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Sunnibee · 30/07/2026 00:07

OldCrone · 30/07/2026 00:03

Social role includes things like pronouns/ names, what toilet you use, etc- the social markers that signify whether someone is a boy/ girl / man/ woman and recognised as such.

Names aren't a "social role". Third person pronouns used by other people (most often when the person referred to isn't present) aren't a "social role".

People should use the public toilet appropriate for their biological sex. Again, this isn't a social role.

It's not referring to social roles in the sense of- if you put on a frilly apron and bake cakes you are a woman and if you drink beer and watch football you are a man.

OK, that's what it's not. How about explaining instead what it is?

As above, this is referring to the social markers that signify whether someone is a boy/ girl / man/ woman and recognised as such- eg what name/ pronouns a person uses and are used to recognise a person.

OldCrone · 30/07/2026 00:06

Sunnibee · 30/07/2026 00:02

That's not the case at all , thats just harmful stereotyping

What's not the case?

Are you saying children are also driven by sexual motivations?

Or are you saying that all those older males who have said that they transitioned because of autogynephilia or because "sissy porn made them trans" are lying?

Sunnibee · 30/07/2026 00:03

ScrollingLeaves · 29/07/2026 23:59

@Sunnibee

but dress up and role play can be part of how trans children express and explore gender, just like all children.

I find this sort of talk so wrong that I am simply not going to engage with it anymore.
It is pure coercive transactivist jargon to say ‘trans children’ and it is egregiously abusive to children that it is being spouted around.

No jargon, just very basic , well established and researched social psychology,
Learning about and exploring gender is a very normal and basic part of early childhood social and cognitive development. https://www.mentalhealth.com/library/early-childhood-gender-identity-sexuality

Childhood Gender Identity

Learn about how children develop an understanding of gender concepts and identity through typical developmental stages.

https://www.mentalhealth.com/library/early-childhood-gender-identity-sexuality

OldCrone · 30/07/2026 00:03

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 23:46

Social role includes things like pronouns/ names, what toilet you use, etc- the social markers that signify whether someone is a boy/ girl / man/ woman and recognised as such.

It's not referring to social roles in the sense of- if you put on a frilly apron and bake cakes you are a woman and if you drink beer and watch football you are a man.

Edited

Social role includes things like pronouns/ names, what toilet you use, etc- the social markers that signify whether someone is a boy/ girl / man/ woman and recognised as such.

Names aren't a "social role". Third person pronouns used by other people (most often when the person referred to isn't present) aren't a "social role".

People should use the public toilet appropriate for their biological sex. Again, this isn't a social role.

It's not referring to social roles in the sense of- if you put on a frilly apron and bake cakes you are a woman and if you drink beer and watch football you are a man.

OK, that's what it's not. How about explaining instead what it is?

Sunnibee · 30/07/2026 00:02

OldCrone · 29/07/2026 23:52

Of course there will be some differences in behavioural markers for adults and children as children and adults have different behaviours

Yes, the sexual element which is the main driver for transition amongst many adults, older males in particular, is absent in children.

That's not the case at all , thats just harmful stereotyping

Sunnibee · 30/07/2026 00:00

thirdfiddle · 29/07/2026 23:49

Childhood shouldn't be about exploring or expressing "gender", it should be about exploring life and expressing your own unique personality. Thank fuck for feminist parents who protected us from gender role nonsense to the best of their ability. I hope we have given our kids the same opportunity, we've done our best in a sexist world.

I don't disagree with you , but that is an idealistic perspective. Learning about and exploring gender is a normal and basic part of early childhood social and cognitive development. https://www.mentalhealth.com/library/early-childhood-gender-identity-sexuality

Childhood Gender Identity

Learn about how children develop an understanding of gender concepts and identity through typical developmental stages.

https://www.mentalhealth.com/library/early-childhood-gender-identity-sexuality

ScrollingLeaves · 29/07/2026 23:59

@Sunnibee

but dress up and role play can be part of how trans children express and explore gender, just like all children.

I find this sort of talk so wrong that I am simply not going to engage with it anymore.
It is pure coercive transactivist jargon to say ‘trans children’ and it is egregiously abusive to children that it is being spouted around.

Catiette · 29/07/2026 23:58

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 12:18

It is absolutely fundamental to a trans identity

It's really not. What everyone else feels is completely irrelevant to whether or not someone is trans.

Cool.

Weird, though, that trans people took on the words "woman" and "man" then...

Was there a lottery, and it could just as well have come out as "cat" or "chocolate"?

