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mardirousse · 16/08/2026 20:38

https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1vo4oqz/hypothetical_situation/.

Dad wants to prevent his effeminate 15 year old boy from developing an adam's apple or deep voice, so "hypothetically" asks if he could back and forth to France for puberty blockers.

gets loads of "support", told he's a wonderful father, advised to put the lad on diy estrogen instead as it's more appropriate "at that age" (15!).

Surely platforms can't allow this, legally! it's so dangerous. I'm really upset. His poor little lad.

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ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 13:03

BackToLurk · 20/08/2026 12:56

I didn’t say it was ‘caused’ by them. I’m describing the situation as it is.

You said that puberty blockers are 'the first step on an inevitable journey toward more and more medical intervention'.

There is nothing about puberty blockers that renders that journey inevitable.

If what you mean is that puberty blockers are used in patients who have a very high likelihood of having gender dysphoria and a trans identity that persists into adulthood, then fine. I agree with that. But that's not what you said.

cherryicecreamisnice · 20/08/2026 13:01

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 16/08/2026 23:13

It has absolutely nothing to do with you. His child is trans, and he's trying to help her access care which would pause puberty, giving her time to grow up and decide if she wants to proceed with transition.

I wouldn't condone him doing it without medical supervision, because not every trans kid is suitable. They aren't handed out like Smarties at gender clinics.

Puberty blockers have been used for decades on cis children experiencing precocious puberty - and they're still being given now. It's a proven medication.

Leave the poor family alone, and maybe reflect on the damage done to trans children by anti-trans activism. This dad is trying to save his child's life because she's been denied even the basics of care here. Trans kids don't even get proper counselling despite being in deep distress and suffering horrendous bullying.

There are kids dying all over the world, why not try saving them instead? This one has a parent who loves them. Even if he doesn't succeed, that child has a massively increased chance of making it to adulthood because she knows her dad loves her.

Have you been asleep for five years? Counselling is now called conversion therapy. The rest of your script is a pretty accurate argument of everything that has been debunked time and time again.

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 13:01

Cantunseeit · 19/08/2026 09:04

This article hit my inbox this morning, thought it was relevant to the discussion on this thread. End notes link to the studies and papers referenced

https://open.substack.com/pub/pitt/p/beyond-gender-affirming-rhetoric?r=1one23&utm_medium=ios

The problem with that study is that it does not address causation and doesn't actually provide a useful comparator.

It shows that those with GD who have had surgery have worse mental health than those with GD who have not had surgery.

That is not the same thing as saying that the decision to have surgery worsens mental health. Because what the study doesn't do is compare patients' mental health before and after surgery.

It is logical that those undergoing surgery are more likely to have mental health problems precisely because it is likely to be those with the most extreme dysphoria - which can in turn result in more extreme mental health conditions - that pursue surgery in the first place.

Myalternate · 20/08/2026 12:57

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:47

The post you were referring to was solely about puberty blockers. No one claims that puberty blockers changes anyone's sex. So the premise of the question is entirely ridiculous.

That’s reassuring. Perhaps the people saying they’ve changed their sex through X-sex hormonal treatments can also be re-educated. Many actually believe they have changed their biological sex.

There are so many examples.

BackToLurk · 20/08/2026 12:56

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:46

That's not true, though.

There is nothing about puberty blockers that inevitably leads to further transition.

You are conflating causation and correlation - saying that because very high number of kids on puberty blockers go on to CSH, that path is caused by the puberty blockers. But you have no evidence for that.

The far more plausible explanation is that the figures related to Tavistock, where a very very small percentage of children were prescribed puberty blockers in the first place, and only after very lengthy waiting periods.

So puberty blockers prescribed to kids with the most extreme gender dysphoria, and whose dysphoria persisted for the many years they were on waiting lists. In other words, precisely the characteristics that point to gender dysphoria continuing into adulthood.

I didn’t say it was ‘caused’ by them. I’m describing the situation as it is.

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:47

Myalternate · 20/08/2026 12:42

The question isn’t as ridiculous as it appears.
We’ve had many TIM on this forum before and they have insisted that by taking PB’s and then onto X-sex hormones, they have gone through a female puberty.

Were they wrong?

The post you were referring to was solely about puberty blockers. No one claims that puberty blockers changes anyone's sex. So the premise of the question is entirely ridiculous.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 20/08/2026 12:47

Key things that happen in puberty includes;

  • Bone development: Puberty is a major period for building bone mass. A large proportion of adult bone density is established during adolescence, which affects the risk of osteoporosis and fractures later in life.
  • Muscle and physical development: Sex hormones contribute to muscle, strength and changes in body composition.
  • Reproductive development: The reproductive system matures and fertility becomes possible.
  • Brain development: Puberty hormones interact with the developing brain and contribute to changes in emotional regulation, behaviour and cognition.
  • Cardiovascular and metabolic development: Puberty helps establish adult patterns of body fat, blood pressure and metabolism.
  • Growth: The pubertal growth spurt and eventual closure of the growth plates are hormonally regulated.

