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Weird letter received

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 06/07/2021 20:47

DH received this letter in the post today in a used NHS envelope that was stuck down with sellotape. Both of us are stumped to why it's been sent as I've googled and Mankind doesn't look to be part of NHS and the number is correct but the message on the letter has freaked us out,

has anyone ever had anything similar to this?

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Phrowzunn · 07/07/2021 12:54

Could it have been meant for someone with the same name as your DH? A slighted woman who has looked up the name of her ex and your address came up cause they have the same name..? Sounds far fetched but years ago my DH had a seemingly ridiculous problem with uni accommodation and it turned out to be because someone else in our year had the exact same name as him and had applied for a room in the same place. It’s not even a common name either.

Thinkingoutsidethebox · 07/07/2021 12:59

My feeling is that he's led someone to believe (intentionally or unintentionally) that he's being abused by his partner.

This can actually happen so easily, you'd be surprised. Completely innocent remarks can be taken the wrong way, blown out of proportion. Sometimes, a man may say something which another woman interprets as a cry for help. Then follows a vicious cycle whereby the man receives attention from another woman, so he plays on it a bit and then the situation grows a narrative of its own.

I've seen it in a situation where the man does all the shopping and all the cooking. He does the shopping because he works near a supermarket and the wife doesn't. He does the cooking because he wants to do the cooking, he's the better cook, and he is more fussy about food than his wife. A simple remark about 'cooking again tonight' was taken to mean his wife was abusive because she made him cook every night. And this grew legs, with several people being told about this and the wife was viewed as lazy.

OP, could he have said anything, however small, however unintentional, to a colleague or friend which might have put you in a bad light?

Wimpeyspread · 07/07/2021 13:04

Sellotape doesn’t necessarily mean it’s reused. Most communications I get from the NHS are sealed with sellotape - cheap envelope glue

jobsagudden · 07/07/2021 13:08

It does look like the paper that they use for nhs appointments? Not like standard A4 printing paper?

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 07/07/2021 13:12

@Thinkingoutsidethebox

I doubt it, he's fairly shy and private at work and well thought of within his role, I doubt he would try and risk his job as well as reputation by having some kind of conversation regarding me being abusive, however innocuous a comment is, he thinks a lot about what he says before he says it and would be mortified if there was any illusion of him being abused, we tend to share housework/shopping/money 50/50 etc so it's not like I am making him do everything whilst I sit painting my nails or whatever

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TatianaBis · 07/07/2021 13:17

I don’t think this is a genuine note of concern either from an OW or anyone else.

It’s not what you would write if you were genuinely worried someone was being abused.

I think it’s either malicious, batty or mistaken identity.

TatianaBis · 07/07/2021 13:18

If you were an OW you wouldn’t bother to hide your identity for a start - as DH would know who it was from.

SteppedOnBloodyLego · 07/07/2021 13:19

MrsTulipTattsyrup

It’s very simple

I think your bullet points were pretty obvious to everyone on page 1 from reading the OP but thanks for clarifying and stating that it’s simple 🙄

Borisjohnsonshairbrush · 07/07/2021 13:19

have you got cctv at your flats op?

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 07/07/2021 13:26

@Borisjohnsonshairbrush

Sadly no, our name is not on the doorbell either, there's just three doorbells for the 3 flats.

As I mentioned before the way the address was typed was strange, our address is one where sometimes the flat number comes up when you put the post code in, and sometimes you have to manually enter the flat number in.

But the way the town was written wasn't usual, everyone uses the shortened version on post although the town is registered as a longer name

The county how it was typed was odd too.

As an aside I have just tried mankind again and they are just constantly engaged so not sure if they are really busy with others calling about a letter too or if they are just short staffed or not manning the phones at the moment

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TheFoundations · 07/07/2021 13:26

@Wimpeyspread

Sellotape doesn’t necessarily mean it’s reused. Most communications I get from the NHS are sealed with sellotape - cheap envelope glue
You think it's from the NHS then?

It doesn't look like one of their standard mail-outs...

