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Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 17:09

OldCrone · 01/08/2026 16:54

@Sunnibee

This is a good article about a similar condition to gender dysphoria - Body integrity identity disorder (BIID) or body integrity dysphoria.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/12/a-new-way-to-be-mad/304671/

Archived here: https://archive.is/OsvZ6

The people who suffer from this condition often feel that they have a limb which doesn't belong to them, or that there is something else wrong with one or more of their body parts. This sounds very similar to your description of gender dysphoria being focused on healthy and normal body parts.

The article also makes the comparison with gender dysphoria.

I've only just skimmed so far, but this does sound very similar. The underlined bit also very interesting and tracks.

Like Robert Smith, I have been struck by ....the language.... in describing their desire to lose a limb. "I have always felt I should be an amputee." "I felt, this is who I was." "It is a desire to see myself, be myself, as I 'know' or 'feel' myself to be." This kind of language has persuaded many clinicians that apotemnophilia has been misnamed—that it is not a problem of sexual desire, as the -philia suggests, but a problem of body image. What true apotemnophiles share, Smith said in the BBC documentary, is the feeling "that their body is incomplete with their normal complement of four limbs." Smith has elsewhere speculated that apotemnophilia is not a psychiatric disorder but a neuropsychological one, with biological roots. Perhaps it has less to do with desire than with being stuck in the wrong body.

OldCrone · 01/08/2026 17:08

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 16:52

I think you are conflating two different things.

Saying someone experiences their body as incongruent is a description of their subjective experience.

In order to experience this a person doesn't need to believe that there is a biological defect in their body, or that their anatomy is objectively abnormal. A trans person may well fully recognise and acknowledge that there is nothing objectively "wrong" about their body, but yet they still experience profound incongruence.

So "delusion" isn't quite the right word for it. Clinically, a delusion is a fixed false belief. Gender dysphoria doesn't depend on holding a false belief about one's anatomy; it describes a subjective psychological experience of distress or incongruence. Whether that experience has one explanation or another is a separate debate, but simply experiencing incongruence is not, in itself, a delusion

A trans person may well fully recognise and acknowledge that there is nothing objectively "wrong" about their body, but yet they still experience profound incongruence.

Gender dysphoria doesn't depend on holding a false belief about one's anatomy; it describes a subjective psychological experience of distress or incongruence.

Can you explain what you mean by 'incongruence' in these two sentences?

For there to be incongruence there must be two things which are expected to match or be 'congruent', which are not doing so. What are those things?

nicepotoftea · 01/08/2026 17:02

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 16:18

One doesn't need to have some concept of the reality of gender to have sex dysphoria existing

Right exactly! That's what I'm trying to say.

A common mistake is to assume that, in order to experience dysphoria, someone must first adopt a particular theory of gender, but that isn't the case at all. A person can experience dysphoria regarding of their theories about gender and sex. Young children often experience dysphoria before they have any sophisticated ideas about gender identity, gender roles, or philosophy. The distress appears as an immediate, embodied sense that something is wrong about their sexed body or being treated as a member of that sex category. It isn’t reasoned into existence.

Where I think your argument becomes confused is in two ways.

First, you move from “the brain generates the experience” to “the brain is getting reality wrong.” Those aren’t the same thing. People often misunderstand trans people as being "deluded" about their bodies, but that isn’t generally what’s being described. Trans people are not under the illusion that they have different sexual anatomy. They know what their bodies are. The distress isn’t caused by a false belief about their anatomy; it’s caused by the fact that their anatomy is experienced as profoundly wrong or incongruent.

More fundamentally, contending that gender isn't "real" highlights another misunderstanding. No one is suggesting that gender is an independent object in the world. Gender identity is simply the language given to describe a psychological experience.
While gender identity itself isn't a "thing" the psychological experience of it is real. This is true of any psychological experience. Pain isn’t an independently existing entity. Hunger isn’t. Our sense of body ownership isn’t. They’re subjective experiences generated by the brain, but they’re nonetheless real features of human experience.

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The distress appears as an immediate, embodied sense that something is wrong about their sexed body or being treated as a member of that sex category. It isn’t reasoned into existence.

Yet this is not an analysis that can be applied to all people who identify as trans.

For some people it is very clearly no more than being gender non-conforming (according to the cultural norms around them) and finding a tribe.

