Please or to access all these features

Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Ireland - "Transgender childcare worker sacked for offering child 'a free kiss' as a prize"

105 replies

ItsCoolForCats · 10/06/2026 13:35

A nursery hired a man called Aleena Starshine (🙄) and 4 days into his employment he offered a child a kiss from him as a reward for winning a game. He was suspended for this and other safeguarding concerns, and then tried to claim gender discrimination. Thankfully, he lost.

https://businessplus.ie/news/transgender-childcare-worker-sacked/

Transgender childcare

Transgender childcare worker sacked for offering child 'a free kiss' as a prize

A transgender childcare worker who was sacked from her role after offering an 11-year-old child “a free kiss” as a prize during a game has had her gender

https://businessplus.ie/news/transgender-childcare-worker-sacked/

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Thread gallery
6
Sailingintothesunset · 12/06/2026 07:50

CrepituErgoSum · 11/06/2026 18:51

Briefly de lurking to say this gives me the cold shivers and makes me feel a bit better about the fact I can't get any childcare.

But to those talking about "choosing candidates" and a "selection process" etc you do need to know that Irish childcare is in crisis. Like no places at ALL crisis.

The only ideology in play in hiring him may be the ideology that says childcare workers must be paid the minimum wage so someone can make a profit. The idea that multiple people would even apply for a job in childcare when so many other options pay significantly more is probably not realistic. I think many places will take literally anyone. It's just a matter of time until we have a childcare crime like those with the paedophiles in Australia and in UK.

One chain of centres apparently just calls parents up every Friday and says "no staff, so. no toddler room next week" and the mothers (always the mothers) then have to take annual leave to stay home and mind their kids. This is due to the utter inability to attract and retain staff.

Also the parents may not be "cool with it" so much as "desperately need to keep paying the mortgage or rent to keep their family housed". Childcare is just totally inaccessible for many of us right now and many women (always the women) are being forced to leave the workforce entirely. An impossible choice when that may mean you lose your housing as a result.

Yet another way that the failure to adequately fund childcare is harming women and kids.

Gosh, that sounds awful CrepituErgoSum. The childcare crisis is just another in a long list of failures by this government.
I think he was caring for after school children so this would be short hours on minimum wage. He may well have been the only applicant. In which case not taking him on would likely have led to a discrimination case. But if they had checked his social media it would have raised red flags. So, in that situation, they were between a rock and a hard place.
But safeguarding has to be the number one priority. Thankfully those children were old enough to tell their parents what was happening.

ItsCoolForCats · 11/06/2026 21:00

CrepituErgoSum · 11/06/2026 18:51

Briefly de lurking to say this gives me the cold shivers and makes me feel a bit better about the fact I can't get any childcare.

But to those talking about "choosing candidates" and a "selection process" etc you do need to know that Irish childcare is in crisis. Like no places at ALL crisis.

The only ideology in play in hiring him may be the ideology that says childcare workers must be paid the minimum wage so someone can make a profit. The idea that multiple people would even apply for a job in childcare when so many other options pay significantly more is probably not realistic. I think many places will take literally anyone. It's just a matter of time until we have a childcare crime like those with the paedophiles in Australia and in UK.

One chain of centres apparently just calls parents up every Friday and says "no staff, so. no toddler room next week" and the mothers (always the mothers) then have to take annual leave to stay home and mind their kids. This is due to the utter inability to attract and retain staff.

Also the parents may not be "cool with it" so much as "desperately need to keep paying the mortgage or rent to keep their family housed". Childcare is just totally inaccessible for many of us right now and many women (always the women) are being forced to leave the workforce entirely. An impossible choice when that may mean you lose your housing as a result.

Yet another way that the failure to adequately fund childcare is harming women and kids.

Gosh that shocking. My nieces and nephews in Ireland are all past childcare age, so I had no idea things had gotten so bad.

OP posts:
CrepituErgoSum · 11/06/2026 18:51

Briefly de lurking to say this gives me the cold shivers and makes me feel a bit better about the fact I can't get any childcare.

But to those talking about "choosing candidates" and a "selection process" etc you do need to know that Irish childcare is in crisis. Like no places at ALL crisis.

