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AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 09:54

Those stereotypes may influence how dysphoria is expressed, but they are not generally understood to be its underlying cause

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We don't have the scientific understanding to explain why some people have gender dysphoria

You are all over the shop @Sunnibee

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 09:56

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 09:52

I didn't say it was 'stupid'. Why do you think Cass's example is stupid?

Maybe I just don't understand how you have presented it. This is nonsensical- although of course I don't believe Cass wrote it. "He is not even that elusive creature the 'truly trans' child with the magical internal feeling."

What is it that you want me to comment on?

I agree that assessment processes should have robust safeguarding procedures to ensure parents aren't pushing this on a child because they have FDA or some such.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 09:57

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 09:54

Those stereotypes may influence how dysphoria is expressed, but they are not generally understood to be its underlying cause

Next post:
We don't have the scientific understanding to explain why some people have gender dysphoria

You are all over the shop @Sunnibee

Thank you for your productive engagement ,

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 09:59

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 09:56

Maybe I just don't understand how you have presented it. This is nonsensical- although of course I don't believe Cass wrote it. "He is not even that elusive creature the 'truly trans' child with the magical internal feeling."

What is it that you want me to comment on?

I agree that assessment processes should have robust safeguarding procedures to ensure parents aren't pushing this on a child because they have FDA or some such.

This is what Cass wrote about 'Jo'. You said Jo was a stupid example. Why is it stupid?

“There was considerable discomfort in the House and more widely on social media about my account of ‘Jo’, a biologically male child who was socially transitioned to a girl at 2½ and presented at around 10-11 afraid to go to secondary school for fear of being ‘outed’, later retreating to their bedroom and developing weak bones due to inactivity. ‘Jo’ is not a specific case, but represents a group of similar children being seen in the new services, and previously at the Tavistock. Although social transition is usually later (from 4 onwards), I was told during the Review about children who had been transitioned at Jo’s age and younger. “I have been asked why safeguarding procedures would not have been initiated when ‘Jo’ was a toddler, but these children are frequently living in stealth (i.e. those around them do not know their biological sex) and do not come to medical attention until much later as puberty looms. A male child who has socially transitioned at 4 and presents at 11 will have next to no recollection of being a boy. They are not making a decision to be a girl – by that time they just believe themselves to be a girl and have no frame of reference to think differently. Even with input from the very skilled therapists in the new services, encouraging them to think more flexibly about their identity is rarely successful, regardless of what their natural trajectory would have been if they had not been socially transitioned at that very early stage.”

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 10:00

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 09:57

Thank you for your productive engagement ,

Pointing out inconsistences is productive.

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:12

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 09:40

Gender' only exists in social contexts because it is predicated on how people perceive and attribute certain characteristics based on one's sex.
Yes
The problem is not one's sex - but one's feelings about it based on what one thinks is expected because of it.

I don't think that's quite right.
These feelings aren’t caused by what someone thinks is expected of their sex. Gender dysphoria isn’t about believing “boys should like football” or “girls should wear pink.”
It's a deep-seated, embodied sense that one’s body or sex category is wrong. The distress isn’t produced by stereotypes; it’s about the body/ sex itself.

A child may hate the colour pink, prefer football to netball, and have no interest whatsoever in conventionally feminine things. Yet every day they may still beg to wear a pink dress and play netball—not because they enjoy those things, but because doing so allows them to be recognised by others as the girl they feel themselves to be. The pink dress isn’t the cause of the dysphoria; it’s an attempt to alleviate it.

So yes we could eliminate the idea that certain colours or sports are for boys and girls (and we definitely should because gender stereotypes suck). But there’s no reason to think that eliminating those stereotypes would eliminate gender dysphoria, because those stereotypes weren’t what caused it in the first place.

There is, however, a more philosophically interesting argument. If sex categories themselves had absolutely no social meaning or consequence, perhaps gender dysphoria would disappear because there would be no meaningful category in which to feel misplaced. I can see the logic in that.