If you provide a medical solution to a problem, you need to be able to define the problem objectively, and that will necessarily exclude.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 16:56

OldCrone · 01/08/2026 16:54

@Sunnibee

This is a good article about a similar condition to gender dysphoria - Body integrity identity disorder (BIID) or body integrity dysphoria.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/12/a-new-way-to-be-mad/304671/

Archived here: https://archive.is/OsvZ6

The people who suffer from this condition often feel that they have a limb which doesn't belong to them, or that there is something else wrong with one or more of their body parts. This sounds very similar to your description of gender dysphoria being focused on healthy and normal body parts.

The article also makes the comparison with gender dysphoria.

Thanks I'll take a read

OldCrone · 01/08/2026 16:54

@Sunnibee

This is a good article about a similar condition to gender dysphoria - Body integrity identity disorder (BIID) or body integrity dysphoria.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/12/a-new-way-to-be-mad/304671/

Archived here: https://archive.is/OsvZ6

The people who suffer from this condition often feel that they have a limb which doesn't belong to them, or that there is something else wrong with one or more of their body parts. This sounds very similar to your description of gender dysphoria being focused on healthy and normal body parts.

The article also makes the comparison with gender dysphoria.

A New Way to Be Mad

The phenomenon is not as rare as one might think: healthy people deliberately setting out to rid themselves of one or more of their limbs, with or without a surgeon's help. Why do pathologies sometimes arise as if from nowhere? Can the mere description...

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/12/a-new-way-to-be-mad/304671/

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 16:52

OldCrone · 01/08/2026 16:39

The distress isn’t caused by a false belief about their anatomy; it’s caused by the fact that their anatomy is experienced as profoundly wrong or incongruent.

And this is the delusion. The feeling that there is something wrong about or incongruent about their body, when in fact there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I think you are conflating two different things.

Saying someone experiences their body as incongruent is a description of their subjective experience.

In order to experience this a person doesn't need to believe that there is a biological defect in their body, or that their anatomy is objectively abnormal. A trans person may well fully recognise and acknowledge that there is nothing objectively "wrong" about their body, but yet they still experience profound incongruence.

So "delusion" isn't quite the right word for it. Clinically, a delusion is a fixed false belief. Gender dysphoria doesn't depend on holding a false belief about one's anatomy; it describes a subjective psychological experience of distress or incongruence. Whether that experience has one explanation or another is a separate debate, but simply experiencing incongruence is not, in itself, a delusion

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 01/08/2026 16:51

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:05

This is an interesting X thread:

https://x.com/wontsomeonethi2/status/2069800467811459454

The poster is a developmental psychologist who says she has spoken to Cass and that Cass knows that these children are not 'true trans'.

Nitter link for those not on X:

https://nitter.net/wontsomeonethi2/status/2069800467811459454

Before the Cass Review was published, I had the opportunity to talk to Dr Cass about my research. I outlined how young children think that putting on a dress turns a boy into a girl and the relevance of this to younger children who think they have changed sex.

I have not mentioned this before publicly but I feel it is time to do so. She listened to what I had to say and appeared to understand the implications for younger children who identify as transgender (I'm using "identify as" as a placeholder here because the concept of internal identity in younger children is very problematic). Dr Cass said "oh, that's interesting, I thought those cases were "safe", where they say they are trans very young" [I paraphrase but she definitely used the word "safe"]

She knows there's no magic internal feeling in young children who think they are the opposite sex. I've told her and she's heard it and acknowledged it might not be right to go ahead with social or medical transition in these cases. SHE KNOWS. I have no idea why she's doubling down on this. No idea.

OldCrone · 01/08/2026 16:39

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 16:18

One doesn't need to have some concept of the reality of gender to have sex dysphoria existing

Right exactly! That's what I'm trying to say.

A common mistake is to assume that, in order to experience dysphoria, someone must first adopt a particular theory of gender, but that isn't the case at all. A person can experience dysphoria regarding of their theories about gender and sex. Young children often experience dysphoria before they have any sophisticated ideas about gender identity, gender roles, or philosophy. The distress appears as an immediate, embodied sense that something is wrong about their sexed body or being treated as a member of that sex category. It isn’t reasoned into existence.

Where I think your argument becomes confused is in two ways.

