My mother is a fucking bitch. Anyone else's mother one too?

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Too many examples to list here. But she's a narcissist, self centred, rude fucking person and I feel so much better writing it down here.

Yep! I'd love to go LC (or ideally NC) but as my only proper family my DC would miss you

Or her

Nope

My mum is wonderful. My MIL however is an absolute cow, have had no contact with her for seven years now and it has been heavenly!

wooyayes that's the dilemma isn't it?

Mine , complete narcissist

Yes mine too and my Dad. A right pair of arseholes in fact.

I am really envious of friends who hard mum's they can talk to and confide in and get advice from.

Mine is just horrible to me.

Mine. Hate the woman with every ounce of me. I’ll never forgive her for things that she has done

Mine was awful. I moved to Scotland from the US and she used to constantly send me the most vile emails. Then when her health deteriorated she tried to tell me that I needed to move back home to take care of her but DH and DC were most definitely not invited.

Mine is. Haven’t seen/spoken to her or my father for nearly 5 years. It’s been hard but best decision I’ve made.

What a lovely thread.

pepperpot you know, you're probably one of the lucky ones who's got a lovely supportive mother.

We don't.

So, save your sarcasm thank you.

Och, you poor things. My mum isn't perfect, but I can't imagine having a mother so horrible that you hate her. It's very sad. For you lot, I mean

Yup. Been nc for 17 years. Peace reigns supreme.

No grandma is better than one who treats your mum like shit

I can empathise with posters here as my mother was a relentless bully to me before she and my df divorced. She left the family home when I was in my teens and I didn't miss her. She did however, getback in touch 4 years after she left, things were different - it's not been a happy reunion but I don't hold a grudge against her anymore.

Pepperpot, you're lucky to have a good relationship with your mother.

Anyway OP, I hope you manage to find some way round this.

ssquared thank you for your kind post.

Sadly, I think not.

Mw mother has been vile to me for years and I think I've finally had enough of her.

Yes pepperpot you can do one

I had a lovely mum but I have an older sister exactly like all of your mothers

Mine is a bully and doesn't everything she can to put me down. I'm NC now but it's sad, hard and embarrassing having a mother who is like that

OP - this always happens on MN you could say my mother stabbed me with a kitchen knife and done poster will say “well at least you’ve got a mother”

No one knows what anyone else has gone through and shouldn’t really comment, it’s really hard when all around you see mums doing everything for their children and you don’t have that in your life, in fact your mother actually did things to hurt you and to prevent it you’ve had to go NC. When your DC ask what a Gran is? That fucking hurts. So rant away some of us know what it feels like.

Oh god yes. Mine is an attention seeking nightmare, who will manipulate anything or anyone to get what she wants. I minimise contact as much as I can but it's hard. The kids love her and want to see her. Although my eldest is starting to see it now. It's just exhausting dealing with her. I could never tell her anything about my life without it being used against me in one way or another.

mine too.thrives on it. my child (the one i dragged up,with my lunatic ways and improper parenting style)is bout to graduate from uni..hes had results over a week...shes repeatedly demanded to know what his results are.hes got a 2 (with hons)means sod all to me,im not academic.and as yet refused to tell her. hes disappointed....im fucking livid.steals the joy outta everything.its constant.ranges from small snipes to utterly terrorising me.trust her as far as i can spit...dont even let me begin about the guilt i feel for KNOWING shes well aware of what she does,says,implies.its hellish

Well, she was thirty years ago, when I last saw her. Can’t imagine she’d have changed. She certainly was still, twenty odd years ago, when she totally fucked my little brother up too. So, on balance, I’m going with a Yes. Actually that all sounds like she is more important than she is, it’s taken a while but I can honestly say she means nothing to me now.