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Jo R’rith’s comments on trans anxiety, public spaces and current guidance

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TBATST · 17/08/2026 19:57

This just up on socials from Jo:

"Regular viewers to "The Jo R'rith Show" will know I suffer a great deal from anxiety attacks, and PTSD from events that began in 2015. Viewers are probably also familiar with my status as a trans woman in Britain, a country that in that time has become increasingly transphobic and bigoted.

Y'all may also be familiar with my costuming/cosplaying/fancy dress or whatever you want to call it, particularly my Uruk-Hai Orc costume. But what you may not realise is that they all intersect - I have anxiety attacks because I am a trans woman in a country that is abusive towards trans people and is trying to segregate us from the rest of the population. I travel to and from events where I wear my costumes, risking transphobic abuse and hatred for being trans. Only when Im in my costume do I get any respite from the fear and anxiety, basically because I'm unrecognisable beneath said costume, and because no one feels confident enough to have a go at the intimidating Uruk-Hai General wearing armour standing before them.

But my anxiety is strong, sometimes overpowering, and that's before the new EHRC guidance on how to be a bigoted cockwomble towards trans people, is included. You see I, like a great many trans people; know my rights and the law. I know that I haven't been banned from female toilets or changing spaces, but I also know that you, Joe Public, don't know that; because you've been fed a shit tonne of lies by the Press, and by TERFs telling you different, and Im sure that, if they find this post; some TERF cockwomble will erroneously claim that it is against the law, but they're lying So that means every time I use a public space, say the female toilets at a services or the like, then I run the risk of encountering someone who thinks I shouldnt be there, and so anxiety, panic and my PTSD."

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yetanotherusernameAgain · 18/08/2026 10:42

Which "socials" did @TBATST harvest the post from? Couldn't have been Instagram because @TBATST claims not to have access to that

Coffeelovr · 18/08/2026 10:35

that means every time I use a public space, say the female toilets at a services or the like, then I run the risk of encountering someone who thinks I shouldnt be there

Well, you shouldn't because you're not female

These are female toilets. They are for females. You are not female, therefore they are not for you

MagpiePi · 18/08/2026 10:32

Igneococcus · Yesterday 20:25
Yes, that is why I'm wondering. How do you know someone is trans if they are under a full Uruk-Hai costume?

I AM GRISHNAK, SKULL CRUSHER, SHIELD BREAKER, SERVANT OF THE ETERNAL DARK LORD, SAURON!!

...my pronouns are she/her

Shedmistress · 18/08/2026 10:28

If a man gets PTSD when leaving the house dressed as a 70s bad movie hooker or an Orc, then just put some fucking trousers on lad.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 18/08/2026 10:24

He Sells Sanctimony was a glorious comment though 😍

FlirtsWithRhinos · 18/08/2026 10:22

lcakethereforeIam · 18/08/2026 10:05

This whole thread seems a bit....orchestrated! Erm! 🧥

I am sure it is.

And aside from the standing comment that

  1. women-only spaces are not resources to help troubled men
  2. men who want to be treated as women are not in reality any closer to being women than any other man so have no more justifiable claim on our spaces then othr men

I don't think we should be commenting on individuals.

We know splintery rolling pin is still hanging around trying to build a case that MN and FWR are hate sites.

I'd be very careful of any posts encouraging anything that could be construed as bullying of individuals, even if those individuals are exhibiting cravenly sexist attitudes towards women.

Sadly misogyny is so normalised in society that when women react publicly to sexist men, far too often it is the reaction is criticised not the sexism.

lcakethereforeIam · 18/08/2026 10:05

This whole thread seems a bit....orchestrated! Erm! 🧥

SinnerBoy · 18/08/2026 10:01

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/08/2026 21:28

He Sells Sanctimony

Thanks for the earworm! I'll have to listen to the real thing, now!

ArabellaScott · 18/08/2026 09:51

Would be my guess, anyway.

ArabellaScott · 18/08/2026 09:51

Fragile narcissism.

Huge man who openly enjoys scaring women, while concurrently enjoys indulging his own fantasies of oppression and humiliation.

Abhannmor · 18/08/2026 09:45

RedToothBrush · 18/08/2026 09:22

"I am anxious so I knowingly wear stuff that intimidates others so they are silenced into not commenting. It makes me feel better.

And then I walk into the ladies".

Very odd. Surely a big scary Orc costume would be a better accessory for a woman who identifies as a man? They could just wander into the Gents practically unnoticed. Well ....in some places

teawamutu · 18/08/2026 09:28

TBATST · 17/08/2026 20:11

And what do we think about their claims of PTSD? Also to be mocked, do you think?

