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Push and pull factors in transitioning

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GCScot · 16/06/2026 09:32

People's motivations in making a change can be categorised into 'push' and 'pull' factors. 'Push' factors are your dissatisfaction with your current state. 'Pull' factors are the perceived advantages of another state.

I started thinking about the possible push and pull factors for people transitioning their gender. It made me realise that there are two distinct groups:

Group 1 = mainly motivated by push factors. i.e. they are unhappy with their sexed body. They include:

  • Women/girls with internalised misogyny
  • Gay people with internalised homophobia
  • Non-genderconforming autistic people who have internalised sexist stereotypes as fact
  • Survivors of abuse/trauma who are trying to protect themselves from future abuse/trauma

Group 2 = mainly motivated by pull factors. i.e. they are attracted to being/being perceived to be the opposite sex. They include:

  • People who are sexually aroused by the idea of themselves being the opposite sex (AGP/AAP)
  • People who think they can gain a personal advantage (sporting/competitive/sexual access) by claiming to be the opposite sex

Group 1 are mainly children and young adults, especially girls. They have gender dysphoria. Because they are trying to permanently and convincingly escape their sexed bodies, they are more likely to undergo medical modifications (surgery, artificial hormones). They have a diverse range of vulnerabilities as a result of their own personal life experiences and the prejudices of society

Group 2 are mainly adult men. We might say they have gender euphoria. Because they aren't trying to escape their sexed bodies they are unlikely to undergo medical modification, preferring temporary and superficial modifications such as clothes, make up, prosthetics, names and pronouns. The majority of the aggressive vocal TRAs come from this group

TRAs deliberately merge the two groups

They know they can utilise the sincerity, vulnerability and innocence of Group 1:
Trans appears in childhood - it must be innate!
Trans appears in childhood - it can't be sexually motivated!
Trans people have gender dysphoria - they're vulnerable!
Look at the lengths they'll go to (surgery, hormones) - they must be genuine!

But when it comes to the motivations of trans people, the TRAs suddenly switch track. They emphasise the pull factor acting on Group 2 ("wanting to be a wo/man") rather than the push factor acting on Group 1 (trying to escape your sexed body). Because any detailed discussion of just why someone might want to escape their body would raise awkward questions about whether wanting to transition is really a cause for celebration and affirmation.

I think it's very important we distinguish between the two groups when discussing objections to gender ideology. They are very different groups with different motivations and consequences. I think part of the reason so many trans allies are resistant to changing their opinions or even discussing the issue is because most of the trans people they know are Group 1s. They recognise these people's sincerity and vulnerability and have been duped by Group 2 TRAs into not examining the underlying push and pull factors of transition

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DeanElderberry · 17/06/2026 10:14

EmilyinEverton · 16/06/2026 12:52

You could apply this 'theory' for any ideology including gender critical feminism:

Group 1 = mainly motivated by push factors.

Women & Men with gender insecurities/complexes
Women with internalised misandry
Men with internalised misogyny
Women & Men with conformist tendencies
Women & Men with victimhood complexes

Group 2 = mainly motivated by pull factors

People who think they can gain a personal advantage by exploiting trans bashing to gain political power.

People who think they can gain a personal advantage by seeking attention when they have lost relevance.

People who think they can gain a personal advantage by bashing trans people as a business model.

People who think they can gain a personal advantage by elevating themselves a la Suffragettes/Crusaders AKA hero complex.

If you want to play denial two can play.

You clearly do not know what 'internalised' means.

There may be other things you don't understand, I stopped reading at that stage because why burden myself with nonsense.

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 10:13

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:56

The point is on average men & women are distinguished by presentation. What happens individually or at the tail end is irrelevant to the category existing AND people identifying with the norm.

On average, yes. Which means you can use this system to discuss populations, not individuals. Ie. it's not any kind of evidence regarding individuals, and you can't argue that individual presentation is evidence of the existence of that thing you call gender identity.

Well you would need to disprove the scientifically supported findings that hormones & genes influence gendered behaviours & they are shared by the sexes . Of course you are welcome to disprove their findings but I won't hold my breath.

Why would I need to do that, since those findings have exactly zero to do with gender identity? Hormones, genes, sex: not gender identity.

On average, yes. Which means you can use this system to discuss populations, not individuals. Ie. it's not any kind of evidence regarding individuals,

FINALLLLLY! That's why comments like 'I like dressing like a trucker so I must be a man HA HA! by GC's is dumb. Nobody is suggesting gender categories apply to individuals. But what trans people are saying is they at an individual level associate with the category. BIG DIFFERENCE.

and you can't argue that individual presentation is evidence of the existence of that thing you call gender identity.

