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Hoardasurass · 14/09/2026 07:05

The nspcc has decided that men should be allowed to watch girls get changed for pe and swimming classes and then lied about why they have done it.
I can see formal complaints being made to the charity commission over this as it fails to protect children which the only thing that the nspcc were set up to do

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-16128403/Fury-NSPCC-say-male-teachers-supervise-girls-changing-rooms.html

Fury as NSPCC say male teachers can supervise girls in changing rooms

The child protection charity has removed a policy that adults supervising pupils while they change should be the same sex as the children from its latest safeguarding briefing.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-16128403/Fury-NSPCC-say-male-teachers-supervise-girls-changing-rooms.html

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MrsKiplingsSauna · 15/09/2026 17:44

impossibletoday · 15/09/2026 13:24

Schools standards Minister spluttering her way through an answerr....

https://x.com/MichelleDewbs/status/2099821577974005846

Wow that is unreal.

If ever there was a clear answer to be given to something so very, very basic. That woman couldn't give one and should not be in that job.

The world is so broken.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 15/09/2026 17:16

Weaponised incompetence - yes - being used as a Trojan horse for other intentions.

What's the point of the NSPCC if they can't answer unambiguously and clearly on the point as to whether single sex changing rooms should apply to the supervising teacher/staff? Apart from anything else we now have KCSIE saying changing rooms over 11 have to be single sex, but it's not if the teacher isn't the same sex as those changing is it? Then it's mixed sex.

lcakethereforeIam · 15/09/2026 13:27

There was a phrase I'd seen used usually in relationship threads that I couldn't bring to mind. It was really annoying because to my mind it summed up all the 'waiting for this', 'waiting for that', 'oh, it's so-o-o-o complicated', we've heard since the FWS victory. What's actually being said is 'I don't want to do it!'<stamps foot>. Anyway I remembered it earlier, weaponised incompetence.

Fwiw, in response to a pp, undoubtedly some of the people who claim to have trans identities are unhappy that they're discovering they've been lied to by their allies. I think their allies should crack on with repairing the damage they've done by finally being truthful and finding workable accommodations for these niche lifestyles.

riod · 15/09/2026 13:18

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 12:58

The same NSPCC who sacked someone for inappropriate conduct? Doesn't sound like it to me.

This is outrageous. But I'm really not sure why it's being blamed on trans people again when there's no actual evidence to suggest it's anything to do with them.

obviously the conversation is around the conduct
and integrity of the NSPCC as an organisation.

AstonCanKissMyArse · 15/09/2026 13:15

InconvenientlyMaterial · 15/09/2026 13:10

I get what you are saying and it was my first thought too.

However I contrast their public response to being asked about the change (unclear, deflection, possibly untrue) with the way they responded personally, to me, when I've had to call them for advice on child protection (unequivocal, informative, I was told that if I gave identifying information to the call handler they would have to take action themselves).

Ok two different scenarios but also two very different approaches. The NSPCC that I would expect to see, based on my personal interaction with them, would have used the publicity of the response to reiterate safeguarding best practice.

They didn't do this because they can't. The charity sector is, IME, almost completely staffed by pronoun people. The person signing off the statement either believes or is too scared to look as if they don't believe.

I get what you're saying, but it wasn't a statement it was an entire document.

Published for providing guidance.

If they don't feel able to publish robust , factual and unambiguous guidance, they shouldn't bother publishing it at all. It is not fit for purpose.

AstonCanKissMyArse · 15/09/2026 13:13

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 13:04

This. It's not something that happens in reality - no male teacher would go into the female changing room unless there is an emergency situation. Any that would - that's dodgy. Also in my limited experience with my two - kids don't usually shower at school. My daughter never has and my son only does when it's rugby.

Then why issue ambiguous guidance to say that 'technically' it would be OK?

And then frantically backtrack, while sounding like a toddler caught with their hands in the biscuit tin when questioned, rather than say 'yes you're right that's not very clear we will amend that bit'?