Even then, though, people would still have different bodies, and many people with gender dysphoria experience profound distress about those physical characteristics themselves. And in any case, the premise is entirely hypothetical. Sex categories exist because human beings are sexually dimorphic. Those biological differences have significant social consequences—for example, only some people become pregnant. It isn’t realistic to imagine a society that simply doesn’t notice or attach any significance to those differences.

So no, I don’t think it’s accurate to say that gender dysphoria can be “cured” by abolishing gender stereotypes. Those stereotypes may influence how dysphoria is expressed, but they are not generally understood to be its underlying cause

I explained in an earlier post how I've heard people talk about how their feelings of distress about their body were exactly the same when they were suffering from the distress of anorexia, as when they then went on to labelling those feelings as 'gender dysphoria'. The distress and discomfort had the same depth and intensity.

The only difference between the two was the language/symbolism and the 'solutions' surrounding those two episodes of distress. One was housed in the language of food control and restriction and the other housed in the language of 'gender' and the solution was to suppress bodily processes through use of drugs and the elimination of certain body parts through surgery.

Throughout history people have utilised the terms of whatever the faddish condition of the day was - in order to express their distress. In Victorian times young women would be prone to fainting, and there was a widespread condition in which young women ( mainly) would become bed-ridden and unable to use their legs. Anorexia was unknown in Japan until it was introduced by American/Western agencies; and 'gender dysphoria' in children was simply not a thing until reatively recently here. I know this because I was a teacher and it just wasn't a thing - even 15 years ago. After covid there was a rapidly growing trend for young people in schools to develop Tourette's Syndrome.

We can all give examples, though, of how we struggled with our developing selves as children and how we became aware of sex based stereotypes and expectations ( and how we felt about them). Struggle with self and social expectations is in the very nature of growing up and navigating the social world.

We also know that many boys ( for whom certain forms of expression are still particularly frowned upon) start cross dressing in childhood. This is often in secret, and it is usually accompanied by strong, awakening sexual feelings and responses. Many cross dressing men have discussed this and how this habit developed ,and some have even described what the emotional motivation for cross dressing was. Many of these boys, who go on to be men, don't have particularly 'feminine' interests or preferences but they do have a compulsion to wear the clothes of the opposite sex and to fantasise about being girls or women ( as you suggest).

There used to be an organisation for Cross dressing men ( and their wives) called 'The Beaumont Society' ( originally 'Full Personality Expression') - in which men could meet up with other men at weekends and indulge freely in their cross sex imaginings - while their wives sought solace in the company of each other.This society, formed in the 1960's, is now a full on trans organisation in which the men involved now refer to themselves as women. Many have now taken what was a secret or P/T practice or habit full time and have declared trans identities. Men like Debbie Hayton have written about this, and he tells of how he even went on to have the 'full' surgery. He's still married to his wife and has children. This grouping of men now forms the bulk of male transitioners ....and many have re-invented their past to suggest that they " always knew they were trans from childhood".

Trying to block male puberty is an attempt to help a boy pass more easily as a girl and then as a woman. Something that many of these men have longed for.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:21

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 10:00

Pointing out inconsistences is productive.

What was inconsistent?

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:23

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 09:59

This is what Cass wrote about 'Jo'. You said Jo was a stupid example. Why is it stupid?

“There was considerable discomfort in the House and more widely on social media about my account of ‘Jo’, a biologically male child who was socially transitioned to a girl at 2½ and presented at around 10-11 afraid to go to secondary school for fear of being ‘outed’, later retreating to their bedroom and developing weak bones due to inactivity. ‘Jo’ is not a specific case, but represents a group of similar children being seen in the new services, and previously at the Tavistock. Although social transition is usually later (from 4 onwards), I was told during the Review about children who had been transitioned at Jo’s age and younger. “I have been asked why safeguarding procedures would not have been initiated when ‘Jo’ was a toddler, but these children are frequently living in stealth (i.e. those around them do not know their biological sex) and do not come to medical attention until much later as puberty looms. A male child who has socially transitioned at 4 and presents at 11 will have next to no recollection of being a boy. They are not making a decision to be a girl – by that time they just believe themselves to be a girl and have no frame of reference to think differently. Even with input from the very skilled therapists in the new services, encouraging them to think more flexibly about their identity is rarely successful, regardless of what their natural trajectory would have been if they had not been socially transitioned at that very early stage.”