Yeah I can. Because an individual can have group associations. It doesn't work the other way round tho. which is where you are getting confused,

An individual who plays cricket associates with the category of cricket players
The category of cricket players doesn't associate with all individuals.

Why would I need to do that, since those findings have exactly zero to do with gender identity? Hormones, genes, sex: not gender identity.

Well, if you are relating to a behavioural identity category its because you have it.

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 10:06

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 10:03

What is a biological variation zone?

Just like you, I am assuming they are referring to DSDs. But most trans people don't have a DSD to begin with, so bringing DSDs in is irrelevant.

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 10:03

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 10:03

Irrelevant. Most trans people are very firmly outside of that biological variation zone.

What is a biological variation zone?

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 10:03

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:58

There's this thing called 'biological variation' hope that helps.

Irrelevant. Most trans people are very firmly outside of that biological variation zone.

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 10:01

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:58

There's this thing called 'biological variation' hope that helps.

Not really...do you want to explain it in more detail?

DSD's, if that is what you are referring to, are disorders of one sex or other. The chromosomal hard drive is what determines your puberty - which in turn fully 'realises' the hard drive.

Gay men are still male ( in spite of 'variation'), and lesbians are still female - if sexual orientation is what you refer to.

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 10:01

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:56

Gender being a spectrum refers to a scale masculine & feminine behaviour not that there isn't any evidence of it. Might help if you familiarise yourself with terms to save your confusion.

Says you. Prove it.

Like you 'proved' it with mental illness? There's this thing called 'inconsistency'.
I provided evidence: there's this thing called 'science'. Still waiting for yours. Science called, btw & said not to bother.

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Gender being a spectrum refers to a scale masculine & feminine behaviour not that there isn't any evidence of it. Might help if you familiarise yourself with terms to save your confusion.

What do you call "gender"? We were talking about gender identity, not gender.

Like you 'proved' it with mental illness? There's this thing called 'inconsistency'.
I provided evidence: there's this thing called 'science'. Still waiting for yours. Science called, btw & said not to bother.

Indeed, I proved it with mental illness: mental illness is diagnosed on the basis of defined, observable symptoms.

I observe that you have devolved into insulting me. You are aware that this is generally a blatant sign that one is losing one's grip in a debate, right?

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:58

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 09:49

I certainly agree that the genetic and chromosomal hard drive does condition and shape certain types of trait ( the software) in males and females. And that is why men who 'identify as' women still retain their male characteristics.

There's this thing called 'biological variation' hope that helps.

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 09:58

Men and women are primarily distinguised by their sexed bodies and all of the physical indicators that are reflected by that. 'Presentation' is superficial dressing. Women can present in 'feminine ways' but it is not the presentation that makes them a woman.

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:56

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:27

Gender is a spectrum that isn't limited to 1950's pin up movie stars. Just like women & men, trans women & trans men express their identity on a spectrum.

Precisely. Which is why you can't use presentation or other forms of adherence (or lack thereof) to gender stereotypes as evidence of anything.

Because it exists.

Says you. Prove it.

Gender being a spectrum refers to a scale masculine & feminine behaviour not that there isn't any evidence of it. Might help if you familiarise yourself with terms to save your confusion.

Says you. Prove it.

Like you 'proved' it with mental illness? There's this thing called 'inconsistency'.
I provided evidence: there's this thing called 'science'. Still waiting for yours. Science called, btw & said not to bother.

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:56

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:46

Except presentation is not enough to distinguish between a man, a butch lesbian, and a transman, for example. So no, it's not an "obvious behavioural characteristics [...] that distinguishes men from women", obviously.

The point is on average men & women are distinguished by presentation. What happens individually or at the tail end is irrelevant to the category existing AND people identifying with the norm.

Precisely. All the evidence you've provided can very easily be attributed to entirely different things. Thus the evidence points to the non-existence of gender identity.

Yes but you can't eliminate gender identification being the point.

You're putting the cart before the horses. You're positing the existence of gender identity in the first place. I'm arguing that nothing influences gender identification because gender identification doesn't exist.

Well you would need to disprove the scientifically supported findings that hormones & genes influence gendered behaviours & they are shared by the sexes . Of course you are welcome to disprove their findings but I won't hold my breath.

The point is on average men & women are distinguished by presentation. What happens individually or at the tail end is irrelevant to the category existing AND people identifying with the norm.

On average, yes. Which means you can use this system to discuss populations, not individuals. Ie. it's not any kind of evidence regarding individuals, and you can't argue that individual presentation is evidence of the existence of that thing you call gender identity.

Well you would need to disprove the scientifically supported findings that hormones & genes influence gendered behaviours & they are shared by the sexes . Of course you are welcome to disprove their findings but I won't hold my breath.

