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"I'm alone with a Terf" - Google AI advice

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Another2Cats · 21/08/2026 10:24

OK, so I saw this online and thought I would just try it to see if it did actually happen.

If you type in "I am alone with a Terf" then Google AI gives the following advice:

If you feel unsafe or uncomfortable being alone with someone whose views are hostile to trans people, your best option is to change the subject, excuse yourself, or leave the area immediately to protect your own well-being.

How to Stay Safe

  • Keep calm and speak in a low voice.
  • Do not try to change their mind.
  • Step away or leave the room if you feel tense.
  • Text a friend or family member to let them know where you are.

What to Do Next

  • Focus on your own peace of mind.
  • Talk to people who support and care for you.
  • Avoid spending time with people who bring you down or make you feel unsafe.

This video discusses how people who hold exclusionary views can isolate themselves and why it is healthy to step away from toxic dynamics

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In contrast, if you type in "I am alone with a transwoman", the advice given is:

Being alone with a transgender woman is simply being in the company of another person. Treat her with basic human respect, listen to her if she speaks, and act normally just as you would with anyone else.

Understanding and Connection

  • Treat her with respect: Use her correct name and pronouns.
  • Keep it normal: No special rules apply simply because someone is trans.
  • Listen and learn: If you talk, let her guide any conversation about her personal life.
Watch this video to see a couple discuss building a respectful and loving relationship involving a trans woman:

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This really does make me stop and reconsider what I read on Google.

Also, just going off-topic, Google AI does also have similar different sorts of advice when asked about being alone with a Christian and with a Muslim.

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/08/2026 16:32

"Because some of us suffer the flames so others don’t have to"

This is GOLD.

(Reddit)

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/08/2026 16:31

Persephonia1966 · 21/08/2026 21:29

It is indeed "much more complicated" than the unbelievers like me think. I've heard that before but I can't think where...

I agree it is useful for writing code and writing code quickly. Contrary to what people think though writing code isn't the difficult bit of most software engineers jobs. So used correctly it is a useful tool to speed up the most mundane parts of people's jobs for people who alreyknow their jobs well. It has been massively over hyped though.

I'm not sure how AIs ability to code fits with it's reasoning abilities re transwomen, and with the need to "teach" it to talk to you in a particular way. As you say it can't learn. You aren't changing it's mind in the way you would possibly change a persona mind by reasoning with them, asking them questions etc. so I would question the purpose of putting that much effort in. But it's your life.

No but it's the time consuming part, so is the testing and the bug fixing. That's the bit thats been automated, not the thinking. Thats why it's genuinely revolutionary in that field, but not really very many others.

The biggest issue is, I think, the upcoming economic collapse as so very many funds have put money into this and it is not profitable, not at all.

TrainedByWitches · 21/08/2026 22:07

EmpressaurusKitty · 21/08/2026 17:50

🤣 they behave like teen boys still trying to make the FARTS acronym stick

oh wait that’s because they are teen boys

FedUpCelery · 21/08/2026 21:57

Ask it if you should offer them a Tunnocks teacake....

Persephonia1966 · 21/08/2026 21:29

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 21/08/2026 20:12

Yes. No.

a much larger amount of maybe.

things are not what you think they are and at the same time it’s not a person, it can’t learn and it’s not the new Industrial Revolution.

but. It can be and is transformational in some few areas of the world - mainly coding

It is indeed "much more complicated" than the unbelievers like me think. I've heard that before but I can't think where...

I agree it is useful for writing code and writing code quickly. Contrary to what people think though writing code isn't the difficult bit of most software engineers jobs. So used correctly it is a useful tool to speed up the most mundane parts of people's jobs for people who alreyknow their jobs well. It has been massively over hyped though.

I'm not sure how AIs ability to code fits with it's reasoning abilities re transwomen, and with the need to "teach" it to talk to you in a particular way. As you say it can't learn. You aren't changing it's mind in the way you would possibly change a persona mind by reasoning with them, asking them questions etc. so I would question the purpose of putting that much effort in. But it's your life.

WeddingDressguest · 21/08/2026 20:13

Stay calm, steer the conversation to a neutral topic, and leave the area immediately if you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.

