The first step towards an international instrument to abolish surrogacy.

But you don't have first hand experience.

You are not a surrogate, a parent of a surrogate child or a surrogate child yourself unless your post was actually about yourself and not a "friend"
What you related was a second hand account of someone else's experience.

No need to be condescending. I understand the issues. I was simply giving an opinion based on a first hand experience. Am I not allowed to have a differing opinion? I wasn’t aware I had to agree with everyone.

Did you quote what I said in its entirety?

I’m very uncomfortable with surrogacy but truly altruistic surrogacy is different to commercial surrogacy eg sister for sister

We don’t know that they know no different. They have spent 9 months with a certain person, then lose that person and go to another. We just do not know the effects.

Really? All children need are competent adults? Great, let’s get on and let the adoption services know, that’ll solve a lot of problems. Next stop world peace!

I'm not sure it would be that simple - not easy to separate body and mind.

What's that saying?
You can have your own opinions. You cannot make up your own facts.

People are allowed to disagree with your opinions and hold views of their own.

If I decided to be a surrogate, I'd have agreed to take on those risks and I would view it as a temporary shelter type thing.

I don't think anyone would ask me at this age but I'd have done it for a close friend or family if it was a convenient time for my family.

There might not always be a genetic link, but growing a baby in your body for 9 months is absolutely biological. The baby is kept alive via your blood supply; mother and baby 'swap cells'; bonding in utero is a physical reality. This extraordinary process, the painful and exhausting process of giving birth, and then having the child taken from you, are surely going to have a psychological impact. The notion that the surrogate mother just provides a temporary shelter for someone else's DNA feels so dismissive of the reality.

Well, several posters have explained the issues to you in a few different ways and yet you remain determined not to understand. You seem oddly invested, in fact, in not understanding the issues. Explaining further would be a waste of time I think. You are not listening.

The child would be fine. All children need are competent adults who love them to raise them. There is no reason to think parents by surrogacy can't be those people. Your outrage doesn't convince me.

And the father. The embryos were made from both parents so genetically nothing to do with her. She sees it very differently. I guess you have to have been in that situation to really know what it’s like. All the babies are thriving and the families are happy.

I’m sure she would just as she would if she gave a baby up for adoption. She didn’t ‘sell’ them either. They paid for private medical care and that’s it.

i don’t agree. Genetically the baby is nothing to do with the surrogate. The babies went straight to their genetic parents and knew no different. All are happy thriving babies.

The woman who gives birth to the baby is the baby’s mother. You try telling the baby that his or her genetic material was other people’s.

This is what worries me. It is still too soon to know how babies this has happened to will feel or behave as they grow up.

I also am worried there might be baby farming going on, and some of buyers unsafe.

ITS. NOT. ABOUT. WHAT. THE. ADULTS. WANT. Jesus fucking Christ, will no one put the best interests of the child first?

And if the parents she sold those children to abuse them or murder them will she feel any responsibility for enabling that?

She did not "just carry them" this rhetoric is so dismissive and unhelpful.
She grew those children in her body. Her body created them - albeit from genetic material from another woman. Those babies were born knowing only her heartbeat, her feelings and her voice.
To paraphrase @Overworkedandknackered , she wasn't growing tomatoes - these are human beings not produce.

What?
Only women get pregnant. Transmen ARE women and a pregnancy is more than just "carrying" a child. Which was actually my main point.

And, frankly, I seriously doubt anyone would want to use a transman as a surrogate nor would any transman want to be one so the issue would never arise.
FWIW I myself believe a transman can indeed get pregnant- because they are WOMEN.

@WhereYouLeftIt I totally agree, those are plausible scenarios.
For a while, my sister couldn't get pregnant, and I lived with a lot of guilt as I was trying to get pregnant with a second child. (All went well in the end and she has two children too). But at the time I wondered if I would have offered to be a surrogate mother. It was all theoretical: I had preeclampsia with my first pregnancy and my sister wouldn't have accepted me taking the risk. But yes, things can get complicated during childbirth, and even a selfless act of love within a family can have unintended consequences and create a lot of pain.

But the surrogate in most cases isn’t the mother? One of my friends has been a surrogate three times via ivf. The embryos were made by the parents and she just carried them. She sees it as the most rewarding thing she’s ever done. She’s helped make 3 beautiful families. I know it’s very nuanced subject and has been exploited in some countries but it can be a lovely thing as well.