Conspiracy theory isn't real life.
Indeed.
But think about this too.
When my brother came out as trans, he quoted that trans people accounted for 1 in 10000. So by this, I probably should never meet another trans person.
And yet. One of my friends whose brother was in the same class as him at school had also come out as trans and they knew another kid in the year below who also had come out as trans.
This made no sense. If it was like being gay, then it would be spontaneous throughout the population and wouldnt be in the same social circles.
And even if this was an issue with acceptance being possible in our social circle but not others, there were anomalies with this as a theory.
First it's the uniform politics. For something that's theoretically just a blip in nature what we see is a particular political clustering that's not natural.
And then we have uniform hobbies and interests with an exceptional high level of people who are trans having an anime or gaming hobby. This is unrepresentative of the population as a whole.
Then you have various issues like in girls the disappearing anorexic - there has been a decline in anorexia presentation just as presentation in being trans has taken off. Anorexia isn't purely an eating disorder - it's a type of dsyphoria and is associated with issues over control. The cohort is remarkably similar in social backgrounds too. Again this doesn't suggest this is a spontaneous fault with the body and brain not being aligned.
It looks like a response to social triggers and to social movements in multiple ways.
From doing family history it's become apparent to me that cousins often move in similar social circles even if they don't have overlap of those circles because their parents are of a certain background. So actually a cousin being trans isn't that odd IF it's driven by social influence or a genetic anomaly. But then that anomaly would ultimately be identifiable in time. But having a cousin being trans is odd IF it's a phenomena driven by spontaneous presentation.
With this in mind we have to start to ask questions about it. This isn't a conspiracy. This is natural curiosity about understanding what it is to be trans and perhaps why A is trans but B - Z are not trans.
The Tavistock identified MASSIVE over representation of autistic, gay kids, sexually abused kids and kids who have a family breakdown and parents who were pushing this on to their kids for their own beliefs and reasons. These kids across the board had complex home lives and various issues. These observations most definitely do matter and most definitely merit questions. A couple of these are particularly concerning observations.
These are not conspiracy questions. These are questions we would ask with another other number of difficulties at school age and the reason we ask these questions isn't to harm kids - it's precisely to do the opposite.
The fact you aren't remotely curious and seek to actively shut down these legitimate questions is the concerning part ESPECIALLY since you have a child who identifies as trans.
This isn't about 'fixing' a child.
This lack of curiosity and the desire to silence in the context of the Tavistock whistleblowing is alarming. What if a set of cousins identifying as trans have a common family member who has behaved inappropriately with them? We know family members cover up and hide for other family members. We know they go into denial. I not saying this is the case for your family, but your lack of curiosity and desire to silence the conversation, in this context does raise eyebrows. There are certainly families this dynamic may well be highly relevant to.
However you cut it, given the prevalence of trans people in the population as a whole a couple of cousins coming out at a similar time but without contact isn't necessarily the 'oh well it's not a social contagion' claim you think.
The cousins WERE exposed to the social media trends of the time either directly or indirectly. They WERE exposed to similar messaging within schools thanks to stonewall. Even if they weren't talking to each other.
Being trans is a product of its time and wouldn't have been possible in the past because the conditions were not right - again not spontaneous. And this is also why we have desperate attempts to claim historical figures as trans - because this isn't about the past it's about legitimising the present. Again another sign of a political and ideological movement driven by propaganda rather than a spontaneous phenomena.
And again this lack of curiosity would be something that is considered a threat if this were the reality.
I don't claim to have answers but the authoritarian nature of the debate on this subject and the need to shut down discussion isn't indicative of a naturally occurring phenomena. This is the action of a group who are behaving in a way that raises questions and is extremely hostile to those questions. A that's the red flag.
We should identify and examine all red flags even if these red flags turn out to be unfounded. A lack of curiosity around red flags, is a red flag in itself. And there are no exceptions to this.