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terrifying, dangerous, abusive "advice" on r/transgenderuk

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mardirousse · 16/08/2026 20:38

https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1vo4oqz/hypothetical_situation/.

Dad wants to prevent his effeminate 15 year old boy from developing an adam's apple or deep voice, so "hypothetically" asks if he could back and forth to France for puberty blockers.

gets loads of "support", told he's a wonderful father, advised to put the lad on diy estrogen instead as it's more appropriate "at that age" (15!).

Surely platforms can't allow this, legally! it's so dangerous. I'm really upset. His poor little lad.

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ColorMeSurprised · 17/08/2026 10:47

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tell me you’re incandescent with rage at the grift being over without telling me…..

NotBadConsidering · 17/08/2026 10:39

It’s pretty hilarious that someone who has manufactured a new account just to post their outrage at people raising concerns about safeguarding is now claiming “manufactured outrage”.

FlatCatYellowMat · 17/08/2026 10:34

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 17/08/2026 10:06

I strongly suggest you read the recent scientific studies showing that puberty blockers are safe, rather than transphobia.

Why on earth does this even concern you? There are so few trans children, and you have no idea how they think or feel.

I'm the mother of someone who's trans. I know that doctors, parents and trans people are the only ones with relevant opinions about blockers. It has literally nothing to do with you, or most other people here.

How much time do you devote to actually helping children versus reading transphobia? Such a weird thing to do.

Almost no medication is 'safe' what it is is 'safe compared to what you're trying to treat'

Since growing up without intervention is totally safe, you have to threaten people with the idea of suicide in order to justify the risk of puberty blockers - they are so dangerous, that the only way they can be justified to treat gender dysmorphia is death.

(PBs for precocious puberty are weighed carefully about the extremely serious outcomes of early puberty, and, importantly are only used for a short time, and then normal puberty is allowed to proceed - they are non undertaken lightly either)

CarotidFartery · 17/08/2026 10:34

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 17/08/2026 10:06

I strongly suggest you read the recent scientific studies showing that puberty blockers are safe, rather than transphobia.

Why on earth does this even concern you? There are so few trans children, and you have no idea how they think or feel.

I'm the mother of someone who's trans. I know that doctors, parents and trans people are the only ones with relevant opinions about blockers. It has literally nothing to do with you, or most other people here.

How much time do you devote to actually helping children versus reading transphobia? Such a weird thing to do.

This is a weird take.

That's like insisting that there is no legitimate wider interest in what drugs we use for morning sickness (thalidomide anyone)

Or no wider legitimate discussion in other potenially ethically contentious areas of medicine such as assisted dying or abortion or cosmetic surgery or life support or organ donation or or or.

Society has every right to take an interest in wider discussions about Healthcare, science, medical treatments even when they have no specific direct experience or link. Especially when wider societal shifts are taking place and even more especially when vulnerable people and children are the most impacted.

You cannot demand no one except those with a life limiting disease gets to take about palliative care and no one but those who smoke or have lung cancer can discuss legislation on smoking.

In fact you can't stop people discussing and being concerned about anything they choose. And it is weird you should want to or think you can tbh.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/08/2026 10:33

FlatCatYellowMat · 17/08/2026 10:30

Christ - OK- I've read it.

It doesn't 'debunk' it - it quibbles with it - eg. is a 'visit' the same as a 'treatment', tries to invoke surveillance bias - when both the treated and un-treated youths were under observation. The criticism continues with the index date being when someone walked into the clinic - not when 'treatment started' (clearly they don't consider treating co-morbid psychiatric symptoms as 'treatment)

He's very miffed that specialised psychiatric treatment is treated as a binary thing (either you did, or you didn't have treatment), rather than graded levels of required contact (ie. the idea that just being referred to a psychiatrist indicates anything if the psychiatrist then goes on to give them the all clear - and note, he doesn't say any psychiatrist did give them the all clear, just that they might have, and that's why he doesn't like the did/didn't have contact as a measurement) - btw this is a limitation freely admitted in the original study, and previous psychiatric treatment was indeed accounted for.

Then does some misdirection by using an analogy comparing people with cancer to the general population (the better - although still imperfect - analogy would be people with a lump, and oncology visits split in to lumps that turned out to be cancer and didn't turn out to be cancer).

Then he decides that it's highly likely that it's the review writer herself who's clearly causing the psychiatric issues in the patients.

