Things I learned too late in life

[Spiceup]

No one anywhere has ever had their life improved by me wearing high heels. I now wear comfy shoes for every occasion and life is immeasurably better. I can move quicker, get more done in a day and never miss any fun because my feet hurt or I don't have suitable footwear. I don't know what on earth possessed me for so long.

What's yours?

Another to add, agree with the employers don’t care about you.

A previous job of mine my MIL got me into a lot of trouble with a client (nothing to do with me) - I was given a warning as client was more important to keep than a loyal member of staff and they wanted to shop the client that.

Also, if you hate your mother in law just bloody say it how it is. I did a few weeks ago and swear it’s been the best few weeks of my life.

That ironing boards and irons are mostly unnecessary, I cringe at the hours wasted ironing over the years.
When you point a finger at someone there are three more pointing right back at you.
Learn to just be, We are human beings not human doings.
Be the change you want to see in the world.

Cake makes you fat

@CausingMeUpset

Your employer doesn't care about you – only what you can do for them.

This is true. I used to be an HR Director and Consultant and I can tell you now that companies absolutely do not give a shit about you.

I definitely learned this while working in various HR roles. It turns out they are there to protect the company, not the employees.

Other things I have learned -

I spent far too much money on clothes/ bags etc. that I just had to have but now they just gather dust in the wardrobe. Buy clothes for the life you have, not the one you read about in magazines.

Working in a job you hate just to pay the bills will eat away at you. I had to move around to a few different jobs to figure out that corporate work was just not for me. I'm retraining into something completely different that will give me less money but I don't care. My time, and doing something more meaningful is more important.

It's ok to be single, I'm genuinely happier single than in my previous relationships. I compromised too much, and ended up becoming someone I didn't like. Don't get me wrong, if a great guy comes along, who enhances my life - wonderful, but if not - still wonderful.

You'll never regret the road not taken.

@Alcemeg

Nothing really suits you better than your own hair colour.

(I spent years trying to look like Debbie Harry but came out more Myra Hindley.)

I went grey in my 20's so I'm disputing this one. Also, if my own hair colour hadn't legged it, it would still be a boring mousy brown that looks better with highlights.

Alcemeg Nothing really suits you better than your own hair colour this is so true! I think unless you've got the money to have your colour done really well and maintain it then you're better off sticking to your natural colour. I was in a hospital waiting room recently, just people watching to kill the time. Most of the women had mousy brown hair with brassy, grown out highlights or box dye-a reddish colour or a very fake black. They all looked dreadful and did nothing to improved their appearance. The women with the nicest hair were the ones with their natural colour, salt and pepper, grey, mousy they all looked great.

Look after your teeth and your feet.

@GoodnightGrandma

Not to get legally and financially attached to some, ie marriage.

Same

Ask yourself if the thing you are worried about, or the decision you are sweating, will matter in 10 years' time. The answer will tell you what you need to know.

That your thoughts, not your experience, create your feelings.

You are your worst enemy.

@Muffinpuffin

The power of compound interest

Love this, spot on!

@BruiserWoods

I beg to differ. If you had mouse brown hair you wouldnt say that.

I agree with you there. Still dyeing mine a subtle blonde and will continue to do so.

Invest don't save - investment growth usually exceeds inflation but savings growth is usually way below inflation. This means your savings are actually decreasing over time
Mortgages are cheap money so prioritise your pension/investments and don't overpay your mortgage

This is good advice if you have a secure, predictable income, and/or a house you could easily sell if you needed to downsize in a hurry. It's terrible advice if you don't. Equities (shares) outperform property as an investment, but their value fluctuates much more than property, so you never want to be in a position where you have to sell shares at a moment when they are at a low point.

If you have a huge mortgage, don't overpay it because you're investing and then lose your job, you may find that selling your share portfolio won't cover your mortgage, so you're screwed. If you then have to put your house on the market and can't sell it, you're doubly screwed and may end up losing everything when your house is repossessed by the bank.

@ChocolateCauldron

Don't walk into a room and worry if people will like you. Walk into the room and wonder if YOU will like them.

Such a simple change of mindset has stopped my anxiety and boosted my confidence.

Wow that’s brilliant I am going to try that from now on

@Saltpepperbutter

Read the book why we eat too much by Andrew jenkinson.

@HerRoyalWitchyness

That I'm autistic. Would have saved years of self hatred and wondering why I was so weird

That I have ADHD too, I'm not just a failure

That men will say what they think you want ti hear to get you into bed.

That being raped at 11 wasn't my fault.

That my reaction to SA was to become promiscuous wasn't me being fucked up, its actually common for survivors.

That I deserve love for who I am, not for who someone thinks I should be.

@HerRoyalWitchyness

You deserve all the happiness in the universe and not an ounce less xx

The friend who is good fun on a night out does not necessarily make a good holiday/travel companion.

Fight your instinct to suck up to difficult people to try and make them like you- it's a waste of time and will just make you unhappy.

If someone has made an emotional decision, it is unlikely that you will be able to use logic to change their mind.

Don't rely on interviews to make a good hiring decision. Few jobs require someone to sell themselves on a daily basis - so design an assessment more closely related to the actual work required.

Grief hurts more than you can imagine.

@BruiserWoods

I beg to differ. If you had mouse brown hair you wouldnt say that.

Ahh, but the funny thing is... I have mousey brown hair! Only I've learned to think of it as "dark blonde" 😋

Most men are pains in the a*se

@Bertiebiscuit

Most men are pains in the a*se

That too

That my (STBX)husband is a knob.

@TableFlowerss

Actions more often speak louder than words

That you don’t have to please everyone all the time, you can say no

People will judge but those that do, don’t matter. The ones that matter, know the truth.

You can’t trust everyone you think you can

Friendships take effort on both parts. Don’t waste your time chasing after meet ups with people that don’t reciprocate. The saying ‘There are those that see you in the free time and there are those that free they’d find to see you’ - know the difference!

So true! I find trusting your initial gut reaction helps with some of these.

Find a job that you are naturally interested in and love. Success then will come naturally and easily.