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Don't Call Me Queer - The LGB and TQ+ Must Split Campaign

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IwantToRetire · 22/07/2026 17:57

We have long argued that lesbians, gay men and bisexual people have little in common with those who identify as TQ+.

We believe that the forced teaming of same-sex attracted and TQ+ people, through the use of the aggregate term LGBTQ+ suggests, wrongly, that these distinct groups have common objectives. We don’t, and this umbrella term serves both groups badly.

The Government has abandoned its use of the aggregate term BAME (Black and Minority Ethnic) and we call on them to do the same with LGBTQ+.

Same-sex attracted people must have specific representation.

More https://lgballiance.org.uk/dont-call-me-queer/

Don’t Call Me Queer - LGB Alliance UK

https://lgballiance.org.uk/dont-call-me-queer

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WerewolfOfLoudon · 22/07/2026 20:32

Waheymum · 22/07/2026 19:54

Bisexuality wasn't just same sex attraction last time I looked

Being bisexual includes being same sex attracted or you would be heterosexual. The element covered by LGB is the same sex part.

Pansexual is still bisexual. There are only 2 sexes to pan.

sunupstars · 22/07/2026 20:27

I’ve always found LBGQT+ such a contradiction. How does homosexuality exist if gender is fluid?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 22/07/2026 20:26

of course they should split - the Emma corrins of this world for example appropriating the genuine discrimination faced and still facing LGB people because they is queer & non binary and sad they gets called she sometimes except when winning awards where they bravely puts aside their ongoing oppression to accept the awards

trans ppl do face genuine discrimination as well but they are still not the opposite sex and gender identity and sexuality are not the same thing

LGB ppl need their own support
T ppl needs their own support

and the "Q" if it doesn't fit in either of the above needs to grow the fuck up

BonfireLady · 22/07/2026 20:25

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind1 · 22/07/2026 20:06

Under that, I'm part of it, asexual but I'd never call myself that, I just say I'm happily single, or single by choice, and am I queer, No the fuck I'm not, nor do I need trains painted for me, no one has ever asked if I'm in a relationship and having a shag in it because why would they?
It's attention seeking nonsense.

What's particularly great about this campaign is that everyone who wants to "identify" as queer, asexual (or not, if that doesn't feel right) etc can continue to do so. All of that fits really well in the TQ+

I'm straight but I fully support LGB people making a line in the sand. Sexual orientation/attraction is totally different from gender identity. They are two totally different concepts, as has been said above.

If they get muddled up as concepts, someone's sexual orientation can end up being altered by someone else.

For example, I am a woman and I am married to a man. Neither my husband or I have ever had same-sex relationships. If I identify as a man (which is only possible in the TQ+ world) and we stay married, my husband has now become gay or queer (in the TQ+ world). My actions have changed his sexual orientation, in TQ+ terms. Sex, sexual orientation and gender identity have all become an interchangable muddle.

In the LGB world, even if I do identify as a man this hasn't changed my sex. Which means I'm still in a heterosexual relationship.

I'm very happy for TQ+ people to enjoy and celebrate the muddle that results from not worrying about the difference between sex, sexual orientation and the idea that everyone has a gender identity, as long as they aren't impacting anyone who doesn't consent to it. For example, males identifying into lesbianism and expecting lesbian* women to be OK with that is as much a no as males identifying into women's sports and expecting the same accommodation.

*There is no such thing as a lesbian who is attracted to males.

Waheymum · 22/07/2026 20:11

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 22/07/2026 19:53

I like words and language though!

Must be why you posted so many made up ones. 😂

All words are made up 😂

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind1 · 22/07/2026 20:06

Under that, I'm part of it, asexual but I'd never call myself that, I just say I'm happily single, or single by choice, and am I queer, No the fuck I'm not, nor do I need trains painted for me, no one has ever asked if I'm in a relationship and having a shag in it because why would they?
It's attention seeking nonsense.

MadMazie · 22/07/2026 20:00

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 22/07/2026 19:53

I like words and language though!

Must be why you posted so many made up ones. 😂

All words are made up...

EmpressaurusKitty · 22/07/2026 19:57

Being LGB is about which biological sex you’re attracted to, regardless of whether someone identifies as a gender.

Being T is about what gender you identify as, which is very likely different from your sex.

Two completely different concepts.

If you want to be an ally to LGB people, don’t derail the thread with a load of talk about cisgender & pansexuality.

IwantToRetire · 22/07/2026 19:56

In which case let me spell out the really obvious point, which is what this forum is about, ie biological sex, not about "gender" or "identity".

Just to repeat I can believe you are that ignorant of the reason why LGB Alliance exists!!!!

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Waheymum · 22/07/2026 19:54

IwantToRetire · 22/07/2026 19:50

All of which is irrelevant.

If you read the campaign material, although would have thought you would be aware of LGB Alliance, it is about SAME SEX attraction.

The campaign objectives are really clear.

It's like asking why you are having a campaign about women, what about men.

Bisexuality wasn't just same sex attraction last time I looked

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 22/07/2026 19:53

I like words and language though!

Must be why you posted so many made up ones. 😂

IwantToRetire · 22/07/2026 19:50

All of which is irrelevant.

If you read the campaign material, although would have thought you would be aware of LGB Alliance, it is about SAME SEX attraction.

The campaign objectives are really clear.

It's like asking why you are having a campaign about women, what about men.

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Waheymum · 22/07/2026 19:47

Also the Q can mean questioning.

Waheymum · 22/07/2026 19:42

Because LGB are to do with sexuality, right? But then is Pansexual included in the plus, and should that be included with the LGB, or by excluding the T+ are you saying that pansexuality isn't a thing? I'm a straight, cisgender ally (my DH isn't straight), for what it's worth. I like words and language though!

AstonCanKissMyArse · 22/07/2026 19:22

Sounds sensible! The TQ+ interests are diametrically opposed to the LGB.

Imdunfer · 22/07/2026 18:15

More power to their elbows!