Hi! This is my first (and likely only) time posting. I don't know where else I can post this without being called "hateful."
I'm a young woman from Pennsylvania, United States, and I am currently living in Chicago temporarily to complete a mental-health recovery day program, notably for my extensive trauma history.
The program subsidizes housing (which I desperately need, no other affordable options), but the issue is that the program has complete oversight as it relates to apartment/room placement---and I was placed in an apartment with a trans-identified male (who I will call "L") without my prior knowledge or consent. Like I mentioned previously, I have extensive trauma history which includes sexual violence, of which the perpetrator was a trans-identified male.
Naturally I was horrified to find out I would be sharing a direct living space with L, who, on my first night, I caught filming fetish content (suggestively dancing wearing animal ears + tail). I brought my concern initially to the housing coordinator as soon as I found out who I was sharing the unit with, and all she said was "L has been here for a while and has never had any issues, so would you be okay with just getting through until Monday?" At first, I felt I'd just grin and bear it, I mean, if L leaves me alone it should be fine, I guess? But then the filming happened in the living room and I immediately felt unsafe.
Today, I brought up my concerns yet again, this time with the program director. Her response was even worse, "Well, we couldn't have told you that L is transgender, that's personal information--and "she" identifies as a woman, so she IS ONE. We'll address the filming, but we can't move you to another apartment" (well, they COULD move me to another apartment, but in that case I would have to have a direct roommate, like, in my bedroom, which I'm also deeply uncomfortable with).
I calmly explained that this program is meant to be trauma-informed, and that I am simply looking out for myself as it relates to my PTSD symptoms and more importantly my safety. I do not care what L does in his private time nor what he chooses to "identify" as, I just do not feel comfortable in any way, shape, or form sharing a living space with him.
And to that, I was just given a metaphorical slap on the wrist for "misgendering" him.
I am terrified, in a brand new city hundreds of miles from home, and no one is listening to me. I don't really have anyone I can go to for advice on this, so here I am. I hope you can accept me from the United States and just give me even a sliver of advice on how to proceed. I would really appreciate it.