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Should a 6 year old be taught that it’s normal to be trans, in a PSHE lesson?

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cloverdance · 27/06/2026 21:53

Hi everyone,

I’d appreciate views and any knowledge on this. My husband came downstairs this morning really perturbed and upset that our 6 year old daughter had said that she’d been taught a book in PSHE- something about ‘My Brother’s Now My Sister’ and told him that a TA leading the lesson had said that it is normal to be trans. She told him she now wants to be a boy.
I don’t actually think she is gender confused at all, more that this suggestion has been made and the idea has been put into her head.
I’ve done a bit of research and there is a 2024 government doc that suggests that this level of detail should be saved for secondary school. I’m not sure if this is still the case.
DH is adamant he wants to go down to school and challenge the teaching of this. The school are a Rainbow Flag school and are very much inclusive. To be clear, we like this about the school and we are not homophobic- happy for children to be taught that love looks different for different families etc. However, we are both not happy that this level of detail has been used, including the word ‘trans’ at age 6 and in year 1 and that transitioning is a normal thing to do.

DH is a secondary school teacher so has to be careful in airing this view. My view is that biological men shouldn’t be in female only spaces.

Does anyone have any advice what we should/can say to school. We don’t want her being taught this at such a young age.

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TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 28/06/2026 12:55

It is very young. I'm surprised they didn't inform parents of it beforehand or ask for consent off parents

NowSober · 28/06/2026 12:12

Afteruni · 27/06/2026 22:46

Will it really work that way round?

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Not quite. It won't be a parent suing the school. It will be a criminal offence.

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cloverdance · 28/06/2026 12:01

@Justme56 that is the one. I just showed her the pic of the front cover. I’ve just listened to it and honestly, I’m shocked. The assertion is that you can literally change from girl to boy. Then the entire de-sexing of the new baby…

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KateSixer · 28/06/2026 11:22

This is child abuse.

I am a live and let live person in terms of how adults lead their lives but this is ideological indoctrination of the worst sort.

Thatcannotberight · 28/06/2026 11:19

cloverdance · 28/06/2026 10:30

Ohh looks like it’s out of print @Thatcannotberight £54 on Amazon 😩 maybe there’s a gap in the market for a new series of children’s books…

Eek! I see what you mean about prices and availability, even second hand. That's a bit suspect.

Thatcannotberight · 28/06/2026 11:16

cloverdance · 28/06/2026 10:30

Ohh looks like it’s out of print @Thatcannotberight £54 on Amazon 😩 maybe there’s a gap in the market for a new series of children’s books…

Out of print? Hmm, Rachel had a lot of grief from the TRAs in rhe publishing world. I borrowed a copy from online Cornwall library . Maybe worth trying your online resources or second hand online bookshops.

fashionqueen0123 · 28/06/2026 10:47

Wow. I would say the good thing about you being a governor is that that should take what you say seriously.

Also PSHE for year 2 isn’t the same curriculum for R…why were they all in together. It does sound like someone with an agenda

NewPhotos · 28/06/2026 10:45

My DD is starting to develop and she’s not very happy about it. She said she wishes she could be a boy. I would be so cross if she were told actually you can be! I’m usually not one to worry about what they are taught in school but I would be unhappy about this.

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/06/2026 10:41

Absolutely not!

Justme56 · 28/06/2026 10:38

Is it ‘When Aiden became a brother’ not Ellen? If so look on YouTube as there are at least 2 people doing a reading of it. There maybe others being read on YouTube too.

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cloverdance · 28/06/2026 10:30

Ohh looks like it’s out of print @Thatcannotberight £54 on Amazon 😩 maybe there’s a gap in the market for a new series of children’s books…

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Fartughtyred · 28/06/2026 10:28

arethereanyleftatall · 27/06/2026 22:33

Absolutely not. You only have to look online for two seconds to see the growing number of troubled often ND teenagers who are being sold it as the end to all their problems.

it is an absolute scandal and the marketing of it, love is love, has been exemplary.