Guidance is supposed to decrease ambiguity, not increase it! Its literally the only point of bothering to publish it. If its not doing that one job, the writer/publisher has monumentally failed.

InconvenientlyMaterial · 15/09/2026 13:10

BreezyClouds · 14/09/2026 13:50

It doesn't say that, does it?

I've (quickly) read the nspcc, sex matters and the SM letter. It appears that the guidance used to say 'same gender' and rather than changing 'gender' to 'sex' they have removed it entirely.

'Gender' means Sex to most people, and Gender Identity to some. I agree it was a problematic use of the word and should have been changed to Sex rather than leaving it out altogether but I don't see where the nspcc are saying that men or tw can supervise girls.

Have I missed it? Please quote the section.

For absence of doubt I 100% believe men and boys should be nowhere near women in girls in toilets and changing rooms. But the TRAs are forever making up accusations like this and it makes them easy to discredit, we should not do the same.

I get what you are saying and it was my first thought too.

However I contrast their public response to being asked about the change (unclear, deflection, possibly untrue) with the way they responded personally, to me, when I've had to call them for advice on child protection (unequivocal, informative, I was told that if I gave identifying information to the call handler they would have to take action themselves).

Ok two different scenarios but also two very different approaches. The NSPCC that I would expect to see, based on my personal interaction with them, would have used the publicity of the response to reiterate safeguarding best practice.

They didn't do this because they can't. The charity sector is, IME, almost completely staffed by pronoun people. The person signing off the statement either believes or is too scared to look as if they don't believe.

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 13:04

AstonCanKissMyArse · 14/09/2026 17:13

Agree it all sounds pretty shady.

I know several male teachers (including my husband) and none of them would ever be alone with a lone pupil in a room with a closed door - this is to protect them from any allegations and to ensure the children are comfortable. It is what they are told to do. Given that its common to take such basic steps for a much lower risk scenario, I can't imagine any male teacher saying 'fine, I'll supervise the girls showering'! The 'Miss Titwank' TiM 'all girls together' scenario is the one that could most likely be a problem.

I absolutely agree that the NSPCC shouldn't be muddying the water like this and that if its a mistake or oversight, why wouldn't they simply say so?

This. It's not something that happens in reality - no male teacher would go into the female changing room unless there is an emergency situation. Any that would - that's dodgy. Also in my limited experience with my two - kids don't usually shower at school. My daughter never has and my son only does when it's rugby.

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 12:58

riod · 14/09/2026 07:38

The same NSPCC who sacked someone for inappropriate conduct? Doesn't sound like it to me.

This is outrageous. But I'm really not sure why it's being blamed on trans people again when there's no actual evidence to suggest it's anything to do with them.

AstonCanKissMyArse · 15/09/2026 12:53

lcakethereforeIam · 15/09/2026 11:15

Someone posted upthread that it was likely they just couldn't bring themselves to change the word 'gender' to 'sex'. It stuck in their craw and they couldn't swallow it. Perhaps they hoped no-one would notice. All this obfuscation is an after the fact attempt to justify it.

Quite possibly.

But its so ridiculous. Its rendered their 'guidance' utterly pointless.

Ambiguous interpretations of rules do no one any good.

Isn't there a saying something like:
Between what is meant and not said,
And said but not meant,
Most of love is lost

Substitute 'clarity' for 'love' and that about sums it up.

lcakethereforeIam · 15/09/2026 11:15

Someone posted upthread that it was likely they just couldn't bring themselves to change the word 'gender' to 'sex'. It stuck in their craw and they couldn't swallow it. Perhaps they hoped no-one would notice. All this obfuscation is an after the fact attempt to justify it.

Datun · 15/09/2026 10:36

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 15/09/2026 10:29

Thank you for this.

Interesting:

[The NSPCC] added that it was “categorically untrue” that the line had been taken out “as a result of external lobbying”.

I suspect it was actually internal lobbying. I note they did not touch on that point.

Their entire response reads like a "nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah" from a seven-year old bully in a playground. ("You said don't push the other kids over. I'm not. I'm pulling them. Pulling them over isn't pushing them over. You didn't say don't pull!)

