his rent!? Fuck that, you deserve someone that has control of their life and will enhance yours, not bleed it dry.

Enough was enough when you first even considered paying his rent. This relationship is only going to be even more damaging for your head and your pocket. Walk away now and don't look back.

if you stay with him you will never have any money and will probably end up in debt
This.

He’d rather gamble money than pay his rent. He doesn’t think he has a problem and he’s happy for you to pay his rent. This isn’t going to get any better.

It’s passed the point of being enough. Leave him. It won’t get better and has the potential to become considerably worse

@bambi1132

Absolutely not. Leave him.

This.

Do not pay his rent, you will not see the money again.
Unless you want a life of misery dump him now.

You owe him nothing and he will not stop.
He is an addict and it will just get worse.

Are you insane? I wouldn't have paid his rent or anything else. You've only known him 6 months. He would have been dumped the second I found out he'd been gambling.

One of my reasons was when we first met he was spoiling me rotten with gifts /meals etc and seeing him in a bad place made me feel awful for him.

He spends up to £500 a month on online slots and from what he said it's been going on years.