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Any recommended genderist writers?

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bonfireoftheverities · 24/05/2026 18:14

"He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that." - John Stuart Mill

This is something I've tried to keep in mind over the last half dozen or so years since I heard TWAW, thought "What?" and fairly quickly found FWR. So I've made sure to read as much as I can take from those who truly believe that men can be women, or if they don't actually believe it (because how can you, deep down?), desperately want it to be true. I say as much as I can take because after a while you've seen and heard it all before, and it never starts being convincing.

The latest pile of nonsense I dove into is this: The End of Trans Rights in the UK Is the Start of Democratic Collapse. Dear god, that almost made my brain melt. The links alone show you that he never strays outside an idiotic bubble (Helen Webberley being the first I clicked into).

Is there anyone you can recommend who makes their case without lying and relying on liars?

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Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 11:27

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:20

It’s a legitimate question. Are women in Afghanistan oppressed because they adhere to gender stereotypes or because they are female?

Because they are female.

What do you think would happen if they refused to adhere to gender stereotypes and stated they identified with the stereotypes more typical of men?

They would be beaten into submission or killed.

Would they then be allowed the freedoms men have? If not, why not?

Because interchangeabilty threatens The Patriarchy.

If gender stereotypes are related to see, as you claim, why do gender stereotypes differ between cultures. Surely this just confirms they are not related to sex, or they would be universal.

Um, because organic impulses like equality are a threat raging patriarchal theocracies?

Here's a tip, when comparing countries & wondering why human behaviour isn't universal it might come in handy to consider the cultural political & economical limitations between them.

So sex is universal, but gender is a load of made up bollocks. Gotcha. So why are transpeople so determined to prioritise gender, which is malleable, infinite and regressive, rather than sex which is immutable and binary? Surely then, whether someone is “sees themselves as a man or a woman” could change if they moved countries? So someone could see themselves as a woman in nie country according to gender stereotypes, but as a man in another?

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:23

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/05/2026 11:06

If this means you’re acknowledging that women have the right to single sex spaces & transpeople’s rights have to be balanced with that, then we could be getting somewhere.

I would say it depends on utility & practicality of the particular space being segregated.

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 11:22

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:09

Not sure what you mean. Can you elaborate?

You seem to be suggesting that people should be formally categorised by gender and that sex and gender are interchangeable ways of defining identity.

You said

Your values clearly consider sex to be a defining identity characteristic others don't.

But I don't think sex is an 'identity characteristic'. It's no more an identity characteristic than being over 18. It's just a material fact that has consequences.

Why do you think anyone needs to be categorised by gender? Or are you agreeing that it is a completely personal belief that can be ignored by everyone else?

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:22

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 11:06

But wouldn’t that presume the “group” woman all had things in common? What things do all women have in common that would make a male think he belonged in that group?

No because its typical behaviours.

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:20

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 11:04

It’s a legitimate question. Are women in Afghanistan oppressed because they adhere to gender stereotypes or because they are female? What do you think would happen if they refused to adhere to gender stereotypes and stated they identified with the stereotypes more typical of men? Would they then be allowed the freedoms men have? If not, why not? If gender stereotypes are related to see, as you claim, why do gender stereotypes differ between cultures. Surely this just confirms they are not related to sex, or they would be universal.

It’s a legitimate question. Are women in Afghanistan oppressed because they adhere to gender stereotypes or because they are female?

Because they are female.

What do you think would happen if they refused to adhere to gender stereotypes and stated they identified with the stereotypes more typical of men?

They would be beaten into submission or killed.

Would they then be allowed the freedoms men have? If not, why not?

Because interchangeabilty threatens The Patriarchy.

If gender stereotypes are related to see, as you claim, why do gender stereotypes differ between cultures. Surely this just confirms they are not related to sex, or they would be universal.

Um, because organic impulses like equality are a threat raging patriarchal theocracies?

Here's a tip, when comparing countries & wondering why human behaviour isn't universal it might come in handy to consider the cultural political & economical limitations between them.

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 11:16

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:07

Gender identification is an identification to the typical behaviours/gender more common to one sex. It's not saying you are that sex rather the gender.

But as you said so eloquently earlier, gender is a set of stereotypes. How can someone be a gender? How many stereotypes does someone have to adhere to to be considered that gender?

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 11:11

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:03

Its gender not sex so your comment makes no sense in this context.

