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Has there been an influx of TRAs to Mumsnet recently?

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ByTheRiverside · 17/06/2026 16:08

I'm a long time reader. Only recently started to participate.

I very rarely saw any TRAs on here over the years. But in the past few weeks, I've noticed a lot of them coming here.

You can generally tell by the absolute shite coming out of their mouths, such as being avid apologists for sex offenders.

What's their deal with coming here? Are they saying that their 'womanhood' is reliant on us conforming to their belief, so they're trying to get us to agree with them? If that's so, then welcome!!! You're going to have to get used to reality real quick if you stick around.

Has anyone else noticed this, or just me?

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DialSquare · 20/06/2026 09:00

TrainedByTheBiddyMafia · 20/06/2026 01:01

IMO the TWs, the TRAs and TransParents are often useful on this board. Yes it’s tedious rehashing arguments and it feels like playing chess with pigeons but new comers to the issue won’t read back over all threads so I appreciate them providing an opportunity to make those arguments again for the new lurkers.

Those newcomers also get to see the aggression and lack of coherent arguments by the TRAs and the uncontrolled emotional blackmail by some of the trans parents. The latter is particularly useful on a parenting site like this because we’re all reminded good parenting means not giving into children's every demand as we read their cries of ‘you must all go along with my child’s delusion or you’ll make them sad’

Yep. If they had anything of worth to offer, we would have seen it by now.

Loving the IW inspired user name, BTW!

RedToothBrush · 20/06/2026 08:57

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/06/2026 08:40

Yes. Not really much more to be said.

A parent is unwilling or unable to admit they may have contributed to harming their child through affirmation.

We know that some cases are likely Munchausens by Proxy. How do we know this? Because some clinical professionals whistleblew spelling this out and the Cass review believes this to be a reputable and valid observation.

We are not the monsters for spelling this out.

RedToothBrush · 20/06/2026 08:55

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/06/2026 05:39

The truth isn't hyperbole.

It just suits you to be believe that online transphobia doesn't enable the well-documented anti-trans violence in schools.

Just as it suits you to believe that those criticising the anti-trans rhetoric here aren't direct victims of that violence.

Trans people are not men's rights activists. They're overwhelmingly feminists, because they've experienced misogyny. Trans men and women are impacted daily by cis male violence, and live in fear of being attacked by them.

A desire to campaign for women's spaces is no justification for villainising a minority, making comments about their bodies, inventing deeply odd origin stories for them, and denying the extreme violence they experience. All behaviour I see daily on this forum.

I'm too emotional, right. Hmm now where I have I heard that my entire life - oh yeah, from abusive men. Perhaps I'm hysterical too? Don't I seem tired and should rest my poor little head?

Dear me, a woman really should stop being emotional and leave you all to discuss The Origins Of The Trans Species like grown-ups. And ignore that the fun you're having is helping destroy lives.

Still waiting for a response to my comments about your creditials on propaganda and my comments on the immoveable rock of the truth that sex can't be changed even if you wish it to be possible.

The fact you don't have a response other than blow hot air with unsubstantiated guff about how we all want to harm children just makes you sound like one of those befuddled Americans who swears blind that the Democrats are Satan worshipers who want to abort babies right up to birth and even after birth and that's why they need to praise the lord and buy guns because they read it was true on the interwebs and can show you all the links.

Sorry but no. If you think MN is an echo chamber because we recognise reality, that's not my problem to fix either. We can't help this. We can't change the fact that you can't change sex. Stop blaming us for material reality.

EdithStourton · 20/06/2026 08:45

JadeLeader · 20/06/2026 01:08

"Nobody wants an echo chamber, just reasonable debate"

And yet MN is, and nobody does.

And yet, here you are.
No one is reporting your posts or trying to get you banned.
But as a PP said, if we were to try posting on Reddit...

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/06/2026 08:43

TrainedByTheBiddyMafia · 20/06/2026 01:01

IMO the TWs, the TRAs and TransParents are often useful on this board. Yes it’s tedious rehashing arguments and it feels like playing chess with pigeons but new comers to the issue won’t read back over all threads so I appreciate them providing an opportunity to make those arguments again for the new lurkers.

Those newcomers also get to see the aggression and lack of coherent arguments by the TRAs and the uncontrolled emotional blackmail by some of the trans parents. The latter is particularly useful on a parenting site like this because we’re all reminded good parenting means not giving into children's every demand as we read their cries of ‘you must all go along with my child’s delusion or you’ll make them sad’

YY.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/06/2026 08:40

Hedgehogforshort · 19/06/2026 23:24

The fact is that you have not made out a case to rest.

