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Another BBC mess: "Do you think it’s right to tell transgender people which toilet to use?" Let's ask some men...

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BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 12/09/2026 19:14

https://genderblog.net/bbc-gender-apology-row/

From Nick Wallis' Genderblog:

On 6 August 2026, BBC Three Counties local radio station, which covers Bedfordshire, Hertfordshire and Buckinghamshire, ran a half hour current affairs chat on the Jonathan Vernon-Smith Show. The midday item was posed as a question: “Do you think it’s right to tell transgender people which toilet to use?”

The first contributor put on air to talk about that question were Robin Moira White, a male barrister who claims to be a woman. Robin advocates for men to be able to use women’s toilets and does so himself. The next guest was Nora Padilla, a full-time policy officer at the campaign group TransActual, which also advocates for men to be able to use women’s toilets. Then we heard from “Michelle” from Watford. Like Robin, Michelle is a man who claims to be a woman and – surprise surprise – advocates for male use of female facilities....
[my bold]

And the story goes on. And gets more and more damning for the BBC. The useless, ridiculously activist, taxpayer-supported BBC... Still.

BBC Gender Apology Row

Now they’re in trouble. Sex Matters. (l-r) Dr Helen Joyce, Maya Forstater and Fiona McAnena I am not a defund the BBC sort, but I can understand the frustrations of those who are. I have spok…

https://genderblog.net/bbc-gender-apology-row/

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ElenOfTheWays · 12/09/2026 20:53

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 19:47

I do think Nick's actions here will backfire. It essentially means that any time any GC person is on - they will have to be balanced by either someone trans or trans inclusive. So it's not quite the win he's making out - but that won't bring in the adulation he clearly feels he needs.

I think that would be ok actually. Since TRAs haven't got a leg to stand on in the face of GC arguments let them speak.

SwirlyGates · 12/09/2026 20:48

It's a really weird question to ask, I think - if they'd asked, "Do you think it's right to tell men which toilet to use?" or "Do you think it's right to tell women which toilet to use?" people would be scratching their heads wondering why you were asking, because it's bloody obvious. People don't get to choose the toilets they use, they are told which one and expected to get on with it.

Also, as well as missing out gender-critical women, they missed out gender-critical men. They do exist after all - many men want single sex spaces not just for women but for themselves. And the men could make a case for welcoming trans women in the men's.

borntobequiet · 12/09/2026 20:41

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 19:47

I do think Nick's actions here will backfire. It essentially means that any time any GC person is on - they will have to be balanced by either someone trans or trans inclusive. So it's not quite the win he's making out - but that won't bring in the adulation he clearly feels he needs.

No problem because gender critical people are sensible, articulate and well-informed, and their opponents are not.

the adulation he clearly feels he needs

Goodness knows where you got this notion from. How silly.

NotAtMyAge · 12/09/2026 20:27

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 19:47

I do think Nick's actions here will backfire. It essentially means that any time any GC person is on - they will have to be balanced by either someone trans or trans inclusive. So it's not quite the win he's making out - but that won't bring in the adulation he clearly feels he needs.

Well, based on the way trans-identifying people and transactivists have so far refused to appear on the same programme as sex-realist women to actually debate this issue, I think the BBC might have problems achieving this.

And why the dig at Nick? It wasn't he who first complained to the BBC about this unbalanced programme and got a proper apology, but an X user called Bob and Nick makes this clear. All Nick does in this blog post is report on the case. He's a journalist.

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 20:03

Has anyone told Oxfam how transphobic they are by campaigning for single sex toilets in India and Pakistan?

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 20:02

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 19:57

I didn’t say that this conversion should happen. I was just pointing out why your argument was flawed

But it’s not flawed. Actually, unisex or “all gender” toilets should be individual and lockable but often are not. During the Stonewall Law era, many places just converted their toilets to unisex by changing the signs on the doors, )looking at you Bristol Watershed). MSo in those spaces, TIM are in just as much danger as they would be in male spaces don’t you think, as they are now sharing the spaces with the very men they are afraid of. So in that case, campaigning for unisex toilets without requiring conversion could be seen as transphobic couldn’t it?

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 12/09/2026 19:59

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 19:53

But why would that be a problem? Surely it’s good people hear both sides of the debate. It’ll enable both sides to put forth their most coherent and logical arguments won’t it? I mean one side you’ve got men saying they want to access female spaces because they want to, and the other side women explaining why they should not be allowed. It’d be an eye opener I think.

Absolutely. Let's hear them say it. Let's hear them justify it. Where everyone can hear it and query it. It shouldn't be hard for them to justify why they want men in women's spaces, because they've been working on that for years.

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RedToothBrush · 12/09/2026 19:58

FairAmberEagle · 12/09/2026 19:15

All toilets should just go unisex. Problem solved.

Over a hundred years ago we stopped doing this in the UK.

We still advise third world countries not to do this.

Why are you suggesting a regression to before women had the vote?

And apparently this passes for progressive?!

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 19:57

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 19:41

And who would pay for this conversion? are you expecting small businesses to spend thousands of pounds just because some men won’t use the male toilets? Why should they?

