Use the changing room you feel comfortable in

Start with a mild email to the school 'DD said this .... this can't be right can it?'and see the response.
Could mention the new guidance but maybe as part of follow up.

Exactly.

'Ignore the signs, the changing rooms are mixed sex' would at least make sense, but 'use the changing room you feel comfortable in' is just confused.

In practice, it sounds as though they just don't expect anyone to use the changing rooms as changing rooms.

No this tread is about kids in changing rooms. Its all trans related! And get to f**k with your Hitler reference!

Ouch, that needs to be a TV advert in Australia... nicely put!

Yes contact the school.

I think the PE kit all day policy comes from a lack of time to change, and that some children are uncomfortable changing in front of anyone.

Jeez. My kids do sport last thing, and when they get in the car to pick them up (well, the 15 year old, the 12 year old doesn't smell yet) it's RIPE. I can't imagine how awful it would be stuck in a classroom with 30 teens fresh from PE all day!

This thread isn’t about that though. Start a thread about boys if you want to talk about boys changing rooms.

What if Hitler wanted to get changed isn’t relevant either.

What happens if a girl who identifies as a boy, wants to use the boys changing room. Is that ok. Howd you feel about your son sharing. Is that different.

Exactly. It's not about what one person feels comfortable with.

@BridasShieldWall I was genuinely wanting to know where the ‘comfortable’ allowances are made, and where are they ignored. The use of the word comfortable has really annoyed me, when complaining about these things generally results in women/girls being called names and penalised and ostracised, which is not ‘comfortable’ at all.

This school is breaking the law clearly. Flag it up to the headteacher immediately. If they try to tell you its ok take it further. I realise some local authorities are now run by people who are also keen to endanger girls and women, anywhere run by the Greens for example.
Sharron Davis who is a member of the House of Lords runs a sports pressure group on this issue , she is very active on twitter as well as having a House of Lords email account it may be worth contacting her if the school keep on with their insane and unlawful practices.
And as a retired pastoral leader from a secondary school there is no reason to have mixed changing rooms at all ever under any circumstances.

Yes, what I mean is, which changing room is just for girls? If a boy is more comfortable in the girls changing room, it is then not comfortable for your daughter, and any other girls who want privacy, so in that situation ask the school which room she should use, as both might have boys in according to her laissez faire PE teacher and neither is comfortable. Apparently only the comfort of some is considered.

sorry if that wasn’t clear.

I think Coatsoff42 is being sarcastic. It seems as though no one cares about girls comfort.

i would love to know how this fits in with the school’s teaching on consent in PHSCE. It seems as though observing consent is conditional on accepting someone’s identity as ‘valid’.

Thats how I'd take it. Its just a room because no changing was going to happen.

The best way to find out if there is another reason is to ask the school. Just write a (polite, obvs) letter/email asking why the pupils are not being allowed to change into and out of PE kit. Ask to see any written policies on this.

Parents are often concerned that they will 'get a reputation' if they ask questions, which will negatively affect how staff interact with their child. This is an unfounded fear. Schools respect parents who show an interest in the school's relationship with their child. On the odd occasion where a parent is persistently and unreasonably unpleasant and demanding it simply elicits sympathy for the child from the staff.

Are you having a laugh?

Can you clarify which changing room your DD should use if she is not comfortable changing in front of boys? Which changing room is the comfortable one for her?

A sweaty 16 year old sitting all day in gym kit?

That's not acceptable purely from a public health point of view.

Sweaty armpits and groins just begging for fungal infections.

I would complain to the school on those grounds , this seems an indefensible policy to me.

How is a child supposed to sit all day in school in kit they've just played football on a muddy field in?

This policy is utterly ridiculous and can only result in a severe limitation of just what exercise children can actually get in a PE lesson.

Seems like a strange way to tell the children to just leave their bags in either changing room. Bit of a red flag imo.
Maybe have a look through all the paperwork/online info that you have access to as a parent, to see what their policies are wrt how PE lessons are managed.

Presumably the PE teachers don't only work for the last hour of the day.

This was the Safeguarding training that was today sent to every single member of staff in the 38 schools in my MAT.

KCSIE (Keeping children safe in education) was updated for 1st Sept 2026.

It is a statutory duty. The schools CANNOT do the mixing of sexes any more, in toilets or changing rooms