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Next changing rooms- how should I respond?

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Mattressahoy · 04/05/2026 21:49

Looking for advice re how to respond to the following email. I recently contacted Next to let them know that on the last two occasions I tried on clothes in their Oxford Street store, there had been men in the changing rooms (at this point I thought they were single-sex). The first time a man was sitting in the communal area of the changing room, and the second time a man was in a changing room opposite mine. Both times I was trying on swimming costumes and felt really vulnerable being naked with a man directly on the other side of the curtain.

This was Next's response:

"Thank you for your e-mail and I am sorry to hear you have felt uncomfortable on your last couple of visits to our stores, due to the presence of male customers in the fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor.

Just to explain, our position has always been that all fitting rooms, irrespective of which department they are situated on, are open to all customers to use, and they are not designated as a single-sex provision. Hence the signage above the entrance just saying 'Fitting Rooms', rather than 'Men's' or 'Women's' Fitting Rooms.

We want to encourage customers to be able to use whichever facility is most convenient for them at the time. For example, for customers placing orders online for delivery to store, the collection point in most of our stores is on Menswear so female customers may find it more convenient to use those fitting rooms to try items on and decide what they wish to keep or return while they are still in store.

We are continuously reviewing and updating our fitting rooms, for example, by attaching hook and eye fixtures to secure the curtains in fitting rooms in our existing stores in order to make customers feel more comfortable, and we are also looking at alternatives to replace curtains in fitting rooms when we re-fit stores or open new ones."

I feel really disappointed with Next and don't feel they're taking women's safety seriously. They have changing rooms in the women's section and in the men's, so in what way would it be detrimental to them to make one specifically for women and one for men? There is absolutely no reason for men to need to access the changing room on the women's floor as all the men's clothes are on the upstairs floor, with it's own changing room. And I can't imagine many women actively choosing to use changing facilities on the men's floor. What is the legal position here? I thought that under the Equality Act companies can provide a single-sex space where there is good reason to do so?

At the very least, I would want there to be clear signage stating the changing rooms are unisex so that women can be made aware that they do not have access to a safe single-sex space before they enter. Is that unreasonable? Is there anything else I could add?

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womendeserveequalhumanrights · 05/05/2026 07:45

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 05/05/2026 07:36

@Mattressahoy send this:

Dear Next Customer Services,

I am writing to make a formal complaint about the fitting room arrangements in your Oxford Street store and to ask that this complaint is escalated to your Legal, Equality and Risk teams.

On my last two visits to the Oxford Street store, I used the fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor. On both occasions, male customers were present in that fitting room area. On one occasion, a man was sitting in the communal area. On another, a man was using a cubicle directly opposite mine.

On both occasions I was trying on swimwear. I was required to undress behind only a curtain, in an area I reasonably understood to be the women’s fitting room, because it was located on the Womenswear floor. I felt exposed, vulnerable and humiliated.

Your response states that all Next fitting rooms are open to all customers, regardless of which department they are situated in, and that they are not single-sex provision. That response is not acceptable.

The issue is not merely whether the signage says “Fitting Rooms”. The issue is whether a reasonable female customer entering fitting rooms located within Womenswear would understand those facilities to be intended for women, particularly where women may be undressing to try on underwear, swimwear, dresses or other intimate clothing.

Your current policy appears to impose a provision, criterion or practice that all fitting rooms are mixed-sex, including those located on the Womenswear floor. That policy is applied to all customers, but it places women and girls at a particular disadvantage compared with men.

Women are more likely than men to feel unable, unsafe, distressed, embarrassed or humiliated when required to undress in the presence or proximity of male customers. This is especially so where the only barrier is a curtain, where there is a communal area, and where women may be trying on swimwear, underwear, dresses or other garments requiring significant undressing.

The disadvantage is not theoretical. It directly affected me on both visits. I felt vulnerable and exposed while trying on swimwear with male customers present in the same fitting room area.

This disadvantage is likely to be greater for women and girls with religious or cultural modesty requirements, teenage girls, older women, women with trauma histories, women with disabilities, women who are menstruating, women who are breastfeeding, and women trying on intimate clothing. It is also likely to deter some women from using the fitting rooms at all, returning items in store, shopping in-store, or using Next’s services on equal terms with male customers.

That is why I consider Next’s current approach capable of amounting to indirect sex discrimination under the Equality Act 2010, unless Next can show that the policy is a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim. I do not understand what legitimate aim would require men to be able to use the fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor when there are also fitting rooms in the Menswear department. Nor do I understand why any such aim could not be met by providing separate male, female and/or clearly marked mixed-sex facilities.