The only ideology in play in hiring him may be the ideology that says childcare workers must be paid the minimum wage so someone can make a profit. The idea that multiple people would even apply for a job in childcare when so many other options pay significantly more is probably not realistic. I think many places will take literally anyone. It's just a matter of time until we have a childcare crime like those with the paedophiles in Australia and in UK.

One chain of centres apparently just calls parents up every Friday and says "no staff, so. no toddler room next week" and the mothers (always the mothers) then have to take annual leave to stay home and mind their kids. This is due to the utter inability to attract and retain staff.

Also the parents may not be "cool with it" so much as "desperately need to keep paying the mortgage or rent to keep their family housed". Childcare is just totally inaccessible for many of us right now and many women (always the women) are being forced to leave the workforce entirely. An impossible choice when that may mean you lose your housing as a result.

Yet another way that the failure to adequately fund childcare is harming women and kids.

Bertiebiscuit · 11/06/2026 12:23

ItsCoolForCats · 10/06/2026 13:35

A nursery hired a man called Aleena Starshine (🙄) and 4 days into his employment he offered a child a kiss from him as a reward for winning a game. He was suspended for this and other safeguarding concerns, and then tried to claim gender discrimination. Thankfully, he lost.

https://businessplus.ie/news/transgender-childcare-worker-sacked/

Never ceases to amaze me how naive, stupid and ignorant some people are, if course he broke all the rules of safeguarding and decency. Men who pretend to be women are acting out a sexual fetish, breaking boundaries and doing what they know they should not is the point of a fetish, so why would any sane adult allow such a male to work with children? Let's hope that his behaviour was no worse than what is reported here, though tbh I'd be surprised. Whoever runs that nursery had bettet hope that too. Or get sued by furious parents for their crass ignoring of all sensible safeguarding.

MarieDeGournay · 11/06/2026 12:07

Datun · 11/06/2026 11:37

Such is the influence and reach of transactivism, I'm going to hazard a guess that no one dared say but this bloke looks dodgy.

That doesn't excuse raising a question about his social media, though.

But recognising that these men are perverts, or fetishists, is completely taboo.

I bet no one wanted to say it out loud.

I'd say you're right about no-one dared... Mr Starshine would have had his antennae out for any hint that he was not offered the job because he is trans, nobody wanted to #beunkind and/or get sued.

But did anybody ask the basis questsions: Does he have impressive qualifications? references? Was he Garda vetted? Did they look at his social media profiles?
Or was all that due diligence waved away because of the magic of his transness?

There are so many questions to be asked.

It's ironic that there is an investigation into a case of historical sexual abuse of children going on at the moment - a basketball coach who abused boys in the 1980s, but wasn't convicted, and imprisoned, until 2016.
All the usual comments about 'dereliction of duty' by the police and safeguarding authorities, and lessons learned.

Meanwhile, the case of a man presenting as a woman getting a job with small children and engaging in unacceptable behaviour with them, going on now, in 2026, is largely ignored.

If was the local Catholic priest who was kissing children, it would be all over the media, and rightly so; because it's a trans IDing man, it's too awkward to even mention.

There is still a sacred caste, it's just a different set of men.

TheKeatingFive · 11/06/2026 11:53

Cioccoholic · 11/06/2026 11:29

Terrifying that people like this can still successfully gain access to small children.

Republic of Ireland, of course.

I absolutely cannot imagine handing my precious baby over to Ms Starshine every morning, but I guess loads of people are “cool with it.”

I don't think the parents were cool with it in this instance. He only lasted 4 days.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 11/06/2026 11:53

Maybe the reason he was hired in the first place was because the people who made the decision to hire him, bought the all the lies this ideology has been promoting. 'Trans' are just misunderstood, marginalised, saintly people, who are perfectly normal. 🤷

moto748e · 11/06/2026 11:52

I bet no one wanted to say it out loud.

Yup. Spineless.

Datun · 11/06/2026 11:37

Such is the influence and reach of transactivism, I'm going to hazard a guess that no one dared say but this bloke looks dodgy.

That doesn't excuse raising a question about his social media, though.

But recognising that these men are perverts, or fetishists, is completely taboo.

I bet no one wanted to say it out loud.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 11/06/2026 11:32

Exactly. Even if there was a ‘fellow traveller’ on the panel, why did the other members just roll over and take it??

I know it’s almost a cliche now, that the older members of staff are terrified of the young ones. Could that be the case here, i wonder?