If his 'PTSD' is triggered by the anxiety that he, a man, might be confronted if he uses the women's toilets, then I'd say the solution seems pretty simple and doesn't warrant mockery.

If it's the real kind, that is. If it's the TRA version (experiencing feelings of sadness at hearing something he doesn't like) then I reserve the right to roll my eyes although the solution remains the same.

RedToothBrush · 18/08/2026 09:22

"I am anxious so I knowingly wear stuff that intimidates others so they are silenced into not commenting. It makes me feel better.

And then I walk into the ladies".

SassyFawn · 18/08/2026 09:19

TBATST · 17/08/2026 19:57

This just up on socials from Jo:

"Regular viewers to "The Jo R'rith Show" will know I suffer a great deal from anxiety attacks, and PTSD from events that began in 2015. Viewers are probably also familiar with my status as a trans woman in Britain, a country that in that time has become increasingly transphobic and bigoted.

Y'all may also be familiar with my costuming/cosplaying/fancy dress or whatever you want to call it, particularly my Uruk-Hai Orc costume. But what you may not realise is that they all intersect - I have anxiety attacks because I am a trans woman in a country that is abusive towards trans people and is trying to segregate us from the rest of the population. I travel to and from events where I wear my costumes, risking transphobic abuse and hatred for being trans. Only when Im in my costume do I get any respite from the fear and anxiety, basically because I'm unrecognisable beneath said costume, and because no one feels confident enough to have a go at the intimidating Uruk-Hai General wearing armour standing before them.

But my anxiety is strong, sometimes overpowering, and that's before the new EHRC guidance on how to be a bigoted cockwomble towards trans people, is included. You see I, like a great many trans people; know my rights and the law. I know that I haven't been banned from female toilets or changing spaces, but I also know that you, Joe Public, don't know that; because you've been fed a shit tonne of lies by the Press, and by TERFs telling you different, and Im sure that, if they find this post; some TERF cockwomble will erroneously claim that it is against the law, but they're lying So that means every time I use a public space, say the female toilets at a services or the like, then I run the risk of encountering someone who thinks I shouldnt be there, and so anxiety, panic and my PTSD."

Regular viewers to "The Jo R'rith Show" will know I suffer a great deal from anxiety attacks

The what now? I've never heard of this show and Google doesn't seem to have either. Is this some closed community thing?

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 18/08/2026 09:17

ArabellaScott · 18/08/2026 08:48

Sadly the Equality Act is silent on Orcs and orc recognition.

What happens if a trans orc meets a real orc in the ladies? Where should he be directed?

Would it be orc-ward?

<chapeau>

allthingsinmoderation · 18/08/2026 09:07

TBATST · 17/08/2026 20:11

And what do we think about their claims of PTSD? Also to be mocked, do you think?

i hope he has help and support for his mental health issues but he is wrong about the law regarding single sex spaces.
His name calling of women and girls who want their right to some female spaces wont wash anymore and that clearly making him irate and angry.

WerewolfOfLoudon · 18/08/2026 09:02

MagpiePi · 18/08/2026 08:31

Maybe his costume includes a long blonde wig and a spinny skirt?

🤣 Even the other Orc impersonators would stay far away from him.

Flashback of the Gremlin in the blonde wig.

DialSquare · 18/08/2026 08:53

GreyskySexRealistsky · 18/08/2026 08:50

A gold lamé handbag with that orc outfit? That would be a crime against fashion!

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Season 2 Pop GIF by Schitt's Creek
Shedmistress · 18/08/2026 08:52

DialSquare · 18/08/2026 08:47

And a gold lamé handbag

Hate to bring another orc into the equation but it was a gold lamé pocketbook.

ArabellaScott · 18/08/2026 08:50

I did think Style and Beauty may have been a better board.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 18/08/2026 08:50

"orc-ward" heh heh heh! Very good 😄

BieresDeLaMeuse · 18/08/2026 08:50

Is he one of the guys who run the Orc Training School at Sherwood Forest? Those guys are huge! I’m struggling to believe he is the one who is scared.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 18/08/2026 08:50

DialSquare · 18/08/2026 08:47

And a gold lamé handbag

A gold lamé handbag with that orc outfit? That would be a crime against fashion!

ArabellaScott · 18/08/2026 08:48

Sadly the Equality Act is silent on Orcs and orc recognition.

What happens if a trans orc meets a real orc in the ladies? Where should he be directed?

Would it be orc-ward?

DialSquare · 18/08/2026 08:47

MagpiePi · 18/08/2026 08:31

Maybe his costume includes a long blonde wig and a spinny skirt?

And a gold lamé handbag