He doesn't refute anything in fact - but just waves his hands at possibilities - eg the time from a patient walking into the clinic to getting a prescription - he says can be much longer than the 2 years the study covered - but doesn't say what the average is. He clearly didn't read the study, which clearly said that it wasn't a solid '2 years' but:

Psychiatric treatment, excluding gender identity assessments and appointments with a multi-disciplinary team therein, subsequent to the index contact was defined as continuing two years or more after the index contact, to allow time for the gender identity assessment and potential medical GR initiation

So basically, he (or ChatGPT) read the doc and looked for any possible cracks to exploit, but didn't read it very well, and avoided actually giving any concrete evidence against it.

Oh, and he literally attempts to discredit it by saying the journal it was published in wasn't very good, so I think we're allowed to criticise him as a source of knowledge in return

Thank you for the clarity.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/08/2026 10:32

Gender affirming medicine is awful. It's forcing children's bodies to match social stereotypes of gender. It's as misguided and cruel as sending unmarried mothers away to give birth in secrecy and shame because they don't fit society's rules.

The whole thing is a contradiction.

On the one hand, trans people prove that personalities (or in cult language, ones "gender") are not set by body sex.

But on the other, one has to transition to be the "right" sex for ones personality even though ones very existence proves there is no such thing.

If only these people who claim to care about trans children put as much effort into a society that accepts all personalities as fine for either sex as they do into literally medicalising children because they have the "wrong" body, how much better the world would be 😥

Oh - but that would take away the sleight of hand that allows a trans identifying man to claim his "womanly mind" makes it not just ok but absolutely essential that his male body be accepted in woman-only provisions alongside female ones rather than with other male bodies. Because of his mind. 🙄

BackToLurk · 17/08/2026 10:30

Shedmistress · 17/08/2026 10:25

Sure. If you are all for it then at least be honest with yourself.

Yea. On balance, I think if I was going to join a cult, I'd prefer to join the one that wasn't trying to justify sterilising children.

FlatCatYellowMat · 17/08/2026 10:30

Christ - OK- I've read it.

It doesn't 'debunk' it - it quibbles with it - eg. is a 'visit' the same as a 'treatment', tries to invoke surveillance bias - when both the treated and un-treated youths were under observation. The criticism continues with the index date being when someone walked into the clinic - not when 'treatment started' (clearly they don't consider treating co-morbid psychiatric symptoms as 'treatment)

He's very miffed that specialised psychiatric treatment is treated as a binary thing (either you did, or you didn't have treatment), rather than graded levels of required contact (ie. the idea that just being referred to a psychiatrist indicates anything if the psychiatrist then goes on to give them the all clear - and note, he doesn't say any psychiatrist did give them the all clear, just that they might have, and that's why he doesn't like the did/didn't have contact as a measurement) - btw this is a limitation freely admitted in the original study, and previous psychiatric treatment was indeed accounted for.

Then does some misdirection by using an analogy comparing people with cancer to the general population (the better - although still imperfect - analogy would be people with a lump, and oncology visits split in to lumps that turned out to be cancer and didn't turn out to be cancer).

Then he decides that it's highly likely that it's the review writer herself who's clearly causing the psychiatric issues in the patients.

He doesn't refute anything in fact - but just waves his hands at possibilities - eg the time from a patient walking into the clinic to getting a prescription - he says can be much longer than the 2 years the study covered - but doesn't say what the average is. He clearly didn't read the study, which clearly said that it wasn't a solid '2 years' but:

Psychiatric treatment, excluding gender identity assessments and appointments with a multi-disciplinary team therein, subsequent to the index contact was defined as continuing two years or more after the index contact, to allow time for the gender identity assessment and potential medical GR initiation

So basically, he (or ChatGPT) read the doc and looked for any possible cracks to exploit, but didn't read it very well, and avoided actually giving any concrete evidence against it.

Oh, and he literally attempts to discredit it by saying the journal it was published in wasn't very good, so I think we're allowed to criticise him as a source of knowledge in return

Cantunseeit · 17/08/2026 10:29

Many posters on this board have gender questioning or trans identifying children or family members. Investigating the evidence base for so-called “gender affirming care” reveals bunting quantities of red flags.

Recent legal proceedings have revealed further evidence that undermines the claims of organisations such as WPATH. These claims underpin the whole gravy train promoting the creation of lifelong medical patients out of physically healthy children. Who benefits from that?

