Traumatised by swinging

I heard some of it - grim. They had talked to one man who was involved in threesomes with the husband watching who said he often felt the women weren’t really consenting ; he was asked if he felt as though he was raping them and he said yes.

Ruth said she’d come forward about this because of Gisèle Pelicot. Courage calls to courage.

Bloody hell! There are so many porn-addled pervert men in the world these days! These awful men literally don't see women as human beings/people deserving of respect. And once again, the Police are inadequate to the task of punishing this form of abuse.

Ruth is very brave to speak out and to tell other women that they don't have to go along with their partner's fetish.

The bit which disturbed me most wasn't even the coercive husband and his kink, grim though that was, it was the fact Ruth said a lot of the men wouldn't make eye contact or speak to her during what was supposed to be a meeting between two consenting adults.

WTF is that about? I have no issues whatsoever with casual sex but the last time I engaged in any was before the ubiquity of dating apps. No strings sex is supposed to be fun, right? Why were so many of these men creeps and unable to treat Ruth like a human?

Edit to add: extremely brave of Ruth to speak out. More people need to understand coercion and power differentials between men and women.