It would be irrelevant if people didn't keep insisting that their beliefs about their own gender give them the right to be classified as the opposite sex.

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:09

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 11:02

But you seem to be suggesting that it is useful of necessary to formally classify people according to gender.

Is the problem that people have been reading too much 2000s YA fiction and want to be sorted?

(Is it really all JKR's fault after all????)

Not sure what you mean. Can you elaborate?

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:07

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 10:59

But you are the one saying gender stereotypes are related to sex, and that a male knows he’s a woman because he identifies with the “stereotypes” more typical of females. So therefore according to you, sex and gender are related.

Gender identification is an identification to the typical behaviours/gender more common to one sex. It's not saying you are that sex rather the gender.

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/05/2026 11:06

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:55

This is beyond dumb & that it continues to get repeated is embarrassing for this forum.

Just because trans people are legitimised as a valid identity doesn't mean their rights supersede others. Conflicting rights need to be managed & practical compromises made. Acknowledgement & rights are two different issues.

If this means you’re acknowledging that women have the right to single sex spaces & transpeople’s rights have to be balanced with that, then we could be getting somewhere.

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 11:06

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:02

It's gender not sex. And its about categorising oneself with a group who has more in common with you rather than expecting a sex to behave a certain way.

But wouldn’t that presume the “group” woman all had things in common? What things do all women have in common that would make a male think he belonged in that group?

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 11:04

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:55

This is beyond dumb & that it continues to get repeated is embarrassing for this forum.

Just because trans people are legitimised as a valid identity doesn't mean their rights supersede others. Conflicting rights need to be managed & practical compromises made. Acknowledgement & rights are two different issues.

It’s a legitimate question. Are women in Afghanistan oppressed because they adhere to gender stereotypes or because they are female? What do you think would happen if they refused to adhere to gender stereotypes and stated they identified with the stereotypes more typical of men? Would they then be allowed the freedoms men have? If not, why not? If gender stereotypes are related to see, as you claim, why do gender stereotypes differ between cultures. Surely this just confirms they are not related to sex, or they would be universal.

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:03

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 10:54

Yes but again its upto the individual how they understand where they fit in more on balance.

Women do not have sex specific services because they 'fit in'. They have sex specific services because of the material consequences of sex. if it were just a question of 'fitting in' the service would be mixed sex.

Its gender not sex so your comment makes no sense in this context.

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 11:02

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 10:50

so instead of being GNC, they believe that liking something or doing something makes one not one’s sex? How is that any different from those sexists in the 50’s and 60’s who claimed women could not do certain jobs or hobbies? So basically transpeople are just using sexist stereotypes to determine their identity?

It's gender not sex. And its about categorising oneself with a group who has more in common with you rather than expecting a sex to behave a certain way.

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 11:02

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:56

But individuals have no ability to self define their sex.

This conversation is about gender not sex.

But you seem to be suggesting that it is useful of necessary to formally classify people according to gender.

Is the problem that people have been reading too much 2000s YA fiction and want to be sorted?

(Is it really all JKR's fault after all????)

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 10:59

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:56

But individuals have no ability to self define their sex.

This conversation is about gender not sex.

But you are the one saying gender stereotypes are related to sex, and that a male knows he’s a woman because he identifies with the “stereotypes” more typical of females. So therefore according to you, sex and gender are related.

theilltemperedamateur · 25/05/2026 10:56

PencilsInSpace · 25/05/2026 01:26

Ewan Forbes was not trans, he had a DSD. His family were really upset about Playdon's misrepresentation.

https://www.voidifremoved.co.uk/p/the-curious-case-of-ewan-forbes

Pre-Corbett, transsexuals used to just pretend to have a DSD and get a friendly doctor to sign off so they could change their birth certificates using a legal mechanism that was never meant for them. I was surprised to learn their appropriation of 'intersex' went that far back.

Well that's annoying: I was completely taken in. I read it with the assumption that he had a DSD such as PAIS, right up to the description of the trial.

As a picture of the TRAs' mindset, it's still the most illuminating I've found, but possibly too annoying to read, even with a sceptical hat on, if it means picking your way around the author's misrepresentations of fact.

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:56

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 10:46

But individuals have no ability to self define their sex. They might as well self define their age or their height.

Don't you think women in Afghanistan would be defining themselves as being men with a right to an education if that were possible?

