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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Vulva Only Spaces

269 replies

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 19:41

Is this what we need to be asking for now?

That wouldn't exclude people who had transitioned. But it would exclude people who have a penis. Surely when people had transitioned and have a vulva instead of a penis they would feel exactly the same way, as women.

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WearyAuldWumman · 17/07/2026 23:53

Helleofabore · 17/07/2026 21:17

This week must be end of an academic year.

Might be, but the style is very familiar.

inkymoose · 17/07/2026 23:49

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 17/07/2026 23:33

I thought I saw popcorn. And a cat. And it's Friday night. And schools finished today.

🍿🐈😄

WearyAuldWumman · 17/07/2026 23:49

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 20:21

I agree with all of that. And I'm angry that it seems to me that women are now being marginalised and expected to accept things that we don't want in favour of people who say they want to be women. If they want to be women, support women.

The point of my post was to ask if using the wording vulva only spaces would at least allow us to continue to have, or claw back, the right to have some places where there is no possibility of exposure to male genitalia.

No.

Cancer of the vulva exists. A woman who has had to have surgery to that area is still a woman.

A man who has had cosmetic surgery is not a woman.

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 17/07/2026 23:33

inkymoose · 17/07/2026 23:23

Fun, you say?

hmmm

I thought I saw popcorn. And a cat. And it's Friday night. And schools finished today.

inkymoose · 17/07/2026 23:23

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 17/07/2026 23:20

Did I miss all the fun?

Fun, you say?

hmmm

BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 17/07/2026 23:20

Did I miss all the fun?

inkymoose · 17/07/2026 23:20

BiologicalRobot · 17/07/2026 22:50

Are we back to the stupid argument that:

Women are non-men.
Castrated men are non-men.
Therefore women and castrated men must be the same?

Aha! Yes!
And in 1970 ... it looked like this:
(original book cover of The Female Eunuch by Germaine Greer)

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BreatheAndFocus · 17/07/2026 23:19

Nope. Female only spaces will do, thanks. TW are male so whether they’ve had surgery or not is irrelevant. They shouldn’t be in Female Toilets. Female toilets are for female people. No need to complicate things 🤷‍♀️

BiologicalRobot · 17/07/2026 22:50

Are we back to the stupid argument that:

Women are non-men.
Castrated men are non-men.
Therefore women and castrated men must be the same?

BettyBooper · 17/07/2026 22:49

Any thoughts about safeguarding children @Lurkingandlearning ? Actually safeguarding them? Or just more utter bullshit?

(Apologies, I may have run out of patience)

Boiledbeetle · 17/07/2026 22:45

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 21:48

I am not disagreeing with you. The point of my post was to find a way, in light of how women are being marginalised, to make it very clear that women should have women spaces. We shouldn't have to be so specific but if using the word vulva does mean penises are barred, then maybe that is the way to go.

And the words women or female on a sign to a single sex space does make it very clear that space is for women.

We don't need to change the words that have been perfectly fine for the majority of our lives. And why the hell should we?

What needs to change is the attitude of the men and organisations who think fuck the Supreme court, fuck the Code of Practice, they don't apply to special men like Dave over there, we'll continue to piss off all the women and enter / let men into women only spaces.

And if they won't do it willingly then women will make them do it through the courts.

But we don't change the words. They are our words. The men can fuck off.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/07/2026 22:39

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 20:41

I'm talking about spaces, especially enclosed spaces where women have traditionally accepted nudity from other women, changing rooms would be one. Even women who choose to go into a cubicle to change shouldn't have to come out of that cubicle to see a penis.

My point is we should be allowed spaces where they doesn't happen. And if we need to change the wording from Women to Vulva spaces. If it really needs that clarity, then perhaps we should do that.

‘Female only spaces’ provides ample clarity, imo, @Lurkingandlearning. If you include surgically created, testicle skin neovulvas in your ‘Vulvas Only’ space, it immediately stops being a single sex space.

MildlyMoist · 17/07/2026 22:39

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 20:21

I agree with all of that. And I'm angry that it seems to me that women are now being marginalised and expected to accept things that we don't want in favour of people who say they want to be women. If they want to be women, support women.

The point of my post was to ask if using the wording vulva only spaces would at least allow us to continue to have, or claw back, the right to have some places where there is no possibility of exposure to male genitalia.

But we’d still be exposed to male bodies and male behaviour. Behaviour, including offending rates and types of offending are the same for men who have had surgery and/or hormones.

