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UK radical feminists; what to do?

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RealRoseCritic · 29/07/2026 15:19

So there was a question earlier today in one of my groups about TERFs in the UK, why are they so strong there, etc. Let me elaborate on something.

There is something special in mainstream British feminism that is quite different from European feminism(s), but since the English speaking internet concerns mostly the Anglosphere and not Europe, due to us having separate, isolated debates in each country/language, you won't likely ever hear how the UK is substantially different.
It is important to understand the logic of British feminism. Unlike European feminism, which is mostly inclusive and focused on stuff like equal pay, care, safe design of public space and general equity, in the UK it was always about "separate but equal".

British centres of power were always men-only, and many British feminists didn't react the way European women did (aka pushed their way into male spaces, so that these became co-ed spaces), but created their own, separate spaces, which they then aggressively policed the same way British men did with theirs. Add some Victorian prudishness and bioessentialism, that was abandoned in Europe after WWII for obvious reasons, but not in the UK, and voilà, here come British second-wave radfems and the TERFs.

I am from the Czech Republic where I currently live; I lived in Norway, Poland and the Netherlands, I speak fluently multiple European languages and understand few others; I don't say that to brag, but to show my ability to do the comparative analysis, since I study the topic closely.

Out of EU member states, only in Bulgaria and Hungary are trans rights worse than in the UK at the moment, with Hungary being expected to get substantially better soon, and in neither of those two countries are trans people, and especially trans women, as demonised as in the UK.

In all EU member states transphobia comes exclusively from far right places; it is unheard of that liberals or anyone non-far right would say what is absolutely the mainstream in the UK, including Hungary and Bulgaria.
If you are saying the stuff JKR is saying, you are 100 % aligned with far right politics.

We had an attempt by a group of our far right senators to enact a bill proposal similar to what is in the UK, but the proposal was killed within a week before it could have been even voted upon in the Chamber of Deputies. Just for instance.
Scandinavian feminism is focused mostly on fair share of care and chores, German feminism focuses mostly on equal pay, Kita for everyone and the like, Polish feminism is mostly about access to abortion, Czech feminism is mostly about equal pay and safety from domestic violence - I could go on, but all in all, men are welcome to participate and the goal is to create equity for everyone, regardless of their gender. Together.
We don't get British obsession with separate spaces for women, women here are absolutely fine with the way things are, mostly because cultures in the Continent are far less prudish and overall we treat men and women as one people rather than different species.

Moreover, because of civil law rather than common law, we have different approach to legal texts and their interpretations; this makes it different too.
Not just regarding trans rights, but also regarding women's rights, I am often amazed by how much backward the UK is in so many ways compared to the EU (again, including places like Hungary, this needs to be stressed). I often see women in English-speaking debates saying things like "ugh, men" on things that actually concern problems that are specifically British and that stem mostly from both societies' tendency to separate already boys from girls, treating them differently and sexualising women in contexts we don't really see as sexual at all.

We can't really get this across the Channel, because we just don't have the power to do so. For instance Czech debate on feminism is quite isolated; it's interesting, but no more than 15 million people would ever be able to participate in it (CZ/SK) due to the language barrier, the same goes for Scandinavia (17 million), Benelux (28 million), Poland (38 million), or even DACH (95 million). It is nothing compared to half a billion people of the US, UK, CA, AU, NZ and IE that are giving tone to the worldwide debate in English.

So, if you are a British trans woman, you would do yourself a great favour if you moved to mainland Europe. You will be welcomed and cherished (for the most part).

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WrongKindOfFeminist · 02/08/2026 10:13

Gretel346 · 02/08/2026 08:11

You now describe your account of gender-critical women as an “everyday theory”, not a scientific one. Fine, but that means it is a hypothesis about women’s motives, not an established explanation. References to British cultural habits do not demonstrate that women who defend sex-based categories are driven by class envy, sexual anxiety or internalised misogyny. I do not need to invent a rival diagnosis of your motives to point out that yours is unevidenced.

Again, I never claimed 'proof'. I simply supported the likelihood based on distinctive cultural influences from other countries. To pretend my theory is totally unsupported by the self evident cultural differences points to denial as a unconscious defence mechanism that distorts objective reality to shield the mind from severe anxiety perhaps?

It is interesting but not surprising watching social constructionists denounce obvious cultural influences when convenient.