Perhaps one could switch sex with one's partner if one were planning to have a baby but had just got a promotion at work?

But individuals have no ability to self define their sex.

This conversation is about gender not sex.

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:55

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 10:42

Has anyone told the women in Afghanistan all they need to do is claim that they are really men and they’ll have full freedom again? @EmilyinEverton do you believe they are being oppressed because of their sex or their gender? How do the Taliban know which people to oppress?

This is beyond dumb & that it continues to get repeated is embarrassing for this forum.

Just because trans people are legitimised as a valid identity doesn't mean their rights supersede others. Conflicting rights need to be managed & practical compromises made. Acknowledgement & rights are two different issues.

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 10:54

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:45

But logically all you would be able to demonstrate is that some traits are more common in women. You would not be demonstrating that people with those traits are women.

Yes. But we are talking about how a trans person categorises their inclinations as a result of majority behaviour. Its like saying 'I have more in common with this group than that group therefore I identify more as belonging to it.

You could theorise that female mammals have evolved a drive to keep their young alive and male mammals have evolved to have as much sex as possible, but you wouldn't then suggest that a man who cares for his children is a woman.

Yes but again its upto the individual how they understand where they fit in more on balance.

Yes but again its upto the individual how they understand where they fit in more on balance.

Women do not have sex specific services because they 'fit in'. They have sex specific services because of the material consequences of sex. if it were just a question of 'fitting in' the service would be mixed sex.

Wearenotborg · 25/05/2026 10:50

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:45

But logically all you would be able to demonstrate is that some traits are more common in women. You would not be demonstrating that people with those traits are women.

Yes. But we are talking about how a trans person categorises their inclinations as a result of majority behaviour. Its like saying 'I have more in common with this group than that group therefore I identify more as belonging to it.

You could theorise that female mammals have evolved a drive to keep their young alive and male mammals have evolved to have as much sex as possible, but you wouldn't then suggest that a man who cares for his children is a woman.

Yes but again its upto the individual how they understand where they fit in more on balance.

so instead of being GNC, they believe that liking something or doing something makes one not one’s sex? How is that any different from those sexists in the 50’s and 60’s who claimed women could not do certain jobs or hobbies? So basically transpeople are just using sexist stereotypes to determine their identity?

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/05/2026 10:48

Well, if we’re merely talking about values & life choices related to sex-based stereotypes I have no problem at all with expecting people of all genders & none to use the spaces for their sex.

I’ve just mentioned on another thread that the country carrying out most genital surgery to make people comply with gendered expectations is Iran.

Can we expect a mass exodus, @EmilyinEverton?

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:47

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/05/2026 10:35

If you’re saying that we should accept men in our spaces depending on their values & life choices, that’s ridiculous. Although I can accept that forcing their presence on women without our consent can count as a male life choice.

No I'm not saying that. This is a conversation about how trans people come to identify as the opposite gender to their sex. Any conflicts in rights that flows from that is a separate conversation.

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 10:46

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:36

Omg …

The context is what an individual personally values more in order to define themselves as in their sex or gender.

But individuals have no ability to self define their sex. They might as well self define their age or their height.

Don't you think women in Afghanistan would be defining themselves as being men with a right to an education if that were possible?

Perhaps one could switch sex with one's partner if one were planning to have a baby but had just got a promotion at work?

EmilyinEverton · 25/05/2026 10:45

nicepotoftea · 25/05/2026 10:28

But logically all you would be able to demonstrate is that some traits are more common in women. You would not be demonstrating that people with those traits are women.

You could theorise that female mammals have evolved a drive to keep their young alive and male mammals have evolved to have as much sex as possible, but you wouldn't then suggest that a man who cares for his children is a woman.

(and completely anecdotally, many trans widows report that their husbands prioritise their sex lives over the well being of their children, which using this theory would class them squarely as men...)

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But logically all you would be able to demonstrate is that some traits are more common in women. You would not be demonstrating that people with those traits are women.

Yes. But we are talking about how a trans person categorises their inclinations as a result of majority behaviour. Its like saying 'I have more in common with this group than that group therefore I identify more as belonging to it.

You could theorise that female mammals have evolved a drive to keep their young alive and male mammals have evolved to have as much sex as possible, but you wouldn't then suggest that a man who cares for his children is a woman.

Yes but again its upto the individual how they understand where they fit in more on balance.

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