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DS’ school collecting money for Stonewall: how to respond?

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NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoByAgain · 11/06/2026 20:45

Email from his secondary school today that they are holding an own clothes day fundraiser to collect money for the charity Stonewall.

I really don’t want to go in heavy handed because a) I think it’s more powerful to change things with calm explanations than ranting, and b) I am assuming it’s coming from a place of ignorance not prejudice and c) I don’t want to make things difficult for my DS… but please help me draft an email setting out why this is a wholly inappropriate “charity” for a school to support? With links to evidence if possible! TIA

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Corryvreckan · 11/06/2026 21:29

@IwantToRetire thanks for posting that. I’m in Hampshire so was very pleased to see that my local council, police and nhs trust have all withdrawn.

IwantToRetire · 11/06/2026 21:23

This may not help, but could indicate it isn't just you having some sort of personal opinion. Sex Matters has a list of Stonewall Champions which shows how many have withdrawn.

https://sex-matters.org/about-us/what-we-are-up-against/keeping-track-of-stonewall/

(As an aside, worrying to see how few NHS Trusts have not withdrawn.)

Keeping track of Stonewall

We keep track of Stonewall's activities when they influence language, law and policy, and try to keep an up-to-date list of Stonewall Champions.

https://sex-matters.org/about-us/what-we-are-up-against/keeping-track-of-stonewall/

thirdfiddle · 11/06/2026 21:20

Hmm, when our school do charities I don't want to support I tend to just not donate to that particular event.

If you want to raise it, perhaps point out that Stonewall are heavily involved in political lobbying, and as a school they are obliged to be politically neutral. Maybe for balance they could do the next event for LGB Alliance?

SwirlyGates · 11/06/2026 21:09

You could point out that Stonewall have spent years giving incorrect advice that contravenes the law, in order to undermine women's rights.