Why would I need to do that, since those findings have exactly zero to do with gender identity? Hormones, genes, sex: not gender identity.

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 09:52

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 06:55

This is incoherent.

Gender identification by its very definition requires an identification with a gender type as in man woman or non binary. There is no 'trans man' gender.

Man and Woman are not gender types they are biological categories. I think you must be talking about 'masculine' and 'feminine' coded stereotypes.

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 09:49

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:46

Except presentation is not enough to distinguish between a man, a butch lesbian, and a transman, for example. So no, it's not an "obvious behavioural characteristics [...] that distinguishes men from women", obviously.

The point is on average men & women are distinguished by presentation. What happens individually or at the tail end is irrelevant to the category existing AND people identifying with the norm.

Precisely. All the evidence you've provided can very easily be attributed to entirely different things. Thus the evidence points to the non-existence of gender identity.

Yes but you can't eliminate gender identification being the point.

You're putting the cart before the horses. You're positing the existence of gender identity in the first place. I'm arguing that nothing influences gender identification because gender identification doesn't exist.

Well you would need to disprove the scientifically supported findings that hormones & genes influence gendered behaviours & they are shared by the sexes . Of course you are welcome to disprove their findings but I won't hold my breath.

I certainly agree that the genetic and chromosomal hard drive does condition and shape certain types of trait ( the software) in males and females. And that is why men who 'identify as' women still retain their male characteristics.

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:47

GreyskySexRealistsky · 17/06/2026 09:45

Bailey's gonna Bailey

I don't think Emily is Bailey, to be honest. Bailey's posts make my brain go fuzzy in a way that Emily's don't.

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 09:47

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:23

And lots of trans people who are out of the closet don't express the gender stereotypes of the gender identity you think they ought to have.

Gender is a spectrum that isn't limited to 1950's pin up movie stars. Just like women & men, trans women & trans men express their identity on a spectrum.

No, that wasn't what I asked.

Yes you did. That's what triggered our whole mental illness discussion remember?

What I asked was, "Why would you need to posit the existence of such a thing as gender identity in the first place?" You haven't answered that so far.

Because it exists.

What you are calling a spectrum is just the natural range of human personality, characteristics. We all exist on this 'spectrum'. But sex is not a spectrum. It is binary.

'Gender Identity' only exists in so far that it is a contemporarary framing device for describing the above personality characteristics or preferences.

A framing device is a tool you use to view the world through, and your view is inherently shaped by the viewfinder you use.

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:46

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:25

Already have presentation.

Except presentation is not enough to distinguish between a man, a butch lesbian, and a transman, for example. So no, it's not an "obvious behavioural characteristics [...] that distinguishes men from women", obviously.

"Evidence of Absence: If you search an area thoroughly and find no evidence of something that should be there, you can conclude it likely doesn't exist. For example, if you thoroughly check a sealed, empty room, you can prove there is no adult elephant inside. "

Precisely. All the evidence you've provided can very easily be attributed to entirely different things. Thus the evidence points to the non-existence of gender identity.

You could eliminate reasons that prove that personality traits & beliefs influence gender identification….but you can't.

You're putting the cart before the horses. You're positing the existence of gender identity in the first place. I'm arguing that nothing influences gender identification because gender identification doesn't exist.

Except presentation is not enough to distinguish between a man, a butch lesbian, and a transman, for example. So no, it's not an "obvious behavioural characteristics [...] that distinguishes men from women", obviously.

The point is on average men & women are distinguished by presentation. What happens individually or at the tail end is irrelevant to the category existing AND people identifying with the norm.

Precisely. All the evidence you've provided can very easily be attributed to entirely different things. Thus the evidence points to the non-existence of gender identity.

Yes but you can't eliminate gender identification being the point.

You're putting the cart before the horses. You're positing the existence of gender identity in the first place. I'm arguing that nothing influences gender identification because gender identification doesn't exist.

Well you would need to disprove the scientifically supported findings that hormones & genes influence gendered behaviours & they are shared by the sexes . Of course you are welcome to disprove their findings but I won't hold my breath.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 17/06/2026 09:45

MoistVonL · 17/06/2026 08:02

Is it just me or is Emily spouting utter gibberish?

Bailey's gonna Bailey

DrBlackbird · 17/06/2026 09:42

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 09:40

Identifying 'with' someone or something suggests empathy and fellow feeling, whereas identifying 'as' something or someone is suggestive of a performance or a role.

If men really identified with women they would have more respect and more consideration for the reason we have spaces set aside for female people.

Men identifying as women put themselves, and their feelings, first. Everyone must accommodate them and centre their feelings in everything.