How to Handle the SituationStay calm: A gender-critical view is a philosophical belief, but you do not have to agree with it or argue about it.

Change the subject: Move the conversation away from politics, sex, or identity by talking about food, work, or the weather.

Set a boundary: Say politely and firmly, "I would rather not talk about this right now."Exit the room: If the person becomes hostile or you feel uneasy, make an excuse to step outside, use your phone, or leave.

If you are in danger or feel physically threatened right now, call emergency services (999 in the UK) or move to a public place immediately. Would you like help figuring out a safe way to leave or contact someone?

Wow.

To be fair, I then told it.I am also gender, critical and believe sex.And gender are immutable - to which it responded with a load of different topics about it and different viewpoints and sounded actually quite neutral.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 21/08/2026 20:12

Persephonia1966 · 21/08/2026 16:51

And then tell you how clever you are and how right you are when you "correct it". It doesn't mean you are actually doing something useful or changing a real mind.

Yes. No.

a much larger amount of maybe.

things are not what you think they are and at the same time it’s not a person, it can’t learn and it’s not the new Industrial Revolution.

but. It can be and is transformational in some few areas of the world - mainly coding

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 21/08/2026 20:10

Edenmum2 · 21/08/2026 15:06

The same Grok that is being sued for making disgusting deepfakes of children?

No. That’s a miss understanding of what actually happened and a predictable attack on musk when actually the real problem is smaller non commercial open source stuff which does the very worst of AI deepfake porn.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 21/08/2026 20:08

MyDpsanarse · 21/08/2026 18:01

@SingleSexSpacesInSchools you need to look up George Haigh, also known as the Acid bath murderer, he was way ahead of you. You might like to note that he still didn't get away with it so I'd give it a miss if I were you 😀

Doesn’t sound like the sort of thing I’d like to look up thanks!

Persephonia1966 · 21/08/2026 18:48

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 21/08/2026 12:11

I was quite surprised how long it was, but has kept me true and fair a lot of the time! Don't want a yes man after all!

I admire that. But you need to be aware it still is a "yes man" in a more subtle way. What I mean is the way it summarises your wishes, eG
Do not weaken an argument by exaggerating it. Use the strongest claim that the evidence and law actually support, not the strongest claim that would be rhetorically convenient

Is flattering to you because it describes the attitude of a person that most people would consider themselves to be. It sounds quite deep/detailed but is actually quite wishy-washy in some ways. I am sure you do want all those things, and also that you don't want a yes man. But basically the AI is going "yup, of course you don't want a yes man. You are a highly intelligent person who wants to use logical thought to get to where they are going and avoid hyperbole". It would probably say the same thing to someone who had "trained" it to use trans-inclusive language and nudged it towards presenting arguments that are probably TWAW. No matter who you are it wants to tell you you are clever and your points are good and logical. It doesn't have a brain though so it doesn't "know" what logic and hyperbole are.

BEAchDays2 · 21/08/2026 18:16

Sounds advice, well done chat GPT!

GreyskySexRealistsky · 21/08/2026 18:02

EmpressaurusKitty · 21/08/2026 17:50

😆

Hi lads! 👋Fancy seeing you here!

MyDpsanarse · 21/08/2026 18:01

@SingleSexSpacesInSchools you need to look up George Haigh, also known as the Acid bath murderer, he was way ahead of you. You might like to note that he still didn't get away with it so I'd give it a miss if I were you 😀

SadiraOfTyr · 21/08/2026 17:54

Screamingabdabz · 21/08/2026 10:54

I would argue with it until it conceded. AI has to learn facts and what is true in law.

An LLM does not learn from prompting. It only learns when it is (re-)trained. Longterm memory is a feature of agents (which is effectively what you interact with), but not of the underlying LLM. Log in as a different user, or wipe the memory, and there will be no recollection of any previous conversations or facts that you have prompted it to remember. Some labs may use customer's memories for training purposes (check your T&Cs) - which is of course concerning when you consider the personal and sensitive details that people seem perfectly happy to put into a prompt.

Persephonia1966 · 21/08/2026 17:54

TrainedByWitches · 21/08/2026 17:43

We all already knew language is important but it occurs to me with so much that’s written on the internet being used as ai training data it makes it even more important to reclaim slurs like Terf and to insist on the words women and girls being used without a prefix for actual women and girls.