First, you move from “the brain generates the experience” to “the brain is getting reality wrong.” Those aren’t the same thing. People often misunderstand trans people as being "deluded" about their bodies, but that isn’t generally what’s being described. Trans people are not under the illusion that they have different sexual anatomy. They know what their bodies are. The distress isn’t caused by a false belief about their anatomy; it’s caused by the fact that their anatomy is experienced as profoundly wrong or incongruent.

More fundamentally, contending that gender isn't "real" highlights another misunderstanding. No one is suggesting that gender is an independent object in the world. Gender identity is simply the language given to describe a psychological experience.
While gender identity itself isn't a "thing" the psychological experience of it is real. This is true of any psychological experience. Pain isn’t an independently existing entity. Hunger isn’t. Our sense of body ownership isn’t. They’re subjective experiences generated by the brain, but they’re nonetheless real features of human experience.

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The distress isn’t caused by a false belief about their anatomy; it’s caused by the fact that their anatomy is experienced as profoundly wrong or incongruent.

And this is the delusion. The feeling that there is something wrong about or incongruent about their body, when in fact there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 16:18

thirdfiddle · 01/08/2026 15:52

One doesn't need to have some concept of the reality of gender to have sex dysphoria existing. Brains get stuff wrong. Anorexia doesn't have an underlying reality of people having an independently existing mind-BMI, the mind is just stuck in a dangerous rut where its perceptions and reality wildly diverge.

One doesn't need to have some concept of the reality of gender to have sex dysphoria existing

Right exactly! That's what I'm trying to say.

A common mistake is to assume that, in order to experience dysphoria, someone must first adopt a particular theory of gender, but that isn't the case at all. A person can experience dysphoria regarding of their theories about gender and sex. Young children often experience dysphoria before they have any sophisticated ideas about gender identity, gender roles, or philosophy. The distress appears as an immediate, embodied sense that something is wrong about their sexed body or being treated as a member of that sex category. It isn’t reasoned into existence.

Where I think your argument becomes confused is in two ways.

First, you move from “the brain generates the experience” to “the brain is getting reality wrong.” Those aren’t the same thing. People often misunderstand trans people as being "deluded" about their bodies, but that isn’t generally what’s being described. Trans people are not under the illusion that they have different sexual anatomy. They know what their bodies are. The distress isn’t caused by a false belief about their anatomy; it’s caused by the fact that their anatomy is experienced as profoundly wrong or incongruent.

More fundamentally, contending that gender isn't "real" highlights another misunderstanding. No one is suggesting that gender is an independent object in the world. Gender identity is simply the language given to describe a psychological experience.
While gender identity itself isn't a "thing" the psychological experience of it is real. This is true of any psychological experience. Pain isn’t an independently existing entity. Hunger isn’t. Our sense of body ownership isn’t. They’re subjective experiences generated by the brain, but they’re nonetheless real features of human experience.

thirdfiddle · 01/08/2026 15:52

One doesn't need to have some concept of the reality of gender to have sex dysphoria existing. Brains get stuff wrong. Anorexia doesn't have an underlying reality of people having an independently existing mind-BMI, the mind is just stuck in a dangerous rut where its perceptions and reality wildly diverge.

nicepotoftea · 01/08/2026 15:30

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:47

It’s difficult to point to one study that proves the cause of gender dysphoria—psychological conditions rarely have that kind of evidence. My view comes from the broader body of clinical literature and patient accounts.

Taken together, they point away from the idea that gender incongruence is simply the internalisation of gender stereotypes or social expectations.

For example:

  • Many trans people grow up in families with very traditional views about sex and gender, where being trans is actively discouraged or rejected. Yet their gender incongruence persists despite those social pressures.
  • Many trans people have interests, personalities and behaviours that are typical of their natal sex, yet still experience profound gender incongruence.
  • There are masculine trans women and feminine trans men, which is difficult to reconcile with the idea that transition is simply a desire to conform to gender stereotypes.
  • Some trans people explicitly reject gender stereotypes, gender as a construct and hold sex-realist views, yet their gender incongruence persists.

If gender incongruence were fundamentally caused by internalising gender stereotypes, we would expect trans people to hold more rigid stereotypes than everyone else. In fact, the evidence points in the opposite direction: transgender children tend to endorse gender stereotypes less strongly and are more accepting of gender non-conformity than their cisgender peers (eg Olson, K. R., & Enright, E. A. (2018). Do transgender children (gender) stereotype less than their peers and siblings? Developmental Science, 21(4), e12606. https://doi.org/10.1111/desc.1260

Most importantly, the detailed accounts of persistent gender dysphoria simply don’t read as “I believed boys should do X and girls should do Y.” They are far more consistently described / characterised as a deeply embodied experience of incongruence with one’s sexed body. Whatever its ultimate cause, that experience appears to involve how the brain perceives and represents the body, not merely internalised beliefs about gender roles.

