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Weird letter received

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 06/07/2021 20:47

DH received this letter in the post today in a used NHS envelope that was stuck down with sellotape. Both of us are stumped to why it's been sent as I've googled and Mankind doesn't look to be part of NHS and the number is correct but the message on the letter has freaked us out,

has anyone ever had anything similar to this?

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 07/07/2021 20:51

@toocold54

I sent him the link to the thread today and he's read it himself apart from the last few

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Marriedatfirstyear · 07/07/2021 21:05

An ex trying to cause trouble maybe.

toocold54 · 07/07/2021 21:06

OP I have been reading your posts I know it is hard to read tone on here but you come across as quite passive/defensive of him.

Someone had posted a letter with his name on it and kisses yet you’ve not questioned it at all that it could be an ex or someone he knows that fancies him. He brought the post from downstairs to upstairs and asked you to open it even though it would take him 2 seconds to do. He’s then not going to report it. You’ve also said you know where each other is all of the time. I may have read it wrong but I believe he works for the NHS and it’s in an NHS envelope - which he could have easily got hold of or a work colleague could have. If I thought someone at work may have sent it to me I’d be reporting it straight away as what else could they do!

There are a few things that may be innocent but alarm bells are ringing for me.

ahoyshipmates · 07/07/2021 21:06

Does the NHS in England use blue envelopes regularly?
Yes. Millions of them over the last few months. Confused

blacksax · 07/07/2021 21:10

@toocold54 It was a re-used envelope stuck down with sticky tape. Every adult in the country has been sent one lately.

I'm with the other posters who say it's a nutter.

ShrinkingViolet9 · 07/07/2021 21:25

I would have tried to call the number to see where it goes to

Please read the thread!

It's been mentioned numerous times that the phone number in the letter is the phone number of a registered charity and that the words:

"Male Victims of Domestic Abuse – Please call 01823 334244"

have been pasted or copied word for word from the organisation's website:

www.mankind.org.uk

The OP has also said that she has tried to phone the org to ask whether they have heard from any others who have received similar letters - but the phone line has been busy all day.

ThreeLocusts · 07/07/2021 21:37

I find this really creepy. Hopefully it's not the beginning of a stalking campaign -- whoever did this is clearly a sandwich short of a picnic.

Nearly47 · 07/07/2021 21:41

Neighbour who might have misconstrued an argument heard through the wallsConfused? Someone that watches your husband and thinks you mistreat him? There are a lot of weird people in the world.
Once someone told me that I didn't deserve my husband because I let him help out with house work.
Any neighbour that might fancy him from afar?
It's weird

rattlemehearties · 07/07/2021 22:06

The simplest explanation is the easiest. He knows very well who it's from and he handed it to you to open so he could feign surprise. Now he's got you convinced it's a crazy random thing rather than a crazy letter from someone he's been feeding a yarn.

Depechemodebiggestfan · 07/07/2021 22:39

Strange.

radiosummer · 07/07/2021 23:24

That first line is directly cut and pasted from the website . The message looks like a printout of a text message. So, it looks like someone has printed out a text message for some reason and wants your husband to see it - wildly speculating it could be someone he's having an affair with wanting to show him that he/she could send incriminating messages at any time because he/she has saved them. He could have blocked her from his phone and so the only way he/she can let him know that she has him over a barrel is by printing off one of the messages and sending it to him.

radiosummer · 07/07/2021 23:26

*her or him from his phone

radiosummer · 07/07/2021 23:26

fgs! *he/she

Colstina · 08/07/2021 01:04

I would feel really creeped out by this too , it’s just so odd. Sorry if I’ve missed this answer, I have tried to read all comments ……. I don’t know if all NHS envelopes are all the same but all my vaccine reminders have come in those , do you know if it came from Royal Mail ? Or was it hand delivered? im guessing you wouldn’t know . I hope you find out Flowers

me109f · 08/07/2021 01:29

I often recycle envelopes by blocking out details and readdressing them. I do name and address them properly. Usually they are just commercial mail items, to the DVLA or a utility company for example.
They often need regluing and sometimes a bit of sticky tape. It saves a lot in envelopes and I keep most clean envelopes for the purpose and I have a large range of such stationary items.