OldCrone · 29/07/2026 23:52

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 23:31

The ICD- 11 is more of a basic checklist / list of diagnostic criteria for clinicians than a detailed description of patient experience / or full account of the assessment process which will be much more in depth. Also it's not perfect- These are working definitions that change and develop over time (this is by no means unique to GD). Of course there will be some differences in behavioural markers for adults and children as children and adults have different behaviours. But what gender dysphoria is remains constant - it's the same experience which is very well described in that blog and has nothing to do with stereotypes.

Of course there will be some differences in behavioural markers for adults and children as children and adults have different behaviours

Yes, the sexual element which is the main driver for transition amongst many adults, older males in particular, is absent in children.

thirdfiddle · 29/07/2026 23:49

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 23:21

The thing is in small children how they explore and express gender can be in very stereotypical/ basic ways. Thats normal for all children regardless of gender. Of course that doesn't mean every little boy who likes princess dresses thinks they are a girl, but dress up and role play can be part of how trans children express and explore gender, just like all children. Of course people latch onto criteria like that and say this proves that gender dysphoria is all about stereotypes but it really isn't. That's a misunderstanding. The description I shared from that online blog, which includes questions about experiences during puberty is much more useful in explaining the symptoms and experience of gender dysphoria

Edited

Childhood shouldn't be about exploring or expressing "gender", it should be about exploring life and expressing your own unique personality. Thank fuck for feminist parents who protected us from gender role nonsense to the best of their ability. I hope we have given our kids the same opportunity, we've done our best in a sexist world.

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 23:46

OldCrone · 29/07/2026 23:43

But what gender dysphoria is remains constant - it's the same experience which is very well described in that blog and has nothing to do with stereotypes.

From the blog you posted:

A felt sense that the gender role does not fit
An ongoing experience that the social role you are living in as a man or a woman does not match who you actually are.

So what is this gender role referring to if it's nothing to do with stereotypes? Can you give some examples of what sort of things this is describing?

Preoccupying thoughts about a different gender
Recurring, sustained thoughts about what it would be like to live as a different gender.

How does someone "live as a different gender"? If this isn't about stereotypes can you give some examples of what living as a different gender means?

Social role includes things like pronouns/ names, what toilet you use, etc- the social markers that signify whether someone is a boy/ girl / man/ woman and recognised as such.

It's not referring to social roles in the sense of- if you put on a frilly apron and bake cakes you are a woman and if you drink beer and watch football you are a man.

ScrollingLeaves · 29/07/2026 23:45

MashaPav · 29/07/2026 10:04

Funny how puberty blockers are fine with CIS kids and only does it become a problem when they’re trans! Gotta love feminist identifying transphobes! Well done Netherlands, stick it to the captured UK

Funny how it is that though puberty blockers for young children with precocious puberty are kept in line with their peers by temporarily stopping puberty that is coming too early, but with gender questioning children it is the opposite because they are having it stopped when it comes at the right time, and made to separate from their peers by not growing up physically or mentally just when they are supposed to - yet transactivist ideologues claim it is just the same!

OldCrone · 29/07/2026 23:43

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 14:34

This page gives a really helpful summary for you https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/blog/how-to-be-certain-you-have-gender-dysphoria/

A persistent unease with your sexed body
A specific, ongoing discomfort with the primary or secondary sex characteristics of your body. Breasts, voice, body hair, genitals, body shape, height. This often intensifies during or after puberty, when those features develop more fully. The distress is not vague body dissatisfaction. It is specifically about the features that mark you as the gender you were assigned at birth.
A felt sense that the gender role does not fit
An ongoing experience that the social role you are living in as a man or a woman does not match who you actually are. This can show up as a quiet, persistent wrongness in everyday situations. Being addressed by your name or pronouns, getting dressed, being seen by others. It is the gendered nature of these moments that creates the friction, not the moments themselves.
Gender euphoria when treated as another gender
A relief or quiet joy when you are perceived, addressed, or treated as the gender you experience yourself to be. People often describe this as the clearest signal. The contrast between the everyday low-level distress and the sudden relief of being seen correctly can be one of the most diagnostic experiences. Some people only realise the dysphoria was there once they feel it lift.
Preoccupying thoughts about a different gender
Recurring, sustained thoughts about what it would be like to live as a different gender. Not as fleeting curiosity, but as an ongoing pull. People often describe years of intrusive imagining before they let themselves say it out loud.
Questions worth asking yourself
When people in my clinic are trying to work out whether what they are feeling is gender dysphoria or something else, these are the questions I ask them. They are worth sitting with on your own as well.

