Are equality laws clear on sex and gender expression at work? Kids Toy Shop AGP

Large fake breasts on a man, that the whole world can see, is an outward display of a fetish. Lacy knickers and bra under clothing is not designed to involve others in ones’ possible fetish. Your example is a false equivalence. Methinks you’re trying too hard to be seen as an ally.

Well, id assume theres only one reason my guy works in a toy shop and would be giving the place a wide berth in future.

Sorry yes you’re right 🤦🏻‍♀️ sorry op. But the point still stands. Anybody owning a toy shop should care about this. Smyths is family owned.

Wearing fake breasts isn’t ‘expressing Gender non conformity’. For a bloke, that would be things like wearing make up and a frilly blouse. For a woman, no make up, buzz cut, man’s shirt. It’s classic AGP behaviour.

@EmilyinEverton If I'm honest , I wouldn't really care if I was served by a guy in massive fake breasts or if they were dressed up like a black and white minstrel. However, I can't really see the difference and I totally understand that other people might find it offensive.

I imagine boob guy enjoys the reaction/attention he gets, so I can see there is some motivation for him to do it. I can't really see why you would want to defend him though. He is mocking women and giving trans women a bad name by turning the whole thing into a bit of a freak show.

This might be true. But the entertainer toy shops are famously owned by a Christian (hence not opening on Sundays- staff love it!). So just wondering if Smiths and entertainer are getting confused. Of course it’s possible that both are owned by Christians.

No. A sex realist.

A man wearing obvious, oversized fake breasts is an attention seeking fetishist. There’s a time and a place for that, and it’s not a children’s toy shop.

I have (natural) larger than average breasts, if I turned up at work with a uniform that was revealing cleavage or deliberately altered to highlight my huge boobs, HR would have a ‘uniform policy’ conversation with me. This man has actively chosen to wear large fake breasts, he could’ve worn smaller, less obvious prosthetics, and still given himself the ‘I’m a lady’ feeling. Instead he chose to turn up as Cupid Stunt. That’s a fetish. That’s inappropriate for work in a high street children’s toy store.

@EmilyinEverton “Lots of butch women sneak a rolled sock in their undies. Ever seen the movie 'Big Boys Don't Cry' thats a true story?”
Trans men (as the woman in Boys Don’t Cry is) do this, butch lesbians who identify as women would never do this.

The problem is that they understand perfectly well how unacceptable it is, but they're pretending not to. That's hard to counter.

I guess you could ask how this aligns with their safeguarding policies and dress code policies?

You don’t think a woman wearing enormous fake comedy breast would be weird?! Ok…

It was just 'Boys Don't Cry'

Great typo though, really made me laugh, I think 'Big Boy's Don't Cry' is probably another genre altogether.

I think some people are very naive when it comes to the nature of men and their depravities.

The men posting on here are not naive, they are intentional.

I'm with you on this.

It's hugely inappropriate and unacceptable.

The fact people even dreamt this was ok shows how serious a problem that this is.

So wearing huge fake rubber tits is stereotypical female behaviour is it? Is that really how these men see women - as giant pumped up sex objects? No one has a problem with men wearing dresses or women wearing suits and ties, so long as the attire is professional and appropriate for the work place.

A woman with enormous fake breasts wouldn’t belong to the demographic that represents the greatest danger to women and children.

If this is Smyths Toys, they’re Christians and I would expect them to care about the well-being of the children who come into their stores and the comfort of the mothers accompanying them. Write to them, tell them your concerns.

I think some people are very naive when it comes to the nature of men and their depravities.

No darling it really wouldn't 😆😆 what an embarrassing thing for you to say

Wearing comedy breasts Is not gender non conformity

It's amazing how often it's the overnight visitors from wherever who are so desperate to erode safeguarding boundaries for children. Arguing that objecting to a fetishist display of oversize tits in a toy shop is "projection".
Imagine that - safeguarding children against predators is "projection".

No chance mate. Women and mothers know otherwise.

Do you not have a dress code at work?
Do your kids have a dress code at school?

I work from home in cybersecurity, the dress code is about as relaxed as it can be but if I join video calls this week with my tits hanging out or a boob tube then I would expect someone to say something about how my inappropriate clothing.

My daughter has just entered the rolling your skirt up period of life and I’ve warned her that the school are clear that skirts need to be knee length, that I’ve bought her knee length skirts, if she gets a detention it will be her fault and I’ll support it. I don’t much care if her skirt of mid thigh if I’m completely honest but there is a clear and established rule in place, if doesn’t present a h&s issue for her skirt to sit on her knee, it doesn’t cause her or anyone else harm, there are options for trousers if she’d prefer, so while the rule exists she needs to follow it or accept the consequences.

You can express your personality and style choices in a way that is appropriate for the situation.