A male child who has socially transitioned at 4 and presents at 11 will have next to no recollection of being a boy. They are not making a decision to be a girl – by that time they just believe themselves to be a girl and have no frame of reference to think differently. Even with input from the very skilled therapists in the new services, encouraging them to think more flexibly about their identity is rarely successful, regardless of what their natural trajectory would have been if they had not been socially transitioned at that very early stage

This - it contains a chain of completely unrealistic assumptions. Like this "they think they are a girl and have no frame of reference to think differently". Unless the child has been locked in a box the frame of reference is the entire rest of society. How do Cass think children learn about sex/ gender?

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:26

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 09:40

Gender' only exists in social contexts because it is predicated on how people perceive and attribute certain characteristics based on one's sex.
Yes
The problem is not one's sex - but one's feelings about it based on what one thinks is expected because of it.

I don't think that's quite right.
These feelings aren’t caused by what someone thinks is expected of their sex. Gender dysphoria isn’t about believing “boys should like football” or “girls should wear pink.”
It's a deep-seated, embodied sense that one’s body or sex category is wrong. The distress isn’t produced by stereotypes; it’s about the body/ sex itself.

A child may hate the colour pink, prefer football to netball, and have no interest whatsoever in conventionally feminine things. Yet every day they may still beg to wear a pink dress and play netball—not because they enjoy those things, but because doing so allows them to be recognised by others as the girl they feel themselves to be. The pink dress isn’t the cause of the dysphoria; it’s an attempt to alleviate it.

So yes we could eliminate the idea that certain colours or sports are for boys and girls (and we definitely should because gender stereotypes suck). But there’s no reason to think that eliminating those stereotypes would eliminate gender dysphoria, because those stereotypes weren’t what caused it in the first place.

There is, however, a more philosophically interesting argument. If sex categories themselves had absolutely no social meaning or consequence, perhaps gender dysphoria would disappear because there would be no meaningful category in which to feel misplaced. I can see the logic in that.

Even then, though, people would still have different bodies, and many people with gender dysphoria experience profound distress about those physical characteristics themselves. And in any case, the premise is entirely hypothetical. Sex categories exist because human beings are sexually dimorphic. Those biological differences have significant social consequences—for example, only some people become pregnant. It isn’t realistic to imagine a society that simply doesn’t notice or attach any significance to those differences.

So no, I don’t think it’s accurate to say that gender dysphoria can be “cured” by abolishing gender stereotypes. Those stereotypes may influence how dysphoria is expressed, but they are not generally understood to be its underlying cause

I've never said that sex based stereotypes can ever be abolished. It is inevitable they will always exist - because sex exists and because there are some essential differences between the sexes ( more generally).

What can change, though, is one's response and how one manages to adapt to and accommodate the fact that we ultimately cannot control how other people perceive us or what sex we are ( in spite of our desires or preferences). We also have to make some measure of peace with the facts of life on planet Earth - and understand that not everything is about us. We all are born into a set of conditions , many of which which we cannot change. Our sex is one of them, as is our family of origin or birth.

OldCrone · 01/08/2026 10:28

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 09:40

Gender' only exists in social contexts because it is predicated on how people perceive and attribute certain characteristics based on one's sex.
Yes
The problem is not one's sex - but one's feelings about it based on what one thinks is expected because of it.

I don't think that's quite right.
These feelings aren’t caused by what someone thinks is expected of their sex. Gender dysphoria isn’t about believing “boys should like football” or “girls should wear pink.”
It's a deep-seated, embodied sense that one’s body or sex category is wrong. The distress isn’t produced by stereotypes; it’s about the body/ sex itself.