I am also happy to distinguish the substantive argument from gratuitous rhetoric. Mocking somebody’s clothes or presentation can be rude and unnecessary. I do not need to defend every expression ever used by every gender-critical person. But that does not make recognising sex an attack on femininity. A woman choosing make-up is not a stereotype; treating make-up, clothing or mannerisms as evidence that somebody is a woman is. Men should be free to be feminine and women masculine without either being told that their presentation reveals an inner sex.

Strawman. I never claimed recognising sex is an attack on femininity. I specifically said using feminine expression/presentation to mock people or claim they are 'brain washed' was.

Your point that behaviour may reflect both biology and socialisation changes nothing here. Average behavioural differences, whatever their causes, do not define reproductive sex and cannot establish that identity changes it.

Strawman. Never stated it did. You may want to reflect upon why you feel the compulsion to misrepresent uncomfortable comments.

Your analogy with religion is revealing. I can respect a religious person without professing their creed, and without reorganising material categories around it. In precisely the same way, adults should be free to identify, dress and live as they wish and should not be harassed. But respecting a person does not require everybody else to adopt that person’s beliefs about sex, or to concede that identity determines membership of every sex-based group.

Strawman. Never claimed it did.

Nor is a female boundary “supremacy”. Supremacy asserts superior status or dominion. A female category protecting privacy, dignity, fair competition, recovery from male violence or freedom of association does neither. Equal citizenship has never meant a right of admission to every group or facility.

We've done this already as in 'proportionality' & the fact GC's don't believe gender qualifies for rights balancing.

I agree that context and proportionality matter. But “proportionality” is not a magic word that completes the balancing exercise. Under section 7B of Australia’s Sex Discrimination Act, reasonableness in indirect-discrimination cases includes the extent of disadvantage, whether it can be mitigated, and whether it is proportionate to the result sought. That requires examining both sides and the available alternatives. It does not mean that gender identity prevails unless women can prove that a particular male is about to assault somebody.

Duh! Welcome to Australia!

Your material on cultural imperialism describes a theory; it does not establish that the theory explains this dispute. To do that, you would need evidence that identifiable media structures manufactured the relevant beliefs and displaced local women’s prior understanding, rather than reporting a dispute that Australian women were already having. Labelling one side “grassroots” and the other “top down” simply assumes the conclusion. Even a genuinely top-down campaign might make a true claim, while a grassroots movement might make a false one.

The evidence is no broad grass roots campaigning or public awareness from prior to the saturation of anti trans media coverage. Now if you are going to pretend mass media propaganda has no impact on public perception, history begs to differ.

www.un.org/en/hate-speech/understanding-hate-speech/hate-speech-and-real-harm

You also say that transgender is a sociological category, not a biological one, and that nobody claims reproductive sex changes. That is an important concession. But it leaves the central question unanswered: why should a sociological identity automatically displace a biological category in provision whose purpose is sex-based? The existence of transgender identities across cultures establishes that such people exist. It does not by itself establish an entitlement to membership of every opposite-sex category.

Because harms aren't a one way street & as such require balancing.
Careful, your bio realist supremacy is showing!

Recognising women as female does not reduce women to reproductive organs. It identifies the sex class historically affected by pregnancy, reproductive control, sex discrimination and male violence. Women do not cease to be cognitively equal because their sex is sometimes relevant. The sexist error was inferring intellectual inferiority from female biology, not acknowledging female biology at all.

When you centre the feminist struggle only around biological differences it kinda takes away from the bigger ongoing struggle of equality that's legitimised by the sexes commonalties. You act as if this is no longer an issue when it clearly is.

Nor does accepting some female boundaries lead logically to segregated streets, workplaces and classrooms. A mixed school can have female toilets and changing rooms. A mixed workplace can provide sex-specific intimate facilities. Male teachers and colleagues occupy regulated professional roles; that does not give them access to female facilities as fellow users. Context-specific boundaries are the opposite of universal segregation.

If the claim is male violence requires segregation then the natural conclusion is it should apply in areas where violence is most prevalent. And if you think sexual harassment & assault only occurs in toilets & change rooms at work & school I have news.

The comparison of sexual violence totals in workplaces, schools and toilets does not establish your case either. People spend incomparably more time at school and work, so raw totals do not provide equivalent risk measures. In any event, toilets and changing facilities concern privacy and dignity, not merely the statistical probability of assault.