Cioccoholic · 11/06/2026 11:29

Terrifying that people like this can still successfully gain access to small children.

Republic of Ireland, of course.

I absolutely cannot imagine handing my precious baby over to Ms Starshine every morning, but I guess loads of people are “cool with it.”

INeedAPensieve · 11/06/2026 11:23

Beowulfa · 11/06/2026 10:53

FFS there is always the "your interview performance was great but another candidate was even better" line if someone complains about being rejected. Surely your brain would be in furious overdrive thinking up sound excuses from the moment Obvious Creepy Bloke walks into an interview for a job in a nursery.

Edited

It really beggars belief that he was hired in the first place. Who the HELL thought that was a good idea?! His open social media full of threats and fetish crap should have been enough not to hire him. It really worries me that whoever did is also not safe, or at best has absolutely no understanding whatsoever of basic safeguarding. Insane.

Beowulfa · 11/06/2026 10:53

FFS there is always the "your interview performance was great but another candidate was even better" line if someone complains about being rejected. Surely your brain would be in furious overdrive thinking up sound excuses from the moment Obvious Creepy Bloke walks into an interview for a job in a nursery.

Shortshriftandlethal · 11/06/2026 09:59

GallantKumquat · 11/06/2026 04:42

In a way the conditioning to not see what you're actually seeing is pretty impressive.

Yes, a perfect illustration of the 'Emperor's New Clothes' or Orwell's 2 + 2 = 5

All of those MPs in the Q&A with the ECHR the other day simply refused to see or hear what was obvious. I wonder if they will ever look back and recognise how they were so indoctrinated and brainwashed.

GallantKumquat · 11/06/2026 04:42

Pleasantsort2 · 10/06/2026 22:47

Ffs how did he get passed the screening ?

In a way the conditioning to not see what you're actually seeing is pretty impressive.

QldGCandproud · 11/06/2026 04:37

GreyskySexRealistsky · 10/06/2026 13:37

Eeeeuww

But "the children had laughed and enjoyed it". So that's okay then...

Someone else has probably already pointed out the grooming connotations here...

moto748e · 10/06/2026 23:38

Painful reading this. It's just appalling.

Datun · 10/06/2026 22:56

Sailingintothesunset · 10/06/2026 18:34

Ireland was the test case for Self ID by stealth.
The government and transactivist like to showcase it as a success case.
But, while it hasn't had cases such as the Darlington nurses yet, it is only a matter of time before it does.
All Unions, all public bodies, all NGO's, all political parties with the exception of Aontu, are fully signed up to support Self ID.
There will be no support for any unfortunate woman who finds herself in a similar situation to the Darlington nurses.
Unlike the UK, the Equality Act doesn't have sex as a protected characteristic. Self ID allows a person to change their sex anyway so even that protection wouldn't have protected women.
Leaving aside Barbie Kardashian, there are other ways it is impacting Irish society.
Last week, Ben Scallon asked the Minister for Children, formerly the Minister for Education, about the book What's the T. The book was one on a list by the state broadcaster RTE aimed at children as young as 15. The book is fairly graphic with instructions on how to prepare anus for sex. Foley denied all knowledge of the book though it has since emerged that she had been informed several times as Minister for Education. RTE have now quietly removed the book from it's recommended reading.
https://x.com/i/status/2062172119773982823

Jenny Maguire , formerly Craig, is the former president of Trinity College Students Union. Jenny was also closely involved with Catherine Connolly in her Presidential campaign. Jenny also has a regular column in a National Newspaper where Jenny pontificates about topics such as abortion rights. Jenny also regularly features as a panelist on current affairs programmes and talk shows. Gender critical women are persona non grata.
As President of TCDSU Jenny changed all female toilets to gender neutral. Jenny was photographed as President of TCSU in front of a sign saying F*ck TERF's. Jenny also attended the Let women speak event where Jenny drowned out the women speaking at the event, including a woman who was speaking about the death of her sister in the Tuam mother and baby home.
Jenny is a darling of the Irish media

Helen Joyce, Irish author of a best selling book has never been interviewed on Irish TV. She was eventually recently featured for the first time ever in a National paper after a reader highlighted how unusual it was for a bestselling Irish author to be ignored in this way.