Men are always men. They might be a different variety of men, but one thing they can never be is women.

BettyBooper · 17/07/2026 22:35

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 21:48

I am not disagreeing with you. The point of my post was to find a way, in light of how women are being marginalised, to make it very clear that women should have women spaces. We shouldn't have to be so specific but if using the word vulva does mean penises are barred, then maybe that is the way to go.

No. Using the word vulva gives some men a hard-on. (Do you identify ?). And there is no reason why women only spaces doesn't work just fine. As you know.

Why do you continue to push this? (That was a retorical question btw. I know why. I just continue to ask these questions for the actual lurkers and learners).

ClimbEveryStair · 17/07/2026 22:33

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 21:48

I am not disagreeing with you. The point of my post was to find a way, in light of how women are being marginalised, to make it very clear that women should have women spaces. We shouldn't have to be so specific but if using the word vulva does mean penises are barred, then maybe that is the way to go.

Your proposal potentially reopens the door to some males just when we’ve got legal clarification all males are excluded from female spaces. No thank-you.

nicepotoftea · 17/07/2026 22:32

ShutupLwren · 17/07/2026 21:13

OP, do you mean that transwomen who have had the surgery wouldn’t be as threatening because they’re not able to rape women in these spaces? Is that what you mean, like a compromise of sorts?
I’m pretty sure most transwomen wouldn’t want to cause any harm but it’s not the point really, the point is if women aren’t comfortable sharing their space, then that’s the end of it. We can alleviate risks as much as we can by saying no to anyone with a penis, but it doesn’t change that lots of women don’t want a biological man in their space. Penis or no penis, they’re just unwelcome.
I’m of the opinion that a 3rd space is needed now and that’s all there is to it. Some women like myself will be ok using unisex bathrooms if it’s necessary but some women would rather not and they’re the ones who we should be catering for.
There are so many arguments and rebuttals for this issue from either side about rights vs safety and the point I always find myself coming back to is, do women deserve to be uncomfortable in their spaces? No.
Im pretty sure most transwomen wouldn’t harm anyone and if a man was determined to get into a bathroom to rape a woman they’d just do it so I get why people think that’s a decent argument for TW in women’s spaces but ultimately for me it’s simply, women have fought for the space and we need to respect that they want to keep it. We should work together to keep these spaces separate and find a solution for trans people. I know I’ll be told that they don’t want a third space and that transwomen want to be indulged into having access to our spaces. And I say, tough. If a fair option is available and you refuse it and choose to make women uncomfortable then you’re a selfish arsehole.

do women deserve to be uncomfortable in their spaces? No.

I agree, and the EA makes it very clear that this is all the reason that is needed for single sex spaces.

Single sex services are permitted where they may be used by more than one person and a woman might object to the presence of a man (or vice versa)

Interestingly, the 1975 Sex Discrimination Act included similar reasoning but referred to men's comfort.

(1)A person who provides at any place facilities or services restricted to men does not for that reason contravene section 29(1)

If the facilities or services are provided for, or are likely to be used by, two or more persons at the same time, and

(i)the facilities or services are such, or those persons are such, that male users are likely to suffer serious emarrassment at the presence of a woman, or

(ii)the facilities or services are such that a user is likely to be in a state of undress and a male user might reasonably object to the presence of a female user.

adragoncalledaudrey · 17/07/2026 22:31

I don’t want to be reduced to a body part.

I’ve had enough of being a uterus haver, an ovary holder and the rest. I’ve no desire in having a space for vulva owners.

I am a woman.

That’s plenty.

It has been shown on many occasions that body parts from a catalogue do not a sex change make. A man’s a man for a’ that.

I’m content with being a woman and going into a room for women (and girls).

inkymoose · 17/07/2026 22:25

Has anyone seen that documentary on Channel 4 called The Secret of Me?

The subject was born male, but a surgeon decided that his penis was far too small and should be removed, and the baby brought up as a girl.

The poor boy was brought up as a girly girl in frilly dresses, and not allowed to do the boy-things he would have preferred to do.

When he discovered what his parents had agreed to, he was devastated, and felt completely outcast.

I have a friend whose parents desperately wanted a boy. She was a girl, their firstborn, and they tried to bring her up as though she were a boy. This meant withholding love and affection from her.

This friend is now in her 50s. She has struggled with poor mental health all her life and has an eating disorder.