Helen Joyce describes the last bastion of this trans belief system will be parents,

Yes. Not really much more to be said.

Taztoy · 20/06/2026 07:58

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/06/2026 05:39

The truth isn't hyperbole.

It just suits you to be believe that online transphobia doesn't enable the well-documented anti-trans violence in schools.

Just as it suits you to believe that those criticising the anti-trans rhetoric here aren't direct victims of that violence.

Trans people are not men's rights activists. They're overwhelmingly feminists, because they've experienced misogyny. Trans men and women are impacted daily by cis male violence, and live in fear of being attacked by them.

A desire to campaign for women's spaces is no justification for villainising a minority, making comments about their bodies, inventing deeply odd origin stories for them, and denying the extreme violence they experience. All behaviour I see daily on this forum.

I'm too emotional, right. Hmm now where I have I heard that my entire life - oh yeah, from abusive men. Perhaps I'm hysterical too? Don't I seem tired and should rest my poor little head?

Dear me, a woman really should stop being emotional and leave you all to discuss The Origins Of The Trans Species like grown-ups. And ignore that the fun you're having is helping destroy lives.

But if trans individuals are at risk from men, why is that women’s problem to solve? I want single sex spaces due to trauma caused by a man. The answer to that isnt to open up women’s single sex spaces to more men and leave me even more isolated and unable to access services.

why does your trans child need to be able to access male single sex spaces? Why can’t they campaign and use a fourth space? Or why can’t they use the space that aligns with their sex?

I am disabled. I have to use the disabled toilet because I can no longer use a loo without the rails etc. and the extra space. So everyone knows im disabled. Even if they didn’t notice the crutches, or the chair, or in the days before I used them all the time. Why is it so terrible that your child be expected to use a fourth space, that wouldnt even out them to the same degree as me using a disabled space? (Because people who aren’t trans would also be able to use the fourth space, but non-disabled people arent supposed to use the disabled loos)

I am sorry for what your child has experienced and I hope they have good support around them.

nolongersurprised · 20/06/2026 07:12

They probably come because their other places, like Reddit, genuinely are an echo chamber. If I were to post on a TiM site and say that, no, a 45 year old man with hair in pigtails isn’t a “cute girl” and that “euphoria boners” = AGP I’d be banned.

They may all feel “valid” but I’m sure it’s boring

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 20/06/2026 07:01

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/06/2026 05:39

The truth isn't hyperbole.

It just suits you to be believe that online transphobia doesn't enable the well-documented anti-trans violence in schools.

Just as it suits you to believe that those criticising the anti-trans rhetoric here aren't direct victims of that violence.

Trans people are not men's rights activists. They're overwhelmingly feminists, because they've experienced misogyny. Trans men and women are impacted daily by cis male violence, and live in fear of being attacked by them.

A desire to campaign for women's spaces is no justification for villainising a minority, making comments about their bodies, inventing deeply odd origin stories for them, and denying the extreme violence they experience. All behaviour I see daily on this forum.

I'm too emotional, right. Hmm now where I have I heard that my entire life - oh yeah, from abusive men. Perhaps I'm hysterical too? Don't I seem tired and should rest my poor little head?

Dear me, a woman really should stop being emotional and leave you all to discuss The Origins Of The Trans Species like grown-ups. And ignore that the fun you're having is helping destroy lives.

Your problems are yours to solve, there are literally a million self help books on sale buy one and read it.
You can't escape misogyny by pretending not to be a women, if that's the motivation behind your daughters 'transing', you might want to ask yourself if you've contributed to the mental health issues that have caused her to try to run away from what she is.

Seethlaw · 20/06/2026 06:30

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/06/2026 05:39

The truth isn't hyperbole.

It just suits you to be believe that online transphobia doesn't enable the well-documented anti-trans violence in schools.

Just as it suits you to believe that those criticising the anti-trans rhetoric here aren't direct victims of that violence.

Trans people are not men's rights activists. They're overwhelmingly feminists, because they've experienced misogyny. Trans men and women are impacted daily by cis male violence, and live in fear of being attacked by them.

A desire to campaign for women's spaces is no justification for villainising a minority, making comments about their bodies, inventing deeply odd origin stories for them, and denying the extreme violence they experience. All behaviour I see daily on this forum.

I'm too emotional, right. Hmm now where I have I heard that my entire life - oh yeah, from abusive men. Perhaps I'm hysterical too? Don't I seem tired and should rest my poor little head?

Dear me, a woman really should stop being emotional and leave you all to discuss The Origins Of The Trans Species like grown-ups. And ignore that the fun you're having is helping destroy lives.

Bollocks. Nothing but bollocks. Quite impressive, and most definitely hyperbolic.