I do find it weird that people think they can just block puberty and it’s not detrimental. I know nothing about the Pride videos or images discussed and whether that could indicate that puberty blockers are causing health problems, are the kids this has been done to even old enough for any negative effects to be showing? This madness was pretty recent wasn’t it? Common sense tells us this is very bad for the body long term though.

I use HRT and am in my fifties and my body has completely seized up, I wouldn’t actively wish this on anyone.

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:46

BackToLurk · 18/08/2026 15:54

"Because there is a lot of evidence that transitioning - whether social, medical or surgical - can benefit some people with gender dysphoria" (my emphasis)

And there we have an obvious issue @ConveyancingHelll. You, and others, are advocating placing children onto a lifelong pathway of medical treatment that may benefit them. How can you identify who will benefit from medical transition? Particularly as most trans activists have given up the pretence that puberty blockers are any kind of pause button to see how it goes, and are rather the first step on an inevitable journey toward more and more medical intervention.

That's not true, though.

There is nothing about puberty blockers that inevitably leads to further transition.

You are conflating causation and correlation - saying that because very high number of kids on puberty blockers go on to CSH, that path is caused by the puberty blockers. But you have no evidence for that.

The far more plausible explanation is that the figures related to Tavistock, where a very very small percentage of children were prescribed puberty blockers in the first place, and only after very lengthy waiting periods.

So puberty blockers prescribed to kids with the most extreme gender dysphoria, and whose dysphoria persisted for the many years they were on waiting lists. In other words, precisely the characteristics that point to gender dysphoria continuing into adulthood.

Myalternate · 20/08/2026 12:42

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:28

What a ridiculous question. No one claims that puberty blockers changes anyone's sex.

The question isn’t as ridiculous as it appears.
We’ve had many TIM on this forum before and they have insisted that by taking PB’s and then onto X-sex hormones, they have gone through a female puberty.

Were they wrong?

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:42

Maaate · 18/08/2026 15:47

also know that the decision to proceed to cross sex hormones is a decision taken by competent adults, rather than some inevitable consequence of puberty blockers

What competent adults? You can't mean the individual that has had their puberty (i.e. the developmental process where a child becomes an adult) blocked so perhaps you mean the ones who facilitated it?

Yes. Adults who have previously been on puberty blockers are adults and there is zero evidence to support your implication that they lack capacity to consent to medical treatment.

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:41

murasaki · 18/08/2026 15:45

But wouldn't counselling to accept their actual sex be a safer option?

Also known as conversion therapy.

Of course trans kids should have access to talking therapy. But if gender dysphoria persists into early stages of puberty, by 10-13, then no - using talking therapy to either convert them to being non-trans, or more benignly using talking therapy in place of medical treatment that can avoid significant distress is not always going to be the 'safer' option.

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:37

Shedmistress · 18/08/2026 13:23

I'd love someone to give the opposite evidence.

I was 42 when my body stopped producing estrogen and I could not walk up the stairs by the age of 49, even though my daily job was 'head gardener' and I did probably 40,000 steps, weighed down with equipment, doing digging, shovelling, moving trays of plants etc etc all day every day. If I hadn't finally got HRT I doubt Id be walking now.

To suggest that stopping girls from getting the correct bone strengthening hormones in their teens will not have a detrimental effect on their bones in their 20s is utterly ludicrous.

Sometimes, you have to just realise what it is you are looking at. If you look at that and think 'how nice disabled people are getting out of the house' then that's your decision to make.

The 'opposite evidence' can't exist.

Because just as you cannot know a person's medical history just by looking at a picture of them, neither can I or anyone else.

The only difference is that you are the one claiming that you can and do know their medical history. I'm not brazen enough to come out with such nonsense.

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:35

Imdunfer · 18/08/2026 10:58

Not at all. I am on no social media except this one. I am able to read every paper from every political viewpoint. I'm able to look up research. I subscribe widely outside my own experience so that I never get stuck in an echo chamber. The knowledge and news of the entire world is at my fingertips.

So can you point me to where I'm missing these hoards of children and young people in wheelchairs and on crutches due to having taken puberty blockers?

What the poster is referring to is the increasingly common tendancy by some to post pictures of people at Pride who have some indication of disability, such as a walking stick, and wonder aloud about why 'so many' seem to have.

Usually it's been presented as some sort of implication that they are 'making it up' to appear cool. This is the first time I've seen anyone claim that they were all on puberty blockers and that is why they have some disability.

It's nonsense, of course. The poster has zero knowledge of any of these people's medical history. They have made multiple groundless associations - first that the people in the pictures are or were gender dysphoric; second, that they sought and received treatment; third, that that treatment was in the form of puberty blockers; and fourth, that those puberty blockers caused these assorted disabilities.

In other words, it is all made up.

Not because there aren't examples of disabled people at pride, but because the poster has made up the reason why those people are disabled.

ConveyancingHelll · 20/08/2026 12:28

BunnyBunbunbun · 18/08/2026 10:37

Can you present some established evidence that shows that puberty blockers do work and they do in fact change the sex of the child taking them?