A child may hate the colour pink, prefer football to netball, and have no interest whatsoever in conventionally feminine things. Yet every day they may still beg to wear a pink dress and play netball—not because they enjoy those things, but because doing so allows them to be recognised by others as the girl they feel themselves to be. The pink dress isn’t the cause of the dysphoria; it’s an attempt to alleviate it.

So yes we could eliminate the idea that certain colours or sports are for boys and girls (and we definitely should because gender stereotypes suck). But there’s no reason to think that eliminating those stereotypes would eliminate gender dysphoria, because those stereotypes weren’t what caused it in the first place.

There is, however, a more philosophically interesting argument. If sex categories themselves had absolutely no social meaning or consequence, perhaps gender dysphoria would disappear because there would be no meaningful category in which to feel misplaced. I can see the logic in that.

Even then, though, people would still have different bodies, and many people with gender dysphoria experience profound distress about those physical characteristics themselves. And in any case, the premise is entirely hypothetical. Sex categories exist because human beings are sexually dimorphic. Those biological differences have significant social consequences—for example, only some people become pregnant. It isn’t realistic to imagine a society that simply doesn’t notice or attach any significance to those differences.

So no, I don’t think it’s accurate to say that gender dysphoria can be “cured” by abolishing gender stereotypes. Those stereotypes may influence how dysphoria is expressed, but they are not generally understood to be its underlying cause

Gender dysphoria isn’t about believing “boys should like football” or “girls should wear pink.”
It's a deep-seated, embodied sense that one’s body or sex category is wrong. The distress isn’t produced by stereotypes; it’s about the body/ sex itself.

A child may hate the colour pink, prefer football to netball, and have no interest whatsoever in conventionally feminine things. Yet every day they may still beg to wear a pink dress and play netball—not because they enjoy those things, but because doing so allows them to be recognised by others as the girl they feel themselves to be. The pink dress isn’t the cause of the dysphoria; it’s an attempt to alleviate it.

So what we're talking about here is a little boy who hates his penis (I assume this is what you mean when you say it's about the body/sex). And because he hates his penis, this little boy thinks he's a girl? Or wants to be a girl?

Don't you think the first thing we should be looking at here is why this little boy hates this part of his body? Has he been sexually abused, for example? What is causing this little boy to (a) hate his body, specifically his penis and (b) think that this body dysmorphia means that he's a girl?

There is, however, a more philosophically interesting argument. If sex categories themselves had absolutely no social meaning or consequence, perhaps gender dysphoria would disappear because there would be no meaningful category in which to feel misplaced. I can see the logic in that.

If gender dysphoria is only about the body, and wanting to belong to the other sex category and the stereotypes of the opposite sex are just an attempt to alleviate the dysphoria (as you've stated in this post), then doing away with the social meaning or consequence of sex differences (which is, anyway, impossible) would have no effect.

Even then, though, people would still have different bodies, and many people with gender dysphoria experience profound distress about those physical characteristics themselves.

According to you (quoted above) it's not "many people with gender dysphoria", it's all of them.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:29

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:12

I explained in an earlier post how I've heard people talk about how their feelings of distress about their body were exactly the same when they were suffering from the distress of anorexia, as when they then went on to labelling those feelings as 'gender dysphoria'. The distress and discomfort had the same depth and intensity.

The only difference between the two was the language/symbolism and the 'solutions' surrounding those two episodes of distress. One was housed in the language of food control and restriction and the other housed in the language of 'gender' and the solution was to suppress bodily processes through use of drugs and the elimination of certain body parts through surgery.

Throughout history people have utilised the terms of whatever the faddish condition of the day was - in order to express their distress. In Victorian times young women would be prone to fainting, and there was a widespread condition in which young women ( mainly) would become bed-ridden and unable to use their legs. Anorexia was unknown in Japan until it was introduced by American/Western agencies; and 'gender dysphoria' in children was simply not a thing until reatively recently here. I know this because I was a teacher and it just wasn't a thing - even 15 years ago. After covid there was a rapidly growing trend for young people in schools to develop Tourette's Syndrome.