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/06/2026 05:39

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 19/06/2026 23:26

I'm.sure it suits you to believe that. I am absolutely the parent of a trans guy, annoyed at the ignorance I often see here, reporting the violent results of transphobia on my family.
I really don't care either way. I don't see ignorance here, on the contrary, there are a lot of well-read, intelligent, well-rounded people, who have done their research. What I read from you is a lot of hyperbole and not much in the way of facts. I really don't see how anything anyone writes here could possibly cause "violent results of transphobia" on your family. That's more of that hyperbole I mentioned.

Can't think why you wouldn't want me to be real.
I really don't need you to be real, that's fine. Be real, be not real, whichever suits you best. I don't care.

"Arrange your life around non-reality" is quite amusing from someone who dedicates so much time to obsessing about a minority.
I'm very concerned about women's rights. That's my only reason for being on this forum. Men are not a minority, as you've been told before.

I'm a carer who dips in and out of here. Find it too depressing to stay long.
Ok. You must be very tired. Perhaps you should limit your exposure to these threads if you find it too depressing.

Think I rest my case about all the paranoia and conspiracy theories.
Please do. The constant rehash of hyperbole and activist language is getting pretty dull. Thanks.

The truth isn't hyperbole.

It just suits you to be believe that online transphobia doesn't enable the well-documented anti-trans violence in schools.

Just as it suits you to believe that those criticising the anti-trans rhetoric here aren't direct victims of that violence.

Trans people are not men's rights activists. They're overwhelmingly feminists, because they've experienced misogyny. Trans men and women are impacted daily by cis male violence, and live in fear of being attacked by them.

A desire to campaign for women's spaces is no justification for villainising a minority, making comments about their bodies, inventing deeply odd origin stories for them, and denying the extreme violence they experience. All behaviour I see daily on this forum.

I'm too emotional, right. Hmm now where I have I heard that my entire life - oh yeah, from abusive men. Perhaps I'm hysterical too? Don't I seem tired and should rest my poor little head?

Dear me, a woman really should stop being emotional and leave you all to discuss The Origins Of The Trans Species like grown-ups. And ignore that the fun you're having is helping destroy lives.

murasaki · 20/06/2026 01:18

JadeLeader · 20/06/2026 01:08

"Nobody wants an echo chamber, just reasonable debate"

And yet MN is, and nobody does.

Care to answer the questions then?

JadeLeader · 20/06/2026 01:10

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 19/06/2026 23:12

I'm.sure it suits you to believe that. I am absolutely the parent of a trans guy, annoyed at the ignorance I often see here, reporting the violent results of transphobia on my family. Can't think why you wouldn't want me to be real.

"Arrange your life around non-reality" is quite amusing from someone who dedicates so much time to obsessing about a minority.

I'm a carer who dips in and out of here. Find it too depressing to stay long.

Think I rest my case about all the paranoia and conspiracy theories.

If you expected something more from the Usual Suspects of MN, you're in the wrong place.

This board has the reputation it does for a reason.

JadeLeader · 20/06/2026 01:08

murasaki · 19/06/2026 14:19

Nobody wants an echo chamber, just reasonable debate, and answers to some age old questions that have never been answered, such as 'what does living as a woman mean, without reference to hair, make up and spinny skirts'. And 'why does not buying into stereotypes of maleness mean you must be female'.

If someone could answer those questions, it'd be great, and a good starting point for a debate. Never happens though.

"Nobody wants an echo chamber, just reasonable debate"

And yet MN is, and nobody does.

TrainedByTheBiddyMafia · 20/06/2026 01:01

IMO the TWs, the TRAs and TransParents are often useful on this board. Yes it’s tedious rehashing arguments and it feels like playing chess with pigeons but new comers to the issue won’t read back over all threads so I appreciate them providing an opportunity to make those arguments again for the new lurkers.

Those newcomers also get to see the aggression and lack of coherent arguments by the TRAs and the uncontrolled emotional blackmail by some of the trans parents. The latter is particularly useful on a parenting site like this because we’re all reminded good parenting means not giving into children's every demand as we read their cries of ‘you must all go along with my child’s delusion or you’ll make them sad’

NumberTheory · 19/06/2026 23:52

AStonedRose · 19/06/2026 14:13

I genuinely don't understand why one side of the argument wants to keep this board an echo chamber. So much for free speech.

There are no brownie points for 'winning' the FWR board on Mumsnet. It achieves precisely nothing except confirming for you your own prejudices.

It’s not an echo chamber. There are lots of different points of view on how to best defend women’s rights and fight the scourge of trans rights activism that has threatened us.