I therefore ask Next to explain how it has assessed this policy under the Equality Act 2010, including the risk of indirect sex discrimination. The Equality Act permits service providers to offer separate-sex and single-sex services where justified. Changing rooms and fitting rooms are an obvious context where privacy, dignity, decency and safety are legitimate aims.

I also ask you to explain why Next has decided not to provide a female-only fitting room on the Womenswear floor when the store also has fitting rooms in the Menswear department. If men’s and women’s clothing departments are already separated in-store, it is difficult to understand why Next cannot provide clearly marked female-only fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor, with separate provision for men and/or mixed-sex use elsewhere.

At the very least, if Next intends these facilities to be mixed-sex, that must be made completely clear before women enter and begin undressing. Small or ambiguous signage saying “Fitting Rooms” is not enough. Customers should not discover that a fitting room is mixed-sex only after they are already inside and partly undressed.

Please treat this as a formal complaint and provide the following:

1. Confirmation of whether the Oxford Street Womenswear fitting rooms are mixed-sex.

2. Confirmation of whether Next provides any female-only fitting room provision in that store.

3. A copy or summary of the Equality Act assessment, risk assessment, or policy decision supporting mixed-sex fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor.

4. Confirmation of whether Next has considered the impact on women and girls, including those with religious modesty requirements, trauma histories, disabilities, older women, teenage girls, and women trying on swimwear or underwear.

5. Confirmation of whether Next will now provide clearly marked female-only fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor, alongside any mixed-sex provision it wishes to offer.

6. Confirmation that, pending review, Next will clearly sign mixed-sex fitting rooms at the entrance so women can make an informed choice before entering.

If Next refuses to provide female-only fitting room provision, please provide your final response in writing so that I can consider my next steps. These may include taking legal advice, raising the matter with the Equality and Human Rights Commission, and sharing my experience publicly and with the media. I will of course ensure that anything I say publicly is accurate and based on my own experience and your written response.

I am not asking Next to treat anyone unfairly. I am asking Next to take women’s privacy, dignity and safety seriously, and to provide clear, lawful and properly assessed single-sex provision where women are expected to undress.

I look forward to your substantive response within 14 days.

Yours faithfully,

Yes, brilliant!

arethereanyleftatall · 05/05/2026 07:42

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 05/05/2026 07:36

@Mattressahoy send this:

Dear Next Customer Services,

I am writing to make a formal complaint about the fitting room arrangements in your Oxford Street store and to ask that this complaint is escalated to your Legal, Equality and Risk teams.

On my last two visits to the Oxford Street store, I used the fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor. On both occasions, male customers were present in that fitting room area. On one occasion, a man was sitting in the communal area. On another, a man was using a cubicle directly opposite mine.

On both occasions I was trying on swimwear. I was required to undress behind only a curtain, in an area I reasonably understood to be the women’s fitting room, because it was located on the Womenswear floor. I felt exposed, vulnerable and humiliated.

Your response states that all Next fitting rooms are open to all customers, regardless of which department they are situated in, and that they are not single-sex provision. That response is not acceptable.

The issue is not merely whether the signage says “Fitting Rooms”. The issue is whether a reasonable female customer entering fitting rooms located within Womenswear would understand those facilities to be intended for women, particularly where women may be undressing to try on underwear, swimwear, dresses or other intimate clothing.

Your current policy appears to impose a provision, criterion or practice that all fitting rooms are mixed-sex, including those located on the Womenswear floor. That policy is applied to all customers, but it places women and girls at a particular disadvantage compared with men.

Women are more likely than men to feel unable, unsafe, distressed, embarrassed or humiliated when required to undress in the presence or proximity of male customers. This is especially so where the only barrier is a curtain, where there is a communal area, and where women may be trying on swimwear, underwear, dresses or other garments requiring significant undressing.

The disadvantage is not theoretical. It directly affected me on both visits. I felt vulnerable and exposed while trying on swimwear with male customers present in the same fitting room area.

This disadvantage is likely to be greater for women and girls with religious or cultural modesty requirements, teenage girls, older women, women with trauma histories, women with disabilities, women who are menstruating, women who are breastfeeding, and women trying on intimate clothing. It is also likely to deter some women from using the fitting rooms at all, returning items in store, shopping in-store, or using Next’s services on equal terms with male customers.

That is why I consider Next’s current approach capable of amounting to indirect sex discrimination under the Equality Act 2010, unless Next can show that the policy is a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim. I do not understand what legitimate aim would require men to be able to use the fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor when there are also fitting rooms in the Menswear department. Nor do I understand why any such aim could not be met by providing separate male, female and/or clearly marked mixed-sex facilities.