Apart from the fact upto 90% of women know their attackers, public toilets don't rate in terms of places where sexual violence occurs. If you can show evidence where 1 in 2 of women are sexually harassed in public toilets I'd be very interested.

https://www.aihw.gov.au/family-domestic-and-sexual-violence/types-of-violence/sexual-violence

Your description of Australian exemptions is also too simple. Federal law contains several differently framed provisions concerning sport, particular accommodation and services, voluntary bodies and temporary exemptions, while state and territory laws also operate. But your acceptance of hospitals, refuges, prisons and sport is significant for another reason: it concedes that recognising sex and excluding members of the opposite sex can be legitimate. That is inconsistent with describing the principle itself as patriarchal, supremacist or the beginning of a slide into general segregation. The real dispute is where the boundary should be drawn and why.

It's not inconsistent because harm not sex is the qualifying factor.

Where harms genuinely operate in both directions, both should be specified and weighed. Private and unisex alternatives matter because they may accommodate gender identity without abolishing a communal female category. Merely asserting that public toilets have not received the same legal treatment as other settings does not demonstrate that women have no privacy or dignity interests there. Existing law is the current legal answer; it is not evidence that the policy balance is morally or politically beyond challenge.

Strawman. Never said it was beyond challenge.

I will concede one point plainly: asking whether you were “a dude” was unnecessary. Your sex cannot reliably be inferred from anonymous prose, and your argument should stand or fall independently of it. Sex realism does not require defending guesses based on writing style.

Appreciate your consistency. And I concede not all gender critical proponents are a monolith of walking inconsistencies.

Likewise, broad democratic consultation is desirable. But the absence of a large, visible campaign is not evidence of consent, and rights claims do not become legitimate only after achieving mass popularity. That principle must apply equally to the adoption of gender-identity policies and to their reconsideration.

Strawman. Never claimed rights require achieving mass popularity to be considered legitimate. My point was about no broad based grass roots activism or concerns.

The excursions into Sal Grover’s motives, crowdfunding and Rupert Murdoch remain irrelevant. If you are not offering them as reasons to reject the argument, they do not answer the argument.

What argument? That's she's a grifter & he's a champion propagandist? I believe that's self evident.

It is also difficult to maintain simultaneously that gender-critical politics dominates the media through a powerful propaganda system and that the movement’s inability to mobilise Australians proves its impotence.

Because distinctive cultural pressures matter like class & victorian vestiges as I have repeatedly said. Australia has a more distinctive focus on egalitarian culture & as such It's know for being more 'easy going' & accepting of diversity so its probably more unlikely to be less vulnerable to scaremongering propaganda campaigns.

I personally prefer change rooms not to be open as like many women find undressing in front of strangers discomforting but its not something I'm prepared to fight a battle on. Its annoying but not so much that I would consider 'oppressive' & I suspect many women don't care about single sex spaces in toilets in Australia as we aren't as precious or demanding on issues we consider as trivial.

'evidence is no broad grass roots campaigning or public awareness from prior to the saturation of anti trans media coverage.'

Thank fuck. The TRAs clearly never realised women speak to each other when no men are present.

If you'd paid attention instead of living a life that deliberately fails the Bechdel test, you may have noticed women meeting, thinking, discussing, planning, and organising.

But all that is invisible womanwork to those for whom might is right, and women mere scenery.

nicepotoftea · 02/08/2026 10:17

1984Now · 02/08/2026 10:02

Sure, the point I'm trying to make is that other than the most sensitive or anxious examples, no male was ever put upon by transmales in their toilets, showers, sports, prisons etc.
The most likely situation of distress would be boys who feel uncomfortable if individuals they deep down know to be girls are in their changing rooms, or older men who just fancy some time alone with other older men in their shed, garage or other hobby space.
The boot on the other foot, or should I say the transwoman dainty bowed stiletto heel on the throat of the woman previously unable to object...

Another example would be labelling facilities with urinals as unisex as has been done by some theatres. Men might not find this physically threatening, but they might well be embarrassed.

This choice by the theatres does, however demonstrate the logical conclusion of ‘inclusive’ policies.

1984Now · 02/08/2026 10:28

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MouseQueen · 02/08/2026 10:33

What is it with this mislebelling of thinking biology (reality) is important as 'bioessentialism'? Do any of you TRAs even know the true definition of that term, it's completely disconnected from anything to do with our feminisim.

