My mother is a fucking bitch. Anyone else's mother one too?

[Gottalovesummer]

Too many examples to list here. But she's a narcissist, self centred, rude fucking person and I feel so much better writing it down here.

My grandmother was. My mum is lovely though. The cycle can be broken.

Yip, mine is a total fucking bitch, ive diagnosed her with npc. Cant go no contact as so close to my dad and have tried before but i dont go out of my way to contact her or even talk when we are in the same room. She means nothing to me anymore.

I often wondered about that close mother daughter bond but im happy to have a great relationship with my dad. He knows what she is like too and calls her out on her shit a lot.

Mine is awful too. Been nc with her for a year now. She has always been narcissistic but after my father dies she took it to a whole new level. Sometimes I feel guilt for walking away then I remember what she has done and how she made me feel and realise I'm so much better without her in my life.

My mother is the same waves
I went nc about 9 years ago and it was the best thing I ever did
She lived to paint the picture of being the best mother/nana ever when the truth was she never bothered with them unless others where watching her
She turned my whole family against me so I blocked them too
They still try to stalk me on sm
My brothers do drugs they steal have been known to hit her and take the piss
But I’m the failure for putting myself through college and gaining qualifications
(I only passed by sucking the tutors cocks-let’s ignore the fact they where all female and I studied hard)

She is pure evil and the best thing I ever did was dump the lot of em-her-her flying monkeys-her fleas

Not my mum, but my dad is a complete arsehole.
I havent spoken to him in 14 years, he has never met my children and that's the way I like it. I think of him as a lesson, that I will do the opposite of everything he has ever done and be a much better parent for it, I will break the cycle of shitty parenting and always be there 100% for my children.

Well after years of tongue biting and resentment, counselling will be the first thing I have when she dies.

All my life my mum has been very controlling and negative about any choices I make without her. She's pretty much always implied there's no point in me doing anything because I'm not good enough. She's so infantilising but I didn't even realise until last year when some restructuring at work meant some changes to my job. When I told my mum she went mad, jabbing her finger at me and shouting at me, ordering me to tell my manager I wasn't going to do it. Then she said, do you want me to come in with you and talk to her? I'm in my 30s and have no special needs or disabilities, how did she not see how ridiculous it would be for my mum to come to my workplace to tell my manager what I could or couldn't do?

Mine plays victim

You sound like you should be my siblings. It’s so sad to see so many of you who have had bad parents, but selfishly also a comfort that I’m not the only one to have had this experience.

I am nearly a year NC with my parents and it’s the best decision. They are selfish, angry, embittered souls, who turned their self-hate and insecurities onto me.

It is such a relief not to have to process every decision, large or small, through the filter of how they may react. I don’t miss the nasty comments, the denial of my feelings and emotions, the fat-shaming, the performance grand-parenting.

I don’t miss having parents, you can’t miss what you’ve never had, but I’m grateful to have walked away from the hypocritical bullies, who pretended to parent me.

No my lovely Mother is dead I miss her everyday.

My mother was a beautiful amazing soul that did everything in her power to keep us, her children and grandchildren happy, healthy and safe however could no longer carry on in this world and decided to end her life just 4 weeks ago.
In my opinion if your mother doesn't add any sort of value to your life or worse still is as bad as you say then life's to short to even stay in contact. I was lucky enough to have the mother I did and I wouldn't spit on the type of mother your referring to if she was on fire

I’m sorry for your loss broken1982

This

“god yes. Mine is an attention seeking nightmare, who will manipulate anything or anyone to get what she wants. I minimise contact as much as I can but it's hard. The kids love her and want to see her. Although my eldest is starting to see it now. It's just exhausting dealing with her. I could never tell her anything about my life without it being used against me in one way or another.”

My mum is the victim of mental illnesses. But she has chosen the disorder over us time and time again.

Sometimes I get glimpses of the person she should have been. It’s genuinely tragic.

Been NC for 4 years; it was well overdue. Agree that it’s hard when people who had a normal mother just don’t understand.

Mines a covert narcissist and whilst she’s not as bad as some, living a couple of hundred miles away makes life easier.

I loved my mum and I miss her so much. She was a wonderful mum until she left me and my dad. I had horrible years without her and I could never understand how she could leave me, until she told me when I was an adult. I am trying hard for my daughter but don't think I am a great mum as I don't have a role model. I am short tempered and I think my expectations are too high.

sometimes lc is easier than nc

Oh my, what a group of perfect mothers we have here criticizing their own mothers. On the assumption that you still have a long road to travel yet as a mother, can you really guarantee that you will at all times be perfect. Is that perfect in your view or the view of your DC when you have completed your time as a mother.
There is no such thing as totally perfect. Every mother can do their best but DC eventually meet partners who influence them. Absent fathers may return to the scene (after DC are over the age of Child Maintenance of course). A lot of different influences can come into DCs lives and change them.
I know some awful daughters who are mothers now and I wonder what their epithet will be from their DC.

Your dc dont need anyone in their life who is poison op-What happens when she turns on them

the bougets...as i said-im fuck all ike perfect ,especially at mothering.Perhaps its ideal example of hpw much easier t is to judge from the outside looking in .When someone who "demands"your love,worse..respect and treats you appallingly it has the most awful effect. Imagine feeling so awful you are faced with NC just to try and survive.the "right now"attack stops,guilt never leaves...ive never asked for or aimed at perfection.Unconditional.yes.not to be played like a game,shredded or used as a footup to elevate a delusionary right to control.sit doon

Absolutely!!! Mines a narcissist sociopath!! But one piece of advice I will pass to you is read this book it has not only healed me but also given me coping strategies for her ! I have to have contact with her to get to my dad and brother !
The book is : will I ever be good enough healing the daughters of narcissistic mothers by Karl Mcbride !

@TheBouguets piss off with that bollocks. Its perfectly fine for me, an imperfect but pretty good mum that puts her kids first and treats them well, to criticise my abusive nasty bitch of a mother.

I always feel so sad when I read of genuinely good people struggling to conceive after years of trying, when absolutely rotten women are allowed to have children. Life just isn’t fair at times 😩

My friends mother is a horrible bitch. She lies about things and people. She is extremely mean with both her money and time. She favours some of her child over others. Her golden children got money ect when the others get nothing.
She finds fault with everything. She complains and gives out everyone and everything. She gives out to some of her adult children about the smallest thing but will say nothing when the golden children make mistakes. She will defend the golden children always and make excuses for their poor behaviour. She has no empathy what so ever. She expects to get her own way always.

At this stage some of her adult children are barely speaking to her due to her behaviour and actions. I know in next few years they won't be moving into help her in her old age but she has no one to blame but herself.