We can all give examples, though, of how we struggled with our developing selves as children and how we became aware of sex based stereotypes and expectations ( and how we felt about them). Struggle with self and social expectations is in the very nature of growing up and navigating the social world.

We also know that many boys ( for whom certain forms of expression are still particularly frowned upon) start cross dressing in childhood. This is often in secret, and it is usually accompanied by strong, awakening sexual feelings and responses. Many cross dressing men have discussed this and how this habit developed ,and some have even described what the emotional motivation for cross dressing was. Many of these boys, who go on to be men, don't have particularly 'feminine' interests or preferences but they do have a compulsion to wear the clothes of the opposite sex and to fantasise about being girls or women ( as you suggest).

There used to be an organisation for Cross dressing men ( and their wives) called 'The Beaumont Society' ( originally 'Full Personality Expression') - in which men could meet up with other men at weekends and indulge freely in their cross sex imaginings - while their wives sought solace in the company of each other.This society, formed in the 1960's, is now a full on trans organisation in which the men involved now refer to themselves as women. Many have now taken what was a secret or P/T practice or habit full time and have declared trans identities. Men like Debbie Hayton have written about this, and he tells of how he even went on to have the 'full' surgery. He's still married to his wife and has children. This grouping of men now forms the bulk of male transitioners ....and many have re-invented their past to suggest that they " always knew they were trans from childhood".

Trying to block male puberty is an attempt to help a boy pass more easily as a girl and then as a woman. Something that many of these men have longed for.

Edited

You’re grouping together several very different phenomena and treating them as though they’re all manifestations of the same underlying process. But that’s the point under dispute, not something you’ve established. The fact that people with anorexia, gender dysphoria, or other conditions all experience profound distress doesn’t mean that distress has the same cause or that it should be understood or treated in the same way. The fact that different conditions can produce equally profound distress doesn’t show they’re the same condition. To argue that they are, you’d need evidence that the underlying causes are the same, not just that the subjective intensity of the distress is similar

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:35

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:29

You’re grouping together several very different phenomena and treating them as though they’re all manifestations of the same underlying process. But that’s the point under dispute, not something you’ve established. The fact that people with anorexia, gender dysphoria, or other conditions all experience profound distress doesn’t mean that distress has the same cause or that it should be understood or treated in the same way. The fact that different conditions can produce equally profound distress doesn’t show they’re the same condition. To argue that they are, you’d need evidence that the underlying causes are the same, not just that the subjective intensity of the distress is similar

I explained how several young women I have spoken with described their own conditions and experiences of having both anorexia and then 'gender dysphoria'. They themselves realised, on reflection ( after the hormones, drugs and surgeries) that they were the exact same set of feelings about their developing bodies but being expressed through different frameworks. 'Gender' is just one of the most recent lenses through which to view distress.

Children have always had 'gender' imposed on them by parents and society to greater or lesser degrees - except it wasn't referred to in those terms in times past.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:40

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:35

I explained how several young women I have spoken with described their own conditions and experiences of having both anorexia and then 'gender dysphoria'. They themselves realised, on reflection ( after the hormones, drugs and surgeries) that they were the exact same set of feelings about their developing bodies but being expressed through different frameworks. 'Gender' is just one of the most recent lenses through which to view distress.

Children have always had 'gender' imposed on them by parents and society to greater or lesser degrees - except it wasn't referred to in those terms in times past.

Edited

There may well be people whose experiences are best understood that way, and those cases deserve to be taken seriously. But you can’t generalise from a subset of cases to the whole. The fact that some people later conclude their dysphoria reflected another underlying issue doesn’t show that this is what gender dysphoria is in general. The vast majority of trans people do not describe their experience as anorexia-like distress simply reframed through a different cultural lens

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:41

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:29

You’re grouping together several very different phenomena and treating them as though they’re all manifestations of the same underlying process. But that’s the point under dispute, not something you’ve established. The fact that people with anorexia, gender dysphoria, or other conditions all experience profound distress doesn’t mean that distress has the same cause or that it should be understood or treated in the same way. The fact that different conditions can produce equally profound distress doesn’t show they’re the same condition. To argue that they are, you’d need evidence that the underlying causes are the same, not just that the subjective intensity of the distress is similar

You are missing my point that conditions originating in the mind ( psychological) have always been housed and shaped in the clothing and terms of different theories of mind or psychology - throughout time.