Not that the TRA lot are interested in concrete, accurate definitions. They'd throw out the dictionary and replace it with a post-it note saying 'language is all made up anyway'.

This is one of the many reasons why I can never take any of you seriously.

Keeptoiletssafe · 02/08/2026 10:42

Gretel346 · 02/08/2026 09:00

Can you show me where your evidence comes for your bold statements 1. To 4. in regards to toilets?

  1. Making the claim that male violence justifies segregation is a door way to a very slippery slope of segregation….hence the far right cheering on this convenient caper.

That slippery slopes can change culture?

"Cultural slippery slopes work through incremental normalization, where small, acceptable shifts in behavior, language, or values gradually erode social taboos and reshape a society's baseline over time.
Unlike a sudden revolution, a cultural slippery slope operates quietly. People rarely notice the transformation while it is happening because each individual step feels too small to fight or object to. [1]
Key Mechanisms of Cultural Slopes

  • Desensitization and Habituation: When people are exposed to a new, boundary-pushing behavior or idea repeatedly, their emotional or moral shock fades. What felt radical a year ago feels ordinary today.
  • Shifting the Overton Window: The "Overton window" is the range of ideas tolerated in public discourse. Small concessions move the boundaries of this window, making previously unthinkable ideas part of mainstream conversation.
  • Incremental Precedent: Every time a society accepts a small exception or a mild boundary cross, that acceptance becomes the legal or social baseline (the precedent) used to justify the next, slightly larger step [0.6.2.]. [1]
  • Social Conformity: Humans naturally avoid social friction. As more peers, media outlets, and institutions adopt the new norm, individuals conform to avoid being ostracized or labeled outdated."
  1. Nevertheless substantially more sexual violence still occurs in schools & the workplace than public toilets so by GC logic segregation is required but no? Why?

If you have evidence that 1 out of 2 or 3 have been sexually harassed in public toilets I'd love to see it.

https://www.aihw.gov.au/family-domestic-and-sexual-violence/types-of-violence/sexual-violence

  1. Re: the comparison is between public toilets & employment/schools not spaces where exemptions in Australia already exist….And yes context matters in terms of proportionality that's why its hospitals refuges, sports & prisons who receive exemptions in Australia. Public toilets aren't because it’s not considered on the same level that requires an exemption.

The evidence? There's been no legal exemption for public toilets in Australia means there's no case law that shows it deserves it.

  1. the reason why exemptions don't exist for male teachers or work colleagues despite the exponential increase risk of harm is precisely because harms work both ways & as such rights must be balanced.

The evidence? That there's no harm from saying men shouldn't work with minors? Surely you don't need explaining what that is.

Just to give you the heads up, you are suggesting Amnesty is far right. They regularly have discussed how you need to segregate male and female toilets.

Please provide evidence that this is their official position.

That answer has no evidence, statistics or data on toilets. Your source has no mention of toilets or bathrooms. However, how you can read that document and think it doesn’t support my campaign is odd.

You can only talk in riddles not facts.

Disappointed but not surprised at your answer.

Arran2024 · 02/08/2026 10:43

Gretel346 · 02/08/2026 09:04

That's because its balancing harm that is the defining qualification not whether people 'approve' or not.

There is no attempt to "balance harm". There have been plenty of cases of trans women attacking women. Trans women are not some particularly safe demographic. They are not dolls. There is no safety for women by allowing these men full access to where women are partially dressed.

The trans community demands this access and basically puts their fingers in their ears when anyone points out offending rates.

There is no doubt that some men who dress in women's clothes are sexual fetists. Law enforcement has long known that many serious sex offenders have a side interest in cross dressing.

The attempt to paint every man who wants to dress in stockings, grow breasts etc as simply expressing some inner female gender identity simply ignores this.

There is no "balance". There is only a demand that we accept all these men.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 02/08/2026 10:47

There's a very interesting interview with Trevor Phillips (one of the architects of the EA) in today's Telegraph and his comments apply very aptly to some of our misogynistic scolders. Extract:

".. He says he failed to anticipate the strength of the trans movement in subsequent years. “It never occurred to us for one second that anybody would think of sex as anything other than biologically determined,” he says. “It was an oversight on our part that you would get the rise of a movement based in fantasy. We never imagined that there would be people peddling the fantasy that you can just make up what sex you are. And it never occurred to me that people who make decisions on these things would be engulfed by this fantasy.