Edited

Excellent point.

Shortshriftandlethal · 17/06/2026 09:40

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 06:44

By the very act of identifying with something suggests an association with the category in some way. You can't identify with nothing.

Identifying 'with' someone or something suggests empathy and fellow feeling, whereas identifying 'as' something or someone is suggestive of a performance or a role.

If men really identified with women they would have more respect and more consideration for the reason we have spaces set aside for female people.

Men identifying as women put themselves, and their feelings, first. Everyone must accommodate them and centre their feelings in everything.

HenriettaSwanLeavitt · 17/06/2026 09:36

DrBlackbird · 17/06/2026 09:29

@Seethlaw you’re on fire 🔥 this morning. Am enjoying your systematic logical deconstruction of gender arguments.

Edited to add: unfortunately it’s a lost cause against genderist thinking but I’m still enjoying reading your arguments.

Edited

Yep 🔥

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:33

DrBlackbird · 17/06/2026 09:29

@Seethlaw you’re on fire 🔥 this morning. Am enjoying your systematic logical deconstruction of gender arguments.

Edited to add: unfortunately it’s a lost cause against genderist thinking but I’m still enjoying reading your arguments.

Edited

Ha ha! I'm bored and I have too much time on my hands. That's a deadly combination for me :P

And yeah, i know it's a lost cause - as far as those making the arguments go. But I remember my time as a lurker, and what influenced me or not.

DrBlackbird · 17/06/2026 09:29

@Seethlaw you’re on fire 🔥 this morning. Am enjoying your systematic logical deconstruction of gender arguments.

Edited to add: unfortunately it’s a lost cause against genderist thinking but I’m still enjoying reading your arguments.

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:27

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:23

And lots of trans people who are out of the closet don't express the gender stereotypes of the gender identity you think they ought to have.

Gender is a spectrum that isn't limited to 1950's pin up movie stars. Just like women & men, trans women & trans men express their identity on a spectrum.

No, that wasn't what I asked.

Yes you did. That's what triggered our whole mental illness discussion remember?

What I asked was, "Why would you need to posit the existence of such a thing as gender identity in the first place?" You haven't answered that so far.

Because it exists.

Gender is a spectrum that isn't limited to 1950's pin up movie stars. Just like women & men, trans women & trans men express their identity on a spectrum.

Precisely. Which is why you can't use presentation or other forms of adherence (or lack thereof) to gender stereotypes as evidence of anything.

Because it exists.

Says you. Prove it.

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:25

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:16

Okay. Give us one such characteristic. Just one.

Already have presentation.

I don't have to prove that something that doesn't exist is unfalsifiable.

"Evidence of Absence: If you search an area thoroughly and find no evidence of something that should be there, you can conclude it likely doesn't exist. For example, if you thoroughly check a sealed, empty room, you can prove there is no adult elephant inside. 1, 2]"

You could eliminate reasons that prove that personality traits & beliefs influence gender identification….but you can't.

Already have presentation.

Except presentation is not enough to distinguish between a man, a butch lesbian, and a transman, for example. So no, it's not an "obvious behavioural characteristics [...] that distinguishes men from women", obviously.

"Evidence of Absence: If you search an area thoroughly and find no evidence of something that should be there, you can conclude it likely doesn't exist. For example, if you thoroughly check a sealed, empty room, you can prove there is no adult elephant inside. "

Precisely. All the evidence you've provided can very easily be attributed to entirely different things. Thus the evidence points to the non-existence of gender identity.

You could eliminate reasons that prove that personality traits & beliefs influence gender identification….but you can't.

You're putting the cart before the horses. You're positing the existence of gender identity in the first place. I'm arguing that nothing influences gender identification because gender identification doesn't exist.

EmilyinEverton · 17/06/2026 09:23

Seethlaw · 17/06/2026 09:10

Not all trans people are out of the closet & as such don't express their gender identity.

And lots of trans people who are out of the closet don't express the gender stereotypes of the gender identity you think they ought to have.

Never said it did. What I said was it is evidence of it because you asked for how this could be done.

No, that wasn't what I asked. What I asked was, "Why would you need to posit the existence of such a thing as gender identity in the first place?" You haven't answered that so far.

And lots of trans people who are out of the closet don't express the gender stereotypes of the gender identity you think they ought to have.

Gender is a spectrum that isn't limited to 1950's pin up movie stars. Just like women & men, trans women & trans men express their identity on a spectrum.

No, that wasn't what I asked.

Yes you did. That's what triggered our whole mental illness discussion remember?

What I asked was, "Why would you need to posit the existence of such a thing as gender identity in the first place?" You haven't answered that so far.

Because it exists.

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