Last week in the Leaving Certificate there was a question in one of the papers asking about pregnant people.
The Busy Bodies book which is a guide for children about puberty removed references to women and girls on the page teaching about periods replacing it with the word people.
Some years ago the same book added a section telling children that eve to y child has a gender identity.
Recently, a newly built secondary school was in the news for it's gender neutral toilets. It later emerged that the original design shown to parents had separate toilets which was quietly changed to gender neutral as the building progressed. There is no evidence that an impact assessment was done.
So while many women may not see a direct impact that doesn't mean it isn't there. It's just happening under the radar as it becomes ingrained in Irish society.

Dear God, that's difficult to believe. These bloody people.

She was ansked about a book that tells children of 15, which I believe is under age, on how to have anal sex. And she can't condemn it. Refuses to do so.

Just says a parent should have ultimate responsibility.

What fucking for? Finding this book in the local library?? How is that anything to do with the parent?

She just kept saying it. That it's the parents who have oversight. The parents, the parents.

Is she seriously suggesting that parents talk their children through a book on how to prepare their 15 year-old anuses for anal sex?

I don't want to google it, but I'm pretty certain that encouraging children to have underage sex is a crime.

What a bloody awful woman.

edited to add in case people aren't clear, that she is the minister for children, being asked by a journalist about a book being promoted by the national broadcaster.

Pleasantsort2 · 10/06/2026 22:47

Ffs how did he get passed the screening ?

moto748e · 10/06/2026 22:41

It just sounds like really hard work in the Republic. Once they've got these laws in place. Maybe cases like this, and the sunlight they shine, are the best hope.

ItsCoolForCats · 10/06/2026 22:03

Sailingintothesunset · 10/06/2026 20:40

There is still no resolution according to Google

The current operational status of this dispute includes the following key facts:Policy Unchanged: The Electricity Supply Board (ESB) continues to maintain its baseline policy, which dictates that all staff members have the right to access changing rooms, showers, and toilets aligned with their gender identity.Delayed Actions: Reports indicate that while management previously made pledges to install additional "private" or single-occupancy facilities to resolve the friction, they have delayed doing so, prompting accusations from employee representatives that staff concerns are being ignored.Employee Response: Senior female staff representing affected workers stated they felt "stonewalled" after attempting to escalate the matter to Chief Executive Paddy Hayes, with the issue being referred back to HR without structural changes to facility access.Compromise Reached Elsewhere: The only policy shift management conceded was rolling back a mandate regarding preferred pronouns, but the physical shared-space directives remain fully active.

Thanks, sounds like it's one to watch. Another depressing case of women's concerns not being listened to.

OP posts:
Sailingintothesunset · 10/06/2026 20:40

ItsCoolForCats · 10/06/2026 19:59

The only upshot is that it might peak a few more people and provoke greater scrutiny of the Gender Recognition Act.

As pp said, it's only a matter of time before there is a high profile case. Wasn't there something happening with the ESB headquarters?

There is still no resolution according to Google

The current operational status of this dispute includes the following key facts:Policy Unchanged: The Electricity Supply Board (ESB) continues to maintain its baseline policy, which dictates that all staff members have the right to access changing rooms, showers, and toilets aligned with their gender identity.Delayed Actions: Reports indicate that while management previously made pledges to install additional "private" or single-occupancy facilities to resolve the friction, they have delayed doing so, prompting accusations from employee representatives that staff concerns are being ignored.Employee Response: Senior female staff representing affected workers stated they felt "stonewalled" after attempting to escalate the matter to Chief Executive Paddy Hayes, with the issue being referred back to HR without structural changes to facility access.Compromise Reached Elsewhere: The only policy shift management conceded was rolling back a mandate regarding preferred pronouns, but the physical shared-space directives remain fully active.

Tryanalogue · 10/06/2026 20:20

Rubbish prize.

ItsCoolForCats · 10/06/2026 19:59

TheKeatingFive · 10/06/2026 18:09

Well this the fear.

I can only imagine what a bunch of English, trans identifying men moving here would do for the cause 😵‍💫

The only upshot is that it might peak a few more people and provoke greater scrutiny of the Gender Recognition Act.

As pp said, it's only a matter of time before there is a high profile case. Wasn't there something happening with the ESB headquarters?

OP posts:
bathofbeans · 10/06/2026 19:56

The new craze appears to be buying second hand clothes 😄