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Should pregnant women be allowed total control over their bodies? Where do the unborn child's rights come into it?

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Bumperliouzzzzzz · 21/04/2010 20:03

Just wondering. I've never read anything theoretical on the matter and am not completely sure where I stand. However I was talking to a colleague today (am 18 weeks pg) and was mentioning wine (I've actually only had 2 glasses so far this pg) and she said 'Oh I thought you weren't allowed to drink when pg?' and I started on a rant (well actually we had a discussion) about woman's rights during pregnancy. I was saying that it is my body and I can do what I like with it, though obviously I don't.

What say should/does a father have in the matter? If I do drink when pg DH gets a bit twitchy, and he won't let me dig in our allotment. Now I am happy to have the excuse not to really but I resent being told what to do. I take heed of my DH because I care about him and believe that he should have some say and he is just worried, but I don't want to be nagged about what I should/shouldn't be doing.

Should the unborn child's rights come first or is it a case of my body, my choice? I think I am mostly resentful of the fact that it is a bunch of men (usually) politicians, DP's who tell us what to do when they have no idea of the effects of being pregnant.

What are your thoughts?

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lal123 · 21/04/2010 20:46

pregant woman's body her choice. Once you start to say that pregnant women can or can't do something where does it end? What sanctions would you put in place if a woman does something she shouldn't? Do we need special prisons for women who put their babies at risk? Who decides what a woman should or shouldn't be able to do? Which risks are or aren't acceptable? Its not just a case of whether or not an unborn baby/fetus has rights. IF they do have rights how do these rights balance against the rights of the mother?

Bumperliouzzzzzz · 21/04/2010 20:44

I may be making this up but I am sure I read somewhere a few years ago that somewhere (possibly an American state) tried to ban smoking, drinking (basically any 'dangerous activities') for woman of childbearing age, in case they were pregnant.

And there was definitely this case where Utah are trying to impose a bill whereby a woman who has a miscarriage who is deemed to have engaged in reckless behaviour can be prosecuted for murder.

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ImSoNotTelling · 21/04/2010 20:43

Just as a point of interest

I understand that men who do not have healthy lifestyle (or are older but that's a differnt conversation) are more likely to have below-par sperm, which in turn can lead (amongst other things) to miscarriage.

I don't see calls for laws saying that fertile men should stop drinking alcohol competely and stop smoking etc etc.

The woman is the more obvious person as she carries the foetus, but the actions of the male prior to conception are not without consequence.

The question in the OP - pregnant women should have control over their bodies, yes of course.

Missus84 · 21/04/2010 20:42

Foetuses have no rights. And it belongs to it's mother alone until the moment it's born.

Women should have total control over their bodies.

Bumperliouzzzzzz · 21/04/2010 20:38

Agree with BOF's point about unborn child. Is foetus a technical term throughout the pregnancy (you wouldn't think I'd done this before would you?).

I'm inclined to go with my body my choice. Once you start legislating you get into dodgy ground regarding rights to terminate etc.

My sister is still smoking while pg, though I believe she has cut down. Now I am an ardent anti-smoker, can't stand people smoking around me, but my DH thinks it's really not on that she smokes while pg and that really gets my hackles up for some reason. While I loathe her smoking around me or my DD I find myself defending her right to smoke while pg.

When I was having a discussion with my colleagues one pointed out that you could be prosecuted (male or female) for deliberately doing something that causes the foetus to die (presumably after a certain gestation), e.g. if someone injures a pg woman and causes the death of the foetus that is a particular crime, but I pointed out that things like smoking and drinking have not been unquestionably proven to cause damage to the foetus. And until then if I want a glass of wine I will have it. (Just to point out the colleague wasn't having a go, we were discussing the issue).

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SweetGrapes · 21/04/2010 20:25

well, along with rights, I guess you get responsibility.
So, yes, I don't drink when I am pregnant - but I resent people 'telling' me what I should and shouldn't do. Give me the research, facts etc. and I will choose responsibly.
No-one is 'allowing' me to do or not do anything...
(MIL would disagree strongly... )

Grandhighpoohba · 21/04/2010 20:23

Appologies for the use of "unborn child," BoF, actually I think you are right, I just couldn't think how else to word it.

LynetteScavo · 21/04/2010 20:21

My personal thinking...and I wouldn't expect any legislation to be passed on what I personally think....is that once you are pg the baby comes first. Obviously there are a million shades of grey here, and I really don't want to bring terminations of pg into this.
I also think the father has no right to any say in the matter...but I did have tests done in pregnancy that I wouldn't have had if DH hadn't wanted them/been bothered, and I did respect his wishes (to a certain extent) when it came to things relating to his "unborn" child.

Hope that make some sort of sense. I'm not expecting anybody to agree with me.

Grandhighpoohba · 21/04/2010 20:21

Well, it depends on when you think that an unborn child becomes a fully fledged human being, with the rights that should go along with that. Is it conception? (presents difficulties for fertility treatments) Or is it at viability? And when is that anyway? or is it birth? And should at any point the rights of that human outweigh the rights of another(the mother)and if so why?

And then you have the issue of whether something that we may feel to be immoral, say drinking to excess during pregnancy, should be illegal. Are morality and legality nesessarily linked?

Pronoia · 21/04/2010 20:13

I was asked by a 24 year old man "Are you allowed to ride a motorbike when you're pregnant?"

I'm afraid my reply was somewhat caustic, and ended with me sarcastically begging him not to tell my husband I had obtained shoes and left the house.

Pronoia · 21/04/2010 20:12

Incredibly difficult question.

Legally, a woman can do as she pleases. She can drink as much as she likes, she can smoke as much tobacco as she likes, she can go diving, rock climbng, sky diving and can get a job as a hod carrier for all the law cares.

MOST women don't do this. They moderate their behavior for the sake of their unborn children, within reasonable levels for the life they have to lead - for example, I stopped drinking entirely but I did continue to ride my motorbike as I couldn't get to work without it. My Auntie and Uncle, who tried for 15 years for the one child they now have and suffered 9 miscarriages, thought I was a disgusting human being for being so blase, and if they were in charge of making the laws governing pregnant people's behavior, pregnant people would lie on a sterile foam bed for the 40 weeks a pregnancy lasts, and be fed a fibrous balanced vitamin/protein/complex carbohydrate mulch.

Unfortunately, when we talk about making 'laws' so that 'they' can't do that (give their children FAS and low birth weight) we forget that we live in a representative democracy, not a direct democracy, and as we know, our representatives do not always do as we want.

BitOfFun · 21/04/2010 20:11

For me it's a case of my body, my choice. Otherwise a woman is relegated to the status of incubator if she loses her human rights, and the fetus is not yet fully human and part of the world, iyswim?

I also have a big issue with the way the phrase 'unborn baby' has entered common parlance actually. It's my understanding that it comes from the anti-choice movement and emotionalises pregnancy over a woman's rights over her own pody.

msrisotto · 21/04/2010 20:07

It really bugs me to see a silhouette of a pregnant woman in a round sign with a red diagonal line through it on bottles of Bulmers cider.

Excessive alcohol can raise the risk of foetal alcohol syndrome. Having no alcohol is unncessary. Makes me mad I tell you.

Anyway, it's your body so I reckon it's your choice what you do when pregnant.