I therefore ask Next to explain how it has assessed this policy under the Equality Act 2010, including the risk of indirect sex discrimination. The Equality Act permits service providers to offer separate-sex and single-sex services where justified. Changing rooms and fitting rooms are an obvious context where privacy, dignity, decency and safety are legitimate aims.

I also ask you to explain why Next has decided not to provide a female-only fitting room on the Womenswear floor when the store also has fitting rooms in the Menswear department. If men’s and women’s clothing departments are already separated in-store, it is difficult to understand why Next cannot provide clearly marked female-only fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor, with separate provision for men and/or mixed-sex use elsewhere.

At the very least, if Next intends these facilities to be mixed-sex, that must be made completely clear before women enter and begin undressing. Small or ambiguous signage saying “Fitting Rooms” is not enough. Customers should not discover that a fitting room is mixed-sex only after they are already inside and partly undressed.

Please treat this as a formal complaint and provide the following:

1. Confirmation of whether the Oxford Street Womenswear fitting rooms are mixed-sex.

2. Confirmation of whether Next provides any female-only fitting room provision in that store.

3. A copy or summary of the Equality Act assessment, risk assessment, or policy decision supporting mixed-sex fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor.

4. Confirmation of whether Next has considered the impact on women and girls, including those with religious modesty requirements, trauma histories, disabilities, older women, teenage girls, and women trying on swimwear or underwear.

5. Confirmation of whether Next will now provide clearly marked female-only fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor, alongside any mixed-sex provision it wishes to offer.

6. Confirmation that, pending review, Next will clearly sign mixed-sex fitting rooms at the entrance so women can make an informed choice before entering.

If Next refuses to provide female-only fitting room provision, please provide your final response in writing so that I can consider my next steps. These may include taking legal advice, raising the matter with the Equality and Human Rights Commission, and sharing my experience publicly and with the media. I will of course ensure that anything I say publicly is accurate and based on my own experience and your written response.

I am not asking Next to treat anyone unfairly. I am asking Next to take women’s privacy, dignity and safety seriously, and to provide clear, lawful and properly assessed single-sex provision where women are expected to undress.

I look forward to your substantive response within 14 days.

Yours faithfully,

Brilliant

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 05/05/2026 07:42

arethereanyleftatall · 05/05/2026 07:37

This is grossly misogynistic, on any board let alone the feminist board! She correctly complained about an entitled man. To suggest that is ‘making a fool of herself’ is what scares women in to keeping quiet when they absolutely should be speaking up.

Exactly, though the PP knows that, that's why the comment has been made.

Sadly for the PP most middle aged women on here have reached the point of no fucks to give, especially for people undermining safeguarding.

It says something about society that women's safety and the needs of religious and other women are belittled in this way. Not a good thing.

It's incredibly stupid and cowardly from a business point of view - the number of women who will be put off shopping there will far exceed anyone who wants unisex. Again, it's why it's a stealth thing and they don't have massive signs with UNISEX CHANGING ROOM on them. I suspect in a court case it may well be found that a changing room in a department labelled 'womanswear' could reasonably be expected to be women only unless clearly labelled otherwise.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 05/05/2026 07:37

It's the 'no nuts' thing again. If they're going to include nuts in their changing rooms it needs to be clearly labelled as Unisex. Particularly if located in a department labelled 'womenswear' or similar.

arethereanyleftatall · 05/05/2026 07:37

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This is grossly misogynistic, on any board let alone the feminist board! She correctly complained about an entitled man. To suggest that is ‘making a fool of herself’ is what scares women in to keeping quiet when they absolutely should be speaking up.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 05/05/2026 07:36

@Mattressahoy send this:

Dear Next Customer Services,

I am writing to make a formal complaint about the fitting room arrangements in your Oxford Street store and to ask that this complaint is escalated to your Legal, Equality and Risk teams.

On my last two visits to the Oxford Street store, I used the fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor. On both occasions, male customers were present in that fitting room area. On one occasion, a man was sitting in the communal area. On another, a man was using a cubicle directly opposite mine.

On both occasions I was trying on swimwear. I was required to undress behind only a curtain, in an area I reasonably understood to be the women’s fitting room, because it was located on the Womenswear floor. I felt exposed, vulnerable and humiliated.

Your response states that all Next fitting rooms are open to all customers, regardless of which department they are situated in, and that they are not single-sex provision. That response is not acceptable.

The issue is not merely whether the signage says “Fitting Rooms”. The issue is whether a reasonable female customer entering fitting rooms located within Womenswear would understand those facilities to be intended for women, particularly where women may be undressing to try on underwear, swimwear, dresses or other intimate clothing.