  • When did the feelings start? Did they begin before puberty, during it, or later? What else was happening in your life at the time?
  • Do the feelings stay roughly constant, or do they fluctuate with depression, anxiety, or what is going on around you?
  • Is your distress about specific gendered features of your body, or about your appearance more generally?
  • Is it about how others perceive you, how you feel internally, or both?
  • Have you ever felt a clear relief or rightness when treated as a different gender, even briefly?
  • If you imagine your body without the features that distress you, does that imagining bring relief, or does a different distress move into its place?
When the threshold is met for a diagnosis Two things matter clinically. How long the feelings have been present, and how much they are affecting daily life. The diagnostic criteria require the feelings to have been there for at least six months in adults, though in clinical reality people usually describe them as having been around for years. Brief periods of questioning, or a phase of curiosity, are not what gender dysphoria refers to. It is a persistent experience, not a passing one. The other criterion is impairment. The distress must be enough to interfere with social life, work, relationships, or other important areas of daily functioning. Without that impairment, the diagnostic threshold is not met.

Gender dysphoria vs gender nonconformity
This is a distinction people often get tangled in. Gender nonconformity is a way of presenting or behaving that does not match the conventional expectations attached to someone’s gender. A man wearing a dress, a woman with a shaved head, a child who refuses to play with the toys associated with their assigned sex. These are choices about how to live in the world.
Gender dysphoria is something different. It is not about whether someone wants to wear dresses or trousers. It is about whether they experience themselves as fundamentally a different gender from the one they were assigned at birth, and whether that experience is causing sustained distress. You can be gender nonconforming without dysphoria, and you can have dysphoria while presenting in conventionally gendered ways.

What gender dysphoria actually feels like
People in my clinic rarely describe gender dysphoria in clinical language. They describe it in physical terms. A cold wave that washes over them when they catch their reflection. A sense of looking in the mirror and seeing the wrong face. The feeling of performing in a play that never ends, where the role does not match who they are. One person described it to me as a kind of chronic pain that gnaws at them without any clear physical cause.
That embodied quality is one of the things that distinguishes it. Gender dysphoria is not just a thought about gender. It is a felt sense of incongruence between the gender someone experiences themselves to be and the body or social role they are living in.

But what gender dysphoria is remains constant - it's the same experience which is very well described in that blog and has nothing to do with stereotypes.

From the blog you posted:

A felt sense that the gender role does not fit
An ongoing experience that the social role you are living in as a man or a woman does not match who you actually are.

So what is this gender role referring to if it's nothing to do with stereotypes? Can you give some examples of what sort of things this is describing?

Preoccupying thoughts about a different gender
Recurring, sustained thoughts about what it would be like to live as a different gender.

How does someone "live as a different gender"? If this isn't about stereotypes can you give some examples of what living as a different gender means?

AimsAndObjectives · 29/07/2026 23:37

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 23:31

The ICD- 11 is more of a basic checklist / list of diagnostic criteria for clinicians than a detailed description of patient experience / or full account of the assessment process which will be much more in depth. Also it's not perfect- These are working definitions that change and develop over time (this is by no means unique to GD). Of course there will be some differences in behavioural markers for adults and children as children and adults have different behaviours. But what gender dysphoria is remains constant - it's the same experience which is very well described in that blog and has nothing to do with stereotypes.

Nah, I'm not buying it. Soz.

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 23:31

AimsAndObjectives · 29/07/2026 23:24

@Sunnibee The description I shared from that online blog, which includes questions about experiences during puberty is much more useful in explaining the symptoms and experience of gender dysphoria

More useful than ICD-11? You had better let WHO know.

The ICD- 11 is more of a basic checklist / list of diagnostic criteria for clinicians than a detailed description of patient experience / or full account of the assessment process which will be much more in depth. Also it's not perfect- These are working definitions that change and develop over time (this is by no means unique to GD). Of course there will be some differences in behavioural markers for adults and children as children and adults have different behaviours. But what gender dysphoria is remains constant - it's the same experience which is very well described in that blog and has nothing to do with stereotypes.

AimsAndObjectives · 29/07/2026 23:24

@Sunnibee The description I shared from that online blog, which includes questions about experiences during puberty is much more useful in explaining the symptoms and experience of gender dysphoria

More useful than ICD-11? You had better let WHO know.

AimsAndObjectives · 29/07/2026 23:23

This is ICD-11 for adolescence or adulthood:

'Gender Incongruence of Adolescence and Adulthood is characterised by a marked and persistent incongruence between an individual´s experienced gender and the assigned sex, which often leads to a desire to ‘transition’, in order to live and be accepted as a person of the experienced gender, through hormonal treatment, surgery or other health care services to make the individual's body align, as much as desired and to the extent possible, with the experienced gender. The diagnosis cannot be assigned prior the onset of puberty. Gender variant behaviour and preferences alone are not a basis for assigning the diagnosis.'