None of this proves a single cause of gender dysphoria. But it does make the hypothesis that it is fundamentally caused by internalised gender stereotypes an inadequate and entirely unconvincing explanation of the body of evidence.

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How does one know that one's gender is congruent?

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 15:16

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:47

It’s difficult to point to one study that proves the cause of gender dysphoria—psychological conditions rarely have that kind of evidence. My view comes from the broader body of clinical literature and patient accounts.

Taken together, they point away from the idea that gender incongruence is simply the internalisation of gender stereotypes or social expectations.

For example:

  • Many trans people grow up in families with very traditional views about sex and gender, where being trans is actively discouraged or rejected. Yet their gender incongruence persists despite those social pressures.
  • Many trans people have interests, personalities and behaviours that are typical of their natal sex, yet still experience profound gender incongruence.
  • There are masculine trans women and feminine trans men, which is difficult to reconcile with the idea that transition is simply a desire to conform to gender stereotypes.
  • Some trans people explicitly reject gender stereotypes, gender as a construct and hold sex-realist views, yet their gender incongruence persists.

If gender incongruence were fundamentally caused by internalising gender stereotypes, we would expect trans people to hold more rigid stereotypes than everyone else. In fact, the evidence points in the opposite direction: transgender children tend to endorse gender stereotypes less strongly and are more accepting of gender non-conformity than their cisgender peers (eg Olson, K. R., & Enright, E. A. (2018). Do transgender children (gender) stereotype less than their peers and siblings? Developmental Science, 21(4), e12606. https://doi.org/10.1111/desc.1260

Most importantly, the detailed accounts of persistent gender dysphoria simply don’t read as “I believed boys should do X and girls should do Y.” They are far more consistently described / characterised as a deeply embodied experience of incongruence with one’s sexed body. Whatever its ultimate cause, that experience appears to involve how the brain perceives and represents the body, not merely internalised beliefs about gender roles.

None of this proves a single cause of gender dysphoria. But it does make the hypothesis that it is fundamentally caused by internalised gender stereotypes an inadequate and entirely unconvincing explanation of the body of evidence.

Edited

Well there is only one piece of clinical literature there and it is behind a paywall.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 15:14

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 01/08/2026 15:10

Which is no justification at all.

Which is no justification at all.

As any parent who bought Lupron on the dark web to inject their child would be committing multiple crimes. I would hope that social workers would remove a child from the family in these circumstances.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 01/08/2026 15:10

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 15:03

Well quite, "Jo" doesn't justify it at all.

In Cass's argument "Jo" justifies the trial of PBs because otherwise the parents will buy Lupron for their child on the dark web.

Which is no justification at all.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 15:03

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 01/08/2026 14:14

Well quite, "Jo" doesn't justify it at all. "Jo"s story has shades of David Reimer and that didn't have a happy ending.

Edited

Well quite, "Jo" doesn't justify it at all.

In Cass's argument "Jo" justifies the trial of PBs because otherwise the parents will buy Lupron for their child on the dark web.

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:52

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:50

Is that how you see Cass?

I always prefer to interrogate source data, rather than rely on one person's interpretation:
https://adc.bmj.com/pages/gender-identity-service-series

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:50

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:44

A world where it seems that we cannot trust anyone who has any sort of finger in the gender-affirming care pie.

Is that how you see Cass?

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:47

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:15

Any luck with that clinical literature that shows that social factors don't adequately explain gender incongruence in some people? Preferably something fairly recent where modern psychological treatments have been used intensively within a neutral, exploratory approach rather than in a gender-affirming framework.

It’s difficult to point to one study that proves the cause of gender dysphoria—psychological conditions rarely have that kind of evidence. My view comes from the broader body of clinical literature and patient accounts.

Taken together, they point away from the idea that gender incongruence is simply the internalisation of gender stereotypes or social expectations.