You can't seem to step outside of the gender framework in order to view it with any objectivity.

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:45

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:40

There may well be people whose experiences are best understood that way, and those cases deserve to be taken seriously. But you can’t generalise from a subset of cases to the whole. The fact that some people later conclude their dysphoria reflected another underlying issue doesn’t show that this is what gender dysphoria is in general. The vast majority of trans people do not describe their experience as anorexia-like distress simply reframed through a different cultural lens

'Perception' is the underlying issue ( which is psychological and emotional) not one's body. Gender is perception.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:49

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:45

'Perception' is the underlying issue ( which is psychological and emotional) not one's body. Gender is perception.

The issue isn’t simply what someone thinks or believes about their body. It’s how their brain represents and experiences their body—an embodied neurocognitive process. The brain continuously constructs a model of the body from multiple sensory inputs, and it’s that embodied representation that’s relevant here.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:58

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 10:41

You are missing my point that conditions originating in the mind ( psychological) have always been housed and shaped in the clothing and terms of different theories of mind or psychology - throughout time.

You can't seem to step outside of the gender framework in order to view it with any objectivity.

Edited

You’re assuming the underlying condition is the same in every case and that only the cultural framing changes. But that’s exactly what needs to be demonstrated. The question is: what is the underlying psychological condition, and how do we identify and explain it? Simply saying that distress is expressed through different cultural frameworks doesn’t show that anorexia, conversion disorder, gender dysphoria and other conditions are all manifestations of the same thing.

I'm not committed to a “gender framework” as an explanation in itself. I’m trying to describe a specific psychological experience: a persistent, distressing sense of incongruence between one’s experienced self and one’s sexed body. This involves how the brain perceives, represents and experiences the body—not simply beliefs about gendered social roles or expectations

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 11:06

@Sunnibee This involves how the brain perceives, represents and experiences the body—not simply beliefs about gendered social roles or expectations.

Do you accept that this incongruence in children might in some cases arise because of the beliefs about gendered social roles or expectations of their primary caregivers, and the influence those may have on the child's perceptions of their own body?

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 11:14

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 11:06

@Sunnibee This involves how the brain perceives, represents and experiences the body—not simply beliefs about gendered social roles or expectations.

Do you accept that this incongruence in children might in some cases arise because of the beliefs about gendered social roles or expectations of their primary caregivers, and the influence those may have on the child's perceptions of their own body?

Yes. I would agree that social expectations and the attitudes of caregivers can influence how children understand themselves and their bodies. Children are shaped by their environments. it is plausible that in some cases these social / caregiving attitudes can cause a child gender related distress. The question is not whether social factors ever play a role; it’s whether they adequately explain the persistent, embodied experiences of gender incrongruebce reported by some people. That requires looking at the individual experience rather than assuming one cause applies to everyone.

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 11:16

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:58

You’re assuming the underlying condition is the same in every case and that only the cultural framing changes. But that’s exactly what needs to be demonstrated. The question is: what is the underlying psychological condition, and how do we identify and explain it? Simply saying that distress is expressed through different cultural frameworks doesn’t show that anorexia, conversion disorder, gender dysphoria and other conditions are all manifestations of the same thing.

I'm not committed to a “gender framework” as an explanation in itself. I’m trying to describe a specific psychological experience: a persistent, distressing sense of incongruence between one’s experienced self and one’s sexed body. This involves how the brain perceives, represents and experiences the body—not simply beliefs about gendered social roles or expectations

The condition is the feelings or distress, or in the case of cross dressing men, the intense desire.