So The Pathways trial seems to have mashed two ICD-11 definitions together and then cherry-picked the resulting criteria.

Anyway, it seems that @Sunnibee 's claim that the adult and child definitions are identical and do not contain material relating to stereotypes is untrue.

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 23:21

AimsAndObjectives · 29/07/2026 22:47

The Pathways trial uses the ICD-11 definition of childhood gender dysphoria. I have copied this from the trial protocol:

'Inclusion criteria: 1. Diagnosis of gender incongruence according to ICD-11, which includes:
a. Strong desire to be a different gender than the birth-registered sex.
b. Strong dislike of sexual anatomy or anticipated secondary sex characteristics. c. Gender Incongruence persisted for a minimum of 2 years.
d. Strong desire to ‘transition’ and live as the experienced gender.'

Except ICD-11 actually says (my bold):

'Gender incongruence of childhood is characterised by a marked incongruence between an individual’s experienced/expressed gender and the assigned sex in pre-pubertal children.
It includes a strong desire to be a different gender than the assigned sex;
a strong dislike on the child’s part of his or her sexual anatomy or anticipated secondary sex characteristics and/or a strong desire for the primary and/or anticipated secondary sex characteristics that match the experienced gender;
and make-believe or fantasy play, toys, games, or activities and playmates that are typical of the experienced gender rather than the assigned sex.
The incongruence must have persisted for about 2 years.
Gender variant behaviour and preferences alone are not a basis for assigning the diagnosis.'

Why is the part in bold not in the trial protocol? Is there a good reason? Or is it because it is gender stereotype bollocks and they are aware of how ridiculous it looks?

The thing is in small children how they explore and express gender can be in very stereotypical/ basic ways. Thats normal for all children regardless of gender. Of course that doesn't mean every little boy who likes princess dresses thinks they are a girl, but dress up and role play can be part of how trans children express and explore gender, just like all children. Of course people latch onto criteria like that and say this proves that gender dysphoria is all about stereotypes but it really isn't. That's a misunderstanding. The description I shared from that online blog, which includes questions about experiences during puberty is much more useful in explaining the symptoms and experience of gender dysphoria

FlirtsWithRhinos · 29/07/2026 23:04

Oh look, another believer in the neo sexism of Gender who will post over and over again to tell us what it this gender thing isn't, but somehow never to say what it is.

Reason being at best it doesn't justify the demands made in its name, and at worst that plus it's an obvious pile of sexist stereotypes once you have to say it out loud.

They remind me of the polite racists who keep trying to hint at something nasty because while they know they shouldn't say it, they nevertheless believe everyone is still thinking it.

AimsAndObjectives · 29/07/2026 22:47

The Pathways trial uses the ICD-11 definition of childhood gender dysphoria. I have copied this from the trial protocol:

'Inclusion criteria: 1. Diagnosis of gender incongruence according to ICD-11, which includes:
a. Strong desire to be a different gender than the birth-registered sex.
b. Strong dislike of sexual anatomy or anticipated secondary sex characteristics. c. Gender Incongruence persisted for a minimum of 2 years.
d. Strong desire to ‘transition’ and live as the experienced gender.'

Except ICD-11 actually says (my bold):

'Gender incongruence of childhood is characterised by a marked incongruence between an individual’s experienced/expressed gender and the assigned sex in pre-pubertal children.
It includes a strong desire to be a different gender than the assigned sex;
a strong dislike on the child’s part of his or her sexual anatomy or anticipated secondary sex characteristics and/or a strong desire for the primary and/or anticipated secondary sex characteristics that match the experienced gender;
and make-believe or fantasy play, toys, games, or activities and playmates that are typical of the experienced gender rather than the assigned sex.
The incongruence must have persisted for about 2 years.
Gender variant behaviour and preferences alone are not a basis for assigning the diagnosis.'

Why is the part in bold not in the trial protocol? Is there a good reason? Or is it because it is gender stereotype bollocks and they are aware of how ridiculous it looks?

BackToLurk · 29/07/2026 22:21

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 22:17

It was a blog post written to provide advice to adults who think they might have gender dysphoria. The symptoms in children are the same. Why would they be different? It's the same condition regardless of age. I posted that info as I had a quick dig around and it was the best description I found. Gender dysphoria has nothing to do with stereotypes as that advice explains.