For example:

  • Many trans people grow up in families with very traditional views about sex and gender, where being trans is actively discouraged or rejected. Yet their gender incongruence persists despite those social pressures.
  • Many trans people have interests, personalities and behaviours that are typical of their natal sex, yet still experience profound gender incongruence.
  • There are masculine trans women and feminine trans men, which is difficult to reconcile with the idea that transition is simply a desire to conform to gender stereotypes.
  • Some trans people explicitly reject gender stereotypes, gender as a construct and hold sex-realist views, yet their gender incongruence persists.

If gender incongruence were fundamentally caused by internalising gender stereotypes, we would expect trans people to hold more rigid stereotypes than everyone else. In fact, the evidence points in the opposite direction: transgender children tend to endorse gender stereotypes less strongly and are more accepting of gender non-conformity than their cisgender peers (eg Olson, K. R., & Enright, E. A. (2018). Do transgender children (gender) stereotype less than their peers and siblings? Developmental Science, 21(4), e12606. https://doi.org/10.1111/desc.1260

Most importantly, the detailed accounts of persistent gender dysphoria simply don’t read as “I believed boys should do X and girls should do Y.” They are far more consistently described / characterised as a deeply embodied experience of incongruence with one’s sexed body. Whatever its ultimate cause, that experience appears to involve how the brain perceives and represents the body, not merely internalised beliefs about gender roles.

None of this proves a single cause of gender dysphoria. But it does make the hypothesis that it is fundamentally caused by internalised gender stereotypes an inadequate and entirely unconvincing explanation of the body of evidence.

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:44

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:35

A world where fictional and wildly unrealistic stories are invented and then presented as if they were meaningful examples of kids with gender dysphoria in policy debates?

A world where it seems that we cannot trust anyone who has any sort of finger in the gender-affirming care pie.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:35

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:16

Welcome to our world

A world where fictional and wildly unrealistic stories are invented and then presented as if they were meaningful examples of kids with gender dysphoria in policy debates?

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:16

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:10

I agree that it's a figment of her imagination and unrealistic. But How does this case justify the trial? Surely it would be the opposite? If this were really the kind of thing going on..?

Welcome to our world

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:15

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:10

I agree that it's a figment of her imagination and unrealistic. But How does this case justify the trial? Surely it would be the opposite? If this were really the kind of thing going on..?

Any luck with that clinical literature that shows that social factors don't adequately explain gender incongruence in some people? Preferably something fairly recent where modern psychological treatments have been used intensively within a neutral, exploratory approach rather than in a gender-affirming framework.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 01/08/2026 14:14

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:10

I agree that it's a figment of her imagination and unrealistic. But How does this case justify the trial? Surely it would be the opposite? If this were really the kind of thing going on..?

Well quite, "Jo" doesn't justify it at all. "Jo"s story has shades of David Reimer and that didn't have a happy ending.

Sunnibee · 01/08/2026 14:10

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 13:53

I suppose it is technically possible to get all the way to the end of Primary school without realising that if you have a penis that makes you a boy.

I don't believe that it is possible even with brainwashing by transactivist parents. The fictional "Jo" is a figment of Baroness Cass's imagination. She says it was based on what she has been told by parents who have transed their children but I suspect she is exaggerating to support her argument in favour of the PB trial. In any case parents who "trans" a two year old child are hardly going to be reliable sources as they are so invested in their child being "trans".

I agree that it's a figment of her imagination and unrealistic. But How does this case justify the trial? Surely it would be the opposite? If this were really the kind of thing going on..?

AimsAndObjectives · 01/08/2026 14:05

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 13:53

I suppose it is technically possible to get all the way to the end of Primary school without realising that if you have a penis that makes you a boy.

I don't believe that it is possible even with brainwashing by transactivist parents. The fictional "Jo" is a figment of Baroness Cass's imagination. She says it was based on what she has been told by parents who have transed their children but I suspect she is exaggerating to support her argument in favour of the PB trial. In any case parents who "trans" a two year old child are hardly going to be reliable sources as they are so invested in their child being "trans".

This is an interesting X thread:

https://x.com/wontsomeonethi2/status/2069800467811459454

The poster is a developmental psychologist who says she has spoken to Cass and that Cass knows that these children are not 'true trans'.

Dr Katie Alcock (@wontsomeonethi2) on X

Before the Cass Review was published, I had the opportunity to talk to Dr Cass about my research. I outlined how young children think that putting on a dress turns a boy into a girl and the relevance of this to younger children who think they have chan...

https://x.com/wontsomeonethi2/status/2069800467811459454