I'm a woman, I grew up in the 1960s. I became a feminist at the age of 14. But before that, I was "flashed" on more than one occasion. The first time it happened, I was only 4 or 5. I could never understand the fear of the penis, or the worship of it, either. It's an appendage. I was scared a little by the flashers, but it was their weird behaviour that was alarming, not their penises. I had no idea why they wanted me to look at their appendage. It was of no interest.

Reducing people to being their genitals is extreme reductionism, and does not make any sense, and does not mean anything other than the people who want to do that are very strange. I don't care about penises, and I don't want women to be defined by their external genitalia, and I don't want men in women's spaces.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 17/07/2026 22:18

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 21:48

I am not disagreeing with you. The point of my post was to find a way, in light of how women are being marginalised, to make it very clear that women should have women spaces. We shouldn't have to be so specific but if using the word vulva does mean penises are barred, then maybe that is the way to go.

But you were including males in your definition, so still managing to marginalise (what an interesting choice of word to pick!) women.

It's quite impressive really, at the same time as torpedoing TIM human rights (must have had penis removed to enter), reducing women to a body part, you haven't theoretically solved the issue at all. In fact you just made it theoretically far more complicated. Well done!

Or we just stick to single sex spaces for women being named "women's" or "female", because it's very clear already what those two non-offensive words mean to the majority of the world.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 17/07/2026 22:12

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I hope no one reports this post, it would be nice if it could be saved in the thread for posterity.

Apparently the intelligent, articulate women here who want to keep males out of female single sex spaces, and who have argued with illogical-offensive nonsense from TRAs for years are fuck wits... says the OP looks back at OP's posts. I think we all know who the fuck wits are, and it's not the women😂

No males of any kind in female spaces.

AimsAndObjectives · 17/07/2026 22:01

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 21:48

I am not disagreeing with you. The point of my post was to find a way, in light of how women are being marginalised, to make it very clear that women should have women spaces. We shouldn't have to be so specific but if using the word vulva does mean penises are barred, then maybe that is the way to go.

But we don't want to just bar the men with penises. We want to bar the men without penises too. All men, barred from women-only services. Simples.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 17/07/2026 21:58

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 20:41

I'm talking about spaces, especially enclosed spaces where women have traditionally accepted nudity from other women, changing rooms would be one. Even women who choose to go into a cubicle to change shouldn't have to come out of that cubicle to see a penis.

My point is we should be allowed spaces where they doesn't happen. And if we need to change the wording from Women to Vulva spaces. If it really needs that clarity, then perhaps we should do that.

Reducing women to their body parts. No thanks.

As has already been pointed out, you were apparently including men who'd had genital surgery in your proposed "vulva only" spaces. So double no.

You'd have us retreat from the words we use to categorise us as a sex because men are apporopriating them and colonising our spaces, but most of us say fuck no to that.

If we did this, it wouldn't matter. Whatever alternative words we use to describe ourselves, these types of men would eventually appropriate those too.

Emilesgran · 17/07/2026 21:56

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 21:48

I am not disagreeing with you. The point of my post was to find a way, in light of how women are being marginalised, to make it very clear that women should have women spaces. We shouldn't have to be so specific but if using the word vulva does mean penises are barred, then maybe that is the way to go.

Are you saying that some men with penises genuinely believe they are women with penises and don’t understand that the women’s changing rooms are not for them?

Kingdomofsleep · 17/07/2026 21:54

But even by creating the category "women, and men who have had this specific mutilation", you're normalising this horrific procedure, and tacitly accepting it as a legitimate thing to do.

It's not. It's not ok to horrifically mutilate a living human being in such a way. It doesn't matter if he opts into it, there are some things we just shouldn't do, we can't let people consent to be harmed so significantly. It's too barbarically cruel.

ErrolTheDragon · 17/07/2026 21:53

Lurkingandlearning · 17/07/2026 21:48

I am not disagreeing with you. The point of my post was to find a way, in light of how women are being marginalised, to make it very clear that women should have women spaces. We shouldn't have to be so specific but if using the word vulva does mean penises are barred, then maybe that is the way to go.

It’s perfectly clear already in UK law.
Women’s spaces are for females. No one is really confused by this, whatever they may pretend. We don’t need to describe ourselves in terms of specific female body parts. Your idea is misplaced, completely unecessary and as unwelcome to most women as being described as ‘menstruators’.