He goes on to point out that :
"When I was a student, one of the things we fought for was that women could operate independently of men. Now, according to this new fantasy world, the one thing women cannot do is decide when they want to be separate from men. It’s not just outrageous, it’s insane".

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2026/08/02/trevor-phillips-london-liberals-hated-britain/

Archive link: https://archive.ph/WF0sD

nicepotoftea · 02/08/2026 10:47

Arran2024 · 02/08/2026 10:43

There is no attempt to "balance harm". There have been plenty of cases of trans women attacking women. Trans women are not some particularly safe demographic. They are not dolls. There is no safety for women by allowing these men full access to where women are partially dressed.

The trans community demands this access and basically puts their fingers in their ears when anyone points out offending rates.

There is no doubt that some men who dress in women's clothes are sexual fetists. Law enforcement has long known that many serious sex offenders have a side interest in cross dressing.

The attempt to paint every man who wants to dress in stockings, grow breasts etc as simply expressing some inner female gender identity simply ignores this.

There is no "balance". There is only a demand that we accept all these men.

Trans women are not some particularly safe demographic

thanks to Stonewall et al, they aren’t even a clearly identifiable demographic, as that would be exclusionary.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 02/08/2026 10:54

MrsOvertonsWindow · 02/08/2026 10:47

There's a very interesting interview with Trevor Phillips (one of the architects of the EA) in today's Telegraph and his comments apply very aptly to some of our misogynistic scolders. Extract:

".. He says he failed to anticipate the strength of the trans movement in subsequent years. “It never occurred to us for one second that anybody would think of sex as anything other than biologically determined,” he says. “It was an oversight on our part that you would get the rise of a movement based in fantasy. We never imagined that there would be people peddling the fantasy that you can just make up what sex you are. And it never occurred to me that people who make decisions on these things would be engulfed by this fantasy.

He goes on to point out that :
"When I was a student, one of the things we fought for was that women could operate independently of men. Now, according to this new fantasy world, the one thing women cannot do is decide when they want to be separate from men. It’s not just outrageous, it’s insane".

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2026/08/02/trevor-phillips-london-liberals-hated-britain/

Archive link: https://archive.ph/WF0sD

Thank you for this. Such an interesting read. The quotes you've selected really do hit the nail on the head.

As does this one:
"The problem is that the grown-ups in the room have turned into cowards, and they are all running away from the fantasists"

Oh yes.

Arran2024 · 02/08/2026 11:01

MrsOvertonsWindow · 02/08/2026 10:47

There's a very interesting interview with Trevor Phillips (one of the architects of the EA) in today's Telegraph and his comments apply very aptly to some of our misogynistic scolders. Extract:

".. He says he failed to anticipate the strength of the trans movement in subsequent years. “It never occurred to us for one second that anybody would think of sex as anything other than biologically determined,” he says. “It was an oversight on our part that you would get the rise of a movement based in fantasy. We never imagined that there would be people peddling the fantasy that you can just make up what sex you are. And it never occurred to me that people who make decisions on these things would be engulfed by this fantasy.

He goes on to point out that :
"When I was a student, one of the things we fought for was that women could operate independently of men. Now, according to this new fantasy world, the one thing women cannot do is decide when they want to be separate from men. It’s not just outrageous, it’s insane".

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2026/08/02/trevor-phillips-london-liberals-hated-britain/

Archive link: https://archive.ph/WF0sD

Interesting, thanks. I also read recently somewhere that gender neutral everything is a common theme in early science fiction and people's ideas about what the future would look like in the middle 29th century. Everyone would be wearing Star Trek like clothes, women would be doing "men's" jobs (though never men going the chores!), and everyone would use the same facilities.

It's as if some people thought this was the logical progression for society and aimed for it and, as it's "progress", it must be good.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 02/08/2026 11:02

GreyskySexRealistsky · 02/08/2026 10:54

Thank you for this. Such an interesting read. The quotes you've selected really do hit the nail on the head.

As does this one:
"The problem is that the grown-ups in the room have turned into cowards, and they are all running away from the fantasists"

Oh yes.

Yes. It's a shame that those involved failed to speak up from the outset. It would have been very powerful if they'd confirmed that "We never imagined that there would be people peddling the fantasy that you can just make up what sex you are" and may have given many parliamentarians the confidence to stand up to the relentless bullying and intimidation from the trans mob.