Your current policy appears to impose a provision, criterion or practice that all fitting rooms are mixed-sex, including those located on the Womenswear floor. That policy is applied to all customers, but it places women and girls at a particular disadvantage compared with men.

Women are more likely than men to feel unable, unsafe, distressed, embarrassed or humiliated when required to undress in the presence or proximity of male customers. This is especially so where the only barrier is a curtain, where there is a communal area, and where women may be trying on swimwear, underwear, dresses or other garments requiring significant undressing.

The disadvantage is not theoretical. It directly affected me on both visits. I felt vulnerable and exposed while trying on swimwear with male customers present in the same fitting room area.

This disadvantage is likely to be greater for women and girls with religious or cultural modesty requirements, teenage girls, older women, women with trauma histories, women with disabilities, women who are menstruating, women who are breastfeeding, and women trying on intimate clothing. It is also likely to deter some women from using the fitting rooms at all, returning items in store, shopping in-store, or using Next’s services on equal terms with male customers.

That is why I consider Next’s current approach capable of amounting to indirect sex discrimination under the Equality Act 2010, unless Next can show that the policy is a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim. I do not understand what legitimate aim would require men to be able to use the fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor when there are also fitting rooms in the Menswear department. Nor do I understand why any such aim could not be met by providing separate male, female and/or clearly marked mixed-sex facilities.

I therefore ask Next to explain how it has assessed this policy under the Equality Act 2010, including the risk of indirect sex discrimination. The Equality Act permits service providers to offer separate-sex and single-sex services where justified. Changing rooms and fitting rooms are an obvious context where privacy, dignity, decency and safety are legitimate aims.

I also ask you to explain why Next has decided not to provide a female-only fitting room on the Womenswear floor when the store also has fitting rooms in the Menswear department. If men’s and women’s clothing departments are already separated in-store, it is difficult to understand why Next cannot provide clearly marked female-only fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor, with separate provision for men and/or mixed-sex use elsewhere.

At the very least, if Next intends these facilities to be mixed-sex, that must be made completely clear before women enter and begin undressing. Small or ambiguous signage saying “Fitting Rooms” is not enough. Customers should not discover that a fitting room is mixed-sex only after they are already inside and partly undressed.

Please treat this as a formal complaint and provide the following:

1. Confirmation of whether the Oxford Street Womenswear fitting rooms are mixed-sex.

2. Confirmation of whether Next provides any female-only fitting room provision in that store.

3. A copy or summary of the Equality Act assessment, risk assessment, or policy decision supporting mixed-sex fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor.

4. Confirmation of whether Next has considered the impact on women and girls, including those with religious modesty requirements, trauma histories, disabilities, older women, teenage girls, and women trying on swimwear or underwear.

5. Confirmation of whether Next will now provide clearly marked female-only fitting rooms on the Womenswear floor, alongside any mixed-sex provision it wishes to offer.

6. Confirmation that, pending review, Next will clearly sign mixed-sex fitting rooms at the entrance so women can make an informed choice before entering.

If Next refuses to provide female-only fitting room provision, please provide your final response in writing so that I can consider my next steps. These may include taking legal advice, raising the matter with the Equality and Human Rights Commission, and sharing my experience publicly and with the media. I will of course ensure that anything I say publicly is accurate and based on my own experience and your written response.

I am not asking Next to treat anyone unfairly. I am asking Next to take women’s privacy, dignity and safety seriously, and to provide clear, lawful and properly assessed single-sex provision where women are expected to undress.

I look forward to your substantive response within 14 days.

Yours faithfully,

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 05/05/2026 07:35

EvelynBeatrice · 05/05/2026 00:56

No. Men wait outside. It’s not an unusual complaint, believe me. Your belief that women uncomfortable with men in spaces where they have their clothes off is fine and dandy isn’t more important than the discomfort this causes huge numbers of other women.

I'm assuming religious women will also be unable to use this store or any like it - so they are excluding quite a number of women based on their religion.

This of course is why they're not putting up massive UNISEX signs over the changing rooms. They're hoping no-one who is in reality excluded by their cowardly policy will know - so they're essentially luring women into a space where they will statistically be less safe and where they may be forced - unconsenting - to both share with men and breach the rules of their religion.

BaggyLongLegs · 05/05/2026 07:24

If we consider the guidance for unisex toilets in the workplace, unisex cubicles should have fully enclosed, lockable doors and recommend full height doors to ensure privacy. Toilets should be clearly labelled as unisex.
Therefore if Next are insisting on this position then they need to ensure that their changing rooms have lockable doors as opposed to curtains. However, this would require Next to spend money to alter their changing rooms.