Seethlaw · 19/06/2026 23:32

It's not paranoia if they really are after your spaces...

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 19/06/2026 23:26

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 19/06/2026 23:12

I'm.sure it suits you to believe that. I am absolutely the parent of a trans guy, annoyed at the ignorance I often see here, reporting the violent results of transphobia on my family. Can't think why you wouldn't want me to be real.

"Arrange your life around non-reality" is quite amusing from someone who dedicates so much time to obsessing about a minority.

I'm a carer who dips in and out of here. Find it too depressing to stay long.

Think I rest my case about all the paranoia and conspiracy theories.

I'm.sure it suits you to believe that. I am absolutely the parent of a trans guy, annoyed at the ignorance I often see here, reporting the violent results of transphobia on my family.
I really don't care either way. I don't see ignorance here, on the contrary, there are a lot of well-read, intelligent, well-rounded people, who have done their research. What I read from you is a lot of hyperbole and not much in the way of facts. I really don't see how anything anyone writes here could possibly cause "violent results of transphobia" on your family. That's more of that hyperbole I mentioned.

Can't think why you wouldn't want me to be real.
I really don't need you to be real, that's fine. Be real, be not real, whichever suits you best. I don't care.

"Arrange your life around non-reality" is quite amusing from someone who dedicates so much time to obsessing about a minority.
I'm very concerned about women's rights. That's my only reason for being on this forum. Men are not a minority, as you've been told before.

I'm a carer who dips in and out of here. Find it too depressing to stay long.
Ok. You must be very tired. Perhaps you should limit your exposure to these threads if you find it too depressing.

Think I rest my case about all the paranoia and conspiracy theories.
Please do. The constant rehash of hyperbole and activist language is getting pretty dull. Thanks.

Hedgehogforshort · 19/06/2026 23:24

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 19/06/2026 23:12

I'm.sure it suits you to believe that. I am absolutely the parent of a trans guy, annoyed at the ignorance I often see here, reporting the violent results of transphobia on my family. Can't think why you wouldn't want me to be real.

"Arrange your life around non-reality" is quite amusing from someone who dedicates so much time to obsessing about a minority.

I'm a carer who dips in and out of here. Find it too depressing to stay long.

Think I rest my case about all the paranoia and conspiracy theories.

The fact is that you have not made out a case to rest.

Helen Joyce describes the last bastion of this trans belief system will be parents,

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 19/06/2026 23:12

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 19/06/2026 15:33

Yes, well, I have my doubts about the "parent." Anyone can claim to be anyone on here. Every post is 85% emotional blackmail/handwringing and 15% activist hyperbole. I suppose I should feel sorry for them, because they may not have anyone else to talk to, but I'm fresh out of sympathy now. This is what happens when you decide to arrange your entire life around non-reality.

I'm.sure it suits you to believe that. I am absolutely the parent of a trans guy, annoyed at the ignorance I often see here, reporting the violent results of transphobia on my family. Can't think why you wouldn't want me to be real.

"Arrange your life around non-reality" is quite amusing from someone who dedicates so much time to obsessing about a minority.

I'm a carer who dips in and out of here. Find it too depressing to stay long.

Think I rest my case about all the paranoia and conspiracy theories.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 19/06/2026 15:52

Indeed.

BridgetPhillipsonIsACowardlyJobsworth · 19/06/2026 15:33

murasaki · 19/06/2026 14:48

I seem to remember a couple of transwomen, sorry, I've forgotten the names, who did come on and debate reasonably and it was interesting. But I'm pretty sure it was only two which was why they stand out.

And then the TRAs totally ignore Seethlaw, for obvious reasons. Even the alleged parent of a transman, who you'd think would be interested in that point of view.

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Yes, well, I have my doubts about the "parent." Anyone can claim to be anyone on here. Every post is 85% emotional blackmail/handwringing and 15% activist hyperbole. I suppose I should feel sorry for them, because they may not have anyone else to talk to, but I'm fresh out of sympathy now. This is what happens when you decide to arrange your entire life around non-reality.

SnoopyPajamas · 19/06/2026 14:50

It's the school holidays. It's also Pride Month, and there's been an observable lack of enthusiasm for all things trans this go around. More and more gay people are speaking up to drop the TQ. The TRAs are losing and they view us as being to blame

murasaki · 19/06/2026 14:48

I seem to remember a couple of transwomen, sorry, I've forgotten the names, who did come on and debate reasonably and it was interesting. But I'm pretty sure it was only two which was why they stand out.

And then the TRAs totally ignore Seethlaw, for obvious reasons. Even the alleged parent of a transman, who you'd think would be interested in that point of view.