Wimpeyspread · 07/07/2021 13:36

TheFoundations
No, I don’t think it’s officially from the NHS, but the paper and envelope is theirs, so more probably from an employee

Thinkingoutsidethebox · 07/07/2021 13:56

Is it one of the on-Thames towns? Just being nosey.

mumwon · 07/07/2021 14:21

Op it sounds like some one with either a strange sense of humour (possibly from work but dp name maybe on the electoral role or got from your rubbish) or perhaps someone who is jealous at work
I suggest you put it in plastic bag, keep it but put it away & forget it - unless something else happens than take it to the police if necessary

ahoyshipmates · 07/07/2021 14:22

@singlehun

Young people don't use capitals and they wouldnt use UR or 2.... that's an older person who's typed that...
I'm what might be considered an older person and I wouldn't dream of using textspeak in a typed letter.
DaveGrohlsTeeth · 07/07/2021 14:23

Could it be a friend of his making a very silly joke?

As he's seen a lot less of his friends over the last 18mths, one of his friends might have made a (perhaps ongoing) joke about him being kept at home/abused and thinks it'd be obvious that the letter/joke was from him?

I know it's a very long shot, but it's an odd letter to get, so just trying to maybe see it from another, slightly more innocent, angle.

BouncyDaisy · 07/07/2021 14:25

I experienced harassment from an evil person. Done underestimate evil.

Many people would point fingers at your DH. Another angle to look at would be an enemy from your side from family/work/friends. A letter like that would be designed to cast doubt in your mind and there's potential to wreck havoc within a relationship.

Brookes99 · 07/07/2021 14:29

I'd say, stick it in a drawer and forget about it. If you get anything else strange then go to the police to get it reported/recorded. They may also have information on similar instances with other people.

I don't think there is much else you can do, so not worth driving yourself crazy looking for answers that you can't get.

Lunificent · 07/07/2021 14:43

The way the address is written is significant. It makes me think it’s a prank and that they person has sent more than one of these. I think they’re looking up addresses for people and then writing them exactly as they see then written, hence the missing parts and the elongated town name.

MrsTulipTattsyrup · 07/07/2021 15:02

@SteppedOnBloodyLego

MrsTulipTattsyrup

It’s very simple

I think your bullet points were pretty obvious to everyone on page 1 from reading the OP but thanks for clarifying and stating that it’s simple 🙄

To be fair to me, there was a lot of wild speculation about the envelope (and shitty paper you can buy anywhere) meaning it has come from an NHS office; whether it was a mail shot by Mankind; and many other wild and woolly theories. It didn’t look as though anyone was looking at it in the simple way I see it. Thanks for showing that one person on this thread agrees with me, though. There’s still a lot of over excited speculation going on, so I don’t think you (and I) speak for everyone, and you’re quite wrong if you think everyone does see it the way I do.
MrsWombat · 07/07/2021 15:04

Not RTFT but I've not long had an envelope like that with the Bristol address, with a letter inside reminding me to get my 2nd Covid Jab. (just dug it out the recycling bin) The sendee may well have got one too and reused it.

FrankieStein402 · 07/07/2021 15:11

Letter was crumpled?
how about this was sent to someone who was being "abused", abuser found it and angrily crumpled/threw away - then had suitable paranoid thought, smoothed it out and posted it to you hoping to cause disruption to someone seen as happy?

Alternatively no-one types text speak in a letter apart from a teen? Some teen with a crush/fantasy?

planet11 · 07/07/2021 15:29

He works for the NHS - it came in an NHS Envelope...

He's having/had an affair at work - and has told her that his wife "doesn't understand him" and/or is abusive....

Ducks in a row time, I'm afraid....

Solicitor
Bank Statements
Benefits agency

sorry

CoralSparkles · 07/07/2021 15:41

@ShrinkingViolet9

The "leave ur" and "come back 2 me" Sounds like it could be written by someone young possibly immature.

Yes it does. Or possibly a patient he had seen at his clinic who has since developed a crush/obsession.

Most people in their 20s and early 30s don’t use text speech like this anymore. It’s mainly people in their 40s or older.
Theworldisquiethere · 07/07/2021 15:47

@FrankieStein402

Letter was crumpled? how about this was sent to someone who was being "abused", abuser found it and angrily crumpled/threw away - then had suitable paranoid thought, smoothed it out and posted it to you hoping to cause disruption to someone seen as happy?

Alternatively no-one types text speak in a letter apart from a teen? Some teen with a crush/fantasy?

The name and address are typed on the letter itself so won’t be intended for someone else