SodOffbacktoaibu · 05/05/2026 07:18

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These sort of comments are nasty. I see lots of "I'm embarrassed for you" comments on aibu. It's not ok.

@Mattressahoy didn't make a fool of herself. She was making a legitimate complaint to a representative of the company. Or are all women just supposed to shut up and "be kind" now?

Tichter · 05/05/2026 07:11

Happyjoe · 04/05/2026 23:08

Yep, this would be my answer too.

Am I mistaken too, there are supposed to be single-sex spaces again now by law?

I think if it's labelled 'women's fitting room' it has to be for women so they've just made them all unisex but haven't advertised it

Nomorecoconutboosts · 05/05/2026 06:26

I was once very firmly told to leave the ‘male’ changing room in Next. This was around 10 years ago. It was in menswear, but not labelled as male only.
For context, dh was trying items on. I was holding an item that I wanted to try and was about to go to the female changing, then realised they both seemed to be unisex (as we would have said back then)
A male staff member approached me before I even got into a cubicle.

Daleksatemyshed · 05/05/2026 05:58

It's a money saver Op, they keep staff numbers down by shutting down the till in menswear and letting everyone use the ladies fitting room. Once again, a shop thst puts money before women's safety and privacy

SlackJawedDisbeliefXY · 05/05/2026 01:21

CEO is lord Wolfson,

Contact information for Lord Wolfson of Aspley Guise - MPs and Lords - UK Parliament

Not sure what his position on trans has been during debates

EvelynBeatrice · 05/05/2026 00:56

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No. Men wait outside. It’s not an unusual complaint, believe me. Your belief that women uncomfortable with men in spaces where they have their clothes off is fine and dandy isn’t more important than the discomfort this causes huge numbers of other women.

SlackJawedDisbeliefXY · 04/05/2026 23:24

Is this bit of the Next response true

Just to explain, our position has always been that all fitting rooms, irrespective of which department they are situated on, are open to all customers to use

I'm pretty sure that, when Next was founded, in 1992(?) men presenting themselves in the ladies changing room would have been given pretty short shrift.

Justme56 · 04/05/2026 23:17

I have to admit the Next I use has the pick up point near the men’s section, but it would never cross my mind to walk over to the nearest changing room (by men’s clothing) to try things on. Is this common? Personally I think for most of these shops it’s a big con - the changing rooms are inevitably besides either the men’s or women’s clothing and people naturally assume they are divided by sex. They don’t want to make a big deal about it because the more people become aware, they either complain OR those with bad intentions take advantage.

Happyjoe · 04/05/2026 23:08

OverlyFragrant · 04/05/2026 22:58

"Thank you for your considered reply.
I shall no longer be providing you with my custom, I cannot and should not be expected to put my safety and dignity aside for company profits"

Yep, this would be my answer too.

Am I mistaken too, there are supposed to be single-sex spaces again now by law?

Happyjoe · 04/05/2026 23:07

SmallPeachKoala · 04/05/2026 22:47

No it isn’t… the OP mentions being naked however obviously you shouldn’t be naked trying on anything! Of course underwear needs to be kept on underneath for hygiene reasons.. this person is obviously just checking they know this.

Is being naked other than pants on stop a woman feeling vulnerable with men in the changing room?
So yeah, was a weird question going by the OP's reasoning about the thread.

OverlyFragrant · 04/05/2026 22:58

"Thank you for your considered reply.
I shall no longer be providing you with my custom, I cannot and should not be expected to put my safety and dignity aside for company profits"

BigTroubleinSmallBoots · 04/05/2026 22:54

Making a complaint to someone who works there isn’t outlandish, it’s called speaking up. I wasn’t horrible or rude. But I wanted him (and the other women that were also using the changing room) to know that I found it unsettling and uncomfortable.

SmallPeachKoala · 04/05/2026 22:47

Dominoodles · 04/05/2026 22:31

This is a weird question to ask.

No it isn’t… the OP mentions being naked however obviously you shouldn’t be naked trying on anything! Of course underwear needs to be kept on underneath for hygiene reasons.. this person is obviously just checking they know this.

WednesdaysChild73 · 04/05/2026 22:40

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Perhaps you should of told the man to fuck off not berate the poor young assistant who was probably at a loss of what to do

Atoxicsewerofhate · 04/05/2026 22:39

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Boundaries aren't foolish

FlowersInDenmark · 04/05/2026 22:36

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Dominoodles · 04/05/2026 22:31

naemates · 04/05/2026 22:16

You had pants on right?

This is a weird question to ask.