This. I consider it to be a form of state sponsored child abusé and would have been fuming if my kids had been manipulated in this way

Mischance · 28/06/2026 10:28

cloverdance · 28/06/2026 10:19

So it seems they used several books:

Introducing Teddy
When Ellen Became a Brother
Who Are You
When Sarah became a Sister
And one more she couldn’t remember. It was reception, year 1 and year 2 all together.

Seriously? It is beyond belief that small children are being indoctrinated with these falsehoods. How did that booklist get in under the governors' radar?

By all means tell them there are some folk who would prefer to be the opposite sex and that we should be respectful of their wishes to dress/act/whatever as they choose and treat them kindly - but only tell them if they ask. Don't ram this stuff down their throats when they are so small.

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cloverdance · 28/06/2026 10:21

Buying that one right now @Thatcannotberight thank you.

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cloverdance · 28/06/2026 10:19

So it seems they used several books:

Introducing Teddy
When Ellen Became a Brother
Who Are You
When Sarah became a Sister
And one more she couldn’t remember. It was reception, year 1 and year 2 all together.

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BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 28/06/2026 09:31

There seem to be quite a few parents in the past week or so posting that their children are just discovering that they are "trans" or that someone has told them they are. This is curious.

Has there suddenly been a big push to convince young children towards the end of the school year, and parents are reading up on info published by Transgender Trend or Sex Matters?

Have more parents suddenly become aware of the FWR forum?

Is the Guidance really raising awareness and starting to cause parents to think about where they and their children fit into all this?

Has there been a campaign to raise awareness of the new PSHE guidance which will be statutory from September 2026?

Are parents suddenly aware of the draft Bill on conversion practices?

Has the thread about SEEN in publishing crossed over into AIBU and Chat, do now parents are more aware of what their children might be reading?

If so, I am astonished, but very pleased that information about the dangers of teaching children that they can change sex and the world around them to suit themselves, is finally making headway!

Well done to those parents who are seeking information to protect their children.

cariadlet · 28/06/2026 09:27

@cloverdance Your daughter's lucky because she mentioned the story to you which gave you the opportunity to tell her the truth.

But there will be other parents in the class who don't realise what nonsense their child has been taught and other children who are likely to be confused and may believe what the TA told them (children this age tend to believe what adults tell them, especially adults at school).

I think that's why it's so good that you came on here and posters have shared helpful resources and why it's so important that you do arrange for a meeting with the Head.

Thatcannotberight · 28/06/2026 09:26

Does your daughter like picture books? I'd counter with My Body is Me by Rachel Rooney. I'd also donate a copy to your school library ( if they don't have one😬😉)

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cloverdance · 28/06/2026 09:19

I’m going to have a talk to our daughter later and show her the book covers, try to work out which book it was and teach her the truth.

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cloverdance · 28/06/2026 09:18

Thank you for these additional docs. I’ve just read the framework and it’s clear that the TA has gone totally mad @Kbcdtyijgd

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Mischance · 28/06/2026 08:45

I know the head will make out that we are bigoted and not inclusive…

Well that's just tough. She/he has a responsibility to teach the truth to children ... let them think you are bigoted .... what does it matter?

When I was a school governor we were shown the PHSE materials and had the chance to debate them before they were presented to the children.

Put aside your fear of criticism, agenda it for governors and quote the statutory guidance.

The world has gone bloody mad!

pragmatismuniversalsentimentalist · 28/06/2026 08:30

JoyousOpalLemur · 28/06/2026 07:44

Er, no, we really should not be telling boys to wear girls' clothes such as skirts.

We should tell them it doesn't mean they are girls if they wear them, but, like women's changing rooms, they're for girls.

If a boy likes playing with a doll then fine. But wearing girls' clothes is more than likely normalising a sexual cross-dressing pathway.

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Clothes are just clothes there arent 'boys clothes' and 'girls clothes' i mean come on the vast majority of clothing we wear is gender neutral, trousers, tshirts etc.

Once upon a time trousers were for men only, and boys wore dresses uo to a certain age. Clothing /fashions change its all a lot of nonsense. Cross dressing is a different thing entirely.