Weird letter received

[Thegirlthatwanted2begod]

DH received this letter in the post today in a used NHS envelope that was stuck down with sellotape. Both of us are stumped to why it's been sent as I've googled and Mankind doesn't look to be part of NHS and the number is correct but the message on the letter has freaked us out,

has anyone ever had anything similar to this?

I wonder if this has sent this to the wrong person - is the surname pretty common?

If it was an ex or affair, surely they'd have access to more direct forms of contact, like a phone/mobile. If it was someone trying to stir up something with you, it'd be addressed to you, surely.

It's weird for sure, but judging by your description of your relationship and the lack of warning signs of an affair, I'd be disturbed of course, but not necessarily suspicious of him.

oops - should read *THIS HAS BEEN SENT TO THE WRONG PERSON

I may be wrong but a note like that is very characteristic of someone who has rapidly declining mental health.

Years ago, a guy I worked with had a very 'normal' wife, kids, mortgage etc. One day his wife began acting strangely. She posted notes through neighbours doors because they were 'spying on her' and cycled to my house to post a note through my door wanting to meet my new baby.

She wasn't dangerous but it really frightened me at the time.

I googled the number... Simple

@sue69m

I googled the number... Simple

That’s already been covered. And it doesn’t explain anything.

What's more telling (for me) is that they say 'leave UR abuser and come back 2 me xx' -
the use of UR, 2 & xx instead of your & to is a VERY clear indication that this isn't anything official so I very much doubt ManKind would have the foggiest what to say to you.

Could it be not an ex but a family member? Or someone that has beef with you and wants to cause trouble?

Years ago, I reported a woman neighbour who was beating her disabled child on the way to school - She returned 'the favour' the following Christmas by getting a male friend to put a Christmas card through our door during our little Christmas party for our friends & all our amassed children at our home - addressed to my hubby telling him that they'd seen me come home in a taxi that drove into our street with its lights off then 'shag the driver' in the drivers seat right outside our house!

It put a bit of a dampner on the festivities (mainly because I was furious) but my hubby chucked it in the bin as he knew it was ridiculous and it didn't bother him at all.

So ... if you're not an abuser - I'd just try and forget about it - don't bin it, put it away in a sandwich bag - but IF anything else happens I'd report it.

The blue envelope is the Scottish Covid vaccine appointment letters.

I wonder if someone has mixed him up with someone of the same name.

@Groovee

The blue envelope is the Scottish Covid vaccine appointment letters.

I wonder if someone has mixed him up with someone of the same name.

The blue envelopes containing vaccination invitations sent out in Scotland had "NHS Scotland" on the front:

twitter.com/NicolaSturgeon/status/1375429806481944578/photo/1

The OP's photos of the pre-used envelope are the same as this one:

twitter.com/psd/status/1368527835225354241

@pam290358

There are some PP’s on this thread who are quite forcefully encouraging the OP to suspect her partner of an affair and injecting their own conspiracy theories in that direction. I think the receipt of this letter is creepy and disturbing enough without adding to the stress. Not helpful.

Fully agree Pam. Sadly it seems more like Manhatersnet than Mumsnet these days....

Like I said before DH is fully aware I've put this on here, I honestly have no reason to suspect he is having an affair especially because we've not really seen anyone except local friends for the last 18 months and even then I doubt he'd be having it away in a park or something due to the Covid rules, I trust him and only put this on here as we were both baffled by it and wondered if anyone was able to help or have had a similar experience. If I wanted baying crowds of LTB I'd have put this in AIBU!

I don't think it's that hard to understand that we actually have a loving relationship and enjoying spending time together, check in on each other to see how the day is going and whatnot, maybe the posters being accusatory don't have similar in their life and think it's controlling when it's actually just caring about each other and wanting to know how the other is doing.

Prob gonna bow out of this thread now as think it's prob gonna go round in circles but will come back if anything else is received/found out

Thanks to those with the kind and helpful replies.

@Thegirlthatwanted2begod

Like I said before DH is fully aware I've put this on here, I honestly have no reason to suspect he is having an affair especially because we've not really seen anyone except local friends for the last 18 months and even then I doubt he'd be having it away in a park or something due to the Covid rules, I trust him and only put this on here as we were both baffled by it and wondered if anyone was able to help or have had a similar experience. If I wanted baying crowds of LTB I'd have put this in AIBU!

I don't think it's that hard to understand that we actually have a loving relationship and enjoying spending time together, check in on each other to see how the day is going and whatnot, maybe the posters being accusatory don't have similar in their life and think it's controlling when it's actually just caring about each other and wanting to know how the other is doing.

Prob gonna bow out of this thread now as think it's prob gonna go round in circles but will come back if anything else is received/found out

Thanks to those with the kind and helpful replies.

Think this is wise @Thegirlthatwanted2begod - with this type of thread, people can't really help much more as they're in the dark even more than you. All that's left to comment on is the possibility of an affair, which brings out the pitchforks etc.

Trust your instincts and try not to let it cast a dark cloud. If he'd noticed other weird stuff, phone calls, people acting suspiciously, maybe you'd have a thread to pull, but in the absence of anything solid, probs best to just crack on and ignore :)

This letter could cause a lot of issues in any relationship such as paranoia. God help anyone in an actual abusive or toxic gaslighting relationship who does not open their own mail and cannot give any answers, the number is genuine and the message is indeed very creepy. This could get someone killed

@rattlemehearties

The simplest explanation is the easiest. He knows very well who it's from and he handed it to you to open so he could feign surprise. Now he's got you convinced it's a crazy random thing rather than a crazy letter from someone he's been feeding a yarn.

Eh? How could he know who it was from, if he handed it to the OP to open?

My DH and I are similar to you and yours, OP - we message a lot, have lunch together when we’re WFH, or go for a walk together. We send each other with funny memes, send interesting articles to read, or whatever. We’ve been together 11 years and have always been the same.

I don't think the OPs hubby is having an affair. If that were the case the letter would have had his first name on it as well. I think this is someone making trouble or a potential stalker.

Could it be some kind of joke/prank from his friends? Maybe invited out to watch last nights football and you H didn't want to go?

Block yours with 141 then phone the number?

@rattlemehearties

The simplest explanation is the easiest. He knows very well who it's from and he handed it to you to open so he could feign surprise. Now he's got you convinced it's a crazy random thing rather than a crazy letter from someone he's been feeding a yarn.

Sounds likely

Plot twist...the husband sent it to himself thats why he asked wife to open it...Next he will be moving furniture around etc trying to mess with her mind....

@Thegirlthatwanted2begod did you find anything else out about this op?