Keeptoiletssafe · 02/08/2026 11:16

nicepotoftea · 02/08/2026 10:17

Another example would be labelling facilities with urinals as unisex as has been done by some theatres. Men might not find this physically threatening, but they might well be embarrassed.

This choice by the theatres does, however demonstrate the logical conclusion of ‘inclusive’ policies.

Yes. As has just been said, no one thought sex was anything other than biological sex so you get ludicrous situations like this. These toilets are then a problem with Building Control, various Approved Documents such as T and M, Health and Safety Executive guidance, British Standards BS6465 and the Sexual Offences Act 2003, and the Equality Act. All these would have to be looked as a starter, if this were allowed in regulations, legislation and guidance.

What you will find in these set ups is that the cubicle doors will go right down to the floor and usually right up to the ceiling. It appears the line in the sand is seeing feet (or the opportunity of the opposite sex watching you on the toilet). These design chances bring risks to health and safety, particularly for anyone at their most vulnerable.

1984Now · 02/08/2026 11:17

MrsOvertonsWindow · 02/08/2026 11:02

Yes. It's a shame that those involved failed to speak up from the outset. It would have been very powerful if they'd confirmed that "We never imagined that there would be people peddling the fantasy that you can just make up what sex you are" and may have given many parliamentarians the confidence to stand up to the relentless bullying and intimidation from the trans mob.

There was always massive pushback from PoC and indigenous peoples whenever any white person claimed they were black or Native American etc.
Rachel Dolezal and Senator Elizabeth Warren the prime examples.
And guess what, it never captured the zeitgeist.

ProfessorBinturong · 02/08/2026 11:20

nicepotoftea · 02/08/2026 08:54

When you centre the feminist struggle only around biological differences it kinda takes away from the bigger ongoing struggle of equality that's legitimised by the sexes commonalties. You act as if this is no longer an issue when it clearly is.

Not clear what your argument is here.

‘Biology’ just refers to material differences.Why would one make provision for or analyse the impact of immaterial differences? How would one identify what they are?

I can translate this one. "Feminism shouldn't centre women. Certainly not until after we've sorted the problem of male inequality."

Fimofriend · 02/08/2026 11:21

Yet another poster thinking that women or a woman saying "No" is an invitation to a negotiation. It is not.

No men in women's spaces! We don't care about your long winded mental gymnastics. No means no.

1984Now · 02/08/2026 11:31

Keeptoiletssafe · 02/08/2026 11:16

Yes. As has just been said, no one thought sex was anything other than biological sex so you get ludicrous situations like this. These toilets are then a problem with Building Control, various Approved Documents such as T and M, Health and Safety Executive guidance, British Standards BS6465 and the Sexual Offences Act 2003, and the Equality Act. All these would have to be looked as a starter, if this were allowed in regulations, legislation and guidance.

What you will find in these set ups is that the cubicle doors will go right down to the floor and usually right up to the ceiling. It appears the line in the sand is seeing feet (or the opportunity of the opposite sex watching you on the toilet). These design chances bring risks to health and safety, particularly for anyone at their most vulnerable.

Amazing, isn't it?
Policy makers would be happy to increase the medical risk to people by pushing for floor to ceiling doors in unisex installations for the "greater good" of allowing men into women's toilets.

Irkeddancer · 02/08/2026 12:04

1984Now · 31/07/2026 21:08

I find it a little sad some women would really pass on my comments, or any other men's on here, if we've left them in good faith, because we're men.
Hey, I find left progressives harder and harder work online, and TRAs in here like Masha and Gretel so wide of the mark that they've fallen over the side, but I'll still read them.

Never said I'd pass on anyone's comments, just that I don't think men will ever have anything truly original to contribute to women's conversations that isn't them recycling women's wisdom and contributions. As women we've been used to having our inputs overlooked forever, I think any grown man can handle it especially if they're genuinely supporting women's rights, that momentary sadness you feel is a blind spot of male privilege, but then even men on our side will always find a way to tell us we've made them sad if they don't feel validated enough which as GC men they should be aware of seeing in TiMs enough times.

pity party mr crabs GIF
1984Now · 02/08/2026 13:22

Irkeddancer · 02/08/2026 12:04

Never said I'd pass on anyone's comments, just that I don't think men will ever have anything truly original to contribute to women's conversations that isn't them recycling women's wisdom and contributions. As women we've been used to having our inputs overlooked forever, I think any grown man can handle it especially if they're genuinely supporting women's rights, that momentary sadness you feel is a blind spot of male privilege, but then even men on our side will always find a way to tell us we've made them sad if they don't feel validated enough which as GC men they should be aware of seeing in TiMs enough times.