However, some mailshots use a computer editing proforma program which rewrites fields such as 'insert name here' with a name off a purchased list of names and addresses by the thousand. If there is a rewrite glitch the name gets misses and you will get something odd like 'surname' left in instead of the intended details. You can be fairly sure that what you have received is an unchecked cheapskate mail shot and unimportant. However, if it has been received you might as well give a quick look inside before binning it, or returning it to sender.

Hidehi4 · 08/07/2021 03:29

Maybe they have used a nhs envelope to give him a clue about who it’s from, especially if he works in the nhs and he might be saying he’s in a controlling relationship. It’s very strange and you may never find out

pam290358 · 08/07/2021 07:23

There are some PP’s on this thread who are quite forcefully encouraging the OP to suspect her partner of an affair and injecting their own conspiracy theories in that direction. I think the receipt of this letter is creepy and disturbing enough without adding to the stress. Not helpful.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 08/07/2021 07:35

they probably copied and pasted the address from a data entry, ie, NHS or something,
or at least a website

and perhaps your dh is not the only one to receive such a letter?

AbsolutelyPatsy · 08/07/2021 07:36

interesting that the mankind line has been busy all day

Mummacake · 08/07/2021 08:22

OP it's very creepy. It would be worth contacting Paladin the stalking charity as they have had experience of similar cases and can advise you on next steps should you need to take them. It's always good to be aware.

ShrinkingViolet9 · 08/07/2021 08:49

@AbsolutelyPatsy

interesting that the mankind line has been busy all day
There is an announcement at the top of the Mankind website:

"Due to the Covid-19 crisis we are receiving more calls than ever..."

starlight13 · 08/07/2021 09:12

If you are in a relationship where you need to text and track/ check on each other all day, you need to ask yourself why are you behaving like this. Trust is the basis of a relationship and this implies that you don't have much of it or are using cohesive control over him.
Sorry OP but it sounds as if your relationship is stifling and this letter had probably been sent from a 'friend' of his to make him see the light. An affair is highly possible and this letter has been sent to stir things up.
In my experience, you need to take this seriously.

TheHoundsofLove · 08/07/2021 09:27

I don’t think it suggests an affair at all, not least because they clearly don’t know his name. I think someone looking to cause trouble would use more personal details if they had access to them.

MapGirlExtraordinaire · 08/07/2021 09:31

OP I am as baffled as you presumably are why some PP are determined to paint your relationship as controlling.

My DP and I also have location tracking on each other's phones. Neither of us have anything to hide and it's occasionally useful:

If we're meeting in a park and I'm not glued to my phone he can just see where I am and meet me.

If he's driving back from work / visiting someone or something I can see how close to home he is to prepare dinner / understand if he'll be home in time for the kids bedtime, without hassling him and making him text while driving.

If he's gone to sainsburys I can quickly check if he's left the shop yet and therefore estimate his Eta rather than calling or texting and either interrupting his alone time or having to wait for him to check his phone and reply.

This is all healthy and an advantage of modern technology IMO. I live a relatively low tech life (I don't drive, we don't have any Alexa etc, no Smart doorbell or heating) but this is one where I make the most of modern tech!

It's hard to read OP's tone on the Internet but there is nothing in any of OP's posts to make me think the relationship is unhealthy, so it is weird that people are so keen to say it is.

As for this mystery... To me it seems its either a random weirdo trying to stir trouble, a patient fixated, or an affair gone bitter. I have no idea which is most likely, but for OP's sake I hope its not the last of these as OP sounds lovely and like she had real faith in the strength of her relationship, and I'd hate that to be misplaced.

Mumsbagels · 08/07/2021 10:21

How bizarre! I would definately get a ring doorbell or similar in case anything else happens.

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