How to respond he/she?

Nope. I'm a working-class cis woman living on carer's allowance who objects to people being transphobic, hi there. We are legion.

There are only males and females. Males are "he" and females are "she". It's really easy. "trans" is an ideology, so therefore not real, just a belief system thst anyone can choose not to believe in.

Why do you think it's 'civil' to lie about what sex someone is?

Most women wouldn't find it "rude" but most women aren't terribly fragile creatures who can't possibly spend the evening being basically civil to a trans person.

Isn’t a man wearing fake boobs and wanting to be called ‘she’ being just a little bit rude to women?

Yep.

I too would rather be rude than a fucking liar.

…which is exactly what is wanted. Join in the affirmation or shut up.

It's avoidable, mostly, though not always easy. But that still requires policing your own language rather than saying what comes naturally to you. "Think it through first" isn't how conversation goes, really, and it shouldn't have to. It's an increase in mental load and in my case often leads to me not bothering to say anything.

Or "Barry, did you hear about Anne's new job?" Anne, tell Barry about your new job.

Look I'm probably nit picking, and I know it can happen as you described, but still, it's avoidable if someone doesn't want to use "she". Just have to think it through first!

Abusing?! If you think calling a man 'he' is abuse, you've led an extremely privileged, charmed life.

Happens all the time.

3 people present - Jane, Barry, Anne.

Jane: Barry, did Anne tell you she's got a new job?
or
Jane: Barry, did Anne tell you about her new job?

Fuck me, that was a quick deletion. I’d barely finished reading it. Someone’s got their fingers on the report button.

As for incorrect pronouns, “I’d rather be rude than a fucking liar”.

I must be missing something, but I can't figure out how anyone would be referred to as he or she in company with that person. Surely you would name them as you address them, or are people breaking off and saying things about the person, thus the "she" reference?

If I am missing a point here, could someone give me an example of this.

Given that we don't really inhabit the world of 1984 Big Brother, (not quite anyway), I will not kowtow to lies and deceit, and I refuse to be an enabler or audience to male fetishes, given that they harm women and girls. I have never called a man "she" nor will i ever. Literally the hill i would die on.

Wow! Patronising much

Being gay is a sexuality which is widely agreed to be developed during childhood/ adolescence and unlikely to change (my daughter is a lesbian btw). Being 'trans' is an identity widely regarded as fluid (hence detransitioners and people changing their gender identity repeatedly). Being gay doesn't require hormones, surgery and society to rearrange itself around your belief system. Being trans is a mental illness/dysphoria which demands medical intervention to affirm the illness not psychological counselling to resolve the dysphoria. It has resulted in the mutilation of thousands of children and young adults over the past 10-15 years through the administration of powerful drugs and surgical alteration of their bodies. The outcomes are not good. It has been seized on by fetishistic men who enjoy violating women's boundaries. Transgenderism is a horror and the op has every right to not want to affirm someone's delusions.

@TransParentlyAnnoyed basically, you want society to be reorganised around the wishes of your child. That's not how life works.

Complete nonsense

Pronouns have always been used to indicate sex.

To confuse that causes problems for women - are people incapable of thinking through second order consequences?

Take this example. Imagine a trans-identifying man who accesses the women's changing rooms. Two different ways of describing the same event

She went into the women's changing rooms and took her clothes off in front of the women present ('preferred' pronouns)

He went into the women's changing rooms and took his clothes off in front of the women present (correct sex pronouns).

If you came across those sentences in a news report, they'd evoke very different reactions, right?

Now tell me, which one actually conveys what's happening clearly? Which one is most useful for safeguarding the women in question?

Obviously they do. As some women dress as mine.

The pronouns that describes a man who says or thinks he is a woman are he, him and his.

Trans people can misgender themselves till the cows come home, but nobody else is obliged to play along.

Bigotry, which is defined as intolerance and prejudice, is equally applicable to all those demanding that everyone must act as though they believe humans can change sex.

"lovely" men don't go about pretending to be women

It seems you don't really understand.

But, well, I'm not really interested in swapping abuse. I did smile at "Try educating yourself". I'm sorry you feel so bitter.

Hope that made you feel better, hun. And that your life improves.

his name.