It was pointed out on here that (many?) women would like it if male posters made it clear via their usernames unambiguously they were men, amongst other things so that women could choose to pass on their posts.
It's was expressed in this thread that was the case, and I fully get it. Hence my changing my username, and Bex doing the same.
Still feel the same, even though I totally get why women would pass on men's posts, it's somewhat sad.
From a social/societal point of view.

ProfessorBinturong · 02/08/2026 14:06

I don't think men will ever have anything truly original to contribute to women's conversations that isn't them recycling women's wisdom and contributions.

I disagree with that. Men can have relevant and non-recycled expertise.

They can have expertise on aspects of science or data. I believe Keeptoiletssafe is female, but if I'm wrong would her tremendous grasp of legislation and detail be any less valuable coming from a man?

And they have knowledge of male experience that can be a useful contribution to discussions. If someone claims TW can't use some sort of male facilities because [reasons about how men use or behave in that space], then men are better placed than women to say whether that characterisation of the amenity or how men use it is true or not.

And as has just come up on another thread, they can answer questions like 'can men feel their prostate?' (not with a finger, but do you have a physical awareness of it when you sit down for example, or can you feel it working?) An answer to that would definitely not be recycling women's wisdom.

1984Now · 02/08/2026 14:10

ProfessorBinturong · 02/08/2026 14:06

I don't think men will ever have anything truly original to contribute to women's conversations that isn't them recycling women's wisdom and contributions.

I disagree with that. Men can have relevant and non-recycled expertise.

They can have expertise on aspects of science or data. I believe Keeptoiletssafe is female, but if I'm wrong would her tremendous grasp of legislation and detail be any less valuable coming from a man?

And they have knowledge of male experience that can be a useful contribution to discussions. If someone claims TW can't use some sort of male facilities because [reasons about how men use or behave in that space], then men are better placed than women to say whether that characterisation of the amenity or how men use it is true or not.

And as has just come up on another thread, they can answer questions like 'can men feel their prostate?' (not with a finger, but do you have a physical awareness of it when you sit down for example, or can you feel it working?) An answer to that would definitely not be recycling women's wisdom.

I believe I've had at least one original thought in my head. On this subject. And some others. Lol.
But I'm very content to declare I've totally been schooled by women re the dangers and poisons of trans ideology.

nicepotoftea · 02/08/2026 14:14

ProfessorBinturong · 02/08/2026 14:06

I don't think men will ever have anything truly original to contribute to women's conversations that isn't them recycling women's wisdom and contributions.

I disagree with that. Men can have relevant and non-recycled expertise.

They can have expertise on aspects of science or data. I believe Keeptoiletssafe is female, but if I'm wrong would her tremendous grasp of legislation and detail be any less valuable coming from a man?

And they have knowledge of male experience that can be a useful contribution to discussions. If someone claims TW can't use some sort of male facilities because [reasons about how men use or behave in that space], then men are better placed than women to say whether that characterisation of the amenity or how men use it is true or not.

And as has just come up on another thread, they can answer questions like 'can men feel their prostate?' (not with a finger, but do you have a physical awareness of it when you sit down for example, or can you feel it working?) An answer to that would definitely not be recycling women's wisdom.

I agree.

Any argument must be able to stand on its own two feet regardless of who is making it. Men can analyse data and law as much as women can.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 02/08/2026 20:40

I'm very much loving a bunch of women discussing very seriously whether men can have rational options and produce new insights 😂it's like a reverse of all those Enlightment fellas considering whether the female mind can ever truly attain the heights of the male.

To paraphrase Samuel (Samantha) Johnson...

"Ma'am, a man's feminism is like a dog's walking on his hind legs. It is not done well; but you are surprised to find it done at all."

(This is a joke, I don't actually think it!)

Gretel346 · 03/08/2026 03:49

Keeptoiletssafe · 02/08/2026 10:42

That answer has no evidence, statistics or data on toilets. Your source has no mention of toilets or bathrooms. However, how you can read that document and think it doesn’t support my campaign is odd.