A 'condition' doesn't exist until it has been defined or named because a condition is a specific constellation of aspects that have been gathered together or rounded up and given a label and an 'identity'. Distressed feelings can attach themselves to anything - and they inevitably tend to attach themselves to a shifting constellation of objects and/or stimulus. 'Gender' is but one of them. They can also land on specific body parts.

Sexual trauma or abuse, for example, can manifest itself in different ways. It attaches itself to an 'object' or particular trigger in order to be able to contain it or control it. Free floating anxiety is more global.

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 11:20

@Sunnibee The question is not whether social factors ever play a role; it’s whether they adequately explain the persistent, embodied experiences of gender incrongruebce reported by some people.

Do you think that we have convincing evidence that for some people this is not an adequate explanation? Given that a therapist can only explore the patient's childhood through the patient's own recollections and, in some cases, those of the very caregivers who might have contributed to the incongruence.

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 11:25

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 11:14

Yes. I would agree that social expectations and the attitudes of caregivers can influence how children understand themselves and their bodies. Children are shaped by their environments. it is plausible that in some cases these social / caregiving attitudes can cause a child gender related distress. The question is not whether social factors ever play a role; it’s whether they adequately explain the persistent, embodied experiences of gender incrongruebce reported by some people. That requires looking at the individual experience rather than assuming one cause applies to everyone.

Yes, the child's background and experiences have to be looked at in an exploratory way to understand why their feelings or distress has manifested in the way it has.

The issue is the distressed feelings and what is causing them. What is at their root? Why do they believe or feel they are in 'the wrong body'; why do they hate their body. What is this hatred or rejection trying to say? What is the essential feeling beneath that? Is it that they don't want to grow up because they are scared of being alone in the world; or is because they don't want to be sexualised or reminded of sexual trauma, or perhaps feelings of shame?. Are they fearful of having certain behavioural expectations imposed upon them, for example, which don't feel naturally or comfortable?Why does a boy want to be a little girl ( Grayson Perry says he imagined as a four year old boy that if he was a girl people ( his violent step-father) might treat him more kindly or gently).

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 11:27

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 10:58

You’re assuming the underlying condition is the same in every case and that only the cultural framing changes. But that’s exactly what needs to be demonstrated. The question is: what is the underlying psychological condition, and how do we identify and explain it? Simply saying that distress is expressed through different cultural frameworks doesn’t show that anorexia, conversion disorder, gender dysphoria and other conditions are all manifestations of the same thing.

I'm not committed to a “gender framework” as an explanation in itself. I’m trying to describe a specific psychological experience: a persistent, distressing sense of incongruence between one’s experienced self and one’s sexed body. This involves how the brain perceives, represents and experiences the body—not simply beliefs about gendered social roles or expectations

I am aware of ow psychology works, and that we are not just blank slates responding to social triggers or expectations.

And what you are referring to as 'beliefs' are often subliminal and not conscious or uncovered. These deeper 'beliefs' manifest themselves in feeling states or pre-occupations or compulsions.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 11:29

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 11:20

@Sunnibee The question is not whether social factors ever play a role; it’s whether they adequately explain the persistent, embodied experiences of gender incrongruebce reported by some people.

Do you think that we have convincing evidence that for some people this is not an adequate explanation? Given that a therapist can only explore the patient's childhood through the patient's own recollections and, in some cases, those of the very caregivers who might have contributed to the incongruence.

Absolutely. To me it's very clear from the clinical literature and patient accounts that this is not at all an adequate explanation in many cases. We have a gender critical, sex realist trans person on this thread. His gender incongruence persists despite his very fixed immersion in sex realist perspectives and rejection of gender stereotypes

Shortshriftandlethal · 01/08/2026 11:31

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 11:29

Absolutely. To me it's very clear from the clinical literature and patient accounts that this is not at all an adequate explanation in many cases. We have a gender critical, sex realist trans person on this thread. His gender incongruence persists despite his very fixed immersion in sex realist perspectives and rejection of gender stereotypes

'He' has also said that she is not attached to pronouns as a signifier of self. It is you who is imposing them.

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