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Did you read to the end?

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 22:18

Pallisers · 29/07/2026 21:54

Not exactly. Prescribing them to children with gender dysphoria is an off-label use. These drugs were developed and approved specifically for use in children with precocious puberty - not gender dysphoria. so all the studies/safety protocols/design of label/education of prescribers was done for children with precocious puberty. none of that was done for children with gender dysphoria.

Prescribing meds off label really isn't uncommon in pediatrics.

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 22:17

OldCrone · 29/07/2026 20:52

The issue is really that gender dysphoria in children really isn't like the other conditions you mention in your post.

You were asked about the symptoms of this condition (in children) which the puberty blockers are supposed to be treating, but you seem to have been unable to answer this simple question. You posted a link to a webpage about gender dysphoria in adults, which doesn't help anyone to understand what the symptoms are in children.

I have read many different descriptions elsewhere of what gender dysphoria is in children, and it is almost exclusively about stereotypes. For the children themselves this is all it is about, for their parents there's sometimes homophobia as well - the fear that their child may grow up to be gay. Anyone who thinks that medicating these children with harmful drugs which stop their natural development is a sensible course of action shouldn't be trusted to run any sort of review of the 'treatment'.

It was a blog post written to provide advice to adults who think they might have gender dysphoria. The symptoms in children are the same. Why would they be different? It's the same condition regardless of age. I posted that info as I had a quick dig around and it was the best description I found. Gender dysphoria has nothing to do with stereotypes as that advice explains.

Pallisers · 29/07/2026 21:54

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 11:17

Exactly as they are for children with gender dysphoria.

Not exactly. Prescribing them to children with gender dysphoria is an off-label use. These drugs were developed and approved specifically for use in children with precocious puberty - not gender dysphoria. so all the studies/safety protocols/design of label/education of prescribers was done for children with precocious puberty. none of that was done for children with gender dysphoria.

OldCrone · 29/07/2026 20:52

Sunnibee · 29/07/2026 20:25

I don’t think it’s the Catch-22 you’re describing.

It assumes that having previously prescribed puberty blockers demonstrates bias, but that doesn’t necessarily follow. A clinician may prescribe to a particular patient in a particular clinical context because, based on the circumstances before them, the evidence available at the time and the existing clinical guidelines, they judge that the balance of benefits and risks favours treatment in that individual case. That doesn’t mean they are incapable of later reviewing the totality of the evidence objectively and fairly.

If it did, we’d have to conclude that no clinician could ever objectively evaluate interventions they use in practice. But that’s clearly not how medicine works. We don’t say that cardiologists shouldn’t lead reviews of cardiac interventions because they perform them, or that oncologists shouldn’t evaluate chemotherapy because they prescribe it. Instead, we manage potential conflicts through declarations of interest, balanced panels and rigorous review methods. Why should a different standard apply here?

The suggestion that including clinicians with different perspectives would inevitably produce a “bunfight” is also overstated. Expert guideline panels routinely include people who disagree strongly, and structured evidence-review processes exist precisely to ensure disagreements are resolved through transparent and consistent methods.

I also think there’s a more fundamental problem here - your perspectives assumes that the absence of an existing view is the same as "neutrality". but the reality is nobody approaches a controversial topic like this as a blank slate. The goal is not to find people with no opinions- that is unrealistic and misleading -, but to minimise bias through transparent and structured methods, declarations of interest, etc.

Finally, while expertise in general paediatrics is undoubtedly valuable, it is not, on its own, sufficient subject-matter expertise for reviewing a rare and highly specialised area of healthcare. We wouldn’t normally ask a general paediatrician to lead a review of paediatric neurosurgery or paediatric oncology or paediatric neurodevelopmental disorders simply because all of those fall under the broad umbrella of paediatrics. We’d expect the review to involve clinicians with recognised expertise in the specific field

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The issue is really that gender dysphoria in children really isn't like the other conditions you mention in your post.

You were asked about the symptoms of this condition (in children) which the puberty blockers are supposed to be treating, but you seem to have been unable to answer this simple question. You posted a link to a webpage about gender dysphoria in adults, which doesn't help anyone to understand what the symptoms are in children.

I have read many different descriptions elsewhere of what gender dysphoria is in children, and it is almost exclusively about stereotypes. For the children themselves this is all it is about, for their parents there's sometimes homophobia as well - the fear that their child may grow up to be gay. Anyone who thinks that medicating these children with harmful drugs which stop their natural development is a sensible course of action shouldn't be trusted to run any sort of review of the 'treatment'.

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