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New school asking for "gender identity" etc. is this still allowed?

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ReallyIsThisStillGoingOn · 05/05/2026 10:23

I know I could trawl through the DforE guidance but I'm short on time and wondered if anyone can advise? Just filled in the application form for child's new school (from Sept 2026) and wondered if they can still legitimately ask these questions (see screenshot) or whether this counts as affirming, which I believe is no longer allowed?

Apart from "gender assigned at birth" being irritating, nonsensical bullshit, I'm also thinking of my child's younger, less "gender stereotype conforming" sibling who may go to this school in a couple of years. If the school is not actually supposed to be using these terms now, I will write to them and push back on it. Thanks.

New school asking for "gender identity" etc. is this still allowed?
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dizzydizzydizzy · 05/05/2026 13:15

I think just put it at the back of your mind. You’re never going to be happy with every single thing any school does but if it’s generally good, that is the main thing. “Sex at birth” would have been better but honestly I wouldn’t be that parent and complain before your child has even started at the school as this form is not going to impact your child. If you’re not happy with how they are treated once they are there, that is the time to contact the school.

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ReallyIsThisStillGoingOn · 05/05/2026 10:59

I've had a quick look on the Transgender Trend website and it looks as though the Dept for Education is still consulting on its Keeping Children Safe in Education draft guidance and that the first draft is a bit wishy-washy. It looks as though schools are obliged to carefully consider the impact of agreeing to socially transition a child at school but not that they are banned from doing so.

New school asking for "gender identity" etc. is this still allowed?
New school asking for "gender identity" etc. is this still allowed?
New school asking for "gender identity" etc. is this still allowed?
New school asking for "gender identity" etc. is this still allowed?
New school asking for "gender identity" etc. is this still allowed?
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blibblibs · 05/05/2026 10:46

Our school is no longer a stonewall champion but the ideology is still there and some of their safeguarding is/was questionable at best.
At one point they were quite happy for a 14yo female to be in a boy's dorm on a cadet camp! You really have to be on the ball and be willing to be 'that' parent.
Exam results are fantastic, location was great and one child thrived, the other not so much.
I wish more than anything I'd done more research but it wasn't something I thought would ensnare us all those years ago.

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ReallyIsThisStillGoingOn · 05/05/2026 10:40

Not a Stonewall Champion fortunately and doesn't look as the they ever have been.

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ReallyIsThisStillGoingOn · 05/05/2026 10:37

blibblibs · 05/05/2026 10:31

I would seriously consider looking for another school because if they're asking this now you could have another 7 years of quietly questioning lots of what they do and the potential damage they can do, especially to your younger DC isn't worth whatever the plus points for this school are.
I've dealt with a stonewall champion school and a gender non conforming child for 5 years now and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I'm sorry to hear of your experience. It's unbelievable that those supposedly at the forefront of safeguarding children would be sucked in by this.

In other ways, it seems a very good school and I want to find out if this is just a hangover from forms in previous years that they haven't bothered changing or whether they are still deep into this harmful ideology. I will check if they are a Stonewall "Champion".

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blibblibs · 05/05/2026 10:31

I would seriously consider looking for another school because if they're asking this now you could have another 7 years of quietly questioning lots of what they do and the potential damage they can do, especially to your younger DC isn't worth whatever the plus points for this school are.
I've dealt with a stonewall champion school and a gender non conforming child for 5 years now and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

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ReallyIsThisStillGoingOn · 05/05/2026 10:31

Unfortunately it's an online form with no options to cross things out or type your own answer.

"Gender assigned at birth" options are male or female.
"Gender identity" options are male/female/non-binary/prefer to self-describe (I tried ticking the 4th option but no further text box appeared)
"Preferred pronouns" options are he/him, she/her or they/them.

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climbintheback · 05/05/2026 10:26

I would put a big red line through the silly bits with a couple of big ??

teawamutu · 05/05/2026 10:25

Generally, when asked this, I put No gender. SEX is female.

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ReallyIsThisStillGoingOn · 05/05/2026 10:25

(Image currently under review of course but just lists boxes for "gender assigned at birth", "gender identity" and "preferred pronouns". No box for biological sex of course.... 🙄)

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