What a ridiculous question. No one claims that puberty blockers changes anyone's sex.

Imdunfer · 19/08/2026 09:18

Cantunseeit · 19/08/2026 09:08

Specifically, the author discusses the numbers lost to follow up (approx 60%) even in some short term studies. This makes claims of a vanishingly low regret rate impossible to substantiate.

I consider the blocking of research to establish regret rates to be the second worst piece of villainy of the trans activists, the first being advocacy for the use of puberty blockers.

Cantunseeit · 19/08/2026 09:08

Specifically, the author discusses the numbers lost to follow up (approx 60%) even in some short term studies. This makes claims of a vanishingly low regret rate impossible to substantiate.

Imdunfer · 19/08/2026 08:55

NotBadConsidering · 18/08/2026 23:26

This is incredibly naive.

The Pathways researchers are fully aware that the trial they propose will:

Sterilise and make infertile its participants.
Cause osteoporosis/penia of uncertain severity.
Cause a failure of sexual development and subsequent sexual function.
Have an unknown effect on the developing brain of its participants.

The idea that severe osteoporosis outcomes would be the straw that breaks the ethical camel’s back on this trial proceeding is tragically laughable.

Then we will have to disagree about the impact that significant numbers of young people in wheelchairs due to puberty blocking would have.

NotBadConsidering · 18/08/2026 23:26

Imdunfer · 18/08/2026 15:01

We disagree.

If that data has been collected and analysed (there is no evidence that it has) and a correlation has been shown to exist between a significant number of cases of mobility difficulties resulting in wheelchair, crutch and frame use at a very young age due to osteoporosis caused by puberty blockers and if that data was released to Cass, then I do not believe that the puberty blocker trial could possibly get through an ethics committee for approval.

Edited

This is incredibly naive.

The Pathways researchers are fully aware that the trial they propose will:

Sterilise and make infertile its participants.
Cause osteoporosis/penia of uncertain severity.
Cause a failure of sexual development and subsequent sexual function.
Have an unknown effect on the developing brain of its participants.

The idea that severe osteoporosis outcomes would be the straw that breaks the ethical camel’s back on this trial proceeding is tragically laughable.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 18/08/2026 16:48

Has anyone on the pro-cosmetic gender "alignment" side clarified yet whether trans children are:

a) children of one sex with a deep and persistent belief they should have been the opposite sex, so deep and persistent that the only humane treatment is to force their developing body into the best rough facsimile of the appearance of the opposite sex we can

Or

b) children who actually are, in a genuine deep mental way, the opposite sex because sex for all of us is as much physical as mental, and for those with this DSD causing mismatch of the mind and body there is no cure for the objective fact that they really do have a mismatched sex in the mind and the body, but the more we can realign the faulty body expression of opposite sex towards the true sex of the mind, the happier the person?

Shedmistress · 18/08/2026 16:41

Imdunfer · 18/08/2026 14:48

Please point out my "wild TRA nonsense" whenever you manage to find any.

I'm still waiting for someone to point to even one video that supports the wild nonsense that was posted earlier today that nobody but me questioned.

I did used to provide links to the evidence...for the first decade of this 'argument'. Which the person in discussion would then completely ignore so when I last changed computers I stopped saving photos and links. But again you can go just watch a Trans PRIDE march yourself.

BackToLurk · 18/08/2026 15:54

"Because there is a lot of evidence that transitioning - whether social, medical or surgical - can benefit some people with gender dysphoria" (my emphasis)

And there we have an obvious issue @ConveyancingHelll. You, and others, are advocating placing children onto a lifelong pathway of medical treatment that may benefit them. How can you identify who will benefit from medical transition? Particularly as most trans activists have given up the pretence that puberty blockers are any kind of pause button to see how it goes, and are rather the first step on an inevitable journey toward more and more medical intervention.

Maaate · 18/08/2026 15:47

also know that the decision to proceed to cross sex hormones is a decision taken by competent adults, rather than some inevitable consequence of puberty blockers

What competent adults? You can't mean the individual that has had their puberty (i.e. the developmental process where a child becomes an adult) blocked so perhaps you mean the ones who facilitated it?

murasaki · 18/08/2026 15:45

ConveyancingHelll · 18/08/2026 15:43

Because there is a lot of evidence that transitioning - whether social, medical or surgical - can benefit some people with gender dysphoria, and that process is much harder if they have gone through puberty in their natal sex, aside from the significant distress that a trans girl might feel at going through puberty to develop masculine features.

But wouldn't counselling to accept their actual sex be a safer option?

ConveyancingHelll · 18/08/2026 15:43

Howlerhog · 18/08/2026 14:50

What’s the point in them at all though. It’s just helping someone PRETEND to be the opposite sex more realistically. You still cannot change sex. Why bother trying?

Because there is a lot of evidence that transitioning - whether social, medical or surgical - can benefit some people with gender dysphoria, and that process is much harder if they have gone through puberty in their natal sex, aside from the significant distress that a trans girl might feel at going through puberty to develop masculine features.

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