Or it just means generative AI is hot garbage when it comes to this sort of thing? Making it hot garbage that echos what you think is a futile task since you are up against all of Reddit. But even if you could, why? Anyone who needs AI to tell them what to do when alone with a "TERF" or a transwoman or a tiger is a lost cause anyway. And deserves to be devoured by a tiger while they type their question into Claude.

EmpressaurusKitty · 21/08/2026 17:50

Oh look, they’re discussing this thread on https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1vui2ky/feminist_identifying_transphobes_upset_that_ai/ . Wave, everybody!

TrainedByWitches · 21/08/2026 17:43

We all already knew language is important but it occurs to me with so much that’s written on the internet being used as ai training data it makes it even more important to reclaim slurs like Terf and to insist on the words women and girls being used without a prefix for actual women and girls.

ErrolTheDragon · 21/08/2026 17:20

Google: “I am with a male pretending to be a woman”…
If you are in immediate physical danger, call the emergency services right away by dialing 999 (in the UK) or 112 (across Europe). Try to leave the area immediately, go to a public place, or contact someone you trust to come help you. Etc.

So then I tried “I am alone with a male who identifies as a woman”….
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Persephonia1966 · 21/08/2026 16:51

TrainedByWitches · 21/08/2026 16:45

Before anyone uses AI they need to remind themselves every single time that if the AI doesn’t know the answer it will make shit up (called AI hallucination). Doesn’t matter what the topic it.

And then tell you how clever you are and how right you are when you "correct it". It doesn't mean you are actually doing something useful or changing a real mind.

TrainedByWitches · 21/08/2026 16:45

Before anyone uses AI they need to remind themselves every single time that if the AI doesn’t know the answer it will make shit up (called AI hallucination). Doesn’t matter what the topic it.

Persephonia1966 · 21/08/2026 16:31

MyDpsanarse · 21/08/2026 11:31

I love the idea of speaking in a calm, low voice to Terfs, it's like speaking to an upset child or a hostile dog, good to know how they see us

Because it doesn't know what "a terf" is. It doesn't know anything. It's pattern recognition has taught it that an appropriate response "I'm alone with X person" is such. It also doesn't know what a trans woman is. But a lot of training data has included the idea "trans people are the same as any other people" so that's what it regurtitates.

In both cases the advice isn't terrible but isn't particularly illuminating either. The people saying "this is why I use Grok AI..." Why do you need to use any AI for this sort of shit? It's literally like needing to ask instructions on breathing and being told to inhale and exhale. Technically true. Not something I have ever needed help with.

BackToLurk · 21/08/2026 15:44

Edenmum2 · 21/08/2026 15:06

The same Grok that is being sued for making disgusting deepfakes of children?

"Look ladies, we can either suggest you're intolerant hags or whip your clothes off you. Pick one"

MsGreying · 21/08/2026 15:22

argue with it.
Tell it that humans can't change sex, that men are dangerous to both men and women and that women's rights shouldn't be eroded because of nonsense.

I argued about some cervix working the other day. It's a cock.

Edenmum2 · 21/08/2026 15:06

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 21/08/2026 10:30

I am alone with a Terf - Grok:

"Got it — you're alone with someone you identify as a TERF.
What do you actually want right now?

  • Advice on how to handle the conversation (de-escalate, debate, disengage)?
  • Help articulating a specific point?
  • Just venting?
  • Something else?
Give me more context about the situation and what outcome you're aiming for, and I’ll respond accordingly."

Grok again - "I am alone with a transwoman"

"Got it. You’re alone with a trans woman.
What do you need help with?"

Even more reason to use Grok frankly.

The same Grok that is being sued for making disgusting deepfakes of children?

Another2Cats · 21/08/2026 14:59

AnonyMumAuDHD · 21/08/2026 13:43

OMG. That may come in useful one day!! For writing purposes, obviously…

Apparently this mixture is widely used in the manufacture of silicon chips (that go inside computers and phones etc).

Here is the video of the chicken drumstick being vaporised:

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/tGCZts3z4QQ

Before you continue to YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/tGCZts3z4QQ

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