Things I learned too late in life

[Spiceup]

No one anywhere has ever had their life improved by me wearing high heels. I now wear comfy shoes for every occasion and life is immeasurably better. I can move quicker, get more done in a day and never miss any fun because my feet hurt or I don't have suitable footwear. I don't know what on earth possessed me for so long.

What's yours?

i was in my 50s before:
i learned how to fold a fitted sheet
i realised i didnt have to eat things i don't like
i realised that i didnt care if people like me or not!
all very liberating!

No is a complete sentence

Going NC is completely satisfying

Don’t lose all the equity in your house you bought in 2001 paying off you twatish exh debts in 2013 and leave yourself a single mum unable to get back on the housing ladder whilst he rakes it in and lives in a mansion courtesy of his next victim.

2 degrees does not mean you are going to earn well or enjoy your job

You should have been intelligent enough to know all of this 20 years ago!

You are worth more. Don’t be that doormat, don’t take him back time after time.
It will fuck with your mental health.

You already have everything you need

That it is OK to break up with long term friends.

@ssd

Im still too self conscious and blush at the drop of a hat. I need to learn people dont care about me, they aren't all looking at me. I dont know when that will kick in.

Me too, I have to wear makeup every day. So annoying. I cannot express an opinion without makeup as I randomly blush and people think it reflects how I feel when it's just because people are looking at or listening to me.

That arguing with certain people is like talking to a wall

Trust no-one.

The only person that really has your back is you.

People lie even when they say they are not.

Other people do not give a *k, so why should you?

@NeverDropYourMooncup:
You are not the supporting act for everybody else's starring role.

Couldn't have put this better myself, spot on.

@spotcheck I wish I’d considered this with XP recently. Hopefully won’t make that mistake again.

@Uberstar thanks I needed to hear that today

What I look like matters to me - how I feel about myself. Makeup and clothes.

That mistakes you made when younger, can come back and bite you on the bum when your kids grow up……

The more money you have the more you spend on a load of stuff you don’t need. Owning all the “stuff” doesn’t make you any happier - and nor does flogging yourself senseless in a soul-destroying, stressful job just for the ££££’s. Which you then spend spend spend on expensive tat

That initial gut instinct is not to be ignored.

That when it’s your kid, no matter what you learnt on the first aid courses, you won’t know what to do. DS is fine but I should have let someone else take over sooner and I still kick myself for the wrong decisions I made in the moment.

The only people who say money doesn't matter, are people with money.

To actually stand up for myself and not be a pushover

@ChocolateCauldron

Don't walk into a room and worry if people will like you. Walk into the room and wonder if YOU will like them.

Such a simple change of mindset has stopped my anxiety and boosted my confidence.

I suffered with terrible anxiety issues in my 30s and this was the advice given to me by my counsellor. Excellent advice, and I've never looked back😎

Be your own best friend.

Always have a secret account to squirrel away any spare money. Doesn't matter if you put a pound a week in it. Trust me there will be a time when you need that money, life can change so quickly.

@LowlandLucky

That we all die in the end. Life is not about your job. size of house, make of car and bank balance, not one single bit of that rubbish matters. Having enough to live on does, but burning yourself to buy bi folding doors and marble counter tops is madness. When you come close to losing your life, you realise it is people that matter and the little things in life that mean the most not pretentious shit.

100% this.

The importance of being happy. Not all day, every day of course, but it’s only now I’m pretty happy with my life that I realise how shit being unhappy was.

Also, yes to savings and not using credit cards.

Not being so caught up with wanting people to like you.

Having suffered with strong glasses all my life from childhood, I had lens replacement surgery and it has been the best money I ever spent.

Can I nominate this fantastic thread for classics?

Or should I say, not being so caught up in trying to make other people happy,

To go by people’s actions, not what they say.

And I agree about the high heels. Why did I do that?!

Also, don’t wear shoes half a size too small for you just because you found them in a sale.

Nurture your real friendships. Make an effort or you will lose touch. It's so easy with texting.

Ditch the toxic friendships - those people will not suddenly change and be on your side.

I nominate for classics too!