Posters here are concerned with safeguarding vulnerable children and young adults by exposing the medical scandal that has harmed so many.

ColorMeSurprised · 17/08/2026 10:26

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Shedmistress · 17/08/2026 10:25

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Sure. If you are all for it then at least be honest with yourself.

CarotidFartery · 17/08/2026 10:24

Icelandicnights · 17/08/2026 08:52

And the unregulated industry is growing as a consequence thanks to the anti trans movement.

Is that like saying that the use of heroin is on the rise due to the anti drugs movement?

Or the use of knifes is on the rise due to the anti gangs movement?

Or the use of cigarettes is on the rise due to the anti smoking movement?

It makes no sense at all.

ColorMeSurprised · 17/08/2026 10:23

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Igneococcus · 17/08/2026 10:20

I strongly suggest you read the recent scientific studies showing that puberty blockers are safe, rather than transphobia.

Why is the NHS is doing a trial on puberty blockers if the data is already available?

niyre · 17/08/2026 10:19

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the grift is over and you know it, which is why you lot always sound so hysterical when you come over here from Reddit with your evidence free rants. What you’re advocating for is the unregulated abuse of minors.

ColorMeSurprised · 17/08/2026 10:19

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Shedmistress · 17/08/2026 10:17

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That age old 'narrow blinkered viewpoint' of not wanting children mutilated and sterilised. What monsters!

Shedmistress · 17/08/2026 10:16

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 17/08/2026 10:06

I strongly suggest you read the recent scientific studies showing that puberty blockers are safe, rather than transphobia.

Why on earth does this even concern you? There are so few trans children, and you have no idea how they think or feel.

I'm the mother of someone who's trans. I know that doctors, parents and trans people are the only ones with relevant opinions about blockers. It has literally nothing to do with you, or most other people here.

How much time do you devote to actually helping children versus reading transphobia? Such a weird thing to do.

You say you are the mother of someone who says they are the opposite sex.

The way you go after people who are also parents of children caught up in this makes me think otherwise.

ColorMeSurprised · 17/08/2026 10:15

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niyre · 17/08/2026 10:15

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 17/08/2026 10:06

I strongly suggest you read the recent scientific studies showing that puberty blockers are safe, rather than transphobia.

Why on earth does this even concern you? There are so few trans children, and you have no idea how they think or feel.

I'm the mother of someone who's trans. I know that doctors, parents and trans people are the only ones with relevant opinions about blockers. It has literally nothing to do with you, or most other people here.

How much time do you devote to actually helping children versus reading transphobia? Such a weird thing to do.

child safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility.

Shedmistress · 17/08/2026 10:14

mardirousse · 17/08/2026 10:13

Are you serious? child abuse is EVERYONE's concern. The boy is 15 and his dad is looking into blocking normal puberty, against medical guidelines.

Might now be the time to quote a stat finding from Hannah Barnes' book Time to think where children in GIDS were ten times, that is the number 10, more likely to have a registered sex offender as a parent.

Shedmistress · 17/08/2026 10:13

Icelandicnights · 17/08/2026 09:58

Please point to what she says is false & provide supporting evidence then?

You can't can you? That's why you are resorting to character assassination.

The first bit of your false assertion is that Erin is 'she'.

Everything he does is hitched to this lie, and he will do anything to keep it that way.

mardirousse · 17/08/2026 10:13

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 16/08/2026 23:13

It has absolutely nothing to do with you. His child is trans, and he's trying to help her access care which would pause puberty, giving her time to grow up and decide if she wants to proceed with transition.

I wouldn't condone him doing it without medical supervision, because not every trans kid is suitable. They aren't handed out like Smarties at gender clinics.

Puberty blockers have been used for decades on cis children experiencing precocious puberty - and they're still being given now. It's a proven medication.

Leave the poor family alone, and maybe reflect on the damage done to trans children by anti-trans activism. This dad is trying to save his child's life because she's been denied even the basics of care here. Trans kids don't even get proper counselling despite being in deep distress and suffering horrendous bullying.

There are kids dying all over the world, why not try saving them instead? This one has a parent who loves them. Even if he doesn't succeed, that child has a massively increased chance of making it to adulthood because she knows her dad loves her.

Are you serious? child abuse is EVERYONE's concern. The boy is 15 and his dad is looking into blocking normal puberty, against medical guidelines.

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