I didn’t say that this conversion should happen. I was just pointing out why your argument was flawed

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 19:53

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 19:47

I do think Nick's actions here will backfire. It essentially means that any time any GC person is on - they will have to be balanced by either someone trans or trans inclusive. So it's not quite the win he's making out - but that won't bring in the adulation he clearly feels he needs.

But why would that be a problem? Surely it’s good people hear both sides of the debate. It’ll enable both sides to put forth their most coherent and logical arguments won’t it? I mean one side you’ve got men saying they want to access female spaces because they want to, and the other side women explaining why they should not be allowed. It’d be an eye opener I think.

PrancingPanda · 12/09/2026 19:53

What a very biased set of 'contributors' for goodness sake!
Obvious from the start! The BBC just can't help themselves can they?

And unisex, rather 'mixed sex' loos, are not the answer.
Where is our toilet expert to explain for the umpteenth time about all things loo related?

But no: it is not all about loos (and they say sex-realists are obsessed)

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 12/09/2026 19:53

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 19:47

I do think Nick's actions here will backfire. It essentially means that any time any GC person is on - they will have to be balanced by either someone trans or trans inclusive. So it's not quite the win he's making out - but that won't bring in the adulation he clearly feels he needs.

Actually balance of any kind on this issue would be a HUGE step in the right direction for the BBC. It wouldn't be hard for them to achieve this if they were so inclined- the bar is already so low, that the BBC really can't go anywhere but up.

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BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 12/09/2026 19:49

As @Shedmistress has so eloquently said about mixed-sex toilets:

I mean we've been through this a million times about how unsafe this is. Do we have to do it all over again and again?

Exactly.

Let's discuss

Why the BBC decided (deliberately decided) not to interview a single woman for this piece?

Why the BBC decided (deliberately decided) to instead interview three biological males who are advocating for men to break the law and use women's toilets?

Why the BBC lied and said that no woman had been available to interview, when actually they had told Sex Matters that they were not needed for the discussion?

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alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 19:47

I do think Nick's actions here will backfire. It essentially means that any time any GC person is on - they will have to be balanced by either someone trans or trans inclusive. So it's not quite the win he's making out - but that won't bring in the adulation he clearly feels he needs.

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 19:41

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 19:37

Don’t unisex spaces have to be individually lockable? There wouldn’t be any sharing

And who would pay for this conversion? are you expecting small businesses to spend thousands of pounds just because some men won’t use the male toilets? Why should they?

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 19:37

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 19:34

But don’t TIM claim they are unsafe in male spaces? If toilets are unisex, the very males TIM are afraid of will be in those spaces with them. Won’t that make the TIM unsafe? Surely if TIM are safe in unisex spaces, they will be safe in the male toilets.

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Don’t unisex spaces have to be individually lockable? There wouldn’t be any sharing

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 19:34

FairAmberEagle · 12/09/2026 19:15

All toilets should just go unisex. Problem solved.

But don’t TIM claim they are unsafe in male spaces? If toilets are unisex, the very males TIM are afraid of will be in those spaces with them. Won’t that make the TIM unsafe? Surely if TIM are safe in unisex spaces, they will be safe in the male toilets.

borntobequiet · 12/09/2026 19:34

FairAmberEagle · 12/09/2026 19:15

All toilets should just go unisex. Problem solved.

What an entirely stupid suggestion.

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/09/2026 19:34

Knowing the presenter in question it’s not a surprise that this happened. It’ll happen again while the BBC is so fatally captured. Top work by the man who made the original complaint, it’s an unusually self reflective response that he got and I hope he peruses it for more answers. Nick is a bloody legend as well, a supremely welcome addition to the fight for common sense.

Dominoodles · 12/09/2026 19:32

FairAmberEagle · 12/09/2026 19:15

All toilets should just go unisex. Problem solved.

That's a terrible idea and would only encourage dangerous people as well as making toilets unusable for most women

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 12/09/2026 19:30

As telling as the actual question was, given that a lot of trans- identified men just LOVE to talk about (women's) toilets, I would like the question to have been:

Do you think it’s right to tell men which toilet to use? Should they use the same one my nine-year old daughter uses?
Or

Do you think it’s right to tell men which changing rooms at the local pool to use? Should they use the same one my nine-year old daughter uses?

Or

Do you think it’s right to tell men which hospital ward to use? Should they use the same one my eighty-nine-year old mother uses?

Ask trans-identified men these questions, on live BBC radio, and make them explain their answers.

Because it's not really about toilets, is it? But, it's always about men.

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TonTonMacoute · 12/09/2026 19:29

FairAmberEagle · 12/09/2026 19:15

All toilets should just go unisex. Problem solved.

You really haven’t figured out what this row is really all about, have you.

This is a zero sum game, and the trans activists gain by taking something away from women.

Wishesandhorses · 12/09/2026 19:26

You can only believe this bullshit if you fundamentally believe in binary sex and that men matter in ways that women don't. That men have 'needs', and women have no right gatekeeping their bodies from them.

Thank God the law spoke and it's too late for wittering now.

PersonIrresponsible · 12/09/2026 19:23

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Wishesandhorses · 12/09/2026 19:22

Oh let's run that through the bullshit translator:

'should men deprive women of access, equality, privacy and dignity in order to use those women to meet their own needs?'

Well no. Not unless you're a sexist arse. Obviously.