You can only talk in riddles not facts.

Disappointed but not surprised at your answer.

That answer has no evidence, statistics or data on toilets. Your source has no mention of toilets or bathrooms. However, how you can read that document and think it doesn’t support my campaign is odd.

The link is specifically regarding areas where sexual violence have been identified as a major issue in Australia so public toilets clearly don't comparatively rate as you conceded yourself by stating most victims know their perpetrators.

Still waiting for your data proving your claim there's more sexual violence in public toilets than workplace/schools/universities & that Amnesty has a women's single sex space policy….but I won't hold my breath given your track record.

Gretel346 · 03/08/2026 04:03

Imdunfer · 02/08/2026 09:18

@Gretel346

The harms you want balancing in relation to women's loos can be balanced without physical harm or risk to any party by the provision of gender neutral facilities.

Why are trans people not campaigning for this instead of for the right to use women's spaces?

The harms that I think (?) you, but certainly others, want balancing in relation to women's sport cannot be balanced. Even shooting is split by sex because males will usually outperform females due to the early impact of make sex hormones. Of all the Olympic sports only equestrian activities are not split by sex, because the horse does most of the work. But even then they had to remove the requirement for females to compete with lead weights to even up the weight advantage, because the weight advantage is necessary to balance the strength disadvantage.

In relation to balancing the harm of males being on women only shortlists for prizes and jobs, how can it ever be fair for a man who has lived until his career was well established as a male with all the male advantage that resulted in the creation of a women only shortlist, to decide he is now a woman and eligible to be on women only shortlists?

And how could it be possible to draw a line about how much male experience a person could have before being allowed on those lists? It is impossible to balance that problem.

Frankly, while I'm here, I'm sick to death of hearing the hysterical (oh the irony!). complaints about the withdrawal of trans rights.

There has been no withdrawal. There never was any right for people who are physically obviously men to use female spaces, they got turfed out on their ear. The fact that a tiny number of very feminine presenting men did it unobserved or without challenge did not make it a right any more than being able to jump the barrier and travel without a ticket on the tube is a right.

Male pattern bodies never competed in female sport, they were spotted in the changing rooms. The understanding of DSD conditions resulted in a change for those people and barred those with male advantage from women's sport. That's really sad for them, if they competed without knowing, but this has not changed trans rights.

Finally, you have zero respect for actual women, it shines through all your posts.

The harms you want balancing in relation to women's loos can be balanced without physical harm or risk to any party by the provision of gender neutral facilities.
Why are trans people not campaigning for this instead of for the right to use women's spaces?

The right to privacy (not being outed) & the right to not being discriminated as in being 'othered' are human rights that yes even trans people are entitled to.

The harms that I think (?) you, but certainly others, want balancing in relation to women's sport cannot be balanced. Even shooting is split by sex because males will usually outperform females due to the early impact of make sex hormones. Of all the Olympic sports only equestrian activities are not split by sex, because the horse does most of the work. But even then they had to remove the requirement for females to compete with lead weights to even up the weight advantage, because the weight advantage is necessary to balance the strength disadvantage.

Depends on the individual circumstances & many factors like age, sport, competency level & physical advantage from male puberty whether there is any disadvantage to females. There might be circumstances like 6/7 year olds playing team soccer at the same competency level & size where there may be no disadvantage or it maybe much older where safety & male pubertal advantage causes a disadvantage. The details matter.

In relation to balancing the harm of males being on women only shortlists for prizes and jobs, how can it ever be fair for a man who has lived until his career was well established as a male with all the male advantage that resulted in the creation of a women only shortlist, to decide he is now a woman and eligible to be on women only shortlists?

The whole point of proportionality is to balance rights for potential disadvantages so I'm not sure what your problem is here as people can file for a discrimination claim against their employer in such scenarios.

Finally, you have zero respect for actual women, it shines through all your posts.

I could make the exact claim about you…the difference being I'm right.

Igneococcus · 03/08/2026 06:49

The right to privacy (not being outed) & the right to not being discriminated as in being 'othered' are human rights that yes even trans people are entitled to.

It's entirely possible that I don't fully understand what people mean with "othered", but transwomen aren't women, they are "other", and really, any man claiming to be a woman "outs" himself. We are not blind and deaf and gullible in the extreme.