Quite.

if they're so certain that they're innocent, then let's have the actual reason why the line was pulled. Who told you to, where's your workings out?

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 15/09/2026 10:29

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2026 10:15

Gift token for the telegraph article on this
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/gift/97b6bf9479074029

Thank you for this.

Interesting:

[The NSPCC] added that it was “categorically untrue” that the line had been taken out “as a result of external lobbying”.

I suspect it was actually internal lobbying. I note they did not touch on that point.

Their entire response reads like a "nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah" from a seven-year old bully in a playground. ("You said don't push the other kids over. I'm not. I'm pulling them. Pulling them over isn't pushing them over. You didn't say don't pull!)

climbintheback · 15/09/2026 10:28

Once the standing orders start to tail off they may see sense - decision makers in this debacle need naming and shaming!

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Hoardasurass · 15/09/2026 10:02

Periperipolyphonic · 14/09/2026 12:52

I'm waiting for their response, and then will cancel my monthly donation to them if it is not satisfactory. Such a shame after 20 years of donations.

Their initial response was that they were following the new DFE guidelines when asked to point out where in that guidance it said men could watch/supervise girls getting changed they then claimed that they used multiple other sources but couldn't/wouldn't name them, so i doubt that we will get a different response to the sex matters complaint, nor my own tbh.
When the nspcc fail to respond appropriately by removing this guidance we can then complain to the charity commission and demand that the nspcc has both its statutory responsibility and charity statuses removed. Not that I expect either to happen but it should get the guidance removed

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Heggettypeg · 14/09/2026 21:15

I can see the attraction for schools, the NHS and care services etc in any policy that treats all staff (and service users) as interchangeable units for as many duties as possible, regardless of sex, because they all struggle with covering duties at all.

But I'd have thought bodies like the NSPCC should be taking the line that, yes, we know you are struggling and may have to improvise at times, but here is the best practice you should be aiming for wherever possible, and here are the absolute no-no's.
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Datun · 14/09/2026 19:29

MrsOvertonsWindow · 14/09/2026 19:11

It's their response that's the give away. You'd expect an "ooops" response or a "sorry, naive intern given the job".

Instead they obfuscate and claim they're waiting for more government guidance as they're unable to say that men shouldn't be supervising girls undress!

Very glad to see JKR has commented about this. They deserve maximum publicity.

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Yes, it's infuriating. I want the question to be what kind of guidance do you think you can use to make sure that men watch little girls get undressed.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 14/09/2026 19:11

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 14/09/2026 17:59

From the Daily Mail article:

But the NSPCC denied it had made the decision under pressure from trans activists and said it may consider changing the guidance again when there is more direction from the Equality and Human Rights Commission.

Ah...ye olde "we need more guidance after the guidance " tactic.

Do they think everyone is stupid?

It's their response that's the give away. You'd expect an "ooops" response or a "sorry, naive intern given the job".

Instead they obfuscate and claim they're waiting for more government guidance as they're unable to say that men shouldn't be supervising girls undress!

Very glad to see JKR has commented about this. They deserve maximum publicity.

Datun · 14/09/2026 18:57

Do they think everyone is stupid?
I've thought about this, and I'm afraid the answer is yes.

Datun · 14/09/2026 18:55

It's like fucking Schrodinger's guidance. Constantly there, and yet not there.

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 14/09/2026 17:59

From the Daily Mail article:

But the NSPCC denied it had made the decision under pressure from trans activists and said it may consider changing the guidance again when there is more direction from the Equality and Human Rights Commission.

Ah...ye olde "we need more guidance after the guidance " tactic.

Do they think everyone is stupid?

Mmmnotsure · 14/09/2026 17:50

Sunlight -

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/09/2026 17:49

I’m just suspicious why they keep muddying the waters. Why clarity is eschewed in favour of vagueness and pointing at other documents and organisations. Why they inserted the wording into the presentations for primary age children (linked threads below -a few years ago) to imply that sexual abuse was only a problem if children were distressed or made uncomfortable by it.